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Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by 1b8m: 3:37pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Izabel:I'm not the type anybody can complete, all the feats I achieved I achieved alone. If independent was a man it would be me. I just don't understand how a woman rendered me hopeless by the mere thought of life without her. That's the point, how did that happen? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by SocialJustice: 3:37pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
SegFault:I thought igbo women were happy being sit at home wives. The man worked while she took care of the home and enjoyed her husband's money. Women need to wake up and have their own income. It is hard to do it while taking care of the home at the same time though. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by folu4real(f): 3:41pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Klass99: And yet the woman still cover him up by lying he is a nice man. The thing some of we married woman do in other to paint our husband well hen. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Nobody: 3:41pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
SocialJustice:My mom isn't that kind of person, she was a free spirited person before she met my dad, even when she was married to him she sold cakes but my father's constant abuse because of that put an end to that dream. That's why I don't believe in marriage. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by pweeryambre: 3:41pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Zimzy:Nice one, and from what i see, most of our generation are gonna do better in parenting activities (not necessarily marriage) than our parents did. Though Our parents did better in staying together in marriage for long time but not necessarily in parenting, which has really affected most of youths in many ways. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by ADUKKY(f): 3:42pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
I grew up in a abusive home. My dad would beat my mum such that nobody not even our tenants will look our side. To make it worse, i began to feel inferior among my peers whose parents never do that. As i grew older, I'll pray to God everyday to please give me a man who will understand me and never resort to abuse or violence to resolve marital issues and He answered my prayer. That shit will mess a child up in everyway you can think of. My neighbour and his wife are another typical example, it is always a test of whose voice is the loudest once they start unfortunately their children are towing same path using unprintable words on each other. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by angelfallz(m): 3:43pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Klass99: You have put all the blame on the man, however, from what you have described it is Not entirely the man's fault. A discerning woman who knows how her husband behaves and even goes as far calling him nice, would not respond to his insults or rude behaviour. You see, one of the reasons couples have problems in marriages is because the wife usually rises to the bait. I've heard of women(through sermons) who have husbands that shout at every single turn, but the wives refuse to rise to the bait, when the man realises that he is the only mad person in the house he keeps shut. i know a woman personally whose husband is hot tempered any small thing he is angry, they have been married for years, how is she able to cope, well she does not reply him. She even said the man is even calm now, when they were younger he was worse. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Observer007(m): 3:43pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
BluntNigerian: Front page worthy. You have done well with this post. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Hugo55(m): 3:46pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
emeijeh: That is because the supposedly love is KARMA. Life is balancing of karma. What brings people together most times is karma. People are here to settle their karma both good and bad karma. That is why, sometimes you see a gentle cool man gets marry to a "wicked" woman, then the fights, argument, shouting and all source of things start happening. it is vice versa .Its deeper than what we see with the physical eyes. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Vulcan24(m): 3:56pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Trouble at home started after my jss3, I dropped academically cos I was either thinking too much or scared of some hours of the day. Despite my drop I still made science class list but was academically dysfunctional but still I was brilliant. I left home immidiately after sec school and my intelligence bloom, my uni I was a star but still av d scar cos I still hear bad need from home After uni, I couldn't get parental support for a job so I missed good opportunities but still cos I was sharp I still land s good start and job At work I became a star but home still brings it's trauma, till the cause of all the issues died (father) This reprieve shoots up my concentration and intelligence that I got varied appointment in places. U see bad home may not leave ones mind but it's a reality one has to live with Today marriage is good but still has its own travails. Life's a tough road 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by SocialJustice: 4:04pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
SegFault:Lol, how does it relate? Marriage is sweet with the right person for you. Are you male or female? If female then you have to only settle for guys who will allow you do your business. Cutting a woman's source of income is how men render women useless and dependent on them. |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by molbic(m): 4:05pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
it's true I lived with an uncle who occasionally fight and quarrels with the wife and each time they quarrels the one at fault wouldn't want to apologise and they will be keeping malice, the wife will be coming home early cook eat and go to sleep while the husband will be coming home late in the night and will be going out as early as 5am when he doesn't have any cause to go out that early because he's a trader.During those times I and my second will be at the receiving end of their fight while their malice lasts because sometimes they don't talk to each other for about a month or even more whilst living under the same roof and the husband don't normally eat at home during those times and the wife will mandate us to collecting money for food gas even the children' s school fees or any money at all and Any time we failed to collect the money or the husband refused to give the money na big wahala for me and my second be that oh . The worse is that the wife is well to do and most of the time they quarrels she doesn't give a damn about reconciliation ,at the beginning of every school section she will give me money to pay for her children's school fees and she will mandate me not to collect my school fees from my uncle until I collect her children s school fees which she had already paid before i talk about mine 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Ghostmode2two(m): 4:07pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Many children from these kinds of homes will become very violent as well when they finally get married and start raising children of their own 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Izabel(f): 4:19pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
1b8m:Cause you've built your world around her. Start by obliterating that wall, the mere thought that she's married and cheating on her husband with you should be enough motivation for you. Let's assume she leaves her husband for you (which is a rare possibility) she would cheat on you too with the next person that catches her fancy. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by angelfallz(m): 4:19pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
GreaterFuture1: i strongly reject this claim. |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Nobody: 4:25pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
SocialJustice:Marriage always ends the same way, let's not go there. I am a man by the way. 1 Like |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Nobody: 4:25pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
oluwaseyi0: It must not be divorce, the couples can just separate from each other instead of divorcing. Because divorce will result in child custody battles which still hurt the children emotionally. For me, I am a strong advocate of separation. Instead of emotionally abusing the kids from constant quarrels, they should just leave their lives separately!! 1 Like |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Klass99(f): 4:31pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
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Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by SocialJustice: 4:37pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
SegFault:Lol, OK. |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by pocohantas(f): 4:39pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Klass99: Your neighbors would kill themselves one day o. Make one of them get sense and commot for the wrestling ring na. If his wife calls him a nice man, despite knowing that you hear them fight- then he is indeed nice in some way. Probably a good father, but not the best husband. Their case is still salvageable, I like to think it is. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Exmilitant(m): 4:41pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
My father and mother fought each other everyday. Me and my brothers would sit quietly and watch them make a mess of themselves publicly. Their palavar wasn't our business. We weren't affected in anyways whatsoever. Though they stayed married till the end. 1 Like
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Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by vickydevoka(m): 4:46pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Almunjid:U are right though, buh some women wants jst kid |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by abbey621(m): 4:46pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
We live in a soft generation of overpampered souls and weak psychological entities. If life/marriage was simple then it would be a fairy tale, people can fight, argue etc, there's nothing emotionally damaging about it as long as they reconcile and allow the good times to outweigh the bad times. A 2 year old kid will not remember NADA! Heck I barely remember anything before my 6th birthday. Furthermore, if seeing parents fight scars children for life then such children would be crushed by the harsh realities of life! From failing a class to broken hearts, from stress on the job to having a family of their own. Life is not a bed of roses and rather than raising a physically and emotionally weak child through over sensitivity training, I would rather the child experience life as it is and be better prepared to tackle ANYTHING! 4 Likes |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Klass99(f): 5:03pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
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Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by GreaterFuture1(m): 5:10pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
angelfallz:There is no "Claim" there. What do you disagree with or "reject"? |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by luminouz(m): 5:15pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Klass99:Aproko woman |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by pocohantas(f): 5:19pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Klass99: Lol, but it is true na. It is one thing to be a good father, another to a good husband. It is tough to be both. If he is paying the fees, rent and all, the woman would see him as a good father, she would find a way to manage the deficit on her end. Nigerians underrate therapies. They think the solution to every is prayer(s). I wish they can talk to someone, not a religious leader please. Those ones will just tell the woman to pray and submit more. Love is never enough, sometimes the flimsiest thing may not align and you just have to do the needed when it is still early. It doesn’t make the other person bad, he/she is just not good for you. Peace of mind is every... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Amotolongbo(f): 5:21pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
GreaterFuture1: Oh sorry about that bro. And many of these teachers had their own problems they were nursing which could be worse than yours 1 Like |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by Karlifate: 5:30pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
Izabel:Seconded. Learn from (your parents) history... Don't let it repeat itself in your own life. Cc: 1b8m |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by dvson1: 5:37pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
I still carry the emotional trauma, shame and pain of this singular act of my parent , I don't even know how well to relate to people, there's nothing so bad or sad that moves me... .. in fact when they talk to me now (something that is of advantage to me) their word irritates me 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Parents Who Always Fight Are Abusing Their Children Emotionally by fablani(m): 5:44pm On Sep 09, 2020 |
very true, I suffered this. My children won't suffer it in Jesus name, Amen 2 Likes 1 Share |
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