Bola146:
All of you need to show him love and pray for him

drunkdad:


my mom prayed a lot.

love. we've been doing that since, he just find solace in sitting with those drunkards and discussing "God knows what".

he never comes home early so that we can sit together as a family and talk about the day. it's just so tiring !!!

drunkdad:


my mom prayed a lot.

love. we've been doing that since, he just find solace in sitting with those drunkards and discussing about "God knows what".

he never comes home early so that we can sit together as a family and talk about the day. it's just so tiring !!!

Bola146:


Continue praying, don't be disturbed, have faith

MrOjay1:
This is sad.
I suggest you begin to flog your father with cane since he's stubborn.

Cane is the only language a drunkard understands.
It's no use advising him against it because he will surely do otherwise.

If you can't cane him,you can trail him to the bar where he drinks and embarass he and his friends.

PureGoldh:
Just show him love bro....don't forgot to always pray for him.

Get his best friend to talk to him....(Someone he listens to) that way he will get along with the advice(s) you people have being giving to him.

***Please Note *** Don't ever call him a drunkard or any abusive name as it will make him to take more bottles

Franzinni:
There is a reason for his behavior find the problem and the cure won't be far off...

Get closer to him do your research on quitting alcohol and try and hold his hands through the steps ... May God give you the strength ...addiction is one scary demon

Thoughts become action and repeated action becomes habit and then becomes behavior ...

Reverse engineer till you find the thoughts and then break the triggers for those thoughts that lead to the action of drinking .. Research further if you are not clear .

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

drunkdad:


I just wish there's a proactive step I can take to just bring everything to a stop because if it's prayer. my mom has been doing that for over 20 years

Liftmaster:


First, you need to recognize that he has a disease called alcohol addiction, then prepare to spend some money. Best case solution is to check him into an in house rehab program. I know there a some in Lagos and Abuja that do a good job. Next best solution is to get him away from his current environment to someplace else. Excessive drinking of alcohol is a social vice. Nobody likes to drink alone. Get him far away from his drinking buddies to another location, to a far away state if possible for a period of time. There is a high likely hood that he may have a change of heart when away from the bad influence of his buddies.
Finally, addictions are extremely difficult to overcome unless the addicted person is really reallly ready to change. Nothing will work until your Dad is convinced that he needs to change his life.

Sage161:

Very sad. Always remind him the effects of alcohol of excessive alcohol consumption never forgetting to use people as case study and keep praying for him. Who knows? He might dump those friends of his and quit that addiction

duduade:
Liver/Kidney problems approaching.

Don't worry he will soon be humbled

drunkdad:


sadly, about 3 of his "friends" are already dead since he stopped about 3 years ago before he resumed again this year. I reminded him of all these, he just has stopped taking everything "right" thing as nothing serious.

2 years ago, he stopped drinking and he was beginning to look better, speak more coherently and not socially awkward, but now, he has gone back to his past behavior just earlier this year when he started making friends with another guy who drinks alcohol.

ALCOHOLKILLS:
indeed it does

drunkdad:

hmm, his family is nothing to write home about. my dad is the most stubborn person I ever know and will take everyone's word with a pinch of salt whenever he's still drinking. He only comes to his senses whenever he stops drinking for like a week.