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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Olibboy: 8:12pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
Marrying a Nigerian is good to me. My thought though
Are you from Canada?
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:12pm On Sep 08, 2020
Cousin9999:


That's the issue for many.

Everyone should want a good partner, but the definition of that has really gone off the rails.
You from Texas?
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by bigfrancis21: 8:12pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
I don't know why most men keep saying marriage is not important. What happened when you're old? who will stand by you? Who will take care of you? We all need each other. In as much as marriage is not the ultimate, it's very important.

Lol women need marriage more than men do. Even here in America, the feminist West with liberated sisters, women here still stress over getting married like crazy despite no cultural or pressing societal expectations to do so. Men here barely stress over getting married but women do. Let me say this, feminism did liberate women as they wanted but they did not realize that the feminism movement by and large liberated western men as well. Women are no longer expected to do certain things, so are the men.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by bizhop01: 8:13pm On Sep 08, 2020
I find difficult to date Nigerian when i was abroad, i don't know if others feel the same.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by gbazgbos: 8:17pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
Marrying a Nigerian is good to me. My thought though
I like your name
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
So, I got talking with a senior friend about challenges most new migrat faced in Canada and US. After several discussion, this got my attention. According to her, it's very difficult to get married or come in contact with a prospective life partner. As most Nigerian's single ladies are over age but no husband.
How true is the above statement?
Are there most Nigerian's single ladies than single men?
As a single Nigerian in Canada or US, is it really difficult finding a life partner (a Nigerian partner to be precise)?

Is it adviseable to get married to a Nigerian partner before going, what if the marriage fail due to long distance?

What's the possibility of seeing more black (Nigerians) to mingle?

What part has large number of Nigerians?

Because it's good to plan every aspect of one's life.

Never dated a Nigerian out here so cant say...tried to date one and after all the my papa need this , my mama need that, my brother need this...I just closed the chapter straight away

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:21pm On Sep 08, 2020
flyca:

Babe, if you have been on NL for sometime now, you would have noticed all the negetivity towards ladies here by the guys, they come under the umbrella of “Red Pills”. “Nigerian girls are bad” “Nigerian girls are bad” buhahaha. Bro!, there are good Nigerian ladies, but you they will not see them because the good ladies are with good Nigerian men! tongue So babe, don't be sad when they bash you here.

Wanting to be married is noble, so whatever trashtalk you read here, do not feel bad for expressing that idea (albeit in a wrong space).

If you are born and raised in Nigeria, if you have the Nigerian thing in you - in my opinion - marrying a well-raised Nigerian man is the better option for you.

Same advice I will give a Nigerian man! But sometimes, “white woman” too dey shaak them! But in the long run, it is better to marry someone from your own culture and background. Someone that you will not feel inferior to, someone that will not feel that marrying them is a priviledge, someone that deeply understands you, someone that you share a cultural connection with, someone that you will not constantly be under pressure to impress, someone that understands the meaning of marriage the way you understand it etc

See eh, it's not even only Nigeria to Nigeria, every country to every country, every culture to every culture or at least similar. Not someone that has different customs, different food and lifestyle, different values, different parentage. If you watch TLC's 90 Day Fiance, you will notice that most clashes are cultural not financial.

I met my Nigerian husband abroad. I had options from other countries and I am sure he had other “white girl” options too. But we decided to be with each other and it has turned to be a very good decision for me. We get to experience new things from the same perspective of life (travel, food, language you name it). If our passports are getting rejected at the airport, they are rejecting both of us TOGETHER!

The first time I met my in-laws eh ...... PEACE. Whenever my mom-in-law speaks Igbo to me, I feel a deep connection. Well, this is my own cent!
Good for you. Team foreigners. Naija girls no be am

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:26pm On Sep 08, 2020
Tatashi:
I can never move to Canada or US and look for a Nigerian/African Man to marry. I dey crase? What happened to finding a God fearing Handsome Caucasian? How can you move to a developed well advanced country and search for a Nigerian man to marry... Men that are backward and misogynistic in nature. Go to America and see how Nigerian Men are slaughtering their hardworking wives esp Nurses. Pls if you want to live long as a woman you better run away from black men oh. There's this special type of jealousy they carry. God forbid
Who wants to marry Nigerian leeches before??

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:27pm On Sep 08, 2020
Nooil:



kiss kiss kiss

Think of the beautiful half-caste children you'll even birth. If it's to say hi to them, I'll do it with Erica's type of smile. It is worth the effort.
Getting married for aesthetics (half caste kid) is disgusting and low. And selfish too

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Sep 08, 2020
vhuqnl:

Getting married for aesthetics (half-caste kid) is disgusting and low. And selfish too


Happy boys day
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by 4FACEADELEKE(m): 8:34pm On Sep 08, 2020
Petyprincess:

Like seriously, even mod pushed this rubbish to front-page to promote bashing of Nigerian women from frustrated guys.

They masturbate on any topic that bashes Nigerian women but will lick a white old granny ass for green card,these men can't tolerate shit from Africa American women,they will lick their ass to get a green card while bashing Nigerian women.

Most of these guys are not sincere,some are suffering to keep their status while be deceiving gullible supposed "fans" and "asslickers" on nairaland at the same time bashing Nigerian women. Even fresh immigrants will start shouting "a white lady picked me up,payed my bills,etc angry

Believe these people at your risk!

The old white grannies have something to offer them,what do you or can you offer them?Abeg sleep

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:34pm On Sep 08, 2020
Nooil:

Happy boys day
Get a job

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:36pm On Sep 08, 2020
antocreative:
All ye men here that I bashing Nigerian women make me laugh! I know must of you are washing pant of the so-called white women. Brothers, pls don't pay heed to them! It is far better to marry your fellow Nigerian, except you are not a real man who wants his posterity to live on forever. Checkout men on their old age who married whites back then, do they look happy to you? As for me, I will go back home and marry and I will commit it to the hands of GOD. I wnt my posterity to live on and I dont want to have children who might have identity crises. Most of you talking rubbish about the Nigerian women have never been outside the country before. You also suffer from serious inferiority complex! If you are a true son of the soil, marry from your heritage, it pays in the long run! Forget the flashy white women of the west!
Time will tell. You will soon have sense

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 8:41pm On Sep 08, 2020
God1stson:

Ur are a good lady with a good heart. Ur desires are not out of place. u need sm1 like u. Send me mail at chijiwiz@gmail.com let's see if it work out since I'm still single.is not something to be ashamed of, if u have genuine intention. God's grace.
Look at this one

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by toprealman: 8:47pm On Sep 08, 2020
Adex2442:



I dont take trash. I am not a vegetable like yr......
Diplomacy is key for any good leader. Vegetable, fruits, legumes.......all are good for the body.
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by lionlee216(m): 9:00pm On Sep 08, 2020
omoyankee3:


You never jam AA

I don't have to, I'm married to one.

Thank you

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Sep 08, 2020
lefulefu2:
those ones on ur list dem wan use u check out of nigeria grin
u suppose know this nau cheesy
I am not a resident now.
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:10pm On Sep 08, 2020
bizhop01:
I find difficult to date Nigerian when i was at abroad, i don't know if others feel the same.
..at abroad...broken English is allowed, guys!

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:10pm On Sep 08, 2020
Gamesmart:


So how come many Nigerian women are single there and searching?
I don't know. What is my business who's single or not. You guys should just leave Nigerian women alone. Una no dey tire?
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by ykalhaji(m): 9:13pm On Sep 08, 2020
Must you marry in that country You can always marry someone in Nigeria and sponsor their Permanent Residence application. Well no longer in the US because of baba weyrey Trump but still possible in Canada.

The best bet for all Nigerians na to come abroad, get their citizenship/palli for Travel purposes, build your credit for credit facilities purposes, save money and then go back to Nigeria to invest like the Chinese are doing in Nigeria, meaning face the reality that you are in a third world country with 3rd world problems but also comes with 3rd world advantages(i.e. basically come back to Nigeria as a foreign investor).

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:14pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
But being in a strange country, seeing your fellow Nigerian to love and marry is beautiful. My thought though

As a Nigerian in the US, I’ve always preferred ending up with a fellow Nigerian because I just love that Naija aura; spirit and energy but most of the Nigerian girls I met when I first arrived here were so cocky, condescending and unapproachable.

However, I think age plays a big factor. If you were born here(a Nigerian - American) or you came here at a relatively young age(below 23), it's somewhat easier to find a life partner. Maybe if you came here for college or grad school - you can easily find a partner while in school.

Nevertheless, many Nigerian girls in America tend to waste their chances by being unrealistic when they are still below the age of 25. Many of them easily look down on people and they play themselves later on. Let me tell you a story. I have this friend of mine who lives in New York - he was born and raised in Naija. He came here for his Master’s and when he first arrived - he wanted a Nigerian girl by all means but most of the Nigerian girls around him then looked down on him. They saw him as a ”fresher” who had a thick accent, weird dressing, and all those kinds of stuff. I had a similar experience with some Nigerian girls too but his own experience was worse. When the guy was struggling in the US - none of these girls offered any friendship/support because they all felt he was not within their illusionary standard. The only people that supported him were the foreigners in his graduate school. But the guy who was talented. He worked hard at Columbia University and he eventually got a top investment job with JP Morgan. This my guy earns ridiculous six figures amount almost every month now. But do you know most of the Naija girls who looked down on him all tried to be friends with him after he was featured by Bloomberg business report? Can you imagine such nonsense! Why did they suddenly find him attractive now?

Well, the guy is currently dating the white girl that stood by him when he first arrived in New York but he still told me last month that he had always preferred a Nigerian babe but life happens. What if those Naija girls had even given him a chance of being their friend? What if they had tried to know him and not just judge him based on his looks as a struggling freshly arrived immigrant?
Nigerian girls in North America keep looking for finished products when they themselves are not in any way ready-made. They want guys that are 6-4 tall, beards, cars, houses, and all of those fleeting things at the same time. It's a wrong mentality to have and that's why most of them are still single. Life is a process. You don't expect men to have achieved 90% of their life goals when you meet them. People grow! A guy may not be muscular today but he can look like Anthony Joshua after spending some months in the gym. People need to understand the fact that life is a process. Then, we can take it from there.


Many of them are also intoxicated with this whole feminist stuff. See, as I am, I can cook by myself and I probably don't need a wife who knows how to cook. But do you know what? I’ve had female friends who are East Africans, black Americans, and whites who cook Nigerian food and give them to me. My friends who date these foreigners enjoy Nigerian food made by these foreign girls.

Yet, our Nigerian ”sisters” will be shouting up and down that it is not their duty to cook in the family. I know how to cook but I also want a wife who is homely. If I don't see these qualities in any girl of Nigerian descent but the qualities are present in a Kenyan girl or a white girl, why should I marry a Nigerian girl? The incentive is not there! Some foreign girls even embody Naija qualities than the so-called Naija girls.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Gamesmart: 9:16pm On Sep 08, 2020
sisipelebe:
I don't know. What is my business who's single or not. You guys should just leave Nigerian women alone. Una no dey tire?

To be frank, in Western countries, they are largely being left alone.

But the guys in Nigeria cannot because they really don't have options.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:28pm On Sep 08, 2020
Gamesmart:


So how come many Nigerian women are single there and searching?
It is because they don't want to date outside of their race. They want a Nigerian guy at all cost. Carribeans, Native Americans, Africa Americans are available, but no it's Nigerian. These guys from other race are even more romantic than our Nigerian men. I know the reasons why they don't want to test the waters.
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:31pm On Sep 08, 2020
Gamesmart:


To be frank, in Western countries, they are largely being left alone.

But the guys in Nigeria cannot because they really don't have options.
They don't want to explore. Most of them are not good conversationist.
Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by vhuqnl(m): 9:32pm On Sep 08, 2020
MiaBeer:


What a dumb question to ask. Is your mother not a Nigerian? Do you live outside Nigeria?
What is wrong with someone who live in a foreign land marrying someone from the same Country.
You are the type that will go there, forget your people, your roots and get lost.
What has his root done for him? Why attack him? You this local champion

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:35pm On Sep 08, 2020
Petyprincess:
Too much generalisation nd bashing of Nigerian ladies on this forum! Even those that married old white granny or African American single mum with multiple baby daddies for green card will still bash Nigerian women grin

Op don't be scared or worried,dnt let anyone make you feel Nigerian ladies aren't desirable in foreign country! As long as you not conversative about your culture you will definitely get a man,forget all stories they putting up here, upon "I don't do Nigerian girls" they still sending pms to same Nigerian women!

They love bashing Nigerian girls because they know the abroad based ones with green card are wise nd can easily know their intentions unlike desperate AA Or white granny!



Madam, not every Nigerian who is dating a white or AA girl in the US needs a green card. I have friends who have been here for decades(with a US passport) and they will tell you that they can never date Naija girls and their condescending behavior.



As a Nigerian in the US, I’ve always preferred ending up with a fellow Nigerian because I just love that Naija aura; spirit and energy but most of the Nigerian girls I met when I first arrived here were so cocky, condescending and unapproachable.

However, I think age plays a big factor. If you were born here(a Nigerian - American) or you came here at a relatively young age(below 23), it's somewhat easier to find a life partner. Maybe if you came here for college or grad school - you can easily find a partner while in school.

Nevertheless, many Nigerian girls in America tend to waste their chances by being unrealistic when they are still below the age of 25. Many of them easily look down on people and they play themselves later on. Let me tell you a story. I have this friend of mine who lives in New York - he was born and raised in Naija. He came here for his Master’s and when he first arrived - he wanted a Nigerian girl by all means but most of the Nigerian girls around him then looked down on him. They saw him as a ”fresher” who had a thick accent, weird dressing, and all those kinds of stuff. I had a similar experience with some Nigerian girls too but his own experience was worse. When the guy was struggling in the US - none of these girls offered any friendship/support because they all felt he was not within their illusionary standard. The only people that supported him were the foreigners in his graduate school. But the guy who was talented. He worked hard at Columbia University and he eventually got a top investment job with JP Morgan. This my guy earns ridiculous six figures amount almost every month now. But do you know most of the Naija girls who looked down on him all tried to be friends with him after he was featured by Bloomberg business report? Can you imagine such nonsense! Why did they suddenly find him attractive now?

Well, the guy is currently dating the white girl that stood by him when he first arrived in New York but he still told me last month that he had always preferred a Nigerian babe but life happens. What if those Naija girls had even given him a chance of being their friend? What if they had tried to know him and not just judge him based on his looks as a struggling freshly arrived immigrant?
Nigerian girls in North America keep looking for finished products when they themselves are not in any way ready-made. They want guys that are 6-4 tall, beards, cars, houses, and all of those fleeting things at the same time. It's a wrong mentality to have and that's why most of them are still single. Life is a process. You don't expect men to have achieved 90% of their life goals when you meet them. People grow! A guy may not be muscular today but he can look like Anthony Joshua after spending some months in the gym. People need to understand the fact that life is a process. Then, we can take it from there.


Many of them are also intoxicated with this whole feminist stuff. See, as I am, I can cook by myself and I probably don't need a wife who knows how to cook. But do you know what? I’ve had female friends who are East Africans, black Americans, and whites who cook Nigerian food and give them to me. My friends who date these foreigners enjoy Nigerian food made by these foreign girls.

Yet, our Nigerian ”sisters” will be shouting up and down that it is not their duty to cook in the family. I know how to cook but I also want a wife who is homely. If I don't see these qualities in any girl of Nigerian descent but the qualities are present in a Kenyan girl or a white girl, why should I marry a Nigerian girl? The incentive is not there! Some foreign girls even embody Naija qualities than the so-called Naija girls.



Cc lionlee216

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:36pm On Sep 08, 2020
Petyprincess:
Too much generalisation nd bashing of Nigerian ladies on this forum! Even those that married old white granny or African American single mum with multiple baby daddies for green card will still bash Nigerian women grin

Op don't be scared or worried,dnt let anyone make you feel Nigerian ladies aren't desirable in foreign country! As long as you not conversative about your culture you will definitely get a man,forget all stories they putting up here, upon "I don't do Nigerian girls" they still sending pms to same Nigerian women!

They love bashing Nigerian girls because they know the abroad based ones with green card are wise nd can easily know their intentions unlike desperate AA Or white granny!


Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:41pm On Sep 08, 2020
Mbdovey:
what if what she told you was true?

When you're always comparing the white with Nigerian's women, you will always find fault in them.


What he meant was that if you tell a Nigerian girl that you don't know how to drive yet or that you just arrived here, she will stop chatting with you because she thinks you are below her standard. But a foreign babe will still try to accommodate you and grow with you.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:43pm On Sep 08, 2020
azmanaty02:


Are you talking of the Nigerian men that are always killing their Nigerian wives?


There are hundreds of thousands of Nigerian men in North America. How many of them have killed their wives? 10 incidents out of over 200,000 scenarios is statistically insignificant.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Crispels(m): 9:46pm On Sep 08, 2020
thebosstrevor1:



they are looking for papers that is why

So, every Nigerian who dates outside of his race needs a green card? I’ve been in the US for years now and most of my friends who married whites or African Americans are already US citizens who don't need any freakin green card. So, if I marry a white girl now, it automatically means I need papers?

The issue here has to do with the way Nigerian girls abroad treat guys during their lows.

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:48pm On Sep 08, 2020
Crispels:


So, every Nigerian who dates outside of his race needs a green card? I’ve been in the US for years now and most of my friends who married whites or African Americans are already US citizens who don't need any freakin green card. So, if I marry a white girl now, it automatically means I need papers?

The issue here has to do with the way Nigerian girls abroad treat guys during their lows.

Many are into that green card levels, you wont deny it

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Re: Is It Really Difficult To Find A Life Partner In US Or Canada? by Nobody: 9:49pm On Sep 08, 2020
lefulefu2:
if he is doing well for himself he wouldnt need to hustle for an old foreign woman.Its like tell me a nigerian who is a practicing medical doctor in canada will now be hustling for one old granny to marry cos of papers.wont make sense.the ones who run after oyibo grannies are mostly the street hustlers and wen i say street hustler u know what i mean.

Most started with marrying a white or black for papers then they focused on getting qualification that is the focused ones

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