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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by WriterX(m): 6:40pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: If I cor tell you my own na u go be like boss you still dey alive. Op message me let me help you like I was helped out of my mess. You are suffering from depression already. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by OmoDavido01(m): 6:40pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Op just like you. I am 25 years in 400l studying Industrial Chemistry. My story is just like yours too. Graduate from sec school in 2013 but gained admission in 2016. Most of my sec school mates are now graduates and some already working and earning well. But na person wey give up fuckup. My own even strong because I am the first born with siblings and dad is late. I wish you well bro. Please check my signature for your unique and professional 3D logo design. 2 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by stinjoe(m): 6:40pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Jamesxay Please, I need to join the group. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 6:42pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: Honestly, you are lucky! Believe me on this. you are still young and can still recover all the loses in a short time. The first and most important step is realizing and accepting the fact that you goofed. 23 years? forget it. I know a 36 years old guy who is currently in your shoes. My advice: Get a grip of yourself, U are still strong and I believe you are intelligent. Take your time and ask yourself deep questions like What am I passionate about? Where can I add value? Where do I need change in my life? Do a lot of research and connect with people in that field. Connect, share, Explore. God is on your side. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by NwaIgboBoy(m): 6:45pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
but nevertheless u are just better than those that died of corona |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by thelegend1(m): 6:47pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:You're 23, you've got your whole life ahead of you. In fact you just lived 1/5th of it and made your mistakes early...the beauty of your strength is you still had the courage to start over. We all go through dark times and fall. But rising each time is where we define ourselves. DM me so we can rise together. 3 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by justli: 6:47pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Your story reminds of myself, back then in the university: always broke, academically intelligent, ever thinking and planning and frustrated...but, I never missed an opportunity to have fun with my men... You sound like someone who's going to be successful...I can feel it from the sincerity of your thought. At 23 and not knowing what to do with your life, you might think it's worst for you. But, your life is just getting started. Too many people think in the moment...you need to plan for 1, 2 or 3 years, and be grateful for every moment and everything...and pls, don't use the foul language "whatever god" This hate of self, you need to channel it. If you'd like a career in the tech, here is something you can do: https://www.freecodecamp.org/news/python-curriculum-is-live/ Go to the above link, cure your frustrations by immersing yourself into those course, There is certificate for each one you finish They are all top level IT skills: Quality Assurance Data analytics Information security Data visualization... You can start from top down, since you are still in year 2... If you heed this advice, by 4th year ending, you will be sending money to those your peers that already graduated... I'm recommending this path because your passion is palpable you only need guide... You can message me on Whatsapp also. 4 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by donMIG(m): 6:47pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
That b life! U r just 23 n u r shouting upandown like u don old I beg sit down U r broke because u want to b-my guy go work for site I still remember doin that coz I wanted to earn respect from my parents n ppl, all that pls mum or dad gimme 2h I want to use it no b him oo dem go dei ask u weitin u wan take d moni do dei open eyes for u anyhow... Baba na reality dei hit u, life hard for this country, if u survive hia u fit survive anywhere, I know guys older than u who still live wit parent (29/31) Oga u for calm down ooo U dei talk say ur friends dei drive car... U tink say ur friends na u? Oga not everybody is born to b rich! This life no hard Once u can afford wat u need baba just dei thank God! Ppl dei sleep under bridge Lastly I know how u feel I've been dia b4 All the hating on sundays N questioning God All the lil tins getin u mad but wat I haven't experienced is hard times without homies My dawgs down wit me from day one! 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Sakaslim(m): 6:47pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress: See Bro, life present different shades for different folks. My advice for you is not to surround yourself with any form of negativity, always be positive. In this life, your mindset and what you say will get you far. Again, i want to advice that you seek someone you can talk to, you don't need to tell the person your whole life history, just someone who is positive and full of life with all the right energies. At this age, don't worry if you haven't figured out life yet. Even the older ones are still figuring it out. Just take each day as it comes and tighten any loose end from your own angle. Finally, i want to implore you to find Christ genuinely. Our creator owns the manual to our lives and he can be found when we seek him. He alone has all the answers. Mortal men try, the answer and peace you seek are in christ. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Drizzy5001(m): 6:47pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Bros , if u hear my own part , u go pity me .. the Carryovers wey I gather sef, I no even know where to start to dey write am ... no be say I no Sabi book, or I no dey read, just that in my corrupt department u have to sort if u want to graduate. So no think say na ur own worst pass , u are better than some peopl o. The worst part me be say, na me be first born , alot of people are looking upto me , so much responsibilities on my head. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Nobody: 6:48pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
1. You compare yourself to others that you see on social media. Stop it before you kill yourself. 2. You haven't forgiven yourself for the past mistakes you made. You need to forgive yourself. Otherwise, you will keep living in the past while your future passes you by. 3. Most 23 year-olds are usually broke in Nigeria unless you can sell your pumpum to politicians to help you widen the hole, which I wouldn't advice you to do. So, snap out of your pity party. Every morning when you wake up, stand in front of your mirror and tell yourself that you messed up in the past, but now you're fully back to take the world by storm. Tell yourself that you will not disappoint your parents again, especially your mom. Tell yourself that you are bright and capable. Tell yourself that you might be broke now, but that's ok because your success is just around the corner. Whatever you tell yourself is what's going to be. Believe it and see it manifest. Now, get back to work. The world is waiting for your contribution. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Hahjascho(m): 6:49pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
KingPipmarshall:You have a mindset of an optimist.... good one. |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Funkybabee(f): 6:50pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Give your life to Christ 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by lymelyte(m): 6:50pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
internationalman:exactly what I wanted to say.. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Joevics(m): 6:50pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
YoungandDepress:I got admission after taking jamb 4 times. Most of my class mates were already in their final year. After I graduated, I didn't know where I was heading in life. Things were just on auto. No job and lot of pressure. But all that have changed now. The bottom line is, that it takes just one moment for you to figure it out. Focus on your education, and graduate with good grades. Be prayerful. You'll look back to this day, and this post and smile someday. 5 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by WHITELIGHTER: 6:50pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
23 and u feeling this sad? There are 40yr olds who don't know their left from right and u complaining? U best years are ahead man...you even realised and corrected your mistakes early. Make friends, join an active unit in church, have a responsible gf, be experimental, adventurous, don't be scared of making mistakes. Don't fvcking compare yourself because if u follow this path that you are now, only suicide knocking 4 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by IhateMyDad: 6:51pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
DamonSalvatore:guy I swr na me be this!! from the useless to two jeans nonsense lecturers. to even relieving myself by trolling nna ehn this life sha |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by emmy512(m): 6:51pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
OP there are worse stories than yours don't give up. I realised the course I was doing i had no passion for it and in my second year i wrote jamb again for another course that i discovered i had passion for and did things without taking them as stress. In my 3rd year now and same age as you, even though I felt exactly the same way you're feeling. My parents could afford to put me in school again but that shame won't let you ask them for something, it was a year later they found out i wrote jamb, after all the quarells et all they still welcomed me, don't loose hope. Find something, anything to do even if it gives you 1k a week till you can do better 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by VULCAN(m): 6:51pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Let me slap you back into reality. God is NOT responsible for your foolishness of diving into bet naija as an undergraduate instead of learning a skill to make money while still in school. Your mates who you claim are all driving cars and renting houses (a bloody lie, by the way) did not do bet naija with the stipend their parents gave them and those that did still studied and graduated. So shut up and don't bring God into your folly. Having said that, let me tell you the other side. In 20yrs none of the nonsense you did will have mattered. When you meet with your former mates when you are 43, the ones who will be the most successful will not be those who you presently think are balling. Life is not a sprint. It is a marathon. My secondary school was littered with the children of the wealthy and influential. Yet the most wealthy and influential today from my set are NOT the kids of those big shots back then. So wake up from your depression cos you are not on track to become successful not because you are broke now but because you have lost hope. There are only three things you need to do. Ask God to show you Mercy and give you a sign that he has a plan for your life. Be alert for a week as the answer will come in form of a person or a conversation. Secondly, Go and learn a skill. Your phone is not ringing cos you have refused to create value. This world only gravitates towards people who provide value for others, regardless of what that value may be. Thirdly, ask God to send you a mentor. If the right person enters your life, it can change dramatically within a year. If God sends someone to help you, you will be lifted in two years beyond where you can struggle to reach in 10yrs of hard labour. Skills get you noticed but favour launches you into the atmosphere. Don't be deceived by any fake motivational speaker. EVERYBODY flying high in this world was given an opportunity a long time ago and they shined. I rest my case YoungandDepress: 5 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Amuluonyenaego: 6:54pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
OP PLS SEND ME YOUR NUMBER |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by AngelicBeing: 6:54pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
internationalman:Hahaha, Lol, like seriously, masturbation ke, but he didn't say he was mastubating Na, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com @ topic, Op seek the help of a psychologist advice and a good Christian counselor to address your issue, shalom |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Ogarexmas: 6:54pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Bro no matter what you are going through please take things easy, this is how depression comes in before you know you are starting to think of sucide Even the people who you think their lives are rosy might be going through more challenges than you are facing Just take things easy bro |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by BigTableShaker(f): 6:54pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Hehehe.. Kids have taken over our NL. Kid wey no wan Hussle.. This is why bihari called em lazy ass eediots. I started hustling at16, by the time I turned 22, I looked back and just smile. I started from; 1. Universal Steel Company, (WAHUM) @N91/day. 2. Guiness Nigeria Plc, @N250/day 3. Peak Milk construction site @300/day 5. Caplux paints, Oba Akran.N600/day with free choice meal 6. Coca cola, 7. CMB. 8. Simba Construction site, 9. Bel Impex LTD 8. Mr. Biggs, 9. Harp, 10. Caterers 11. Security etc.. all as a fuckin manual labourer. @ 22, I had 150k cash at hand and still living with my parents, the following year I got admitted into a Polytechnic, got HND at 27, continued the struggle as a P.A to one motherfhucker, as a Biologist yet I learned engineering trade at TVS tricycle company for 3months, Security guard at events, Bouncer at nite clubs, and now I'ma proud senior staff in Dangote Plc. @35 years old, I bought my own car, got a family of my own, yet the struggle Continues.. Life is hard bro, but you were the fastest out of those billion sperm cells your father ejaculated that day. Don't disappoint the cells that didn't make it. Your life is a gift, don't throw it away- Make it count. Get back to GOD now, cry to HIM "I am yours, SAVE me" and HE will send help your way, but you must anticipate by being active, don't sit your lazy ass down. You will make it. LIVE. 6 Likes |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by KushLyon(m): 6:55pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
bro just calm down, I'm in a similar condition as you. I made a lot of money from the beginning of this lockdown and I have lost it all now. Anything I'm doing these days is not working out for me, the only thing that gives me joy is graphic designing which is what I have been using to keep myself sane, but I still believe it will get better. Life is full of ups and downs, and when you're down you will definitely go back up with enough dedication and perseverance. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by larryking540: 6:56pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
poiunt:bro I wouldn't blame op ,life in 9ja is survival of the fittest,u kw wat I mean ,anybody can blow at any age and they will say na God o in Western life at @ certain age u should be don with your school and at certain age u should be out of University,but let's take it back in 9ja ,, life for 9ja is just scattered ,we just day do by gods grace 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by ekerintee: 6:56pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
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Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by Xristars(m): 6:57pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
A word is enough for the wise, they have said it all. Never be swayed by what you see online, people are living fake lives. Never put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Never compare yourself wit other, your shoes might be far better. 23years! Young fellow, life begins at 40. Cheers!!! |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by aniffy4eva(m): 6:57pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
@YoungandDepress My brother.. calm dowwwnnnnn. I was in your shoes like 15 years ago.. (except the gambling sha).. I was about your age in 200L too, and my mates had either graduated or in their finals.. After secondary school, i went to a polytechnic, finished OND, worked for one year (IT) before going back to university to start from scratch. I was the capital B in "Broke", wetin i no sell? clothes oh, perfume oh, women's shoes oh.. Chai . To even cap it, there was this chic i liked that didn't agree to date me... mehn.. omo depression wey hold me ehn... i lost my erection ..i no fit sleep... na one nice deeper life woman who lived in our area that was just consoling me . Dey give me tracts to read.. But when the Lord turned again the captivity of Zion, we were like them that dream. Today, its a different story.. To God's glory, now dem dey call us Chairman, Oga sir. See ehn, there are two things you must never lose o.. Faith in God and Faith in a better tomorrow for you. Right now, face your book, and just paint beautiful pictures in your mind of a glorious tomorrow. I remember taking long walks just speaking in tongues and declaring words about my future. Good company also helps. My good friend (Baba Dee).. we met in 100L and have been friends since then till today.. We used to build dreams with our mouths and to God's glory, things don balance. Wo aburo (see my lil bro), just be positive, read your books, hustle, pray and speak good words about your future. Your destination (when things go balance) is not as far as where you are coming from. A lot of times, strangers were the ones that encouraged me so maybe now its my turn to do same to you. One day, one day, dem go call you Chairman, Oga sir!!! (positive oh..not dem 419 type) Happiness is a choice. Choose it. And remember, when you balance, make you sef encourage others. 1 Like |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by IFNOTGOD(m): 6:57pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Hold on n don't give up your mates are driving cars today does not mean u won't drive ur when d time comes. a lot of people don't have it easy, reason most people do a lot of things to make it big. Hold on to God n u will never go astray, it may not make sense to u now but someday it definitely will n I Know u will come out strong. u can check these R.Kelly Songs Hold on I believe 3 way phone call prayer changes storm is over. let it shine- timi dakolo. John pk - Stand some of us struggle daily but the Lord has kept us. Hold on to God, He never fails though the vision tarries wait for it, for it will surely come to pass. may the good Lord keep n guide u |
Re: At 23 Years Old, I Have No Idea What I Am Doing With My Life by donprinyo(m): 6:58pm On Aug 06, 2020 |
Call me on the phone sharperly, u will make a very good marketer. |
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