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Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by money121(m): 1:14pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Ok |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by SimplyA1(f): 1:15pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Las Las everybody go dey alright! 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by chimezieeze98: 1:15pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=is9fqmscKsg I believe the individualism system practiced in most foreign countries changes those that travel with time. If you have ever travelled abroad, you would also notice that unlike Nigeria you can go visit relatives unannounced.... Yiu can't do such there. At 18,childrwn already planning on leaving home not like here wey 40 year old man go dey follow him papa drag tv remote for him papa house 16 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:16pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:They now feel like they're better than you, it's a normal thing amongst many people to always feel better than others once they have done something they feel is great, if you're my bosom friend I would always check up on you. Besides this is normal amongst Nigerians why are you shocked. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Comedian2019: 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau:That's not true. The young man only need to up his game financially and those janded guys would be the ones disturbing him with chats. 13 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by TruthHurts100: 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: Truth is, it's distance that's responsible and time difference. And again, out of sight is almost equal to out of mind. Even if it's your blood, the communication will definitely dwindle. Please check that oyinbo for me, I just use am cos e sound right. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by domino4211(m): 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA:Could be because of your bad grammar.. If I have a friend who speaks or types like you do,I will stop replying them too.. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by tarantino1: 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Sweetness4: Ouch! Just three years Recently met someone I hadn't seen in 8 years and we recognized ourself despite the fact that we weren't even very close, let alone this one. 12 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by greenskittles: 1:17pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: My opinion, when they move they make new friends, are completely exposed to a new reality, and have to adjust to that. In the beginning they still constantly talk to you but over time it tends to fade away as you both have very little in common at that point. After 3 years of them living in the US, they really just can't relate to most things you would typically have small talk about. I believe that leaving your message read and not replied was very rude, and they should've at least appreciated that you showed concern to them. But "calling just to greet" everytime, after 3 years quickly gets old. If you guys were not that close, a point you start to wonder what you "really" want. Also add to the fact that some people think everyone that has travelled has suddenly become Bill Gates. You might not show that mentality but other people might have shown your friend hell. Then it gets to a point that your overly friendly demeanor when you have nothing in common to talk about means you want to ask them for something, even though you may not. Coupled with the fact that they're already burdened with so many responsibilities, they might just not have time to for that. With your next friend that travels (lol) if you want to maintain contact you need to both find common ground. They can't relate to "NEPA has taken light" and you can't relate to "my taxes are too damn high". So if you're going to stay in contact, you need to find something both of you do. It's just like your secondary school friends, how many of them do you still talk to? The school was probably the glue holding you all together, and upon graduation you drifted apart, except from those that you actually have something in common to constantly relate to. 44 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:18pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
chimezieeze98:It's not about individualism it's about feeling better than others, Nigerians see travelling out as a great achievement so when they do it then their ego swells and boom, you are now trash to them. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nobody: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau:Did you read the full details of the post? |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by ankaravillageng: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Maybe it's cause I'm a lady, but I have never experienced such. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by miqos02(m): 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
otipoju: So true |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by edoairways: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
SoccerUSA: |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Comedian2019: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Sweetness4:You're going to make it big. You'll be shocked again to see him sending you dm. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by BennyDon: 1:20pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
It's everywhere. Those guys always feel they've made it. One once asked me to draw a business plan which I did but I've heard nothing concerning it for four years now. You see, I don't chat them either. They always look so busy and stressed up. I know we'll still see over there, by God's grace 12 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Chujor1634(m): 1:22pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
i had a friend who travelled to the UK, he always calls me, even till he came back he always calls. I had another one that travelled too, it wasn't up to one month, we had no manage to talk and he was phonerizing the whole discussion, mehn i got tired and decided not to talk to him again, luckily for me, he never called again, the last time he tried calling i didn't take his call (i'm not in for shits). Truth is, when you travel, you get to meet new people, you get new challenges and it's a normal nature of humans to do everything possible to fit into their environment, so you see, you can never tell what these people are going through just to fit, it may lead them into forgetting the past totally, 98% of us will do same. so i don't blame anyone, i will do same, once in a while i'll remember my old friends. 14 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by sylve11: 1:23pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
heendrix: While some other responsibilities might be eating them up, this your assertion is also true... |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Ygrette(f): 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
optimusprime2: I hope you know this analysis of yours is worthy of being a headline topic on its own. It's so good that I screenshot and saved, just in case I need to educate someone in future. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by HonAdeli(m): 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Yeah it's common though but it depends on the type of friendship you both keep. I have a close friend then in secondary school that traveled to Texas with his younger ones in 2015, this guy is the busy type that works always to pay school fees and bills. Still we chat sometimes once or twice in a month but my sister anytime he's less busy or weekends we talk for hours on WhatsApp call. The thing is just leave them don't bother texting them when they have the time they would themselves, so far they know you ain't gonn bill them. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by cray91(m): 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
That's The notion we need to correct for we africans! cuz someone travel out doesn't guarantee automatic success Alot of us in naija are living better life than those in abroad SoccerUSA: 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by intruder15(m): 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Etinosa1234: The bolded isn't necessary. Travel out because u want to and have the resources to. Not to prove anything to anybody. Because if you go with such mindset, you will definitely act like that your friend who thinks he is now the boss because e don see snow for the first time. 18 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Mrhonesty: 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau: It's a big lie. Events and circumstances do change most people. I had some friends like that before l travelled. But, not all of them. Work more on yourself, make yourself their envy and they will be the people looking for you. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by Nwaotu10(m): 1:24pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
heendrix: You're very correct. I had a friend that was commissioned into the army lately as a second lieutenant. He no longer return my chats since he came out from training. I respected my self and shove him off as well. Life continues! 10 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by rossovu: 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Obinnau:oga no one is too busy! Be it in the USA or Nigeria. 10 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by BestOsai: 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
Petyprincess: |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by kingsolomonjnr01(m): 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
It's pride. |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by panama789: 1:25pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
What kind of friends do you keep?..Who do u call your friend?...When u can answer those questions u will knw that what u have asked is senseless 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Your Friends Ignore You When They Finally Travel Out Of The Country? by MabraO: 1:26pm On Sep 04, 2020 |
See the long ass message my friend sent me on fb thank Hid they not the only one that can give excuse. My self find way to discard him.. 5 Likes
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