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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by ogbuefi677(m): 11:42pm On Aug 01, 2020
westlius:
The issue with all this tin is when ur woman/wife knows u dont womanize she will be using her body to make shakara
But if she knows babes dey around u, she will ever joke with sex with u.
Because she knows she has competitors
Exactly.
Na so my friend madam wan do once until I advise am,him go tell him wife thus "any week you do not give me twice,ashawo go get my prick twice".
If you give me only once, ashawo go get my prick once.
No see,na d madam de hustle am now.

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 11:42pm On Aug 01, 2020
mariahAngel:


Just...wow!
Emotional intelligence at its finest.
Lol. Thanks smiley

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 11:44pm On Aug 01, 2020
Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.
He needs a second wife
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by IJEYdiamond(f): 11:48pm On Aug 01, 2020
Fulaniherdmens:
Its not ur duty to advise him on such act. Let him decide on his own, ur duty is to make sure he doesn't get caught when summoned.

Narialand advisers... cheesy grin cheesy.... Una no go kee person... oooo Lol......
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by bobluck: 11:48pm On Aug 01, 2020
WinLABSstores:
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I can't find any sense in this though...

You wont find any sense in it because you are not using one. The OP didnt create the problems in your life, deal with it.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by jornwhite: 11:51pm On Aug 01, 2020
Hathor5:
Someone explain to me, at best OP, how bills and the wife's libido are connected.


I think he only said that to buttress his point that the wife has no excuse or reason to deny him is conjugal right.
in nigeria when a man refuses to spend money the wife/gurlfriend is bound to hoard sex cos money is an equivalent of pvssy.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 11:51pm On Aug 01, 2020
It is quite unfortunate though that the only solution most Men could come up with is to get a side chick, and someone was blaming women for failed marriage. So to every sex issues in marriage, having a girlfriend is the solution. Lol Nigerians marriages though. Whatever happens to sorting it out, visiting a sex therapist, being sex appealing, seeing porns together as couples, understanding your partner's needs and body etc.

Getting hitched to a Nigerian Man keeps getting scarier. cry

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Awoo88: 11:52pm On Aug 01, 2020
one corper or sule down the street dey do the wife well
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by saasala(m): 11:57pm On Aug 01, 2020
yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

I can see you are not interested in marriage as I am. You might however be interested in friends with benefits, no stupid emotions or love attached. We just help each other to orgasm.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by saajus: 11:57pm On Aug 01, 2020
Spouses suppose to discuss some issues before marriage. Even if they want to go the Holy route, that is no sex before marriage, but they can still discuss it. Some women libido are truly low. Some women have bad experiences when they are deflowered. Circumcision also made some women not to enjoy it at all. Some women have health issues, so they feel pain instead of pleasure. These things must be trashed out before marriage.

Sex issue has destroyed many marriages.

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by chiol: 11:58pm On Aug 01, 2020
This is terrible and rampant these days. It seems our forefathers were wiser than us. We accepted monogamy and it is now dealing with us. Woman is now the head of house while man is like a houseboy.

It is high time we reintroduced polygamy with family planing. If you have many wives, this Nigerian feminist madness will stop.They will be struggling among themselves who will take care of you.

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Righteousness89(m): 11:58pm On Aug 01, 2020
Hezzyluv:


God almighty will continue to bless you for speaking the 2rut
Amen
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Colonelswitz101(m): 11:59pm On Aug 01, 2020
yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

rubbish...deny me sex for one week wen u aint sick n i will retaliate with 1 year...what u give is what u get. In this life that is like a shooting star is wat I will be seeking advice on how to handle a woman that hold sex as a bargaining chip...odiegwu
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Investnow2017: 12:00am On Aug 02, 2020
What a perverse generation! What has paying bills got to do with this wife's attitude? OP, this mentality of "the guy pays all the bills" in your estimation automatically disqualifies you as a good adviser to your friend. If you go any further than this you will end up destroying whatever is left of the union. Does the woman angrily refuse? Or she calmly or lovingly explain her inability to relate with her husband sexually? Answer to the above two questions will give the man an inkling into what is playing out. The thought of a so-called side chic is self defeatist. It betrays a lack of commitment to the union. Only two of them can solve this sensitive problem. Seriously, heartfelt communication is lacking in the union, otherwise, you OP wouldn't have heard about this.

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by lexy2014: 12:00am On Aug 02, 2020
Tunjingwu:



You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.


So a man should get sex because of d money he spends or because he pays d bills? U have already stated d problem. Entitlement mentality. D foundation was built on payments for sex and d man is to blame because now there's nothing to use to entice d lady to have sex. Paying d bills& expecting sex in return only works outside marriage and it's short term. There was obviously no real friendship and love b4 marriage.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by ume1000: 12:02am On Aug 02, 2020
Miradamian:
that's where u lost it.shake her bc she is soup? Na your type dey rape their wife.
Can a man rape his own wife

Those are laws made by pussy slaves
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by JordanMichael(m): 12:04am On Aug 02, 2020
I believe the wife is bleeping outside already. Under same roof? No sex? Nawww! The wife is fvcking outside big time. He should have a taste outside too
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by pwettybella(f): 12:08am On Aug 02, 2020
His wife or your wife,,, It’s not right for you to create thread for something that does not concern you.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Righteousness89(m): 12:08am On Aug 02, 2020
WILLuKPquiet:



Bro. I am one of those who love you posts. But do you want to know the truth?

Such a behavior is common among so called Christian women. They starve their husbands of sex and still maintain that he can not go out to have sex because the bible says one man one wife. And that a Christian husband must not have side chicks.

They make their husbands cry at home and off they go to church to be raising up "holy hands" dancing shamelessly in front of the altar.

Many men come to church every Sunday with heavy hearts pretending all is well. Because Its a shame to complain "my wife denies me sex" so they suffer in silence and still having fear of not wanting to sin.

When the Bible says any man who can not hold himself should go and get married. They have gotten married but the fake daughters of God are denying them sex. Complaining every day. Some would even ask you "Na food?"

Any Christian lady with such an evil attitude reading this should know that, if the man eventually goes out to have sex or has a side chick, the man and the woman would bear the consequences both spiritually and health wise.

You are the cause of your own undoing and you can't escape the judgement from God. If you like, make the church your bedroom. And go to your G.O or Papa for prayers every day. Aside the punishment from God for pushing your husband into immorality, you even stand the chance of contacting Aids. And it is not the fault of the man. You contact Aids you contact it for fun.

Although, pushed into immorality by the wife, the man also might be punished by God. (might)

The Moslem lady knows her religion supports polygamy so, she behaves herself because sex denial or not the husband can decide to have another wife anytime he dims it fit.

Christian women, "my husband dares not" Yinmu.

You are deceiving yourselves. He will have side chicks and you will both suffer for it.

Nonsense and ingredients.


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!

Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Pearly255(f): 12:10am On Aug 02, 2020
She deserves to be married to my baby daddy.



Period!
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by lexy2014: 12:11am On Aug 02, 2020
yettymuse:


Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

What is d meaning of paying d bills?



You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!


So y then does d guy pay d bills if taking care of kids isn't easy? Is it easy to pay d bills? Women of time past took care of more than 7-10 children cooking with firewood, fetching water from stream & washing clothes with their hands



You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too..


Can this particular lady pay her bills?



If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!



Is it money u need b4 u have sex? If it's money, then that's prostitution.





This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world...plenty stress, no benefits no bag!


In which part of d world have u found marriage interesting? Pls share



Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!


As a Nigerian woman, are u romantic? What's ur definition of romance& how are Nigerian men unromantic?


Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by ume1000: 12:12am On Aug 02, 2020
yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!
Madam advocate whether you pay the bills or not you got no right to deny your spouse sex

And marriage is not a master \slave relationship where the woman gets to be the queen and expects the man to worship her every needs

You should be grateful to all these pussy slaves men for fueling that entitlement mentality of yours

Left along to me women like you would have learnt their place a long time ago

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by AfroKnight: 12:13am On Aug 02, 2020
Palema007:
It is quite unfortunate though that the only solution most Men could come up with is to get a side chick, and someone was blaming women for failed marriage. So to every sex issues in marriage, having a girlfriend is the solution. Lol Nigerians marriages though. Whatever happens to sorting it out, visiting a sex therapist, being sex appealing, seeing porns together as couples, understanding your partner's needs and body etc.

Getting hitched to a Nigerian Man keeps getting scarier. cry

There’s nothing scary anywhere. You’re saying that cos you just want a reason to date that Korean guy, Lee something something. angry

Anyway, back to the topic.

If the man is providing for the house and the one thing that is available 24/7 for his wife to share with him is what she decides to hoard (not like it can expire or spoil o) then she is a wicked person and he should not be blamed for seeking alternatives even to the point of marrying a 2nd wife.

If she is upset let her adjust or leave the marriage. You can’t marry wife and somehow end up with flat mate. No way.

She cannot be using her body as bargaining chip. It’s wrong. It is manipulative and therefore WICKED.
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by jornwhite: 12:13am On Aug 02, 2020
liberalchick:
Lol Nigerian men and “she denied me sex” the word “deny” already betrays what the problem is. If your attitude to marital sex is entitlement and your right to have it because you paid bride price, you’ve already failed. Your wife is a human being and women also love sex. When you think of marital sex as only your right to have and enjoy, it can never end well. Men that aren’t selfish lovers, men that their wife’s orgasm is equally as important as his, don’t open all these threads.


Maybe when women stop acting up after sex like one took advantage or when women stop asking dumb questions like "is it food" .. then we go know say una be human being.
The issue of " right" only comes in when you feel someone denies you what yours. we need more gurls like katrina of BBN open about what they want n go for it, a lady once said to me i can't be giving you sex and you will not lavish money on me, unfortunately most ladies share same mentality
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by chinchum(m): 12:16am On Aug 02, 2020
If a woman derives sexual pleasure from most of her marital sexual encounters, she hardly denies her husband sex. Orgasm is not just for men, women can have it too, maybe not in all sexual encounters, if a woman knows she has 50% chance of having orgasm during sex, even tiredness will not be an excuse. A tired woman who have an orgasmic sex will have a relaxing sleep afterwards.

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by ume1000: 12:17am On Aug 02, 2020
Jullima:

kiss kiss
The saddest irony is the romance, care and attention they refuse to give the wife is what they will shower the side chick for her to give them sex. However, they think the wife does not deserve romance, care and attention because they have paid bride price so they expect sex on demand from the wife.
And what does the entitled wife give in return
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 12:22am On Aug 02, 2020
Righteousness89:


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!


You are right. I am not encouraging him to go into adultery. But if he should fall for it,the wife is the root cause and they will both suffer the punishment from God. The wife should not think she would go unpunished.

That's my point

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by abdullahi45: 12:23am On Aug 02, 2020
Righteousness89:


Listen, TRUTH is always Bitter, Hurting and Annoying. But it Saves! It Heals ! It Liberates..

Until we are Called Home from the Earth, We cannot stop Putting out the TRUTH. No Matter who is annoyed, offended and angry, it does not Matter. We will put it out!

We are not Here to Give you what you wanna Hear, or What will make you Happy! We are not Comedians!

We are not Here to go with what the Multitude thinks or says! No! We are Here to Give you what God says!

We are Here to Give you What you The Gospel Truth about Life..

We are Here to Give you what Makes God Happy!

We are Here to Give you what will Provoke you to Repentance..

If you Will Follow and apply the Truth of the Gospel we put out Here, and you Miss Heaven whether in death or at Rapture, May your Blood be on My Head!

Which truth are you even talking about here, young man? For the silence of the professor of knowledge and truth makes the people of ignorance flaunt their ignorance with arrogance. The path of truth is snow white and pristine, Jesus (PBUH) never asked to be worshipped and he would turn against all those who attribute lordship to him on the day of recompense. Don't say you are not told! Don't be deceived man, I hope you stop your holier-than-thou attitude and seek the truth now. It might be too late later, for the end is nearer than ever thought...

You need to do your proper home work on all Abrahamic religions and evaluate their interconnectedness to see delineate the path of truth... I hope you do!

PS: I am not in support of adultery here, the Qur'an and Bible categorically forbid it. But I just need to call the attention of self-acclaimed righteous to righteousness

Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 12:25am On Aug 02, 2020
Righteousness89:


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!


You are right. I am not encouraging him to go into adultery. But if he should fall for it,the wife is the root cause and they will both suffer the punishment from God. The wife should not think she would go unpunished.

Its total nonsense when you have a wife and you still masturbate because your wife denies you sex. Any immorality that comes out of sex denial falls on who ever denies the other sex. Either man or woman.

That's my point
Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Goalnaldo(m): 12:25am On Aug 02, 2020
Hathor5:


I am delighted a few men on this forum can be so sentiment-free and unbiased and give a piece of mature advice.
Your (future) wife is a lucky woman.
why not be that lucky woman?

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Re: His Wife Denies Him Sex Even When He Pays All The Bills by Nobody: 12:27am On Aug 02, 2020
AfroKnight:


There’s nothing scary anywhere. You’re saying that cos you just want a reason to date that Korean guy, Lee something something. angry

Anyway, back to the topic.

If the man is providing for the house and the one thing that is available 24/7 for his wife to share with him is what she decides to hoard (not like it can expire or spoil o) then she is a wicked person and he should not be blamed for seeking alternatives even to the point of marrying a 2nd wife.

If she is upset let her adjust or leave the marriage. You can’t marry wife and somehow end up with flat mate. No way.

She cannot be using her body as bargaining chip. It’s wrong. It is manipulative and therefore WICKED.
Lee Min Ho! Lee Min Ho! Repeat after me, Lee Min Ho! tongue tongue grin grin grin.

To be frank it's scary how Men suggest side chick on this thread, it's like a normal thing which shouldn't be. It's very scary. They didn't even ask if she's having a medical condition or not.
And please stop this providing right mentality, it's annoying to say the least. One thing available for her to do? Like you married her for just that purpose? Sex? Haaaaaaaaa.

Abeg I've read enough nonsense for a night. grin

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