yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Madam, are you married? It seems you are still one of those chikini girls on the street, lost in the ideologies of feminism.
It will end in tears when Menopause looms.

pocohantas:


•Be sexy.
•Stop nagging.
•Wear red pant and bra.
•Maybe he is burdened financially (do you contribute to the home?)
•No matter what you do, please don’t cheat. Give him time, it happens to a lot of men.

As usual you must change the narrative, i havent seen any comment similar to your assumptions so far.
poco & cococandy go n cheat that is if you gurls are even loyal in the 1st place. when it comes to cheating men are just noisemakers women are don ... anyone whu want to know how useless married women are, should apply for IT in a guest house or live close to one. the day God will replay our videos lot of men will die in heaven

humblespirit:
I used to think my wife was wicked for saying no to sex after staying home with my kids due to covid am the one denying my wife sex(Joking). many of us men are wicked , how could someobe leave twins with a woman without help & come back to ask for sex? Children specialise in strength eaten , you get exhausted in no time; if the man wants to be having sex he shud get heis wife 2 maids.

Loool Finally someone who sees and says it as it is.

After taking care of those twins daily sex will not even be at the back of the mind at all.

Even those with one active child are feeling the heat not to talk of double.

Mind you, that RIGHTEOUSNESS moniker na OG o.

I dey pity the homie wey dey quote am upandan, you never chinchontin...

Acidosis:

Sex can get boring in as little as 2 weeks if you do it as a routine. Biko, sex is not a Chore.

Be spontaneous and talk to your spouse about how you feel.

Doing the same thing over and over again WILL soon become a burden.

The only sensible human on this thread.


I don't know why some men are so stupidly crazy about having sex with their wife every now and then, it gets bored. Don't they feel bored doing the same thing everyday or every week I get bored of sex, that doesn't mean I hate you, it's how I am wired. Men should also understand that there are ladies who get bored of frequent sex with the same man every week.


Like the wise man I quoted said, let the sex be spontaneous not routined. Routine stuff is boring.

As a married man, there are many other things to focus on in life other than having sex frequently with your wife in the name of its your marital right. Yes it is your right to have access to your wife's pussy as often as you like but try and put these women into consideration too, be empathic. Will you also be ready to have sex with her anytime she wants it even if you are tired, feeling depressed about something like your financial challenges, career challenges, business challenges or other challenges.

Women are not robots, they are humans too.


As married couple, if you don't want to oversex yourselves and get bored of each other fast, don't listen to people talking nonsense of how they have sex as couple every few days or weeks, most people are liars, space your sex activity, let it be spontaneous and well spaced to avoid one partner becoming bored and wishing to try another person outside out of see finish.


Sometimes it's even good to go months without having intimacy with your wife or husband so that you guys will miss and long for each other like you are now new lovers again, it helps to build and sustain attraction for couples.

he should do a DNA test to make sure he is the biological father of those twins then divorce the wife n get married to another.. no need to paint words here

He has already made up his mind. Just giving you the heads up so you will still have his back when the chips are down. Chances are he came from the sidechick's house to consult you on what he has already done

Another genitally mutilated (circumcised) woman right there. I will advice young guys who are yet to marry to make enquires about the FGM (Female Genital Mutilation) status of their fiancee or girl friend before marrying her.

If she is circumcised, leave her unless you can cope without sex for several months or years because she is going to starve you.

HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

And the kids?

liberalchick:
Lol Nigerian men and “she denied me sex” the word “deny” already betrays what the problem is. If your attitude to marital sex is entitlement and your right to have it because you paid bride price, you’ve already failed. Your wife is a human being and women also love sex. When you think of marital sex as only your right to have and enjoy, it can never end well. Men that aren’t selfish lovers, men that their wife’s orgasm is equally as important as his, don’t open all these threads.

Please leave all this talk, a husband is "entitled" to have sex with his wife, that's the most important thing in marriage. Once sex stops that marriage is as good as over.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Anything could be reason of not having sex with your spouse, particularly when it is the woman that is refusing sex.

Like someone said here, communication is key to everything in marriage.

Unfortunately, most of the time our ego, don't allow us to use that simple way. Of you're not careful as a man or woman, your God-given by God may be thing that will kill you.

What is their relationship like before having the twins?

When did the sex fencing off of the man began?

Of the man can calm down and check these questions, a light will come forth.

What is it that the wife enjoys best? Approach her from that angle, offer that and watch for a change from her.

If there's no change, ask her reason for why she's treating you that way! Hope she's not treating you that way because of guilty conscience from infidelity!

Talk to her gently, lovingly but firmly or seriously! Let her see your seriousness.

I must also say that sex to a woman is more than skin to skin on the bed, it begins from the mind, then it translates into contact. Unfortunately, men aren't trained when growing up to learn this.

Fearfully, as soon as a woman finishes sleeping with you, she forgets those steamy session and her mind is back to what she's been talking about before that sexual pleasure, so watch that area out.

The most romantic thing for a woman is holding her hands anywhere and everywhere, even before you start talking of sex, it's a form of assurance and confidence building.

Women love security around a man! Holding her hands ensure that. Particularly, the one who isn't looking for your money to just solve her problems. So, hold her hands all the time and everytime.

God will open your eyes to see the solution to this problems.

Sixfeetbelle:


If you don't enjoy sex with your wife at all, you know, the dry vagina, no response, boring sex, what would you do?

What would I do?

We will both find a solution. Like lubrication.

That is different from sex denial. Telling me she has head pain today, tomorrow back pain, next tomorrow leg pain. Who asks her to come do rigorous exercise. Lie down even if like a log of wood and let the man ease the tension.

Why do Women even act as if they are the ones doing the most job during sex. Is it not the man that does the "to and fro" movement? Who needs her on top? Let's do the conventional way and close the chapter.

If a woman is tired, let her lie down like a log of wood. Just allow your husband to do the thing in peace and go to sleep. It can't be up to twenty minutes.

When a Christian woman starts to think she is doing her husband a favour, when she has sex with him, she should know she is demon possessed already.

Nonsense and colloquial ingredients.

ibrahim55:
my dear I must tell u there might be no issues here my wife does same infact exactly what this OP is complaining about she is always tired its over three months now just after she discovered she was pregnant... eventually one day I asked her what the problem was she said she is not happy about the pregnancy, note that before now I don't ejaculate down there I pull out as soon as possible we had two kids already... but right she is wanting the d..k again and no longer tired but now me ayam tired jare. My advice to the op is if u are a Muslim getting another wife is the key solution make them dey two competition is if good if they become frnds denie u sex make them three again make am four thats the solution and thats what i intend doing asap

Sorry I am not a Muslim but I have cousins who are and we once discussed this issue,he told me categorically ( he's married for 19 years) that marrying a 2nd wife doesn't make economic sense. He started listing school fees he was about to pay that term, he stated his first daughter wants to go to medical college (she's now in medical school) stated a whole lot of things and said it just doesn't make sense.

I laughed so hard basically it means he can't afford having another set of family members and we see some men in the same estate ( its a muslim estate)he lives that can barely feed their first wife marrying extra wives.

He is quite comfortable but he feels having extra family will not make them all comfortable.

His wife said he is not against him marrying another wife as religion permits but where problems will arise is when things need to be paid for he starts telling stories that is where her own wahala will start.
She basically said 'you can't go ahead marrying another wife and start having issues providing for your family'

We all laughed over it that day about 5-6 years back , he's still married to the same woman and his children are doing fine.

Before you marry another wife think about it - can you afford it?

westlius:
The issue with all this tin is when ur woman/wife knows u dont womanize she will be using her body to make shakara
But if she knows babes dey around u, she will ever joke with sex with u.
Because she knows she has competitors

oil dey ur head.....

Tunjingwu:
Bros I have got very many things to do than sitting down and making up stories.I have since called him and adviced based on some points that some people have made here.Its his choice to follow that advice or not.The home is his own.

Sorry to say, that woman has someone knacking her steadily..
That just it, for a married woman to deny husband sex she has someone else greasing her oil..

I can't believe this lady actually came on nairaland to tell this story. I am shocked to see she is this good at story editing and presentation.

Your friend is a decent man, I know husbands who's wife give them sex and treat them well and yet they still sleep outside. That is a rare quality because lately in situations like this, it's not even a big deal wife denying husband sex anymore in Lagos.

TooGod247:
my brother advise ur friend to become Rev father, sex dose not kill,

And you think say rev father don't have sex, dey there dey deceive yourself

WILLuKPquiet:



Bro. I am one of those who love you posts. But do you want to know the truth?

Such a behavior is common among so called Christian women. They starve their husbands of sex and still maintain that he can not go out to have sex because the bible says one man one wife. And that a Christian husband must not have side chicks.

They make their husbands cry at home and off they go to church to be raising up "holy hands" dancing shamelessly in front of the altar.

Many men come to church every Sunday with heavy hearts pretending all is well. Because Its a shame to complain "my wife denies me sex" so they suffer in silence and still having fear of not wanting to sin.

When the Bible says any man who can not hold himself should go and get married. They have gotten married but the fake daughters of God are denying them sex. Complaining every day. Some would even ask you "Na food?"

Any Christian lady with such an evil attitude reading this should know that, if the man eventually goes out to have sex or has a side chick, the man and the woman would bear the consequences both spiritually and health wise.

You are the cause of your own undoing and you can't escape the judgement from God. If you like, make the church your bedroom. And go to your G.O or Papa for prayers every day. Aside the punishment from God for pushing your husband into immorality, you even stand the chance of contacting Aids. And it is not the fault of the man. You contact Aids you contact it for fun.

Although, pushed into immorality by the wife, the man also might be punished by God. (might)

The Moslem lady knows her religion supports polygamy so, she behaves herself because sex denial or not the husband can decide to have another wife anytime he dims it fit.

Christian women, "my husband dares not" Yinmu.

You are deceiving yourselves. He will have side chicks and you will both suffer for it.

Nonsense and ingredients.

Minor edits:

The husband would be punished for the adultery

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

See the entitlement mentality! Divorce is always an option on the table for any wife who believes that she could make the life of her husband miserable by denying him regular sex. The man said that he has been taking care of his responsibility as the husband and you're still asking if he's spoiling her! I hope you know that divorce is cheap in Nigeria, divorce and aftermath cost little to nothing in Nigeria

Chidex50:

Coz Your IQ is below deck!

You must be mistaken me for your father...

ArticleBeast:

Do you have sense?

Do you?

WILLuKPquiet:



Bro. I am one of those who love you posts. But do you want to know the truth?

Such a behavior is common among so called Christian women. They starve their husbands of sex and still maintain that he can not go out to have sex because the bible says one man one wife. And that a Christian husband must not have side chicks.

They make their husbands cry at home and off they go to church to be raising up "holy hands" dancing shamelessly in front of the altar.

Many men come to church every Sunday with heavy hearts pretending all is well. Because Its a shame to complain "my wife denies me sex" so they suffer in silence and still having fear of not wanting to sin.

When the Bible says any man who can not hold himself should go and get married. They have gotten married but the fake daughters of God are denying them sex. Complaining every day. Some would even ask you "Na food?"

Any Christian lady with such an evil attitude reading this should know that, if the man eventually goes out to have sex or has a side chick, the man and the woman would bear the consequences both spiritually and health wise.

You are the cause of your own undoing and you can't escape the judgement from God. If you like, make the church your bedroom. And go to your G.O or Papa for prayers every day. Aside the punishment from God for pushing your husband into immorality, you even stand the chance of contacting Aids. And it is not the fault of the man. You contact Aids you contact it for fun.

Although, pushed into immorality by the wife, the man also might be punished by God. (might)

The Moslem lady knows her religion supports polygamy so, she behaves herself because sex denial or not the husband can decide to have another wife anytime he dims it fit.

Christian women, "my husband dares not" Yinmu.

You are deceiving yourselves. He will have side chicks and you will both suffer for it.

Nonsense and ingredients.

That's not the only factor because the husband can still decide to marry second wife even if the wife gives him sex regularly. The other factor is that it is forbidden for wife to punish the husband by starving him of sex as long as there is no any justification to do so.

Righteousness89:


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!

I would even advise separation rather than adultery that moves the problem from the woman to the man.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Words of a hoe. To the streets you belong, to the streets you shall return

AfroKnight:


But even the Apostle Paul says sex is a valid reason to get married.

There’s nothing wrong with expecting regular sex from your spouse. Why should she be rationing the thing? Is it budgeted?

And yeah, always suspected that guy was a ho. Never liked his pictures.

You people have come again with misquoting the Bible. Anyway there's nothing wrong with regular sex but in situations where one don't want it regularly, you can only try to talk it out and spice your sexual life.


You are just jealous

cococandy:


They alway know “right” advice to give until it’s their turn then they want online folks to come give them validation to get girlfriends outside.

We shall be applying the same energy henceforth

But when they discover their gfs are sidechicks or their wife has a child from another man- they act surprised. These men they are advising to cheat, are they importing sidechicks for them? No be person babe or wife them go cheat with?

That is why I advised them to accept the above scenarios as part of the guy code.

Palema007:
I wonder how the bolded will play out. Be sexy, go and have six packs, wear red boxers.
This is wickedness!

Of course, is there anything wrong in them being sexy and wearing colourful boxers? It is not wickedness o.

She's probably being yanshed elsewhere