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Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by dasparrow: 5:34pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Joemetry: But how exactly do you want your friend to help you move? He is not your father, brother or son. He can't sponsor you under the immigration family act. And unless your friend is a citizen or permanent resident of the UK making considerable amount of money, he will not be able to sponsor you to come over on some student visa either because those are really your only two options except you find a British woman to marry. Getting papers in most countries of the world especially in this day and age is not easy. Many countries around the world are enacting tough immigration policies. Sometimes, it takes years just to regularise your stay. In other words, become eligible for permanent residency. You think it's easy? Besides, no foreign country owes you their visa, permanent residency or citizenship so stop acting so entitled. When a foreign country approves you for their papers, be grateful because it is a privilege, not a right. You only have right to one country and that is Nigeria. Any other country is not an extension of your fatherland or motherland. Let's keep that in mind as Nigerians. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by bull67: 5:46pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
even some rich nigerian that are better than those abroad , would look at you some how and say watin you bring come, how much do you have? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Zeecos(f): 5:50pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
doeeyed:You can't send what you don't have |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Ategberoson(m): 5:53pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Jaqenhghar: which English is hard? you called this imbalance grammar full of grammatical errors English? be in your abroad and let me be in my Nigeria, how is that hard to understand |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by dasparrow: 5:58pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
skimena: Why are you complaining? Whose fault is it that you lack the courage, the backbone, the wherewithall to say 'NO'? Whose fault is it that at your age, you have not learned how to set boundaries? Whose fault is it that at your age, you haven't learned that most human beings don't care about anyone else but themselves and only keep you in their lives for their own selfish benefits especially Nigerians? The day you understand the above about human beings, you will learn to put your own needs and well-being first and when you do, you will be better for it. Whatsapp allows you to block people. There are Android phones today that allows you to block numbers of people whose calls and text messages you no longer want to receive. I am currently using one of such devices. Why can't you block people who only see you as nothing more than a meal ticket or an ATM machine? But you and I both know the reason why. You have low self esteem and self worth. Your self worth is tied to people liking and accepting you. So you go out of your way to please people even if it is to your own detriment because you are desperate for acceptance and validation. You want people to look up to you so you are willing to do more than you can actually do financially speaking so your family and friends will like you and reign praises on you. My advice to you is: Seek Help! Understand that most people in today's world only care about themselves and will only use you for their own hustle and that includes family members as well. Once they can't get anything from you anymore, they will dump you. So be wise like a serpent! 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by emkz: 6:06pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Godtemi: You avoided answering the question, but that's okay. I am so, so sorry to hear about the demise of your elder sister. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Zeecos(f): 6:12pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
HeavenlyHolines:Enjoy oo. Don't come back oo |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by cray91(m): 6:14pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
haha! funny! Queenslander: 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by zomby(m): 6:51pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Queenslander: This ignorant state of mind is the reason why most smart folks living abroad have permanently blocked all Nigerian phone numbers on their contact list; you don't miss what you don't know. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by HeavenlyHolines(m): 7:08pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Hahaha. Nigeria better for pass here na because we no sabi use wetin God give us Zeecos: |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by earnit3: 7:14pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Hmmm |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by candyguyofficia(m): 7:45pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Well said. The way they demand money is getting too much. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Mancala: 7:55pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
When and where did this rumor start that Nigerians in the diaspora are not doing okay and are stingy with their money? I can only speak from what I see and know, and this is it. The vast majority of Nigerians I know in the U.S. are professionals doing okay for themselves, and there are lots of them in the big cities. They own their homes, live well, build or buy houses in Nigeria and support their kin back home especially their parents. The trend now with people with aged parents in Nigeria is to hire full time 24/7 care for their parents and also provide an allowance. The average amount of allowance I am aware of is about 2 milllion Naira a year, spread out on a monthly basis. The majority of successful diasporans do not talk about their success and don't need to. 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by mbhs139(m): 8:16pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
emkz: I hope you aren't trying to paint a gloomy picture of living in the abroad? Well, in as much as I am not disputing all what you wrote up there, there are categories of people living in the abroad, Canada to be precise. There are two categories of Nigerians living in Canada- it's either you're a permanent resident (PR) or of a refugee status. It was very funny, and I was very surprised, when I met a Nigerian for the first time in Canada and he was asking me "where you pass enter...", and I am like, "Ha ha, where else I wan pass enter, no be airport" ? It was later I learnt that there are two routes to Canada as a Nigerian- through the airport as a PR, or through the border post, Ruxton Road, as a refugee and protected persons. These are the kind of people you have described up there. For the record, most Nigerian who came into Canada as a PR are professionals, as in professionals. They are engineers, accountants, IT professionals and what have you. It is the frustration in the Nigerian system that made some of us to leave. Some of us left because we want the best for our children. We left so that our children will not be carrying the green passport all around, thus denying them opportunities from anywhere around the world. Mind you, it is a big sacrifice we made for our children. In case you care to know, some of us leaves six digits salary work at Chevron, Total, NNPC, KPMG, etc to start all over again at the lowest rung of the ladder. In addition, that one drives uber or taxi in Canada does not mean one isn't doing well. I know Nigerians have a warped mind set about dignity of labor. There are people that drives Uber in Canada and they have their own mortgage apartment. You need to see the guy that clean the toilet at Mississauga Square One, you go wonder shay na person wey dey clean toilet be this?! But the nobody send you o, because no be you go pay their bill. The cleaner in my office drives a 2018 Honda CRV, the kind we call first grade tokunbo in Lagos. I don't think I have ever boarded an Uber car brand beyond 2018 since my stay here as a PR. As a matter of fact, I once boarded a 2020 Benz as Uber rider. In conclusion, what I am trying to say is there is an exception to the rule as you have posited, particularly in Canada, except for those of refugee or protected persons status. Finally, my advise is anyone travelling to the abroad should go with the right papers, pass airport enter and receive your "Welcome to Canada" or wherever it is greetings. Peace! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Yoighaman(m): 8:18pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
EgunMogaji2: Good Evening Sir, I have read your story and position about migrating and we share the same ideology but I am just a bit curious and have few questions for you: - Did you study abroad? - If 'Yes', to what level? - What kind of job(s) did you do whilst in the US? - Was(were) the job(s) favourable in terms of earnings? - Did you get married there? - If 'No', why not?...especially as it is a straight ticket to being a citizen. and finally... - Why did you decide to leave? I just want to draw from your wealth of experience. Thanks for your anticipated response. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Bossman(m): 8:30pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Very good questions. I guess it depends on who people move with. While there are Nigerians doing low-level jobs and getting by well. There are also tons of us that have worked in corporate America (IT for me) for donkey years! Right after college. There is hardly any of major company here in the USA tat does not have Nigerians there. I run into Nigerians daily when I was working in downtown Chicago. Pretty much majority of my own circle are all professionals, all working in Corporate America. So, I guess it depends on what people came to do here in the first case. If you've come here to go to college, you do your part, play your cards well, you will certainly be living the American dream. The opportunities are here, and one just has to go and grab it! It will not be handed to you. TheKingIsHere: |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by anyicash(m): 8:32pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Whenever I feel a little bit depressed, I will just come to nairaland and laugh it off.. Comments are bomb. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by lesson44: 8:32pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Queenslander:I like your sense of entitlement lol. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Godtemi: 8:32pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
mbhs139: God bless you for this � |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Zeecos(f): 8:41pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
HeavenlyHolines:That's just it. Most Nigerians that are complaining that life is hard abroad will rather be there than come back to Nigeria because at least the system works and everything is as it should be even if it is hard to amass riches |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Godtemi: 8:41pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
TheKingIsHere: I just ignored him My advice for any Nigerian that want to travel abroad are 1. Go through study visa 2. If not study visa, God via work visa 3. Or via Immigration visa As a student, study hard and be focus. I can bet you that no Nigeria university can be compare with any university in shengen country or Canada, UK and USA. DON'T ASK ME, Google it Finally, learn any lucrative Skill like data analyst or computer science related skill or medical professional (nursing).. live simple, spend little and save more for your future and pray for God's Mercy and bless. It will surely end with praise 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by EgunMogaji2: 8:49pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
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Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by principalgee: 9:01pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Let me reach there first. Abeg make people dey call me wella. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by emkz: 9:09pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
mbhs139: Far from it bros. I have never been to Canada, but I have friends who entered through the express entry route. A few were in the category of the professionals you mentioned and are doing very well: one of them is already talking of taking a mortgage. Another one, though doing very well, is already talking of bailing as soon as he gets what he wants (he is not wired for the environment). I am not trying to discourage anyone; in subsequent posts where some people were condescending, I explained that many rush without a concrete plan and these are the ones that I am most concerned for. Research the country you are going and try to get the legal status required. Canada has made this easy for professionals through the express entry. But seeing our people risking their lives through the desert, dying in their quest for a life of uncertainty, being ferried across the Mediterranean with the boat capsizing sometimes, getting arrested at the port of entry and hurled to immigration centers for deportation, being transported in refrigerated trucks or fighting for refugee status hurts me. I don't see the need for such a risk and would advise against it. If you have no plan, stay in your country. As to the dignity of labour you mentioned, far be it from me to undignify anyone's hustle. At some point, I considered being a security man myself and I am sure I'd have loved it if it paid my bills. I have also seen a garbage man driving a BMW 5 Series in one of the developed countries, so I know you are saying the truth. My emphasis is that our folks (including the professionals) abroad work hard for everything they have: those who work in management consulting/audit sometimes work up to 80-120 hours per week, the nurses put in long hours, the doctors see a lot of patients and may not necessarily have the time to enjoy their money, the engineers/miners sometimes go to remote locations far from home to work, those in the academia spend a lot of time writing research proposals to get grants in addition to teaching, supervising research, mentoring students and other administrative work that may affect family time. When I did my investigation, I found out that those guys calling people to cut their hair or braid can earn up to minimum wage. Those doing black work also earn a lot...until they are caught. My point is that it's not easy for professionals or non-professionals, and folks back home need to take it easy on these relatives abroad. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Jaqenhghar: 9:49pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Ategberoson: Alaye true true english dey hard you. You dey talk like say dem tie rope for your neck dey drag you come abroad We dey do comparison. Nobody say na heaven , nobody say carry load by force begin come abroad na you siddon for corner dey misyarn. [img]https://media1./images/e82947552317dd17ba19a986351eb1cb/tenor.gif?itemid=11959012[/img] |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by 41lady(m): 10:20pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
lefulefu: You are right, I have an uncle, when I was struggling during my undergraduate, visited Yola from Unimaid then instead of alots on transport to go to KD, thinking I have a relative nearby let me go and spend the short break with them, the man didn't see me as anything, only the wife that was happy to see me when I went, he was even telling why I didn't go to KD to spend the holiday with my parents, immediately I have to contact my coursemate who is staying in Yola, I went to stay with him in their house b4 I left for Cameroon. Imagine, now that I am in Asia doing my postgraduate study, I am not working but he think I do and have money now, he sent my brother to give me his contact number to call him. I told my brother to tell him, if he is on whatsapp I will call him but if not, can't call him. If he want us to greet let him call me. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by Nobody: 10:27pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
41lady:gbam! if he wants to talk he should be the one calling u afterall he didnt care for u when in need.all these ungreatful relations sef.abeg u should hold ur parents and immediate siblings close.wen someone has loving distant relations then lucky him or her but wen ur relations are the greedy unloving types then its wise to give them a large space.ur priority should be ur parents and ur immediate siblings. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by mbhs139(m): 11:42pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
emkz: Well said. God bless you. |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by abbiboy: 11:49pm On Aug 22, 2020 |
Queenslander: Sense far frm u |
Re: Nigerian Mentality About Those Living Abroad by lordally(m): 12:08am On Aug 23, 2020 |
ZINIBANKS: Abeg send me the link to the NEWZEALAND story of the person in NEWZEALAND abeg |
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