EmptyGarden:
You again?

muchtalk:
Oga go for the kill

Gang90:

So maybe I should offer to buy her something like chocolate bar and then pick up a discussion on her favourite BB naija housemate, I don't watch it but it could be a discussion she would have the upper hand then I will listen and luagh accordingly as she expresses her preferences

GraGra247:
Village people are pushing this one.

That relationship won't work. Leave her alone. You're in your brother's and still being fed and you think dating an older heartbroken lady is a good idea.

You're even creating a fictitious imaginary affection with her in your mind just because she laughs wit you.

Hustle and hammer then you're ready for a REAL relationship.

Gang90:
So I spend a lot of time in my married brothers house, my brother's wife is a nurse and has this cute friend back in the nursing school days that frequently come around.

This her friend is around 29 years while myself I'm 25, many times I got into talks with her, she is a very nice, intelligent but naive and vulnerable lady, with a very kind heart, and she was once able to open up to me about a very remarkable heartbreak she once had and it seems ever since, she had been single, her friend my brother's wife now has three kids and I guess it a whole concern for her.

At one time we were really getting so close, I began to like her genuinely, I don't think I did anything really wrong but I guess my brother's wife must have told her she better not waste her time with me.

Okay the truth is, I understand she needs to get married as soon as possible and I need to get married as later as possible but I'm truly falling for her. She had become a bit withdrawn from me ever since but just today, she was the last person I was hoping to see and when the doorbell rang and I went to get the door, she was the one.

She just said "Oga how far", I was like fine, apparently I had learnt to respect myself and not make it like I'm desperate for her but what do you think, Do you think it being disrespectful to my sister inlaw if I liked her friend do you think I should just look away and walk away, do you think I should go ahead and make her realise that no matter how short, how much we don't see the future, present happiness is worth a try.

She seem broken and lonely inside, there's always this life she Express whenever we are together, She's free and luaghs her lungs out when we are together, there's the charms and the connections but maybe the thing wrong is because it is me and also age is a concern, maybe while it may seem impossible for me to put a ring in that finger it is very much real how I put a smile in her face.

She is in the house now, she is sitting in the living room, I'm playing music and surfing nairaland right here in my room, my brothers wife is cooking in the kitchen, she really needs a company but it shouldn't be me because maybe I'm the wrong guy, I should be playing music in the room instead or should I go out to this pretty lady I feel for, I'm not playing her, it risky to play her when my brother's wife is involved.

What do you think, send me her number let me help you to talk to her, lol

Gang90:

I'm not in my brothers house in the contest you painted, lol like I'm a 25 years old able bodied man, like being fed in the context you painted is hell wrong, I'm an independent, hardworking young man from a comfortable family, my staying in my brothers house is temporal, I take your advice serious but you should understand the situation, liking her is not stopping me from chasing my dreams, meanwhile I'm doing well for the time, my stay in my brothers house is almost mutually beneficial as I attend to some things like tech related aspect of his business and sometimes I come over to stay with the kids if they are going out, I got another family house in this city.

GraGra247:


For your own good and for her own good leave her alone.

But I know you won't listen cos you've built an imaginary love castle with her in your mind.

When things go south, remember you were warned... and that you caused it.

1beat:
you think you can solve her problem but you can't solve her problem. let her be

GraGra247:
Village people are pushing this one.

That relationship won't work. Leave her alone. You're in your brother's and still being fed and you think dating an older heartbroken lady is a good idea.

You're even creating a fictitious imaginary affection with her in your mind just because she laughs wit you.

Hustle and hammer then you're ready for a REAL relationship.

JOACHINpedro:
Wetin come later happen?

Gang90:

I listened to the advise I got here, I didn't go again, I used the money I wanted to use to buy her chocolate to buy corn and ate in my room

laosy:
Oga, I don't think it's genuine love you have for her, I think it's just a pity kinda love and you won't like to build your relationship around that type cuz she might guilt trip you with emotions. Nevertheless, you should just observe her well and try your luck but don't let her chain you with emotions.

Gang90:
So I spend a lot of time in my married brothers house, my brother's wife is a nurse and has this cute friend back in the nursing school days that frequently come around.

This her friend is around 29 years while myself I'm 25, many times I got into talks with her, she is a very nice, intelligent but naive and vulnerable lady, with a very kind heart, and she was once able to open up to me about a very remarkable heartbreak she once had and it seems ever since, she had been single, her friend my brother's wife now has three kids and I guess it a whole concern for her.

At one time we were really getting so close, I began to like her genuinely, I don't think I did anything really wrong but I guess my brother's wife must have told her she better not waste her time with me.

Okay the truth is, I understand she needs to get married as soon as possible and I need to get married as later as possible
but I'm truly falling for her. She had become a bit withdrawn from me ever since but just today, she was the last person I was hoping to see and when the doorbell rang and I went to get the door, she was the one.

She just said "Oga how far", I was like fine, apparently I had learnt to respect myself and not make it like I'm desperate for her but what do you think, Do you think it being disrespectful to my sister inlaw if I liked her friend do you think I should just look away and walk away, do you think I should go ahead and make her realise that no matter how short, how much we don't see the future, present happiness is worth a try.

She seem broken and lonely inside, there's always this life she Express whenever we are together, She's free and luaghs her lungs out when we are together, there's the charms and the connections but maybe the thing wrong is because it is me and also age is a concern, maybe while it may seem impossible for me to put a ring in that finger it is very much real how I put a smile in her face.

She is in the house now, she is sitting in the living room, I'm playing music and surfing nairaland right here in my room, my brothers wife is cooking in the kitchen, she really needs a company but it shouldn't be me because maybe I'm the wrong guy, I should be playing music in the room instead or should I go out to this pretty lady I feel for, I'm not playing her, it risky to play her when my brother's wife is involved.

What do you think

Gang90:

I'm not in my brothers house in the contest you painted, lol like I'm a 25 years old able bodied man, like being fed in the context you painted is hell wrong, I'm an independent, hardworking young man from a comfortable family, my staying in my brothers house is temporal, I take your advice serious but you should understand the situation, liking her is not stopping me from chasing my dreams, meanwhile I'm doing well for the time, my stay in my brothers house is almost mutually beneficial as I attend to some things like tech related aspect of his business and sometimes I come over to stay with the kids if they are going out, I got another family house in this city. Also I really wish to use this opportunity to point out the tone in your write up especially the part that says "hustle and hammer" my dear that slogan is very common among our young desperate fellows, please let's not attach every aspect of life to hustling and hammering, i own a small business myself but this desperation to blow shouldn't be the motivation. First of all we need to think about creating a solution to existing problem, no one becomes a billionaire by conventional hustling rather one become wealthy by preferring solutions to a widely acknowledged problem and if you think by making this lady luagh i can't hit big, wait until i make one million ladies laugh

AmazingELixir:



Op you're as confused as your random thoughts...don't gaan find your mate be fooling around.

When you know you can't offer what she wants why not back out...you don't even have your own house... squatting with your elder brother and eying your brother's wife friend.

Children of this days...that is how you guys misconstrue niceties and friendly gestures for affection, continue your brother and the wife will soon throw you out of that house.

Cowbell521:
Whoever is taking you serious no get work. Your eye go soon clear

Gang90:

I don see things for life I swear, my eyes don clear but all the things I seen made me realise that no matter what you do in life you must have something to regret, tomorrow you may regret why you didn't use the money you spent in school to start a business, another guy may regret why he did not use the money he used to start a business to pursue a degree, life is designed for regrets, if at this age and you haven't done something you regret search well or get prepared the regret could be on the way, so I should be taken serious because I understand the worse case scenario

Gang90:

I'm not in my brothers house in the contest you painted, lol like I'm a 25 years old able bodied man, like being fed in the context you painted is hell wrong, I'm an independent, hardworking young man from a comfortable family, my staying in my brothers house is temporal, I take your advice serious but you should understand the situation, liking her is not stopping me from chasing my dreams, meanwhile I'm doing well for the time, my stay in my brothers house is almost mutually beneficial as I attend to some things like tech related aspect of his business and sometimes I come over to stay with the kids if they are going out, I got another family house in this city. Also I really wish to use this opportunity to point out the tone in your write up especially the part that says "hustle and hammer" my dear that slogan is very common among our young desperate fellows, please let's not attach every aspect of life to hustling and hammering, i own a small business myself but this desperation to blow shouldn't be the motivation. First of all we need to think about creating a solution to existing problem, no one becomes a billionaire by conventional hustling rather one become wealthy by preferring solutions to a widely acknowledged problem and if you think by making this lady luagh i can't hit big, wait until i make one million ladies laugh

Gang90:


I'm not trying to solve her problem oo, I only spoke that way in response to the guy that said just because I make her luagh and stuff like that and that I should go and hustle and hammer...On my own I don't think the girl have a problem, it just that we get along fine and I have told her earlier that I liked her, we were getting along, we fixed a date, but all of a sudden she changed, and my sister inlaw later told me that her friend is no longer at the stage of relationship that leads no where but marriage. I'm not ready for marriage now but I like her and she likes me too, it was when my sister inlaw realised that her friend is losing it that she must have intervened, once she told me "it is not that you are that fine oo" in my sister in law's presence so my sister inlaw jokingly said hmmm so it had gotten to this extent and that was the beginning of the end...

Scavy:






your eye go soon turn you

1beat:





she as problem don't package her

29 years old lady intend to dating 25years old guy who lives in his brother house and largely depend on his brother for survival, this same lady happen to be the guy brother's wife close friend. we all the lady decide to settle for less because age is not in her side. is not her pray to marry 25 years old guy but she as know choice.

both of you have problem sef

Gang90:

Guy it interesting thing happening around me oo, it is not my fault, I'm serious, this one is urgent baba, I need gingering

PattyMike:


U had better let the sleeping dog lie. Don't start what you cannot finish. You will only hurt her in the process and make her even more withdrawn after it ends. And it will surely end in tears, hers not yours. BTW why do u spend so much time in ur "married' brother's house, you will lose your respect when u always around, slowly but definitely. Normally if no be say ur sister In-law know ur parole she no for tell her friend to ignore u. Just one of those things. You may have good intentions but you're simply not just ready for what she wants.