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A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 2:51pm On Aug 24, 2020
There is this guy I just recently started talking to. He's very good looking and intelligent and dresses well. He is my type and we have so many interests in common. I'm already falling in love with him but I haven't told him. I'm still trying to take it slow. I have not had sex with him yet but I want to. He told me he is in love with me and I was so excited to hear it but I hid my excitement because I'm still confused about his intentions.

The problem is that whenever I try to become vulnerable with him like texting him early in the morning to ask how his night was, he will ignore my texts for days and then call me out of the blue as if nothing happened. But other times he will call me multiple times and talk on the phone like we were dating.

Yesterday after ignoring my texts for over 24hrs he called me and said I should come over to his place. I've never been to his place before. I was already on my way when he called me to tell me that a lady visited him and she is spending the night at his place. He apologized and told me not to be offended. I acted all cool and told him some other time. He hasn't texted or called me since. I'm confused. I know we aren't dating but why would he even tell me this?

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by fayded(m): 2:57pm On Aug 24, 2020
Ma nigga,d guy's doing well.
To be frank, ds was how I got my current gf. We were friends and I told her Dt I liked her, buhshe was dulling. So, me was catching fun sha.
Until she now approached me and said she also felt d same way, and we started dating and I ended all those other flings.
So, my dear, tell him how u feel. I'm sure he likes u. Buh seems like he's cute and has game. So,girls no Dey lack for Am.
Make a move, dear

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by jnrcess(m): 3:00pm On Aug 24, 2020
You're already falling in love with him? It's obvious that you don't know what love is or you might just be too blind to see you are walking into a trap. Well good luck.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Ugaboy: 3:01pm On Aug 24, 2020
My guy go just browse your puna with airtel 4G network N leave to connect with his taste.
you are obsessed, with your story, there is nothing special about the guy, he just believe he can have u anytime

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by blackpanthar: 3:02pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas23:
There is this guy I just recently started talking to. He's very good looking and intelligent and dresses well. He is my type and we have so many interests in common. I'm already falling in love with him but I haven't told him. I'm still trying to take it slow. I have not had sex with him yet but I want to. He told me he is in love with me and I was so excited to hear it but I hid my excitement because I'm still confused about his intentions.

The problem is that whenever I try to become vulnerable with him like texting him early in the morning to ask how his night was, he will ignore my texts for days and then call me out of the blue as if nothing happened. But other times he will call me multiple times and talk on the phone like we were dating.

Yesterday after ignoring my texts for over 24hrs he called me and said I should come over to his place. I've never been to his place before. I was already on my way when he called me to tell me that a lady visited him and she is spending the night at his place. He apologized and told me not to be offended. I acted all cool and told him some other time. He hasn't texted or called me since. I'm confused. I know we aren't dating but why would he even tell me this?
missimelda01 pls help...

Dear sister, UNTIL YOU DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP.... do no go to his place alone... else you will enter an ENTANGLEMENT.

You have made yourself cheap by being available for him and falling for the things he does.... BUILD YOUR WALLS WELL O... because definitely he will sleep with the girl who visited him... and you will go another day and enter SET.


A GUY CAN SLEEP WITH YOU WITHOUT PLANNING TO DATE OR MARRY YOU.

You will just be Hot-FRIENDS-WITH-BENEFITS....

If the girls he has slept with are not CLEAN health-wise OR spiritually... then you will also be INFECTED.


Sister, if you really want a relationship that will lead to marriage... then have enough DIGNITY to wait for him to propose and inform your parents and friends and start planning your life together without SEX.

Else, you will fall for the NEXT guy after him and soon you will hate yourself and hate men.


IT IS EASIER TO SAY NO WHEN IT HAS NOT STARTED.... be wise, be warned.
bye

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by thorpido(m): 3:03pm On Aug 24, 2020
You want to get played?

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 3:13pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas23:
There is this guy I just recently started talking to. He's very good looking and intelligent and dresses well. He is my type and we have so many interests in common. I'm already falling in love with him but I haven't told him. I'm still trying to take it slow. I have not had sex with him yet but I want to. He told me he is in love with me and I was so excited to hear it but I hid my excitement because I'm still confused about his intentions.

The problem is that whenever I try to become vulnerable with him like texting him early in the morning to ask how his night was, he will ignore my texts for days and then call me out of the blue as if nothing happened. But other times he will call me multiple times and talk on the phone like we were dating.

Yesterday after ignoring my texts for over 24hrs he called me and said I should come over to his place. I've never been to his place before. I was already on my way when he called me to tell me that a lady visited him and she is spending the night at his place. He apologized and told me not to be offended. I acted all cool and told him some other time. He hasn't texted or called me since. I'm confused. I know we aren't dating but why would he even tell me this?
ignore him and pretend he doesn't exist,dont fall for such simple trick to get you jealous,hes a player.Never show a guy you like him no matter how deep you have fallen,he will never respect you if you do that,he may accept you if you make any move but will never value you,you will become his sex thing,they value ladies they suffered to have,thats how they are weird,dont follow any advise coming from a guy here,they just want you to fall cheap for their fellow.I repeat,never ever make or show him signs that you have fallen in love with him,if he comes fine, but if he doesn't,my dear bury that feelings quickly and get busy.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by dukeprince50: 3:15pm On Aug 24, 2020
u should wait na, den go 2moro wen d main chick would have left so u can finally hold him in ur hands, rubbish.
u need to be sacrificed for this foolishness u call love

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Friendlyjoe: 3:18pm On Aug 24, 2020
Op, you are a Simp

Redpill girls would not even ask this kind of questions

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by dukeprince50: 3:19pm On Aug 24, 2020
Zzor:
ignore him and pretend he doesn't exist,dont fall for such simple trick to get you jealous,hes a player.Never show a guy you like him no matter how deep you have fallen,he will never respect you if you do that,he may accept you if you make any move but will never value you,you will become his sex thing,they value ladies they suffered to have,thats how they are weird,dont follow any advise coming from a guy here,they just want you to fall cheap for their fellow.I repeat,never ever make or show him signs that you have fallen in love with him,if he comes fine, but if he doesn't,my dear bury that feelings quickly and get busy.
take this advice, though some guys will also do some hard to get shit just to make u get all crazy over him but most of us are just players and would want to browse ur network. To avoid a broken heart, just forget the guy and do not fall for his drama.
Calling u and telling u to back off is a lot of disrespect, u will get over that butterfly feeling u have for him. There are many genuine guys out there who would respect u

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 3:38pm On Aug 24, 2020
It seems the OP not too fine, or she lacks the physical features men are after.

Such audacity to tell you to hold your visit because of another lady. grin

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by SageMK: 3:45pm On Aug 24, 2020
Don't fall for this ancient gimmick that's meant to stir up feelings of jealousy and lust in you. He wants to have a seat in your head and so far it's clearly working. Control your emotions and just forget about him or you'll wallow in pain. undecided

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by MJBOLT: 3:45pm On Aug 24, 2020
Friendlyjoe:
Op, you are a Simp
Redpills girls would not even ask this kind of questions

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 3:49pm On Aug 24, 2020
from ur writeup i can deduce u probably a teenager cheesy
my dear u just infatuated with a guy who is cute and a playa cheesy
its not love u feeling but infatuation cheesy
wen u grow older u will understand what i am saying

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 4:00pm On Aug 24, 2020
Don't be cheap slut to a man but at the same time, don't make it difficult for the man who truly loves you. I say this because no matter the love or likeness I have for a lady, I won't hesitate to throw it in a thrash the moment she makes it difficult for me.

Try to balance things but as for the dude in question, he is a wannabe player so don't settle for such a fellow at least for now. Let him grow up first and if he still loves you, you may consider him then.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 4:20pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas23, Be Plain 2 Us. What Do U Want 4rm Him? Sex Or Love?

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by De0ne11(m): 4:25pm On Aug 24, 2020
lol.. the guy na player.. sharp guy

That's what they do. They will give you a sign that make you think they like you then start ignoring your messages so that you can fall crazily for them. Ladies fall more for those who starve them with attention and act like they don't care than guys that give them all their attention. Please do not fall for this.

Once you visit him, the next thing you notice is that you will have sex with him. He will make a move for you to sleep with him. This is what we calle dicked and dumped.

If at all you want to know whether he likes you or not, please define the relationship. Ask him what his intentions are. Use your brain.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by visiondee(m): 4:31pm On Aug 24, 2020
@OP, I call this Love and Hate game, it's so interesting if a guy can play it right, it gives 99% expected result.

There's nothing wrong showing interest, love and affection to a guy, but always show you are a lady that any man will be happy to end up with, sometimes, ladies enjoy players after being married and please don't pretend to please him, be your real self.

Yes it's a game, but if you show you have what other ladies don't, I mean wife material, you will enjoy him more.

Talking from experience, I seldom woo or ask a lady out its so rare. I do have lots of admirers and entanglements (lols), my wife is so beautiful but I did crazy shits with her before being married, I played some games, mostly acting like a jerk, a guy who doesn't give a damn, not ready for marriage or anything leading to it, telling about other admirers and some escapades, I showed every sign of not being serious but at the end, we got married.

Now I respect and adore my wife so much and can beat my chest I have never and won't ever cheat on her. I don't even have female friends again. Also there's something that I keep doing in my marriage, I don't keep secret from my wife, if you think you can be my admirer or showing interest in me, forget it, once I get home I will tell my wife. I'm so much different to whom I was before marriage.

I'm not telling you to act as my wife did because it might not work for you but try to know him better and don't just be a lady to pass nice times.

We men know who can be a WIFE and who can be just GIRLFRIEND with no single future. Once a guy is in love, he's forever in love. If he wants to stop those games, you will be surprised even might always be suspicious of him maybe he's pretending when the time comes.

#Experience

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by addictiv(m): 4:35pm On Aug 24, 2020
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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Openbusiness: 4:39pm On Aug 24, 2020
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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Openbusiness: 4:42pm On Aug 24, 2020
OP I like d guy strategy. He don dey turn your mind like fufu inside pot, na u go surrender d cookie jar yourself, after he will scatter your brain when he pound you rough like pounded yam and u become a dickmatized side chick. Continue u hear grin wawu

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Openbusiness: 4:45pm On Aug 24, 2020
addictiv:
The guy is playing you...
Oga she's the one playing the guy and he served her a dose of her own medicine. Now she dey complain. Rubbish! The guy get sense. No time for nonsense. Any girl that wanna play games with you, you waste her time. You gotta fool the fool that thinks she's fooling you #wastehertime

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Melian(f): 4:48pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas23

You're cheap girl. And you'll be played cheaply for that simple relevant fact.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by paulolee(m): 4:55pm On Aug 24, 2020
guy man gat stay sharp n naija girls go always fall, u attracted to him bcoz of him looks and appearance without talking the main reason which is that he is rich..
dnt worri, jus go ahead and give him a trial, experience still remains the best teacher, my papa say "its better to leave a small kid to put hand inside fire than to tell him not to because the fire would tell the kid in the best way and besides if you kip stopping d kid, he would still be ignoran of why d dad is avoiding him in touching the magical piece of nature...
so go ahead with ur said gee, when next him call u, jus blow bike go and off ur phone till u get there so anoda bea no go stop ur shine and before i forget pls dnt put on panties and go with a skirt or a short gown....real gees dnt like being streesed...

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by RenaissanceGuy: 5:07pm On Aug 24, 2020
Say no to fornication. And have it at the back of your mind that that guy is a pro in psychological manipulations. Don't fall for it.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by pretydiva(f): 5:15pm On Aug 24, 2020
God created us with brain. Op use your own

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by shawnfamous(m): 5:27pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas u too like preek.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 5:35pm On Aug 24, 2020
I've read every comment so far.

First of all I'm not cheap. All this while he has been the one telling me he loves me. I've never said I love you too in response. I've not even made any straight declaration of love. Like I said I've taken things slow. I've never even put myself in a position where he would have the opportunity to touch me.

He is my friend and he invited me to his place. Declining would have been impolite so I agreed. He said he wasn't expecting the female friend to visit and that he stylishly tried to discharge her but she didn't want to leave and he apologized to me.

Some people are saying I should use my brain. How am I not using my brain? I haven't made any decision I regret yet.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 5:59pm On Aug 24, 2020
Dorcas23:
There is this guy I just recently started talking to. He's very good looking and intelligent and dresses well. He is my type and we have so many interests in common. I'm already falling in love with him but I haven't told him. I'm still trying to take it slow. I have not had sex with him yet but I want to. He told me he is in love with me and I was so excited to hear it but I hid my excitement because I'm still confused about his intentions.

The problem is that whenever I try to become vulnerable with him like texting him early in the morning to ask how his night was, he will ignore my texts for days and then call me out of the blue as if nothing happened. But other times he will call me multiple times and talk on the phone like we were dating.

Yesterday after ignoring my texts for over 24hrs he called me and said I should come over to his place. I've never been to his place before. I was already on my way when he called me to tell me that a lady visited him and she is spending the night at his place. He apologized and told me not to be offended. I acted all cool and told him some other time. He hasn't texted or called me since. I'm confused. I know we aren't dating but why would he even tell me this?


Dear, all I can say is that you are seeing the signs but you are turning blind eye to it because of love.

I am a guy, and I will tell you point black, that the nigga you are dying for only wants to have a taste of your cookies and he does not love you.

And if he finally succeed in hitting your cookies, trust me you will see his real behaviour.

Please don't let love cloud your thinking, you are an adult. Thank you

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by De0ne11(m): 6:08pm On Aug 24, 2020
You said he is your friend and you also claim you started talking to each other recently. Please be careful with what you are about to do so as to avoid story that touch. We guys are telling you how games are being played here. The girl that went to his place, what is her purpose? For her to spend the night there, they will definitely sleep with each other.



Dorcas23:
I've read every comment so far.

First of all I'm not cheap. All this while he has been the one telling me he loves me. I've never said I love you too in response. I've not even made any straight declaration of love. Like I said I've taken things slow. I've never even put myself in a position where he would have the opportunity to touch me.

He is my friend and he invited me to his place. Declining would have been impolite so I agreed. He said he wasn't expecting the female friend to visit and that he stylishly tried to discharge her but she didn't want to leave and he apologized to me.

Some people are saying I should use my brain. How am I not using my brain? I haven't made any decision I regret yet.

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by ednut1(m): 6:37pm On Aug 24, 2020
What manner of fuckery did i just read grin

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Re: A Girl Spent The Night At His Place And I'm Feeling So Bad About It. by Nobody: 7:00pm On Aug 24, 2020
He's obviously a player but the painful thing no matter the advice you get from here you will still press on.

Like the saying goes "they always love the bad boys"

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