The girl no be here
she no de hear twelve, we leave in the same street

bukatyne:
OP beat up his ex-fiancée
ex-fiancée up his niece

Are we seeing a pattern of the 'strong' beating/bullying the 'weaker'.

Perhaps the world has been looking at the issue of domestic violence in silos.

It is really the stronger picking on/bullying/beating the weaker in a domestic setting.

Got it in one. You are very wise (sorry, absolutely no patronization intended ma'am).

VLTA:
* You shouldn't have beaten her up. You don't have such rights.

* You both were on the verge of establishing a union outside the stipulated tenets constituted by the Author and institutionalizing Force behind such a union, such is the reason for marital woes and turbulence we are witnessing in our generation.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

* Go back to the drawing board and get things right. Without God and without being regenerated, marriage is a blurred, aimless venture

* She was wrong to have knocked your niece, she lacks gentility, meekness and goodness. But all hope isn't lost with her, perhaps she might be a better woman after she experiences regeneration - new birth.

* Apologise for beating her up. You should be remorseful.

* Change is constant, your differences and grievances can still be sorted out. All hope is not lost. If you both are willing to change for the better..

* You did the right thing in being protective of your little, vulnerable niece. Be sure she isn't over pampered though.

shut up you piece of trash!

no woman can ever mess with my family because I don't take shit from them like you simps!

Nigeria women are so overated in this country. there value is worth comparing to 5naira note

useless set of black species with entitlement mentality.

the more we guys realise that women are not to be treated like human the more you will have a peaceful life.

I treat women like piece of shiit.

Lazycyndy:
Your ex-fiancee beat your niece, you beat her in return. Now tell me, what's the difference between the both of you.

And why pray tell are you co-habiting with a woman who is not yet your wife and making her do wifely duties?

This story could be fake but not uncommon to the behavior of most Nigerian men.

.....Just like maltreatment of helpless little housemaids are common behaviours of most Nigerian women abi?

womenareapes:


Nigeria women are so overated in this country. there value is worth comparing to 5naira note



the more we guys realise that women are not to be treated like human the more you will have a peaceful life.

I treat women like piece of shiit.

What she did is very wrong, but beating her to the point of her being hospitalized isn't right either.

What did they do to you to warrant such hate from you? Be careful it doesn't lead to your hurt though

Alaye say na Insults are welcome

I’m more concerned about a woman living with a man that is yet to put a ring on it.

You’re already washing, cooking and cleaning for a homosapien that has not married you.... I’m not even going to talk about the FREE biakum everyday!

These women go learn hard!

Michelle55:
You literally do not have any rights whatsoever to lay your hands on a woman.. She maliciously punished your niece and you did same to her, now tell me, what's the difference between you two?
You could have simply walk away from the relationship seeing the red flags already.

Cohabiting is a big NO and shouldn't have happened, then your niece coming into the picture wasn't advisable at all. You are only teaching her that cohabiting with a man who isn't her husband yet is acceptable and good.

Well, cancelling the wedding is the right thing to do.. You both don't deserve each other because from the look of things you're a man who finds it easy to beat a woman when provoked and not feel remorseful about it and she's a woman who doesn't know the value of one's family and a trouble personified woman.

Both of you should go your separate ways to avoid reading on social medias how a man either ended up in jail for beating his wife to death or how a woman poisoned her husband's niece.

A man has no right to lay his hand on a woman but a woman has all the right to lay her hand on a man and his niece.

you peace of shiit of a feminist always thinking through there smelly yansh!

you won't go far in life if you have this stupid mentality.

I SAY ONTO YE SIMP! IF A WOMAN LAY HER HANDS ON YOU, BEAT YE HER X2 FOR SHE DESERVE NOTING BUT BEATINGS.

VLTA:


What she did is very wrong, but beating her to the point of her being hospitalized isn't right either.

What did they do to you to warrant such hate from you? Be careful it doesn't lead to your hurt though

man/woman!

I have witnessed so many child violence cause by women which shouldn't be taken lightly!

violence like this always start little by little before the danm stupid biitch graduate to complex form of violence by injury that innocent niece.

that's when you foolish people will be shouting inhuman and be blaming the poor guy for not putting an end to it.

my own thought of school is that "to stop a violence, you give that person a dose of it"

Beating her to the point of her been hospitalized is the best and formidable way to stop her from having that habit of molesting people's child.

you will know how it feels when your child is been subjected to violence.

womenareapes:
man/woman!

I have witnessed so many child violence cause by women which shouldn't be taken lightly!

violence like this always start little by little before the danm stupid biitch graduate to complex form of violence by injury that innocent niece.

that's when you foolish people will be shouting inhuman and be blaming the poor guy for not putting an end to it.

my own thought of school is that "to stop a violence, you give that person a dose of it"

Beating her to the point of her been hospitalized is the best and formidable way to stop her from having that habit of molesting people's child.

you will know how it feels when your child is been subjected to violence.

....I concur.Let her also feel the pains and learn how not to maltreat people's children.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

A have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child should survive, and glory to God she did survive as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it. (I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl scream and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.
As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house if you're not strong. Yes, this is what is going on in our society.


I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel. Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. I will forever live in regret. I can't imagine my niece being maltreated in my own house by my own wife.


If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, i feel happy.

Insults are welcome.

Your matter is like putting salt in my mouth after farting in it.
I don't condone domestic violence.
But you're right to end that relationship. She's pretending
Anybody that beats my relative should kukuma beat all of us o.
"Nobody mess with my familia"

JONNYSPUTE:
....I concur.Let her also feel the pains and learn how not to maltreat people's children.

I have witnessed how a woman maltreated her maid to the extent the community started blaming the man, calling him a weak man.

I don't support violence but violence should be treated with violence!

womenareapes:


I have witnessed how a woman maltreated her maid to the extent the community started blaming the man, calling him a weak man.

I don't support violence but violence should be treated with violence!

....But to be honest,the community were right.

It's only a weak man that sees such rubbish from his wife and refuse to take actions

sylve11:


I been think sey na until you don marry before she supposed live with you.... Abi nor be so e supposed be?





It's good. Your family first. When you're in trouble that's when you come to value your own family. Wife fit run, husband fit run but your family will have your back. I am not saying you shouldn't build your own family so you can rely on your wife or husband o.

In this case, If what you're saying is the truth, then this your wife to be is just being wicked.




I have this habit of strolling away from toxic relationships. I keep on warning you till I stroll away. I don't beat women, I walk away and never return. I'm a quiet and happy person, I don't need anything to spoil my mood. How many years person wan live on earth to go woman stress?

But trust me, there are marriages made in heaven. If you see that person you go know if you're not carried away by looks on either party.

Next time, careful, tell her to leave your house instead of you beating her. What if she dies in the process of you beating her?

Your comments make plenty sense.

Family is important. And a woman who cannot show love to them should not be considered.

However, I also do not subscribe to beating. We women could have very sharp tongues and a tendency to provoke. But a men should know that there is greater strength in walking away than succumbing to beating.

Plus what lesson is he passing to his young niece; seeing him beating a woman. Growing up, I saw that happen and it affected me so much that I feared dating for fear of being beaten.

Thank God I was able to sniff through my potential toasters and suitors to make sure they were not prone to touching women violently.

Op I believe there are other ways to handle the situation rather than beating.

I can't understand how men beat their women and even brag about it. Shouldn't he be ashamed for being so weak?

It's good you know the kind of person you have been playing wife with. Since your niece is a major part of your life, you need a more reasonable woman.

JONNYSPUTE:
...And why did she beat the small girl?

Is she also not a human being/ female?

Why can't she just walk away or better still do the choirs herself?

And what did she also achieve by beating the 14 yrs old girl ?

It takes great strength to avoid beating. That means he is the same as she. Now both of them are wrong.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

A have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child should survive, and glory to God she did survive as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it. (I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl scream and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.
As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house if you're not strong. Yes, this is what is going on in our society.


I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel. Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. I will forever live in regret. I can't imagine my niece being maltreated in my own house by my own wife.


If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, i feel happy.

Insults are welcome.

;Dam happy for u bro...so many men re blind to dis particular issue///.

ImaIma1:


It takes great strength to avoid beating. That means he is the same as she. Now both of them are wrong.

....Did you read where he said he did talk to her Initially concerning the way she maltreats the little girl?.

I repeat,if any woman does not see anything wrong in maltreating house maids,beating them as if they are nobody,then there shouldn't be anything wrong if a man use that same beatings to put her in her place.

I guess you know that after the beatings she got from the guy,she can't repeat such nonsense towards that little girl again except she still want the same beatings?

Only foolish and weak men sits and watch their wife's maltreat their maids and refuse to act.

bukatyne:
OP beat up his ex-fiancée
ex-fiancée up his niece

Are we seeing a pattern of the 'strong' beating/bullying the 'weaker'.

Perhaps the world has been looking at the issue of domestic violence in silos.

It is really the stronger picking on/bullying/beating the weaker in a domestic setting.

Basically that is what it is
Strong beat weak.
It's not a gender thing. Just a matter of who's stronger.
OP, you didn't do well.
You beat your gf sotey she was bleeding.
You're an animal in human form.
And your girl is a witch.
Both of you fit each other.

One of the disadvantages of cohabiting when the ring was not on her fingers yet. ... She forgot in the heat of passion that her bride price hasn't been paid..

OP two wrongs can never make a right. Beating the lady is not classy... You should have asked her to leave your house. Then whatever issues u two have, u can take it up from there.

Your niece witnessing that kinda thing is wrong. Next time make sure a kid is not present when adults are having heated argument. If you don't stop it now, your future kids will be witnessing Iraq and Iran in your home.

Just saying because when u finally get married, what precedence are you gonna set? That it's OK for your niece to disregard orders of your future wife because uncle will fight in her presence.. Not saying what your girlfriend did was good but adults have ways of ironing out issues with out the kids noticing.. I am happy for you though because u dictated something that would have been so so bad in the future.

bukatyne:
OP beat up his ex-fiancée
ex-fiancée up his niece

Are we seeing a pattern of the 'strong' beating/bullying the 'weaker'.

Perhaps the world has been looking at the issue of domestic violence in silos.

It is really the stronger picking on/bullying/beating the weaker in a domestic setting.

That is what it has always been. People will pick on who they feel they are stronger than.

- Give these women a grown maid and they will say NO, this one pass them.

- Post pictures of a muscled woman and most men will say they can’t marry. She looks like someone that will be beating them.

Both parties know what they are doing.

Acidosis:
My observations:

1. You're a bad example to your niece. Cohabiting under the same roof with your 14 year old niece is wrong. Domestic violence in her presence is also wrong.

2. You should regret beating a woman so much that you had to take her to the clinic.

3. Your decision to call off your marriage plans is well thought-out.

4. Walking away doesn't mean your next relationship would be better. I mean, your late sister couldn't even tell you guys the man that got her pregnant. There was no mention about your dad in your write-up, so your mom is probably a single mother, and here you are, writing the same old story by cohabiting with a woman.

5. Think about it.

Lmao. Thanks for the laugh. You just had to throw in another perspective @ (4)

Well, beating her wasn't the best option if you ask me. You could have simply told her you were done with the relationship.

pocohantas:


That is what it has always been. People will pick on who they feel they are stronger than.

- Give these women a grown maid and they will say NO, this one pass them.

- Post pictures of a muscled woman and most men will say they can’t marry. She looks like someone that will be beating them.

Both parties know what they are doing.

....Is a lie.I love women with muscles.

To be honest,if she didn't see anything wrong in beating the little girl,let her also not see anything wrong in the guy beating her.

Survival of the fittest

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Just like maltreatment of helpless little housemaids are common behaviours of most Nigerian women abi?

Yes and don't forget the raping of young women, men and children are also common behaviors of Nigerian men.

JONNYSPUTE:
...And why did she beat the small girl?
Is she also not a human being/ female?
Why can't she just walk away or better still do the choirs herself?
And what did she also achieve by beating the 14 yrs old girl ?

ask the simp

Lazycyndy:


Yes and don't forget the raping of young women, men and children are also common behaviors of Nigerian men.

....This one just buy form for feminism. Try feel am fast and submit.

Chai. So na that millennium woman be this?

JONNYSPUTE:
....Is a lie.I love women with muscles.

Most men would not marry a woman who is obviously stronger than them. E get why...

JONNYSPUTE:
....
Mitchewww

She deserves more beatings.

Go beat am na, panel beater.

skywalker240:

ask the simp

....He refused to answer.

pocohantas:


Most men would not marry a woman who is obviously stronger than them. E get why...

..... Hahahahaha. Before nko? You want make madam dey kpokpo oga?

As we dey marry the ones we are stronger than,E get why.

JONNYSPUTE:
....This one just buy form for feminism. Try feel am fast and submit.

You speak so lowly of feminism when you're one of the high junkies of the red pill.

Talk about hypocrisy.

Lazycyndy:


You speak so lowly of feminism when you're one of the high junkies of the red pill.

Talk about hypocrisy.

....Lol. no be only high junkies. I laugh in India.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Did you read where he said he did talk to her Initially concerning the way she maltreats the little girl?.

I repeat,if any woman does not see anything wrong in maltreating house maids,beating them as if they are nobody,then there shouldn't be anything wrong if a man use that same beatings to put her in her place.

I guess you know that after the beatings she got from the guy,she can't repeat such nonsense towards that little girl again except she still want the same beatings?

Only foolish and weak men sits and watch their wife's maltreat their maids and refuse to act.

After the beating, he ended the relationship. So why didn't he just end the relationship? Why did he even wait till she beat his niece. He watched her maltreat her and waited for her to be beaten before taking action.

I don't subscribe to the beatings. They could have been avoided.

Acting doesn't mean beating. Only a weak man beats a woman. And only a wicked woman maltreat and beats people. Both of then are equally wrong