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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by fattprince(m): 12:38pm On Sep 06, 2020
obembet:


Pop! If your story is real, u need to check your self first, there is no way u can see snake without fire. Women don't just misbehave. Then its a must to work in distance place.. U need to work more on your communication. I believed that communication is the heart of relationship. And try your best to safe your marriage. Just do everything to save your marriage all in the name of your beloved kids. One of the reason why we have useless youth today is cos most of them train by either father alone or mother alone. Do this findings your self. Don't allow ur kids to see their mom has bad mother. Save your home. That's your cross.

God bless ur home
Can you imagine this. So the "herd theory" about you females is true. Someone suspecting his wife over infidelity and all you could do is put all the blameson him without putting one blame or responsibility on the culprit. SMH it is finished.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 12:39pm On Sep 06, 2020
delkuf:
Ok. Am out of church already. we normally have three serves

Oh great!

Hope service was great.

Welcome Sir.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by NaijaNeedsRev(m): 12:40pm On Sep 06, 2020
Chai! This is a tricky case here that requires crafty handling.

With two kids, I think you're blessed already. Nevertheless, you've got to reduce the distance BTW you and your family; it's way too much for enabling you perform all needed responsibilities a woman will adore from a man. Women love to see their husbands 24/7.

The only explanation to this is that your wife is seeing more happiness from the suspected lover than you which you can end by finding all means to staying with her.

I understand how difficult it may be relocating -- either you or your wife moves. Then disclose your discontent about the mysterious calls she does -- you let this go along with being your wife's timekeeper -- no going to see friends again because she can explore that too.

With this, if she's truly humans, change should happen to her, if she did not change, inform your mother-in-law. Yet again, if she persists doing this useless thing, file for paper before she sends you to your grave untimely.

May God bless your home!
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by delkuf(m): 12:40pm On Sep 06, 2020
Brachaa:

Oh great!
Hope service was great.
Welcome Sir.
service was good. are Still in church
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by RTSC: 12:46pm On Sep 06, 2020
So you cannot order your wife to tell you what is going on at once?

You want to start investigating quietly as if she will sue you if you are wrong?

Your own wife

You have failed to govern your home.
Your wife is running rings around you like a clown.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Sep 06, 2020
delkuf:
service was good. are Still in church

Nope.

I got home some 30 mins ago.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by JimIbanga: 12:48pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Just follow these simple instructions and you will know what's going on really.

Download Whatscan from Google play store into YOUR phone.

Open it and click on Whatscan. A bar code will appear. Make sure your data is on and also cancel some ads that might appear as you are clicking on Whatscan.



Get HER phone and quickly go to her WhatsApp. Make sure her data is on, click on the 3 dots at the top and a drop down will appear, click on WhatsApp Web.

From her phone's WhatsApp web, scan the bar code that appeared in YOUR whatscan.

Immediately you scan it successfully, your phone will beep. The scanning won't take upto 5 seconds. Return her phone to the normal home page.

You only need to open your whatscan any time she is online and you will be reading all her current chats irrespective of where she's chatting from.

You can only screenshot those chats with her boyfriend as proof of what she's doing as soon as you see them else she might delete them as usual.

You don't really have to touch her phone any longer in order to see her chats.

If you want to see her chats on Facebook without touching her phone, I can also help you with that.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by wellingtongrey(m): 12:50pm On Sep 06, 2020
Coolcalmcollect:

Mr man Nigerian women respond more to threat than loving words, sit her down during dinner with your two kids and tell her a story of how a friend of yours killed his wife and kids when he found out the wife was cheating on him, tell her you look up to such a friend and it's something you also can do.... make sure you have a cold smile on your face when saying that story while looking her in the face. trust me she will compose herself after that.


This your comment(action) and moniker (coolcalmcollect)does not have a positive correlation oOo cheesy grin

You are very correct, though. I think it might work.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Charly68: 12:51pm On Sep 06, 2020
If trully your wife is committing adultery ,if she does not kill herself ,she will kill you one day. So I beg of you to prepare your mind for the worst while you see how her game will go. But please don't let her provoke you to the point of physical confrontation because it can leads to death and it is only a foolish man that kills or die because of an unfaithful woman.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by imagrg(m): 1:05pm On Sep 06, 2020
No. Don't confront her.
YOU MAY be wrong.
Please investigate properly and jokingly asked her how she would feel if as a man, his wife cheats on him and watch her reaction.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by frozen70(f): 1:06pm On Sep 06, 2020
loswhite:
can you ppl ever be responsible in ur life? A man should give her everything she wants...lol, most women are just useless

What do you understand after reading that post

Women are useless and you keep going in and out of them

Are you not the most useless of them all
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by CoolAmbience(m): 1:08pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.



If you ask me, I would advice that you get something concrete first...I mean an incontrovertible evidence.

Once you have that, my brother send her home for good.

Life is too short for this kind of drama.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by lilyheaven: 1:08pm On Sep 06, 2020
loswhite:
so they have to catch her on the bed first abi? Why should your husband have reason to suspect you in the first place?

Go and kick her out,
When he finally finds out his wife was actually not cheating, he won’t come back to Nairaland to say sorry to his wife.

Please leave me alone, I’m washing clothes
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by CoolAmbience(m): 1:09pm On Sep 06, 2020
annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.


Make una come see advice o!
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Nobody: 1:13pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:


If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly tongue tongue
Ask the Lord for wisdom on how to handle this issue. Only God can show you the way.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by aljpimp(m): 1:20pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

Is your wife into real estate?
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by ochukoprosper(m): 1:30pm On Sep 06, 2020
I have what you can use to monitor all your wife's activities,through your phone you can see your wife's whatsapp messages and even listen to all her calls wherever you're.holla me if you're interested but I must warn you... MAKE SURE YOU'RE VERY SURE YOUR WIFE IS CHEATING AND BE READY TO TAKE THE HEARTBREAK OF YOUR FINDINGS IN A MATURE WAY
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by imagrg(m): 1:35pm On Sep 06, 2020
You are truly a good man. I feel for you.
Please don't rock your boat.

Treat her kindly, knack her well.
And, most importantly, on a good day after marathon knacking, tell her your fears. But not such that would trigger annoyance because you may be wrong in your assumptions.

Women are easily swayed by what they see. Because of your distance from her, she may have lost her emotional attachment to you just like you do. Some other ladies could have also caught your fancy where you were. So, please either let her quit her job and join you or you quit yours and join her to maintain a balance in your relationship.

YOU see, marriage is not an easy encounter. One of you must play the fool sometimes otherwise the happiness or future of your children could be jeopardized.

So, for now, please play the fool.
owo8184:


If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly tongue tongue
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by JakesAy: 1:36pm On Sep 06, 2020
If not for my Mum, I wont think of getting married. Ill probably just have a kid or 2 with someone buh no marriage
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by lomprico(m): 1:47pm On Sep 06, 2020
annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.

what's d point, let him confront her, if she is guilty, divorce her!
a man whose wife cheats on is in danger of losing his life.
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by prinxel(m): 1:52pm On Sep 06, 2020
Wow... Heartbreaking ���� is it? Well in my opinion, I think you should be the man you are, Sit her fucking ass down and talk sense into her. She's a woman, she's being deceived and lured into infidelity. Bring her back to her senses... First I want to advice you to be very careful... Except if your culture/ tradition is not against wife being not faithful to her husband, but I'd u have such tradition, please ask her deep questions so that you or you Beautiful children don't suffer what they don't know. Man, you need help. Talk to her, she's your wife and not your boss
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by joepepsy(m): 1:55pm On Sep 06, 2020
The reason why Africa will not progress is because we only see from personal point of view.
flyingpig:
deliberately go and find an evidence, until you do that abstain from having sex with her. Asking the young man to sweep everything under the carpet like it is a norm and take care or his kids while still having sex with her in the midst of doubt. Really some of you can have erection even in the most unsuitable mind condition-fear and distrust. #spits again angry
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Akmike1983: 2:21pm On Sep 06, 2020
Thank God u ve two lovely kids, get a good evidence and confront her with it. If she keep at it let her be. Dont give ur self hypertension cof if u do u will still be on the losing end
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by josite: 2:22pm On Sep 06, 2020
Ademoore07:
What happens to "Magun"?

problem with magun is the wife fucker may be more spiritual than you think and there are cheating wiveson top of their game and therefore know the person who can tell them how to remove the magun.so u may actually placed a magun on a wife and she keep on fucking around blissfully.cheating is what all humans do and in order to kill urself ,just do plenty care,plenty monitoring during pregnancy and confirm it wit a dna,after that free urself from the monitoring job.wives a re humans too and sometimes they do want extra play.bitter but that the truth.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Entom(m): 2:26pm On Sep 06, 2020
OUR THEORY BACK THEN IN SCHOOL IS STILL VALID: ONCE bleeped [BOY OR GIRL] CAN BE RE-bleeped ANY TIME IRRESPECTIVE OF CIRCUMSTANCE [MARRIAGE]. THIS IS PLAYING OUT HERE

FIND A WAY AND CATCH HER AND END THE MARRIAGE,BUT HOW ABOUT THE CHILDREN?

MY ELDER USED TO SAY THAT IT IS RISKY TO MARRY A VERY HOT LADY, GO FOR THE AVERAGE
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by rafcrown(m): 2:46pm On Sep 06, 2020
Not all married women should be trusted.
A cheating woman will either kill herself or the husband.
If you have a cheating wife, making progress can be difficult because she's not with you alone emotionally and physically.
Be a man and move fast.
DNA parternity test ?
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by sweetilicious(f): 2:48pm On Sep 06, 2020
Mariangeles:
Most couples these days are more like flat mates who can do as they please.
No respect for marriage again. undecided
Social media has made everything worse. Cheating nowadays is just a click away. Hmmm undecided
Am telling you.Flatmates in marriage

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by kehnton(m): 3:04pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

The truth will come out. Try to stay away from making love to her for now. The truth will come out. Man/Husbands don’t usually get jealous, but when they do, it’s for a very good reason. If you know your wife well, study her, you may not say a word. Just study her. The truth will come out very soon. Watch and notice all that has changed in her. From the way she talks to the way she dressed when going out and all. Watch!
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by endeavor(m): 3:07pm On Sep 06, 2020
owo8184:
I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by Ghostmode2two(m): 3:27pm On Sep 06, 2020
Get concrete evidence then you can tell her your mind. Very sorry for the emotional pains you going through. Women are not to be trusted. I once suspected my wife about cheating too as she suddenly stopped coming home from work early as she used to and was also receiving calls from a man any time of the day and night even when were in bed together. So I told my wife to stop receiving calls from whoever that always call. I told my wife if she is interested in doing fling outside I will not hesitate to divorce her and throw her out of my house. Funny enough the man who was calling her was also a married man. She told me she wants to confess something to me, I told her that I am not interested in her stupid confession and that I have made myself clear. I told her that I will take custody of my children and she will never see them again and I mean it. She can go and do whatever pleases her, as for sex no amount of sex she is going to have outside she is not going to give birth to kids that will grow older than the ones we already had.

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Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by WinLABSstores: 3:27pm On Sep 06, 2020
annex1:
Dont confront her. Just focus on yourself and children please. And till you suspect otherwise, use protection during intercourse.
Be realistic and judge yourself. Is this advise reasonable and attainable?
Re: I Am Suspecting My Wife Is Cheating. Should I Confront Her? by bigwig071(m): 3:41pm On Sep 06, 2020
Dis life self wetin women dey do we men self

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