pocohantas:


[s]Of course they are good women. When a woman shows her husband love and makes sacrifices for him = virtuous woman.

When a man does same= SIMP!!!

Kudos to all the virtuous women out there. NL Alfa males love and appreciate you all. May they learn to reciprocate the love you give them[/s].

Olunmercy56:
I'll definitely buy it for him. He will be glad to take those gifts from me, our children will be happy to. I don't see anything wrong in that, since he is not lazy

Alexaonfleek:
Nawa for u ooo.
Their combined income will barely buy that your phone.

BigJoe29:
If those women can leave Nairaland for good, you would start seeing sensible comments from the women here.

merieam16:
Then he's nt serious and his beginning to envy his wife which is a trace of entitlement

Timekeeper:



Will u buy it then? Alex that is fleeing

Missis:
Assuming you are married to a man who works as self employed selling some wholesale items that fetch him 70k every month and you have three kids with him.

Meanwhile you the wife work in a private institution earning 60k as well as selling things online that fetch very little like 10k to 15k everymonth.

So you have adviced him to get something else doing to augment your joint income because the money both of you make is barely enough for both of you and three children. You suggest you both need to add more sources of income to your present jobs to move ahead in life and advance, send your children to better schools, maybe build a house, to just upgrade yourselves generally.

So after suggesting different jobs for him he refused to do anything else except his wholesale business because he believes one day he will suddenly make it big from selling his market.

You give up and start your own third business which is part time catering and start making some considerable amount of money from it so you buy new clothes, shoes, nice snacks for your kids from time to time.

Your husband sees all this and tells you to also buy gifts for him from your 'plenty' money. Tells you to not buy new things for only your kids but you should buy also add his own.

How will you react please?

This isn't a made up story please. It's very true, I just want to know if the way I responded was reasonable or if I was wrong.

dingbang:
still young girls I believe. The ones commenting here are matured enough.

Missssii:


Correct me if I’m wrong but I thought the point of starting a third business was to have enough money to secure the future. What’s with the gifts and nice things? That money should be saved and be frugally spent to ensure you both have enough for a rainy day.

I’m very skeptical about a man who is fine with manning just one business but wants “gifts” from his wife’s third stream of income. That’s very off and unmotivated. I personally will not be happy running three businesses when we can both manage five or even six. Nigeria is too tough to not diverse funds and hustle at every given opportunity.

I love it when couples build together and I’ll suggest you both sit down and put that money in a place where you both can not access it for now. So that it can be used for a building project for the family or the ever increasing cost of education for the kids. Also, speak calmly and let him know you believe in him but he needs to try out another business in addition to his own. You can tell him Dangote produces salt, juice and cement at the same time. Don’t be confrontational but be loving and firm.

This is my opinion which you are very free to discard.

Kendumazy:
This is not an issue at all. Women should do away with the mentality of "Men are meant to suffer for them"

When men makes more money, they take care of their entire family which is the wife and children and not the children alone. The same should be applicable to women.

Ladies, take care of we your husbands too. We are not suffer head

pocohantas:


Of course they are good women. When a woman shows her husband love and makes sacrifices for him = virtuous woman.

When a man does same= SIMP!!!

Kudos to all the virtuous women out there. NL Alfa males love and appreciate you all. May they learn to reciprocate the love you give them.





Heya. He wants every woman to lick his ass, sorry o, we are here to pepper men like you.



Cry cry baby, you want to see your mummy...

Gloriagee:
He sounds entitled in my opinion

BigJoe29:
Ok I have heard, I am a cry baby. Are you happy now? Just swerve! Where good women are making sensible comments you dey here they showcase incredible stupidity

Gloriagee:
He sounds entitled in my opinion

pocohantas:


It is very easy to be a good woman na. The handbook to hooking a Nigerian man is same. You can always decide to change after getting the ring, last last he will come create thread on NL.

Sometimes I also type very virtuous comments and watch the likes/compliments pour in. No be NL guys? Toor!!!

I advise the OP to buy it for him, buy it o.

Alexaonfleek:
Ah ah.
I just find it funny that you were trying to convince the op to buy your phone .

Ishilove:
He has started asked my for gifts because she supposedly has 'plenty money'. Next is to start shifting a bulk of the burden to her little by little until op will suddenly find herself bearing most to the bills.

Ishilove:
He has started asked my for gifts because she supposedly has 'plenty money'. Next is to start shifting a bulk of the burden to her little by little until op will suddenly find herself bearing most to the bills.

pocohantas:


[s]Lol. Isn’t it ironic that you all can identify toxic women like me, but somehow your posts are filled with relationship woes of dating materialistic wandering Nigerian girls? The ones that made you start swallowing red pills? [/s]

nahzyla:
Supposing a woman is the one demanding gifts from her husband who works three jobs and takes care of chores and kids and you will have read one million insults on this thread by now.

Many Nigerian women are just so senseless, enjoy your oppression and patriarchy.

MMXX:
See your shameless thought.. He now envies his beloved wife because of her increased earning smh

You forget that this is marriage and whatever is good for the woman is good for the family and vice versa..

if you reason like this then "Woe unto that man that picks you for marriage".

merieam16:
U er very stupid for that statement . Did i quote? u asked me a question and i honored u by answering u and airing my opinion, if i choose to ignore will u beat me for that. The least u chould do is to oppose wat i said nt insult.


I thought u were sensible that y i replied u. rubbish

merieam16:
U er very stupid for that statement . Did i quote? u asked me a question and i honored u by answering u and airing my opinion, if i choose to ignore will u beat me for that. The least u chould do is to oppose wat i said nt insult.


I thought u were sensible that y i replied u. rubbish