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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Powerfly(f): 12:34am On Aug 28, 2020
Your parents want to add to Nigeria's problem. We gat too much kids and an overwhelming unproductive and broke population. Why are they trying to compound our problems.. Eh why?

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by vickydevoka(m): 12:37am On Aug 28, 2020
Me way de 31. Anytime I talk about marriage my parents go de vex

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Joshmanuel10(m): 12:40am On Aug 28, 2020
Of all problem to deal with parent matter Na tough stuff oooo....
If u plan to go all out against them u have to leave cos if u stay they might but u through hell.... Not until u see finish.... U should be wise someone somewhere is feeding them stupid ideas.....
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Sandrapery: 12:48am On Aug 28, 2020

Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Slimsly100(f): 12:54am On Aug 28, 2020
Are you their only son
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Thereishel: 1:04am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..

Liar you are in school, unemployed and 21. Lies lies and lies.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Oyolohi24: 1:06am On Aug 28, 2020
cooooooks:
How can they be forcing you to get married when you're not in a relationship?

Who are they forcing you to marry?

Are you their only male child? If yes, I see reason with them for the fear of uncertainty. This last few is some how some how bros. But if no, to me, you are not emotionally, financially and even sexually mature going by age to withstand nowadays ladies brohaha except if they can buy you shock absorbers
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by linearity: 1:08am On Aug 28, 2020
cooooooks:
How can they be forcing you to get married when you're not in a relationship?

Who are they forcing you to marry?


Bros don’t under rate parents when it come to that and the OP should never bring that before them as an excuse.

They will just tell him not to worry and arrange one willing bride for him over night, that is if they don’t already have one waiting.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Oyolohi24: 1:09am On Aug 28, 2020
Oyolohi24:
Are you their only male child? If yes, I see reason with them for the fear of uncertainty. This life is some how some how bros. But if no, to me, you are not emotionally, financially and even sexually mature going by age to withstand nowadays ladies brohaha except if they can buy you shock absorbers
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Nobody: 1:36am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
Your Parents are funny!!

Are you the only son??

Do they want to have grandchildren early??

Just stand on your ground. Don't be bullied or guilt tripped to marry when yo are not ready!!

It is a bad idea undecided
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by joyandfaith: 1:52am On Aug 28, 2020
inumidun2010:
Better go and ask them why.. Maybe they have been told by all these CONFUSED SPIRITUALISTS that you won't live long...
you get it.

@Alimzy20
please ask them why?
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by wellingtongrey(m): 1:54am On Aug 28, 2020
UDUJ:


I think the op is telling lies. I doubt parents can be that irresponsible. I just cannot comprehend it.

It may not be a lie. I would want my son to get married at the Op's age (21) cos I married late and would love to see grandchild earlier.

I reside in Magodo Phase 2 , you need to see young guyz and ladies getting married and leading a good life. An exemplification of well-cultured behaviours and readiness from the couple.

So, even if you get married at 39( like me), you may still elicit that immature behavioural tendencies. Age has nothing to do with it ,in its entirety. Individual differences though.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Emyogalanya: 1:56am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
my sister is married with 4kids �
I wanted to ask if you are an only child , but let me rephrase it : are you an only son ?
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by bigtt76(f): 2:05am On Aug 28, 2020
Simple ....get married and keep the geh for den house go do your paros ....thank me later kiss


Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by henrychikezie(m): 2:14am On Aug 28, 2020
Just ask God for direction
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Jhydeezle: 2:22am On Aug 28, 2020
Are they dying and in need of grand babies already??
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Pat081: 2:23am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
U are nt into any relationship ??that is ur parants fear oo they are thinking maybe d thing is nt working like a man own
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
U are nt into any relationship ??that is ur parants fear oo they are thinking maybe d thing is nt working like a man own
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
U are nt into any relationship ??that is ur parants fear oo they are thinking maybe d thing is nt working like a man own
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by friday2011(m): 3:00am On Aug 28, 2020
Talk tru, u don too dey chop dere food grin

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Goodman247: 3:23am On Aug 28, 2020
How can your parents be forcing you to get married when you don't have any source of income, how are you going to care for your child, is this story really true
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by uuzba(m): 3:30am On Aug 28, 2020
cooooooks:
How can they be forcing you to get married when you're not in a relationship?

Who are they forcing you to marry?

OP is most likely still living in their house and not paying rent.
Parent's money is finished and they're basically telling OP, "Get out of our house, earn money, marry, born kids and be responsible to us"
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Is it because they're still alive? If they die now what will OP do? He will go and find money to bury them by force. And he will have to find money to eat.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by uuzba(m): 3:33am On Aug 28, 2020
friday2011:
Talk tru, u don too dey chop dere food grin
Exactly.
He's not paying rent. The school he's bragging with, he's not even paying the fees as he said he has no job. He thinks his parents should pay everything for him.
That's why they threw marriage on this head, so his eyes will open..
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by paulgabrielz: 3:50am On Aug 28, 2020
I am just feeling sucidial cry
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Ybaby: 4:16am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
i'm not the only child but i'm the first son of my parents

How are they forcing you ? They cannot handcuff you to the registry na or force your peepee into a woman weewee.

No one can use your mind so no one can force you. Be posting/ gaming them. DONOT ATTEMPT TO IMPREGNATE anyone without finances sorted. Too many kids suffering - lets put a stop to it!

As for your parents, play them with love but donot listen to thier advise thought it is out of their love for you but still a "foolish" advise nonetheless.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by Ybaby: 4:17am On Aug 28, 2020
paulgabrielz:
I am just feeling sucidial cry

Hugs!!!

The tide will change again. Hang in there!
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by mercyland93(m): 4:17am On Aug 28, 2020
Seems ur parents gave birth to you alone. If yes, please ask them if they would assist you financially. . So with that, u are good to go..
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by BayoMiller: 4:26am On Aug 28, 2020
This one weak me ���
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by losvemous: 4:26am On Aug 28, 2020
I experienced something like that at about your age. I was 20 then, and my dad wants me to engage a particular girl, promising he would take care of her while I go to school.

Knowing my dad to be a very stubborn person and been the only one I had to sponsor my education, I arranged a meeting with the girl through a religious leader; did all the formalities, so my dad would think that I'm serious, then I went to school. So everytime my dad called me to discuss marriage, I would tell him I have a very serious exam at hand and that I would come home after the exam so we could forward preparation for the wedding... Buy guy, I went home only twice throughout my five years university programme and each time, I made sure it was safe to travel.

But my dad didn't give up. Even though I explained to him that the lady already had someone else, he encouraged me to get closer and make things work. My dad pressured me till the lady got married last year.

So bro, man up! Your life is yours to live. You are obviously not ready for marriage. Go get education, get a job, set your own space and find someone who suit you.

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Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by toprealman: 5:01am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders i need your strong advices.my parents are forcing me to get married !! I'm just 21.I've tried all possible ways to change their mind. it ended in vain.

I'm not in relationship either. What should i do now? I'm still schooling and unemployed too..
The earlier you, the better.
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by toprealman: 5:05am On Aug 28, 2020
paulgabrielz:
I am just feeling sucidial cry
Kilode, want to talk to someone?
Re: My Parents Are Forcing Me To Get Married While I'm Not Ready & Financially Fit by MemoriesAndMe: 5:12am On Aug 28, 2020
Alimzy20:
i'm not the only child but i'm the first son of my parents
May be your parents want you to inherit a throne and a requirement is having a wife and kids. Is your dad a king? If not, no mind them jare, na old age dey bother them. They probably had you when they were old and want to see grandchildren from their son before anything happens to them.

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