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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:14pm On Aug 05, 2020
armyofone:
That's Nigeria society for you! They are very violent!
Best thing would have been just broke up of off the relationship right away - see he still took her to the clinic for treatment...ummmm.
Potential wife beater not a good thing....no difference between hom andvthe ex.
His girlfriend is lucky, he showed his true colors now, before the marriage. He will be a very bad husband. He even didn't know what happened? Some girls are very manipulative, maybe his niece was trying to instigate the fight, maybe both women were not getting alone. Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss, probably this man already showed before and several times, which of them is his favorite and his fiancee reacted finally. His fiancee should call the police on him and end this sick relationship.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Tozic: 11:15pm On Aug 05, 2020
Anigreat:


Keep foaming in the mouth

I don't even think you have a sister that matches my standard as i don't settle for the less. So don't even think of that, we'll never cross path.


You are a man and she's a lady, don't tread words with anything called 'she'. Most don't know what reality is all about and non can see the pressure that's on ur head.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Dande55: 11:18pm On Aug 05, 2020
Palema007:
Wetin see Finish dey cause be that. The lady sold herself cheap, well I don't know how things are for her so I shouldn't judge. However it is still not right to offer a guy everything on a platter of Gold. But op picked his victim well.

Lol, free the guy already before he vex throw you grenade o. grin grin
Loool. I recognise you now grin grin
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:22pm On Aug 05, 2020
Dande55:

Loool. I recognise you now grin grin
Oh and I forgot to introduce myself, I was just flowing with the chat! Nice to know you do. I have changed uniform again, honestly this is not ordinary anymore cheesy

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by heendrix(m): 11:22pm On Aug 05, 2020
nkwuocha1:
Anigreat,

I will never ever ever ever ever ever marry a girl like that EVEN with a knife on my throat.NEVER.

But beating her up ,that I wouldn't do.But what I will do us this, Pin her to the ground and tell my niece to give her a couple of slaps and knocks ,after which I will push her out of my house shut the door and fling her stuffs through the window.

My man Jah bless you jare
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by NoToPile: 11:26pm On Aug 05, 2020
gracevile:
reading peoples comments well is dishearting . Why should u invite a girl to stay with you when ur girlfriend is around (bad parenting) just a quick question who is suppose to clean and wash the toilet let me guess ur girl friend and still cook and i am sure wash ur nieces clothes too I put it to u u are still a child just a knock on ur niece who is clearly stubborn u beat and caused someone's daughter to bleed and you are proudly saying u feel no remorse for what u have done. If u had spoken to her and she did not hear do it ur self its ur house. I really hope someone does the same thing to u in revenge then they will take u to a hospital mumu Hope as she is better you send her away and do the house chores yourself [if you send or ask her ur niece to do anything in the house God will punish u for all u did to ur girlfriend.



Phewww somebody finally asked the question.

Lool its two of them remaining now let's see if the 14year old niece won't do any chore.

If you want to cancel the marriage because she knocked your niece that's your choice but which one is beating to hospitalization

All these wouldnt have even happened if the fiancee remained a fiancee and didn't graduate to a wife before time.

He should also note that the 14year old girl would never respect whoever he marries.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:26pm On Aug 05, 2020
Tozic:


You are a man and she's a lady, don't tread words with anything called 'she'. Most don't know what reality is all about and non can see the pressure that's on ur head.

I see, so pressure cooker is on his head, I thought as much, no sensible being will act the way he did.

Pressure ko, Volume ni.!

Don't bother to respond, I won't read! Awon pressure cooker. grin grin

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by armyofone(m): 11:27pm On Aug 05, 2020
SmartKitty:

His girlfriend is lucky, he showed his true colors now, before the marriage. He will be a very bad husband. He even didn't know what happened? Some girls are very manipulative, maybe his niece was trying to instigate the fight, maybe both women were not getting alone. Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss, probably this man already showed before and several times, which of them is his favorite and his fiancee reacted finally. His fiancee should call the police on him and end this sick relationship.

He said he was happy with the niece response to his fiancée - he was cheering her on. I think he was done with the relationship and looking for a way out.
I hope the chic too learnt her lessons and moved on. Speak your mind and move on if you don't feel comfortable with something.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by heendrix(m): 11:27pm On Aug 05, 2020
Nuttella:
Why should you beat someone you claim you love, why didnt you just send her away, break up with her and cancel the wedding, you are not even a good partner, thankGod this happened, now she knows you are a woman beater and you dont deserve her. I guess this is not your first time of beating her, woman beater.

Shut the F up.....you deserve same fate even
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by heendrix(m): 11:29pm On Aug 05, 2020
Shancca:


Na man you be bro. I have a nephew with almost same circumstance as your niece and I am planning settling down soon. I have warned my girlfriend to stay away from my nephew; else I will show her the exit door. I love my nephew and all I want is to make his mother happy. And no one can stop that. Kudos man!!!��

Kudos to u to man. blessings on you
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:29pm On Aug 05, 2020
heendrix:


Shut the F up.....you deserve same fate even
Come and beat me, I'm in my house, president of woman beater association, y'all are going around melting out punishments to women, continue beating your girlfriend/wife, you will soon meet your waterloo.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:31pm On Aug 05, 2020
Palema007:
I see, so pressure cooker is on his head, I thought as much, no sensible being will act the way he did.

Pressure ko, Volume ni.!

Don't bother to respond, I won't read! Awon pressure cooker. grin grin
Lmao cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by wirinet(m): 11:31pm On Aug 05, 2020
SmartKitty:

His girlfriend is lucky, he showed his true colors now, before the marriage. He will be a very bad husband. He even didn't know what happened? Some girls are very manipulative, maybe his niece was trying to instigate the fight, maybe both women were not getting alone. Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss, probably this man already showed before and several times, which of them is his favorite and his fiancee reacted finally. His fiancee should call the police on him and end this sick relationship.
Even though I don't support him laying hands on his fiancee, what she did was unforgivable. Mind you the guy had been tolerating the non physical abuse of his niece. What broke the camels back was the physical abuse.
She intending to enter the family should have understood the sensitivity and sensibilities of the family. The fiancee's only Sister is dead and is left with only his mother and his sisters only child. So she should have been more understanding and diplomatic about how she treats the niece and the mother. The niece was only there for a few months.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Dande55: 11:31pm On Aug 05, 2020
Palema007:
Oh and I forgot to introduce myself, I was just flowing with the chat! Nice to know you do. I have changed uniform again, honestly this is not ordinary anymore cheesy
Enjoy my dear smiley kiss
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:34pm On Aug 05, 2020
You have done well except for the beating you gave her.

Now that you've decided to end the relationship with her, ensure you do not allow her smuggle anything that belongs to you out [eg your clothes] and don't eat or have sex with her again. You can be jazzed. Women go to any length to do this. Send your niece back home and collect your ex key to the house or change the key immediately. Then always ensure you close your kitchen door to ensure that she can't come and put jazz into your pot of food through the window or something.

Lastly, never listen to any apology, she may pretend to change and come back worse. Don't have sex with her again! Don't have sex with her again! Don't have sex with her again!

I warned you

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by chinchonglee(m): 11:37pm On Aug 05, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
....Did you read where he said he did talk to her Initially concerning the way she maltreats the little girl?.

I repeat,if any woman does not see anything wrong in maltreating house maids,beating them as if they are nobody,then there shouldn't be anything wrong if a man use that same beatings to put her in her place.

I guess you know that after the beatings she got from the guy,she can't repeat such nonsense towards that little girl again except she still want the same beatings?

Only foolish and weak men sits and watch their wife's maltreat their maids and refuse to act.
I read all ur comments on dis and had no option than to support u..

Dere a useless woman in our area who inflicted a serious injury on her housemaid using hot pressing iron and a human right lawyer took up the case.. till today that woman and her husband ( a very quiet and comfortable man) is still paying for damages. The man has almost gone bankrupt because of the useless person he married as a wife..

Am the most strict person wen it comes to handling women. Op is kind sef.. if its me i ll beat her to the point that one of her arms must paralyze..

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by earnit3: 11:39pm On Aug 05, 2020
You will get a better girl
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Supermajor(m): 11:41pm On Aug 05, 2020
SmartKitty:

His girlfriend is lucky, he showed his true colors now, before the marriage. He will be a very bad husband. He even didn't know what happened? Some girls are very manipulative, maybe his niece was trying to instigate the fight, maybe both women were not getting alone. Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss, probably this man already showed before and several times, which of them is his favorite and his fiancee reacted finally. His fiancee should call the police on him and end this sick relationship.


Go back and read the story again and when u fully understand it then come back and edit this thing u put down here...
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by heendrix(m): 11:42pm On Aug 05, 2020
Nuttella:
Come and beat me, I'm in my house, president of woman beater association, y'all are going around melting out punishments to women, continue beating your girlfriend/wife, you will soon meet your waterloo.

Ok let's talk maturely. She heard the story that this girl lost her mother at a very tender Age which that alone is traumatizing anytime the girl gets to remember that

Then she came to a house that is not even her own and melted series of inhumane violence on her and ur expecting him to just send her away like that??

Haba think on it to. how wicked can she be? and to even think the girl is a grooming lady like her is even very dissapointing. I support the beating whole heatedly as it'll always serve as a lesson for her anywhere she go
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by armyofone(m): 11:43pm On Aug 05, 2020
grin grin see fear grin
The village people dey come after him ? grin grin

Boyolity:
You have done well except for the beating you gave her.

Now that you've decided to end the relationship with her, ensure you do not allow her smuggle anything that belongs to you out [eg your clothes] and don't eat or have sex with her again. You can be jazzed. Women go to any length to do this. Send your niece back home and collect your ex key to the house or change the key immediately. Then always ensure you close your kitchen door to ensure that she can't come and put jazz into your pot of food through the window or something.

Lastly, never listen to any apology, she may pretend to change and come back worse. Don't have sex with her again! Don't have sex with her again! Don't have sex with her again!

I warned you
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by rafindo(m): 11:46pm On Aug 05, 2020
Juliearth:




Dont let your mood define your actions.

Your hormone is your mood
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by NoToPile: 11:48pm On Aug 05, 2020
SmartKitty:


Beating his woman was showing his niece, she is the boss

This is the point the OP doesn't realize yet as that girl will never respect any woman he marries when she visits the couple because she's the boss.

Marriage requires wisdom there are better ways he should have handled the issue and the one thing he shouldn't have done was what he did that's the worst signal he sent to the girl.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:49pm On Aug 05, 2020
heendrix:


Ok let's talk maturely. She heard the story that this girl lost her mother at a very tender Age which that alone is traumatizing anytime the girl gets to remember that

Then she came to a house that is not even her own and melted series of inhumane violence on her and ur expecting him to just send her away like that??

Haba think on it to. how wicked can she be? and to even think the girl is a grooming lady like her is even very dissapointing. I support the beating whole heatedly as it'll always serve as a lesson for her anywhere she go
That's why NO Western woman shouldn't ever marry a Nigerian man. Beating a woman it's being NOT a man. If in his eyes she did anything wrong, or talk and fix it as adults, or go out of this relationship.

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Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by mechanics(m): 11:49pm On Aug 05, 2020
You can still amend the broken relationship, just sit her down and let her know that she has to show love to your relations, assuming you told her about your niece before, she won't be angry about it.
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by annayawchee: 11:53pm On Aug 05, 2020
Kudos hare for standing up for your niece but you over did it oo...

Few hot slap would have been nicer than bloody beating...

Hopefully she will learn and turn a new leaf cos this is how it starts, from knocks, to flogging, to pepper spraying her and finally ironing....

To all those hypocrites saying its just knock...

May your children receive unlimited knocks from family, neighbors and friends...
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 11:59pm On Aug 05, 2020
mechanics:
You can still amend the broken relationship, just sit her down and let her know that she has to show love to your relations, assuming you told her about your niece before, she won't be angry about it.
He did beat her very badly, hospital and all, if it was in America, american doctors call the police on him immediately. Are you sure he will not beat her again if they go back together? Or he will kill her the next time? And he even doesn't regret it.
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by rolams(m): 12:07am On Aug 06, 2020
And what's my business there?
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Mires: 12:07am On Aug 06, 2020
Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

You are a man. I wish my elder brother who also reside at Uyo can see this. Enter the nearest bar, get yourself a chilled red wine and any pepper soup of your choice and passed the bill across
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 12:08am On Aug 06, 2020
NoToPile:


This is the point the OP doesn't realize yet as that girl will never respect any woman he marries when she visits the couple because she's the boss.

Marriage requires wisdom there are better ways he should have handled the issue and the one thing he shouldn't have done was what he did that's the worst signal he sent to the girl.
Exactly! A REAL man, a WISE man knows how to lead all his relationships, including family and children. Some create conflicts putting down the woman in front of his family, children, niece, etc. and when the woman reacts, maybe violently, he is not able to ask what happened and beats the woman so badly. If she goes back to him, his niece will laugh at her and create more problems. He is NOT a man. Instead to see what problem is it and fix it all, he behaves as an animal.
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by victorazyvictor(m): 12:08am On Aug 06, 2020
Nuttella:
Go and blind your wife's eyes when she offends you.

Na for woman side you dey get muscle.

grin my wife no fit conk my niece grin
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by Nobody: 12:12am On Aug 06, 2020
annayawchee:
Kudos hare for standing up for your niece but you over did it oo...

Few hot slap would have been nicer than bloody beating...

Hopefully she will learn and turn a new leaf cos this is how it starts, from knocks, to flogging, to pepper spraying her and finally ironing....

To all those hypocrites saying its just knock...

May your children receive unlimited knocks from family, neighbors and friends...
She did very wrong beating the child but he made it worse, much worse instead to fix it all.
Re: I Am Cancelling All Marriage Plans Because Of What My Girlfriend Did To My Niece by JONNYSPUTE(m): 12:20am On Aug 06, 2020
pocohantas:


Anigreat go for anger management o. Go for anger management...
.... grin grin grin

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