Well, anyone who believes that will just end up being miserable in later life. I'm not going to allow my kids grow up with the lies I was fed while growing up.

brightdestiny96:


I put it to you, there is no total stranger anywhere. Whoever you end up with will be a human. You can work it out if you wish to, no matter how difficult the person is.

You can also mess the relationship up, no matter how saintly your partner is.

You cannot always work it out, life is not that straight forward sir people change with the weather. These changes can be influenced by different societal factors

Besides I will never advise anyone to change for his or her spouse, it's this submissive that make ladies end up in abusive relationships and society will tell them to endure and not look at divorce as a way out

Discovery4today:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9S-9AKabrHE
It is wrong for Christians to date-clergyman, Obie Jason, says

Nigerian clergyman, Obie Jason, has said that it is wrong for Christians to date. According to him, when you date, you get dirty. He is of the opinion that dating does not in anyway reveal the true character of a person and so people should just hit it off by getting married.

Lol I know some people wey go din marry the wrong partner and even some did be dead by now, killed by wrong partner. Wrong partner wey her kpekus go dey smell but you no go fit do anything Cos Na Marty straight and no use date check her out.
This man spirit Dey highway, one way! E din mad

Most dirtying is from you guys taking advantage of other people's wives

Stupid talk

ArticleBeast:

Even with all the dating, don't shit still hit the ceiling? So, dating doesn't change anything.

Dating reduces it significantly, When there's a heated argument the chances of both parties coming to resolution is higher due to the fact that they've been able to tolerate each other for a long time before going into marriage

Some members of the church kept shouting, Yes sir!. Gullibility at its peak.

IamWonderful:
He is right, CHRISTians don't date we go into courtship

What exactly is the difference between dating and courtship?

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Ibrahiimo:
Wetin OLOSHOS no go see for DATING;

I have warned MEN to be careful of pretentious WOMEN that come for DATING. many MEN today are dating OLOSHOS without them knowing.

OLOSHO is a local name for SEX workers in NIGERIA. Another name they call them is ASHAWOS but some argue that OLOSHO and ASHAWOS are two different class of SEX workers, some said OLOSHO is the high class and expensive SEX worker also called the RUNS GIRLS while ASHAWOS is the opposite of OLOSHO

We have some QUOTES the STREET have COINED for them and some they even COIN for themselves.



1. As ASHAWOS stand na so dem dey prize am

2. Na for old age ASHAWOS dey no di value of PICKIN

3. ASHAWO die puna rest

4. OLOSHO no dey train goat

5. ASHAWO no dey stay for pesin HOUSE reach morning

6. Na only ASHAWO dey make money for bed

7. Olosho dey find HUSBAND too

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Drvade:
Calmmm downnn
Ok na
when bible talk abt courtship, someone should pls explain that for me

Thank you o boss.
Simple truth that the sheeple don't realise is that if we apply this senseless standard, Virgin Mary (Miriam in Islam) the mother of Jesus Christ would have been ostracised by the pastors of the era, probably stoned to death sef by the religious zealots.


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OBku4:
Kiss the truth

It is a sin to kiss when you are not married, so i won't kiss the truth

What's this 1 saying again? So I should just find a girl and marry her next day without knowing anything about each other:what I like and what she likes..... Doesn't he know this will surely lead to divorce... I don't understand

Ubdavis:
Some members of the church kept shouting, Yes sir!. Gullibility at its peak.

You sef reason am so.


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Some Christians oversabi. They say;
Don't date. But you should court
Don't call her your girlfriend, That she is your fiancee
Don't call her baby, That she is a damsel so call her sister
Don't toast, But you should first ask God for a sign then seek her consent

Kikiki

Religion is a pandemic that needs urgent vaccine before it wipes us out.... Same retard man will be the first to say.._""


""There is a satanic influence in your marriage please pray, fast and if you wish for me to fast for your family... You know what to do""""$$

How wil u just marry who you don't know? Me go even put belle join bfor anything self. Him pastor self chop kpekus and him dey form holy holy.

DAVE5:



The dance I meant there if you reason am well nah premarital sex which our Christian faith tells us is a sin

So if you are not a Christian or don't uphold the Christian faith strong, there's no bases in my statement

Don't get me wrong, I'm a sinner man too, if I could turn back the hands of time, I don't know if I would omit that particular sin cos e take style sweet but truth is truth from north to south, sin is sin from north to south too, our cultures here in n naija doesn't support premarital sex too

You're very right bro...I'm a Muslim and I think no religion support pre marital sex... Good really codemn it...We youth of nowadays have take it as normal thing which is bad..

missawele:
This man will push people into wrong marriages.

There's a difference between dating/courtship and fornication. He should explain properly.


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The exact comment I've been looking for.
People need to understand the difference.
You can date without marriage in view. Friends can organize friendly dates, children can have play dates. It's just an avenue to relate with people.
Courtship starts immediately marriage enters the picture.


Pastors should be careful what they teach.
If dating is a sin (for him),then courtship should be a taboo.


Finally, Jezebel go become person wife be that o.

Nbotee:
Some of these pastors will jus open their mouth and spill anything jus to sound relevant. He shld jus ask Christians to look for a gal dey want to marry and work for the family like Jacob did




If na from clap dance dey start, how d marriage go jus start den wen una no clap?

did you listen to what he said? I strongly doubt that. A true christian knows the real message. These days people try to use logic to understand the bible. If you do believe in the bible go and read it properly to confirm what he said. Because we live in modern times and "things have changed" does not change the stance of the bible. People picked their wives or wives were picked for them even without them knowing eachother. Go figure.

anonimi:



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Haba, upon say I put partial caveat emptor, you still found a way to guilt shame me

I said if he's not a Christian, there's no basis for my statement

Me sef, I do premarital sex Wella and said I myself I'm a sinner man

I still said if I turned back the hands of time, I probably would still do premarital sex

I wasn't trying to say this or that is right or wrong, neither did I judge anyone

Me myself I sin Wella... Love is easy and I live that way

Stephenmoka4:
I do not think dating is wrong, people change the meaning of different things to what fits them or take societal option. I see dating as getting information about the other person in a gradual process. I have never dated but, I feel it concerns the mindset or objectives of the party involved, which leads to other things considered dirty or inappropriate.

I agree to some extent but we must realize that in the bible days there was no dating, even abraham asked his servant to get his son a wife. this is a woman abraham or his son did not know too well. Even many of our parents did not date, it was more like arrnaged marriage and somehow many worked.

I dont think this style of dating has worked for our generation very well. if you ask me, i would prefer to go back to our old ways.

Arrowss:




So that means the day you see the girl is dat same day you take her to the alter right?

Haba, no be so nah

The normal thing I believe should be meet a girl or your parents would have chosen one for you (our traditional ancestral ways), you can decide to understudy her or not based on if your parent or you can verify she's of good behavior

All this courtship of 20 years is just total thrash on my opinion

Even with dating, it is still not enough to know the other person very well. in these days where spouse kill each other even after dating themselves for a while, what will now happen when you when two people who have no considerable knowledge of themselves now come together as man and wife. even pators self dem dey kill their wives...wisdom naim matter for here joo

Christians are supposed to hear from God first before choosing who to marry.


The main thing is, if you are sure you heard from God, man made protocols will not be necessary

So, how do you hear from God, when there's no Communion with God, even in church people hardly spend time in prayers.

At this rate basic kingdom principles will become strange to Christians.

I'm not against dating. Whether or not you date, put God first.

When you put God first, you will keep his commandment

TOPCRUISE:
Some Christians oversabi. They say;
Don't date. But you should court
Don't call her your girlfriend, That she is your fiancee
Don't call her baby, That she is a damsel
Don't toast, But you should first ask God for a sign then seek her consent

This is somehow not far from the truth.
By overanalyzing this marriage matter, people have lost good spouses in thier life. Many pastors give say so many conflicting things....

7 things to note before you marry
6 things to ask before you say i do
45 ways to stay married
Marriage 101
Is he Mr. right ?
How to know she is right for you ?

Can we just go back to the way things were?

Do you think education, feminism, liberality has contributed to all these ? I compare with the middle east where there is more arranged marriages and all. but again our economies have benfited from female education.... look at northern nigeria.

Maybe its true what one old man said once, Marriage na like black market. regardless of how careful you want to be, you are still taking a risk as no one knows for sure how it will turn out.

DAVE5:
Haba, upon say I put partial caveat emptor, you still found a way to guilt shame me

I said if he's not a Christian, there's no basis for my statement

Me sef, I do premarital sex Wella and said I myself I'm a sinner man

I still said if I turned back the hands of time, I probably would still do premarital sex

I wasn't trying to say this or that is right or wrong, neither did I judge anyone

Me myself I sin Wella... Love is easy and I live that way

No personal agros boss.
Enjoy the love as and when supplied

Kemimarch16:
How will u know little about your partner if u don't date him or her

Dating is NOT the same thing as courtship sis!
Read this https://iblp.org/questions/how-courtship-different-dating
Hey, which one is "behavioral dichotomy"on social media bawo, sis you are either "hot" or "cold"! You can't tell me "Jesus loves me" and "comment different". Who's child are you? Let's be guided!

Pasitor wah!!!

Zzor:
very true,therrs nothing like dating,its a gradual process to fornication

Hey Miss!

Discovery4today:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9S-9AKabrHE
It is wrong for Christians to date-clergyman, Obie Jason, says

Nigerian clergyman, Obie Jason, has said that it is wrong for Christians to date. According to him, when you date, you get dirty. He is of the opinion that dating does not in anyway reveal the true character of a person and so people should just hit it off by getting married.

all i see is a pastor who is marketing himself and looking for attention