Hi nairalanders... sorry for any blunders etc. Shes my cousin and she's in need of advice to save her lifetime regrets. It started wen she was working in a bar parlour she meet one man her customer.. long story cut short shes leaves her working place and move in with the man.. d man was 59years with past 3wives and 8children, while shes was 22+ in 2015. Long story cut short she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in Nov 2016, in dec 2018 she gave birth to a boy. But she hasn't been happy she and d man quarrels every day the man was a retired policeman always picking up at everything.. long story cut short. D man refused to officially marry her. He kept bad mouthing her to his children family every body she's wants to kill him. Any body my cousin meets will always be advising her to pls should give her husband peace of mind.. his son inlaw and his brother practically told her not to kill their brother... d brother even went far as telling d gateman in their house dat shes d one dat will kill d baba. D man is diabetics with blood pressure issues.. she want to leave but because of d benefits shes getting shes confused. Her father is late .. her maternal uncle is been biased abt d issue cos d man usually gives him money..(100k 50k 250k etc.)


Hello nairalanderfamily.. sorry to bother u guys with our family issues... my cousin i posted her issue here couples of months ago is at it again... her husband d retired commissioner for police beats her yesterday as early as possible... reason is because she saw her maid awake at 4.15am with d man there... d maid sleeps in her room but found her out dat early hours.. she challenged d girl only for d man to pounce on her and beats her blue black while d maid watches.... u no woman mouth na d woman now accuses him of sleeping with the maid on for him to hit her in d eyes... in d eyes..(I was there.. cos I Scot in her house during d week days because of my work so am not adding sentiments) d lady was running her mouth ooo. Den d man came and held her by her throat and pin her to the wall with pistol in his pocket... I was afraid but my own life is precious.. d thing dat affected me most is d children are at d scene of the barbaric act of d man... d maid was just looking and smiling I mean smiling... pls she want to report d issue as it is still fresh.. but we need a human rights lawyer dat won't compromise or b intimidated by d means rank or monetary. He came last night but couldn't say anything.. he left d house dis morning.. and he has insisted d house maid is staying........ she cant eat solid food because of d pain in her throat and chest...... pls any lawyer in d house

cuddling44:
Hi nairalanders... sorry for any blunders etc. Shes my cousin and she's in need of advice to save her lifetime regrets. It started wen she was working in a bar parlour she meet one man her customer.. long story cut short shes leaves her working place and move in with the man.. d man was 59years with past 3wives and 8children, while shes was 22+ in 2015. Long story cut short she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in Nov 2016, in dec 2018 she gave birth to a boy. But she hasn't been happy she and d man quarrels every day the man was a retired policeman always picking up at everything.. long story cut short. D man refused to officially marry her. He kept bad mouthing her to his children family every body she's wants to kill him. Any body my cousin meets will always be advising her to pls should give her husband peace of mind.. his son inlaw and his brother practically told her not to kill their brother... d brother even went far as telling d gateman in their house dat shes d one dat will kill d baba. D man is diabetics with blood pressure issues.. she want to leave but because of d benefits shes getting shes confused. Her father is late .. her maternal uncle is been biased abt d issue cos d man usually gives him money..(100k 50k 250k etc.) Her mum is currently a street sweeper under lawma. She has no where to go to with d children d man will collect d car and withdraw all benefits but she don't want to stay again... how can she get a lawyer so d man can sign agreement abt d two children upkeeps tanks... my cousin is a nairalander too but don't want to blow her cover.

This is really sad, that at 22 a lady will be so gullible and dummmmmbbbb all because of cash... cash she is not able to have sense to multiply.
With all the benefits, she could NOT save abi?

Well, LIFE HAS HAPPENED, she should cut her losses fast from such ENTANGLEMENT.... else someone may use native means to quench her.
Why did she allow the DECEITFULNESS OF RICHES to ruin her life for LIFE. So she never helped her mum? What kind of wickedness is that, MAYBE THE MAN USED SOME JAZZ ON HER....

Its not a hopeless case, she will have to gather some cash (BY WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY) and leave. Yes, before its too late. She clearly was never in love... she was used and no single man or widower may want to be entangled in any way with her again. She needs to go and have sense and clean her life up. SHE JUST HAS TO LEAVE

The one na real gobe

Seem she wants to eat her cake and have it n still keep it in d fridge...This thing U gave me is nothing but bone,they said throw it away but U said no there is small meat attached to it...U dnt want to leave d affluent life,then dont complain.

Hmmmmmm...
This issue isn't a small case here.... been born into poverty is a sin....

Is ur cousin a kid? Abegi she should go and carry her cross and stop giving us headache with their wahala

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Is ur cousin a kid? Abegi she should go and carry her cross and stop giving us headache with their wahala

Oga.... easy... someone is kinda depressed already

You wan to go but you want to keep the car...

Shows she's not ready yet...
Doesn't she have savings.. some people sef.. you're suffering and smiling, what do you expect from a man without wife's yet you stayed and gave birth twice...

What do you want us to do or tell you...
Your greed lead you to this.. do whatever suits you...

Go cus if that man dies.. you won't be left free.. they've told her already...

I know how this village uncle's behave ,not to mention wen the man is Rich...

You better safe your head m cus if that man dies.. hmmm

You know our country already...

MajesticKris:
You wan to go but you want to keep the car...

Shows she's not ready yet...
Doesn't she have savings.. some people sef.. you're suffering and smiling, what do you expect from a man without wife's yet you stayed and gave birth twice...

What do you want us to do or tell you...
Your greed lead you to this.. do whatever suits you...

Go cus if that man dies.. you won't be left free.. they've told her already...

I know how this village uncle's behave ,not to mention wen the man is Rich...

You better safe your head m cus if that man dies.. hmmm

You know our country already...

Tank u sooo much.. u nailed it all. Dats my plight my cousin dat can't hurt a fly... d brothers and children never liked her in d first place... she don't av anything on her

Your cousin is making this matter complicated cos she's not willing to leave him...but the best advice here is for her to leave..
Their marriage is on the wrong foundation and if the foundation is destroyed what can the righteous do?


Hmmm...what if that Man dies now even the benefits your are clinging onto you will not have... Your cousin didn't even reason why the other wives and children left...

I think she should use her savings to start up a business and leave that house immediately but if she doesn't have a saves she should sell some of her valuables to have cash in hand so as to stop depending on the man and leave

Peace of mind can't be compared to anything...if she really wants to have peace she should leave with her kids

Shinny1:
Your cousin is making this matter complicated cos she's not willing to leave him...but the best advice here is for her to leave..
Their marriage is on the wrong foundation and if the foundation is destroyed what can the righteous do?


Hmmm...what if that Man dies now even the benefits your are clinging onto you will not have... Your cousin didn't even reason why the other wives and children left...

I think she should use her savings to start up a business and leave that house immediately but if she doesn't have a saves she should sell some of her valuables to have cash in hand so as to stop depending on the man and leave

Peace of mind can't be compared to anything...if she really wants to have peace she should leave with her kids

Tanks..... she said she wanna av her 3rd child with him .. so wen she lives she wont bother abt getting married again but facing her children welfare and empowering herself. D man we talking about here is a commissioner for police.rtd but working as security officer for a big company in lagos

cuddling44:

Tanks..... she said she wanna av her 3rd child with him .. so wen she lives she wont bother abt getting married again but facing her children welfare and empowering herself. D man we talking about here is a commissioner for police.rtd but working as security officer for a big company in lagos

Hmmm....take care of your two children and be sure that they won't go hungry and that you can provide for them even without the man contributing cos you won't feel it... having only two children is not a bad idea but since this is her decision...

Shinny1:


Hmmm....take care of your two children and be sure that they won't go hungry and that you can provide for them even without the man contributing cos you won't feel it... having only two children is not a bad idea but since this is her decision...

Tank u sir.... we are on it. Family are already trying to get involved but she denied dem access to her