owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids.
Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

flyingpig:
Just imagine, you're very wicked. So he should be sharing his wife with a man from her past? You're very wicked.

lilyheaven:

Please nobody is chewing his wife.
She only met an old friend that came to town,,
The other is a client.

Look at the time I’m replying you, while my husband is sleeping, if he opens his eyes and see me typing, I’m sure he will start suspecting me too.

I don’t like talking Ill about people I don’t know.
According to him he is suspecting, why should I be the one to do the conclusion.

He should tell his wife he is aware of her meeting so so person, and if he ever finds out she is cheating, it will never go down well.

owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

JerryLekki:
Uncle sir, You are in an open marriage. There is nothing wrong with it. Except your notion that you must not accept it. Probably programmed into you.


Oya, come and swear that since you married, you have not had something with another person. Especially in that university environment that you claim to hustle. Bros, come off it. There are things bigger than your ego

DonBenny77:
Chai, sorry man.
To marry no hungry me again sef.....

MansoryMX:


This was the beginning of the end. The moment I find out my wife is having an affair with a man, that’s the end of the marriage. I always tell her, I don’t forgive so protect your marriage with your own hands, I love you but once such occur, love is no longer enough. So so sorry bro.

abbey621:
There's a difference between being a gentle guy and being a dumb guy! A woman that you are in a serious relationship with has no business communicating with her ex, if she believes she can't do without him then she can go to hell! Now, you eventually married such a woman and she's still communicating with the guy yet some tin heads are telling you to have a talk with her, E NO GO BETTER FOR SUCH WOMAN! My guy BE A MAN, your cowardice/gentleness is going to end up giving you hypertension in the long run.

If you truly love this woman then you want the truth as quickly as possible, KINDLY bug her phone, get cold hard evidence then present the evidence in front of her parents! When you do this, two things will happen, either she changes for the better and you reconcile or she enjoys her newfound freedom and says DEUCES! Either way, now you know where you stand and you can move on with your life! BE A MAN, TAME HER BEFORE SHE KILLS YOU!

hopexter:



Someone laud his complain which he's 100% sure off. You can't compare yours to his babes.

lilyheaven:
If you trust her, you shouldn’t be scared of who she wants to meet at any given time.
Until you have an evidence, relax o before you develop unnecessary hypertension

larryking540:

nice one ,
I still wonder how some ladies throwaway years of marriage in to the drainage all because of a new lover who has not seen you tru in all the troubles in life ,,,,,,
the only thing for me I will give a lady go ahead to leave her marriage is when it comes to abuse ,the rest can always be settled ,I still don't understand

DonBenny77:
Chai, sorry man.
To marry no hungry me again sef.....