2special:
I think you should sell one of the property to develop the other

Oyindamolah:
Thank you which one should I sell?

2special:
Either you consult a professional which might cost you money or you value the two properties yourself cuz it's difficult for me to determine what l only have an idea of until l see the two properties...

yomi007k:


Keep the property that is almost completed and sell the other one.

Oyindamolah:
let's do mail

OcVoice:
Sorry for your ordeal. You have to be very strong at this time. If you have the papers to the properties, I suggest you sell out the 2nd and then give the 1st to a developer. The agreement would be that they complete it and collect rent for some years after which it becomes your family's. They won't collect rent for your own apartment. Selling off the 2nd would help you cater for your mom, siblings and other miscellaneous.
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2special:
abey_special @yahoo.com but I'm somehow busy now, l lost my dear mum yesterday but you can send me a message on yahoo, l will send you my WhatsApp contact

dingbang:
Get married so that your husband will complete it for you. You cannot come and go and come back again to kill yourself.

Oyindamolah:
Thank you but completing property 1 is very expensive. The cost if completing property 2 is cheaper compared to Property 1 but mum says it will be unfair
1. to my siblings because if their schooling
2. Dad because property 1 was his plan for us
3. Property 2 is very far from town with infrastructure especially for her medicals.

dingbang:
Get married so that your husband will complete it for you. You cannot come and go and come back again to kill yourself.

MMXX:
If your situation is critical and you badly need urgent cash, sell one of the property.. Complete the other one and take care of your mom.

But if you guys can pull tru without badly needing the cash from one of those property sale,then leave it..Your family is only just growing and passing tru stuff(all part of life)and honestly with patience a time will come when each of you will be financial capable enough to map out a plan on how you'll will complete your fathers properties...

This things happen most time when the primary care taker of a family is no more.things may bcome difficult.But with time it will pass.Life changes with time,soon all siblings will grow up.

yomi007k:


This is a bad advice that should not be taken.

What if the husband refuses to complete it?

Is it the husband's responsibility to complete the wife's family property?

Don't you think such feeble ideology will put a strain on the marriage?

SteveOfu:
How is it a bad idea?

Why did he marry her in the first place?

The the olden days men took up any and every responsibility thrown at them.

dingbang:
Get married so that your husband will complete it for you. You cannot come and go and come back again to kill yourself.

SteveOfu:
How is it a bad idea?

Why did he marry her in the first place?

The the olden days men took up any and every responsibility thrown at them.

yomi007k:


When the husband starts maltreating her , you will never know the cause.


However, it is not the responsiblity of the husband unless the wife family are Gold diggers.

lavylilly:
His advise is not bad. She can marry and tell the husband before hand of the current situation, a wise man see opportunities in problems. I have read cases where inherited properties of the wife was completed by the husband and took very good care of the family that you can mistake the husband to be the owner of the properties.

yomi007k:


Well, I wish you all the best.

dingbang:
Get married so that your husband will complete it for you. You cannot come and go and come back again to kill yourself.

lavylilly:
Are you married?

yomi007k:

In the olden days, a man marries more than one wife, has multiple kids and rides on horses and donkeys..

You can apply olden days mentality on your life but don't recommend it for other people.

Thank you.

crackhaus:

Lol, they always want to return to olden days only when it comes to leeching off a man.

lavylilly:
His advise is not bad. She can marry and tell the husband before hand of the current situation, a wise man see opportunities in problems. I have read cases where inherited properties of the wife was completed by the husband and took very good care of the family that you can mistake the husband to be the owner of the properties.

Oyindamolah:
Good morning Familanders!

I lost my dad a few years ago. It's been very difficult but we having been pushing through. I am in my early 20's with 5 sibling.

Dad left some properties for us. I happened to be the first female child.

Property 1
Is almost completed to decking level no windows and doors. It has not been plastered or floored, JUST sand filled. We currently occupy group flat in this property.

Property 2
Is an uncompleted building with roof.

I have my mum with underlying illness and 5 siblings to cater for.

I currently work but the money is not enough to to even complete the current abode or property 2.


Please, What do I do?

lavylilly:
Are you married?