Well, that friend is you, we all know.
I won't still advice you because you will not come back to tell us how they sorted things out.

kingemaker:
Good morning my NL people.

I usually don't do this but I've been forced to create this thread because my friend (a lady) needs my advice on the subject.

She met this cool dude about two years ago, they started dating after 2 months or thereabouts and everything has been fine with them.

Dude has a good career and she's also doing very well for herself. A couple of days back, she ran into some of his documents and realized that she is 5 years older than him she confirmed this via a photocopy of his international passport, WAEC certificate and Jamb documents; his DOB was consistent in all.

I advised her to confront him, at least to hear his own part of the story (because I'm aware so many Nigerians tend to reduce their "official" ages). But she insisted that that wasn't the case because she remembered when her boyfriend's elder brother in the US once celebrated his birthday with a cake with "**** at 29" inscription. She saw the photos on IG late last year and she was confused but decided to shrug it off thinking it could be a mistake.

As of this moment, she feels the dude must be hiding some other things from her, she's so broken right now.

I'll be expecting your input guys.

I don't mind if you help push this to the promised land.

Thanks

very good

Let her go and rest.....na age she wan chop abi na the guy Dyck

Yeye dey smell....


Make she kukuma go find her age since na age she wan use determine her happiness..

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well, sometimes it's good to tell lies,but they ought to be told as at when necessary...

ok,oya just imagine this...a lady I met about three years ago lied to that she was doing her masters in uniben whereas she wasn't....I quickly countered her by saying "I did mine at Unibunk".

the mugu no get time to ask me where Unibunk was....up till now I still dey laugh whenever I remember that encounter.....she never knew I was talking about "bunkery"....as in University of bunkery....

Cooked and fried story

Ahmad62:
Have I not seen this kind story before in nairaland?

Sure.

And as a matter of fact, this will definitely not be the last time you will be seeing it right here on Nairaland.

kingemaker:
Good morning my NL people.

I usually don't do this but I've been forced to create this thread because my friend (a lady) needs my advice on the subject.

She met this cool dude about two years ago, they started dating after 2 months or thereabouts and everything has been fine with them.

Dude has a good career and she's also doing very well for herself. A couple of days back, she ran into some of his documents and realized that she is 5 years older than him she confirmed this via a photocopy of his international passport, WAEC certificate and Jamb documents; his DOB was consistent in all.

I advised her to confront him, at least to hear his own part of the story (because I'm aware so many Nigerians tend to reduce their "official" ages). But she insisted that that wasn't the case because she remembered when her boyfriend's elder brother in the US once celebrated his birthday with a cake with "**** at 29" inscription. She saw the photos on IG late last year and she was confused but decided to shrug it off thinking it could be a mistake.

As of this moment, she feels the dude must be hiding some other things from her, she's so broken right now.

I'll be expecting your input guys.

I don't mind if you help push this to the promised land.

Thanks

Na football age the guy dey use o

kingemaker:
Good morning my NL people.

I usually don't do this but I've been forced to create this thread because my friend (a lady) needs my advice on the subject.

She met this cool dude about two years ago, they started dating after 2 months or thereabouts and everything has been fine with them.

Dude has a good career and she's also doing very well for herself. A couple of days back, she ran into some of his documents and realized that she is 5 years older than him she confirmed this via a photocopy of his international passport, WAEC certificate and Jamb documents; his DOB was consistent in all.

I advised her to confront him, at least to hear his own part of the story (because I'm aware so many Nigerians tend to reduce their "official" ages). But she insisted that that wasn't the case because she remembered when her boyfriend's elder brother in the US once celebrated his birthday with a cake with "**** at 29" inscription. She saw the photos on IG late last year and she was confused but decided to shrug it off thinking it could be a mistake.

As of this moment, she feels the dude must be hiding some other things from her, she's so broken right now.

I'll be expecting your input guys.

I don't mind if you help push this to the promised land.

Thanks

He lied. true. What matters is the intention towards it. He may have lied because he was scared to lose her due to age difference.

They should discuss. Then she should observe his reason and countenance. People adjust their age for several reasons. The reason should justify the motive.

It's not just about guys. Girls too sabi lie about their age. In fact I made it a standard not to ask an opposite sex about their age.

For the guy to stick with her even with the age difference really means he loves her...na the guy suppose even feel somehow based on the age gap not the lady

Hmmm

kingemaker:

Exactly, she's not so worried about the age difference. The guy looks older than the said age (maybe the beards) and acts like a real man. Her major concern is the trust.

For the question, I don't think I'll be able to forgive my girlfriend if we are to reverse the case. Thanks for your input.

your friend your friend, nothing dey happen to una?

Una go dey look for problem when there's non, she don find one, abeg make she handle am. One even left her husband bcuz of dis same issue with a kid.
Husband begged taya she said no. I told my neighbour not to disturb himself after calling people to intervene and she's still adamant. Nonsense.
Love can make people do unimaginable things, what if he lied to her bcuz of luv? Na age she wan chop? D guy is cool so what else?

TheChameleon:
A friend once said this:

"I did the same exact thing once, a gal I genuinely loved left me after finding out.

I am currently doing it with a babe 3 years older. I feel what she doesnt know can't hurt her.

The truth is, the moment she knows...her attitude would change. "

Doing the same things and expecting different results is madness

Only an idiot would believe this story iswrrr

EmzyT:
We all know "Age is just a Number" but he shouldn't have lied about it anyway........

To the lady, if he was to be so Rich, would you be here complaining about his age? You would've even loved him for being younger

Anyway, follow your heart

Did they ask about both age before they started dating?

kingemaker:


No, they started dating 2 months after they met two years ago. Meaning, dude has been keeping this lie to himself since that time.

Maybe he thought the girl wouldn't date him if she knew his real age... Or perhaps he may not gain some respects from her.
Some Nigerian girls are fond of looking down on guys they are older than, such that she may not want to greet him first for instance, or be ordering him around etc.
All these can hurt his ego should he imagine them.

So some people still care about age in this 21 century ..... According to you the guy is now 30 years and your friend is 5 years older than he boyfriend which means she is 35 years... Am not sorry to say this, your most be stupid o... She is still single at 35 and she care about age by now.... Who is going to lose

Depends on his background and where he comes from.

His name and all those documents and certificates may belong to a dead relative.

This kind of fraud is not uncommon with Nigerians from certain states.

They take jobs usually far away from their home states with a fake identity.

Okuda:

your friend your friend, nothing dey happen to una?

lol my chest my chest

Cmanforall:

Maybe he thought the girl won't date her if she realised she's older than him... Or he may not get some respects from her.
Some Nigerian girls are fond of looking down on a guy they are older than. E.g. she may not want to greet him first.
She may start looking at him as her junior... which can hurt his ego.

Keep on trying. Your English will improve in sha Allah

You haven't even told us the
real problem, but you want advice..


Did the dude reduce or did he
inflate his age?




Anyway, she should feel honored
that the dude is dating a 'cargo' of
her type... Kassava no dey discriminate
against kpekus..

Age does nt mean anyting o. Love is the bone of contention.

Small080:
So some people still care about age in this 21 century ..... According to you the guy is now 30 years and your friend is 5 years older than he boyfriend which means she is 35 years... Am not sorry to say this, your most be stupid o... She is still single at 35 and she care about age by now.... Who is going to lose

You can calculate o...

This means if the girl is not interested, let her leave and find her agemate.
It seems the guy wanted the girl, but doesn't want to be taken as a younger brother kinda level.

And from the look of things, she has a good job. And probably has been selective till she met this guy at 33.

But guys and ladies, be honest in your relationships, a lady or guy that will stay, will stay.
Lies hurt!

Your friend is just being insecure because she is older than him I don't think she is a feminist.. now consider this scenario; He lied that he was 2 yrs older than her and she later found out he was actually 6 yrs older than her, will she be perturbed? the answer is NO and she would also not consider it as an act of distrust ..

Confusion who is really older the dude or the girl ,from your write up "some days later she ran into some documents and discover he is 5 years older " it is better for a man to be older than the wife. The problem is wife older than her husband people will say you marry your mother or sister

Cmanforall:


You can calculate o...

This means if the girl is not interested, let her leave and find her agemate.
It seems the guy wanted the girl, but doesn't want to be taken as a younger brother kinda level.

And from the look of things, she has a good job. And probably has been selective till she met this guy at 33

33 ke... Biko at 35 ...... When dey tell them to marry on time dey no go hear, too late to get married for woman now ..35, she still complain about age, she is the One to reduce her yeye age abeg

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

Broken? Just two months?

If she can't confront him to hear his story she should quit, since she can't over look the age.

Over looking the age is not a problem here like he stated but she is scared because the guy might be hiding something from her.