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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by kizwid(m): 9:33pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
internationalman:did he masturbate? 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ehisforever24(m): 9:33pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
You are not a failure that is why I am scared of raising my Kids in Nigeria 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 9:34pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Karlifate: Thanks man, I appreciate. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by randomShek: 9:43pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
I’d say you should focus on what you want choose to be, not what society wants you to be. The problem we have nowadays is that everybody wants to “belong” and live “that” life. Life isn’t fair. The “happy” (more like fake) life you see on social media isn’t the full story. You’re you. You should be in charge of your fate and not “moving with the wind” Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop pressuring yourself to live up to the standards people set for you. Stop pushing for only materialistic stuffs. Stop caring about people’s opinion of you. Stop living in the past. Stop being hard on yourself. Stop with the pessimistic thoughts Life is too short for that. It only leads to depression and a miserable life (even with a fat account) and the sooner you lift your head and see beyond the facade of the world around you, the sooner you’d realize the limitless opportunities around you that can make you happier and make life a blessing. All’s in the past so stop thinking, shut out all the “noise” no matter how distracting, set a goal and take a step. Even the tiniest can be very fulfilling if you set your sights right. I hope things work out well for you �� 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 9:45pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
ZINIBANKS: Thanks bro. I just keep pushing regardless. I pray heaven smile on you too. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by blazingblender(m): 9:45pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
op u de make me laff .....make i tell u my own story?? 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by YoungandDepress: 9:47pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
busky101: I just sent you a mail sir 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by PeacenLove2: 10:00pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Op, wait for it .... the sun rises every morning, the light always comes after dark so wait for it. Be patient ... be positive .... don't rush Practice deep breathing. Try to focus on what's going well in your life. This is Naija, you're not one of the oldest broke undergraduates still living with his parents. Life is not a race ... stop measuring your level of success with others. Get busy, find opportunities to develop yourself. If you have access to internet, check out free online courses to up skill and become more marketable. And very importantly, don't give up. Don't give in. Don't lose your faith in God. His ways are mysterious but He still is the best comforter in times of distress. Give it time and God will come through for you. This is a phase, however long, it won't last a lifetime. One day, you will struggle hard to recall how difficult your life once was. Be strong. Hey, chin up. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by okoroemeka(m): 10:08pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Not too late to turn your life around,try and conquer your bad vices and nuture the good ideals you have in you, remember fortune favours the bold,I remembered when I was your age I have postive and proactive friends ,it was on such trip with a friend to ibadan that I discovered a business niche that made me #1.5 million in 6 months and I am 23 yrs then but i have a Honda accord car with AC,look deep in your soul and discover what you can be good at and turn that into providing services,I was watching a clip on YouTube and saw how old dead truck/car batteries are revamped in Pakistan, imagine if you could learn such and apply it as your part-time hustle,a truck battery is roughly #50k now xx imagine if you can wake up a dead one with half that cost, customers will rush you,try and find how to provide services that people need but if you choose the easy lazy man's way of gambling you are only enriching the punters 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by goodnewscliff(m): 10:10pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
This One never experience suffer firsthand..... U dy come speak English here !!!! Pm. Me lemme talk to you 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 10:28pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Same age.
Different level.
Same thought.
Home with p/mama.
Gat nothing doing. But my hope is in God, my case is worst you've got brothers but I got none. May God perfect me/i bleed tears/ 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Dayoebe(m): 10:32pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Also the same age with you, same level in university. Though mine is university of technology, Which means I still have 3years ahead before I could graduate. Should I start my story from financially, socially, academics point of view? Let's Just thank God and move on with life. There are some whose conditions are worst than we can imagine. OP you think your condition is so bad? Wait till you hear little from my experiences about life. I can't even type without shedding tears. Story for another day. 11 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 10:33pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: I understand how you feel because I have been through such thoughts before. We age mates. At 19, I lost my mom, few months later I lost my friend. At 22 I got withdrawn from pharmacy school in the university. I hated myself and didn't like the way things were going. I stopped believing in God and many things. I accepted my fate. Here are the things I did that got me on a journey to achieving my goals. 1) I asked myself, what is my purpose ( I don't have the answer yet) 2) I found a hobby that got me engaged and active( forex trading). Learn a high income skill, you can get free courses on udemy.com 3) I started early morning workouts. 6am-6:30am( health is wealth) 4) I set goals( gave me a sense of something to aim for each month) 5) I cut away my friends, family and stopped watching TV( only your parents care about you) 6) I started reading ( after my withdrawal from. Pharmacy school, I had all the time in the world and I read somewhere that readers are leaders. I don't know if that is true) Also you are 23 for Christ sake...no one expects you to have a car or a millionaire naira in your name. The time is on your side, you have 30, 40, 50 and many more years to celebrate on earth. My step mom gave me this advice: " The foundation of a sky scraper goes deep into the ground, you don't know what plans God has for your life" Face your challenges SQUARELY. Stop visiting nairaland, visit Quora.com instead. I hope this helps 62 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Bornfool(m): 10:59pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
KingPipmarshall: Well said bro 5 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Israelsaidu(m): 11:11pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
Regex:similar story to mine, yours. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Israelsaidu(m): 11:11pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
internationalman:if you do this, stop it too.... Small truth dey there. 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by RealEzee(m): 11:21pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
My guy this life no balance oo Yet as far as you still breathing make it worth while, you're not in competition with anyone ooo Abeg, this life is d only race way dem no dey give award for one first reach finish line but for everyone to get there, so get there man. As Naija pple aren't we all depressed by default , my guy find the little things that gives u hope, makes u laugh makes you look forward to better days, Aswear we all need true friends in the lives Sha, at least guys we can pour out our fears without judgment, see ehnn Las Las we go all dey aiit, as for me na God I dey look up too, Baba got my back 24/7, make em Sha just bless d labors of my hand make everywhere soft, my folks dey for me to take care of. I dey listen to J Cole - love yourz, dey type you 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by DarkPheonix: 11:35pm On Aug 05, 2020 |
First ask yourself what do you wish become, you still have enough time to achieve it. if the course you are doing in school is not what you really desire go after that which you desire, it is never too late. Set goals for yourself it will keep you going. Don't look for work to earn money but rather learn a skill. You are greedy, you feel intimidated and pressure because you feel your mate are living better than you so you became desperate that is why ventured into gambling but what you don't understand is that everything takes process and time, thank God you've learned your lesson and you've quit gambling but try also to drop your greed and desperation it will only push you into another mistake.... love yourself, build yourself and trust the process 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by pauladonis(m): 1:02am On Aug 06, 2020 |
@op There's nothing to live for in your past, it is your past... What you can do is start afresh, start somewhere. There are plenty things you can do to be financially independent, that are not toxic like gambling. Don't give up. Any point you are now can be your starting point on your journey towards a better life. If graduating with a third class after 7years+ in school couldn't stop me, nothing should be strong enough to stop you... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ageraGT: 3:10am On Aug 06, 2020 |
ZINIBANKS: Funny enough that is the best reply i saw. 4 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Regex: 3:34am On Aug 06, 2020 |
Israelsaidu: Yeah.. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 3:57am On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:what is your zodiac Horoscope sign |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by aminusodiq(m): 7:10am On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:life can be funny bro.. I had friends who had admission late, some graduated @30, while some @25.... At 23, u still have hope of doing something for yourself... Urwriteup showed how brilliant u we're, and how intelligent u should be. There is nothing bad in living off ur parents as a student. Try ur possible best to learn a skill, even if u hav to involve ur eldest brother, maybe he can be of help, they can only forgive a sin of such magnitude if dey realize u ar doing somtin for urslf! I won't advice u work for small business DAT pays a merger salary, better u sacrifice dis time for the future, either online or offline, there are alot of skills u can learn!! I'm a realistic pencil artist, and I do various forms of graphics designs too, picture frames, 3d canvas, wall panels etc... I can help with the latter skills if u have a laptop, and I can teach u arts (FREE) if u have the passion and the talent inert My link is there on my signature! 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Young03(m): 7:31am On Aug 06, 2020 |
@23 yrs your complaining If u know what most of us in our 30s are seeing. you will just be praising God. Can u stay 24hrs without food. whereas u have house rent, light bill to pay 27 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Chasegb(m): 7:32am On Aug 06, 2020 |
Who doesn’t live off parents at 23? You are putting too much pressure on yourself. Please calm down. 22 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by femi4: 7:35am On Aug 06, 2020 |
gigante:Pls talk to him, you are of the same age. You all relate better with him |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Rickmann: 8:05am On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Calm yourself my brother....you are still young and its never too late for things to take shape.It's a good thing u are no longer a slave to gambling and going back to school is the best thing you've done for now. But then,now is the time to focus on ur education and forge your future.like u said , ur parents still believe in you please do not let them down..I would suggest you take up a part-time job so as to help u through school and you ll stop being broke. Make friends, watch movies/football, attend church services on Sunday's, listen to music and u ll see life should'nt be as hard as u take it. Wish you well my brother. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Lordfranklin(m): 8:07am On Aug 06, 2020 |
You think you're suffering? You're a thousand times better than a million others. At least your parents are still catering for your well-being and here you are, unappreciative! Ungrateful!! Yeah, we all think we deserve better but we cannot change our present circumstances. We can decide our future to some extent. If you hear my story eh Your own na testimony 10 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Charmingrascal(m): 9:02am On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Firstly you are blaming God for what you did to yourself. Questioning God why your life is like this after you admitted to have wasted a golden opportunity of getting admission into the University at a very tender age of 16. Let me tell you God shouldn't be blamed for ur failure, blame urself and retrace ur steps. It is normal to feel depressed but don't allow depression overwhelm u. Get a handwork that you can learn within six months, you are always depressed because you are alone and doing nothing. There is always a second chance, some people even get up to Fifth chances. The second chance you have now is ur mum who still believe in you and still finance ur education even after messing up at first she wants you to be great. I remember when I had extra year because of my project supervisor who hated me so much it was only my mum who believed in me, even some of my siblings believed the issue I had was more than project they believed I have been expelled or perhaps I had many carry overs which I was hiding from them but only my mum believed me like ur mum is doing now (Mothers are worth more than gold). So my friend take the advice I have giving you and let me also remind you that don't let any girl distract you, that was one of the mistakes I made then. The fact is if you are able to graduate from Nigeria University without bowing to peer pressure of smoking, partying, gambling, womanizing, and joining any fraternity then nothing can change you again. My guy we all make mistakes but don't let ur past weigh u down. The future is bright, make Mama proud. With love from the side 17 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Charmingrascal(m): 9:12am On Aug 06, 2020 |
blazingblender: Everybody get story If I should tell him mine he go know say him own small, just that I wasn't expelled from d Uni, my mates graduated in 2015 and served in 2016 but here I am just finished my NYSC this year. Anyways glory be to God because even as a corper I was doing fine than my mates who served 3 years before me, I was a "big boy kopa" that's wat they called me. Done with service and God is been faithful everything is falling in place. This life no be by who first get na who get pass 8 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by VanTee20(m): 10:15am On Aug 06, 2020 |
Gambling is fairly easy to stop. Just go to the bet shop one day without cash and start to predict games. Calculate the losses you would have incurred if you had gone with money. Do this multiple times and that should be enough to open your eyes. Do you really think you can get rich playing virtual games? Money flows in the direction of value that you provide. What value do you provide by playing virtual games? You are merely placing your happiness, your hopes in the hands of some 2D characters moving around on the screen. Characters that have been programmed to make the company gain more and to make the bettors lose their money. God is not your problem, bro. You are your own problem. Learn to take responsibility for your actions. It is true that you can't change the past, so you must not let it weigh you down. Reminisce on your past solely for the lessons you have to learn, not to regret. At 23, you are still in the morning stage of your life. As for being an undergraduate at your age, I don't see anything wrong in it. Are you the oldest in your department? I'm sure you are not. Even if you are, what does it matter? What if you see your age as an advantage? Unlike most of your teenage colleagues, you have experienced more in life. It would be easy for you to understand that school life is beyond academics. Getting a side hustle, cultivating valuable relationships and networks, discovering your talents and using them appropriately, learning in demand skills, all these things are just as important as studying your courses while you are in school. Your mates that you are comparing yourself to are completely different people with different life journeys. Live your life, bro. It's not by who left school first or who served first or who started living large first. The future is pregnant, you don't know where God or life is taking you. If you have a flair for writing articles or stories, I can connect you to people who will give you writing jobs steadily. If you are dedicated, you will make enough to get little things for yourself. If you could this post with your phone, then you can do writing jobs on your phone. Send me a DM if you are interested. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Karleb(m): 10:29am On Aug 06, 2020 |
I could remember when we were born then in the early 60s, at 23 you're still comfortably sucking your mother's breast. Children of nowadays just want everything fast fast. 11 Likes |
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