Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Ariza

Righteousness89:
Two wrongs make evenTwo Wrongs do not make a Right!

When there is an issue in the Home, you look for Solutions not for More issues and Problems...

When you have tried all you can and it didn't bring Solution, you try to Reach out Carefully to Matured, Experienced and Godly People around you. It could be Godly Counsellors, or Someone you know she listens to..

Many things Today, Creep into Homes in Different Names, Forms and Sizes. Some are physical, some are Spirtual! All it seeks for is to Destroy Homes.

Once the unity of the Home is Cracked, you Expose your Home to Confusion and Calamities. Don't break the Hedge.

So, Advice your Friend not to use His hands to Set His Home Ablaze...

You see the guy right Below my Summation, Pls ignore that Summation .

Many of them Here do not Understand what Marriage is. They think Marriage is a One Night Stand where you Hop in and hop out!

kikero:


If the guy who feels pressured for sex sleeps around now, his children would eventually curse him, even if his wife tries to make them believe their dad is really a good guy. Children do not like it when their mother is betrayed.

Righteousness89:
Two wrongs make evenTwo Wrongs do not make a Right!

When there is an issue in the Home, you look for Solutions not for More issues and Problems...

When you have tried all you can and it didn't bring Solution, you try to Reach out Carefully to Matured, Experienced and Godly People around you. It could be Godly Counsellors, or Someone you know she listens to..

Many things Today, Creep into Homes in Different Names, Forms and Sizes. Some are physical, some are Spirtual! All it seeks for is to Destroy Homes.

Once the unity of the Home is Cracked, you Expose your Home to Confusion and Calamities. Don't break the Hedge.

So, Advice your Friend not to use His hands to Set His Home Ablaze...

You see the guy right Below my Summation, Pls ignore that Summation .

Many of them Here do not Understand what Marriage is. They think Marriage is a One Night Stand where you Hop in and hop out!

Palema007:

Palema007:
You people have come again with misquoting the Bible. Anyway there's nothing wrong with regular sex but in situations where one don't want it regularly, you can only try to talk it out and spice your sexual life.


You are just jealous

JudasNaCarrot:
Sex is a natural phenomenon put in place by the CREATOR not only for procreation but also pleasure.

Every living thing have this natural urge to "do that thing" so it is very important in life.
The denial of this natural condition is a SIN against nature and the CREATOR. A woman who denies her husband of that is not only wicked but a MURDERER.

Tell your friend to communicate more with his wife, make her to come out of her rock shell and be flexible. Spend time outside home like a holiday resort on weekends,barbecues etc.
If all these things doesn't work then the man should go ahead and find himself a booty that can do the job at will because NYASH PLENTY EVERYWHERE YOU GO LIKE MTN.


Meanwhile, we the members of vaseline crew of Nigeria (VCN) can never have this kind of problem.

Exodora:
One woman in my Vicinity was having same problem with her husband , so the husband reported the issue , when his wife was summoned she told them that her husband does not take his bath regularly , that there are times he comes back from work without taking his bath and it irritates her .

NigAmbassador:


At this point... You made no realistic sense...

femi4:
Tell him to marry a 2nd wife

Seems his wife's libido is low

HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

Jullima:


The saddest irony is the romance, care and attention they refuse to give the wife is what they will shower the side chick for her to give them sex. However, they think the wife does not deserve romance, care and attention because they have paid bride price so they expect sex on demand from the wife.

david290:
Marry someone you aren't sexually attracted to (either because the one you are attracted to isn't ready or financially capable). Wait until you have something to manipulate him with (usually kids). Their way, their world. For the Op's friend, I wish him plenty of luck cos he will need it.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Acidosis:


Very well said.

Truth is that there are no men that demand sex from their wives every day. Whenever we hear or read anything like that, a single guy must be behind the post.

Unless a married man is cursed, it would be very very impossible to make that demand.

The adrenaline rush some unmarried guys feel running from women to women in the name of sex does not work in marriage with one woman.

Most married men just go after other women because, all their lives, they are not used to being loyal to one woman. 99% of the time, it is not because of irregular sex.

Tecord1:
you spoke about moisturizing her libido with good money. And not finding marriage interesting in this part of the world. Need i remind you that marriage in the western world is all about partnership. Issues of money is contributed buy both man and the woman. Nigerian women will not treat their men the way western women do theirs. But want Nigerian men to treat them the way western men treat their women. Your entitlement mentality is something to worry about

CorGier:


Which one is eating from goody bag to your "test" again?

It's men like you that are making these women feel like they are doing you a favour each time they part their legs for you to ease into.

Have you ever made women cry their eyes out in your bed by simply denying them sex? That's the power that penìs of yours wields. If they've got a honey pot, we've got a sugar stick with balls the size as those on the god Adonis dripping with sweet juicy nectar.
It's not my place to advise a man to cheat, but tell him he needs to learn to instill dread in his woman; there should never be any doubt in her mind whatsoever that her not living up to his expectations wouldn't come with consequences.

He might choose to forget, but never forgive. That's a divorceable offense for some of us sef, and you would leave my kids for me - go and be tired no more. In Lil Baby's words why waste your time on a woman who hasn't got you on the front of her mind?