Where do you guys with good heart always jam these types of ladies that can't even manage resources #700 can still buy half kilo of chicken or fish or at worst smoked fish to make a delicious pot of soup.

When y'all be prioritizing wrongly the attributes to look out for in a lady.

UjuJoan2:


It's impressive to see a guy who still wants to take responsibility of his child, even though he's not married to the mother. It gives me hope that not all men are scum.

Now to the issue at hand. I always emphasize on the importance of money in a relationship. No woman wants to suffer or cook with 700 naira. It's not a happy place to be. But then your baby's mother is a greedy, wicked and irresponsible woman. She should happily cook with 700niara since she's not even your wife. She got pregnant for you and your responsibility is to your child, not to her too.

My advice, kick her out. Make sure you cater for your child and remain in her life. Buy the things she needs (the ones you can afford) monthly, and send to them. If she doesn't like it that way let her leave the child with you and go.

DO NOT MARRY THAT WOMAN! She will kill you before your time.

You sound so bitter.

UyaiIncomparabl:


A truckload of horse dung.

You sound so bitter.

respect people's opinion

The woman's already taking responsibility for her actions because there is no where he said she isn't taking care of their child.

Do you know the condition of the house her mother's living?! You keep talking about responsibility then why do you expect her mother to be responsible for the shelter of his child because there's no way he would send the mother away and take care of the child.

You're saying they're families that make food with 700# in this present day Nigeria?! You need to understand that state of mind is everything, I know men that when they're broke they take out their anger on their partners and only act sweet when there's money, has it occurred to you that OP maybe like that?


They're many children born to wedded parents that end up worst.


Nobody is saying women shouldn't be responsible but you're being so judgemental.

UjuJoan2:


It's just about being wise, it's about being responsible. And no, I don't think raising a child outside wedluck is responsible in any way.

I think the woman need to take responsibility for her actions, simple.

So you think having a child for someone is a ticket our of poverty? Why do women have this mindset? If she cannot even cater for herself, why bring a child into the world? And for a man who she knows is also struggling?

She does have a mother, so it's not like she has nowhere to go.

Then protect your daughter. Don't listen to comments asking you to kick her mother out because you never know the condition she's going to face.

Ask your baby Mama to get a job and support you if she doesn't have any and tell her what you've written here.

No relationship is perfect I am sure you've your own flaws.

dangerousdaddy:
.... What happened to it sir. I'm a regular user of naira land even though i only registered 2 days ago. My nick was inspired by the love i have for my little girl.... I would go any length to protect her from the ills of this present day society. Just like a lion is dangerous when protecting his cubs, that's how i am when protecting my daughter

Forget this marriage. It won't work. There's a reason the elders say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

The worst woman is not the woman that cheats on you. The moment a woman doesn't care if her husband ate or not, the relationship is over.

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words. I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities. I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK. The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered. Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me. The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil so basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food. I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife...... Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains. I hope this makes front page

Don't marry out of pity

Don't marry her cos she's the mother of your child. When she put to bed, just untie her and let her go

Now you want to put an end to it. You didn't know to put a stop when engaging in premarital sex??

Not trying to be judgmental here but I'm going to be very blunt.

When we advise people to take time and court, avoid premarital sex before living together as man and wife to avoid things like this that will force you against your wish to be with the wrong person, they'll bark at us. But when the consequences begin to arise, they run to people who they never sought advice from before now.

The deed is done. You and I know it will not be easy to opt out now as that will cause another round of problems that you might not be able to get out of till old age. So, just go and perform the marriage rites on her and learn to tolerate her excesses. There are no perfect marriages out there. Dont let anyone deceive. But if you feel you can easily get her off your neck, gently let her know of your in tensions and make arrangements on how you're going to be sending child care allowance to her for your childs upkeep.

These are things that could have been avoided with simple chastity.

tell ur girlfriend to learn a trade . fashion designing...catering...or any of her choice...... her staying idle is not healthy 4 u guys...an idle mind is... u know d rest.. Goodluck

See plenty talking back & forth

@OP, my advise to you is that even if this woman gets a job or starts a business to begin supporting you, DO NOT marry her.

She has already shown you what she's capable of when you're at your financial lows.

Someone on the previous page mentioned how most materialistic women are predisposed to cheating. Allow me to modify that and tell you that it's ALL materialistic women who can/will cheat, or have cheated before.

Just ensure you're there for your daughter always, but for her mother, start getting rid of any false idea that she will turn into an angel some day.

Op, don't listen to all those saying you should kick her out.. Hmmmm if you visit them , you will see how their legally married wife starve them with sex and how their legally married husband beat them blue black and they are yet to kick themselves out.

Instead, device a savings plan and encourage her to look for a job

sheepheart:
Where do you guys with good heart always jam these types of ladies that can't even manage resources #700 can still buy half kilo of chicken or fish or at worst smoked fish to make a delicious pot of soup.

When y'all be prioritizing wrongly the attributes to look out for in a lady.

Wonderful. They will keep showing them pepper.

They are all over romance section calling out the women.

Put your price one place. Even bible talk am

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words. I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities. I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK. The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered. Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me. The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil so basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food. I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife...... Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains. I hope this makes front page

I blame you Op:

For dating and impregnating a jobless girl.

When they tell young men to calm down, they won't listen.

Raalsalghul:


I blame you Op:

For dating and impregnating a jobless girl.

When they tell young men to calm down, they won't listen.

Bleh. Bleh. Bleh.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Bleh. Bleh. Bleh.

Are you the lady in question?

Be a man, ask God in prayer for wisdom.
If your wife doesn’t know how to save money, make a monthly list for her,
She will learn from you
I hope you are not extravagant?
save money ,
no matter how little for emergency.

Try to fix her with something to keep her busy, and probably support the family financially. Talk to her passionately ,Let her understand your goals for your family. You guys should align your goals. and appreciate her for been in your life. With this I believe she will be conformed by every standard you set or state you guys are. I wish you best.

Raalsalghul:

I blame you Op:
For dating and impregnating a jobless girl.
When they tell young men to calm down, they won't listen.

bros u won't understand

merieam16:
Oga go and do the needful, even if its as little as only the bride pride.Its obvious that ur mother in law is nt happy with u and its nt a good sign

..... My biggest fear about that is... If she can be like this when we are not married, who knows what she will do when we are married??

You cant funding her lavish lifestyle all the time. When you are not father xmas. Try n make her understand the situation. Maybe she might change

dangerousdaddy:
..... My biggest fear about that is... If she can be like this when we are not married, who knows what she will do when we are married??

i understand buh i tink u cant predict women.If u marry sum1 else and u face the same challenge, will u send her away too.


I just believe u can pray about it.There's nothing prayer cannot do u kno

Dx matter get as e be....I pray God will give you the wisdom to work out things.

My people,if you need Pure Original Honey... kindly contact O81 O1 66 67 71 or the number on the picture below let's talk about it now..Stay safe

You are a 'little' daddy to
your relations

&

Baby daddy to your olosho...





Weh done daddy, daddy..

Hushdaddi.

Send her packing. Dont waste your time with her. She cannot change.

The fact that she is not yet your wife should even give you an edge over her in terms of positive dominance.

You are the man here.

SmellingAnus:
You are going through what many married couples go through...

All I can say is that you are not married to that girl... Use your tongue to count your teeth and advise yourself...

Correct!

which cult she join??
cause that is one of the behaviours of a cultists

God will help you

dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

You are not married, if you have had enough of her, kick her out........

This is serious