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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by ThaThinka: 4:52pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
AnonymousRebec: Open am make we see. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 7:50pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
ThaThinka: . I don't want to open my portfolio here except the need arises |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Nobody: 7:53pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: You're welcome |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by dep07(f): 8:44pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:l like your courage.You are a very confident young Lady. @Op, please don't forget to send Nairalanders wedding invite. Congrats in advance. I quoted the wrong person. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by DAramis: 2:25am On Sep 19, 2020 |
It was an interesting read from the first page though the thread was derailed at some point. The beauty of a forum is the ability to see things from different perspectives of individuals rather than one perspective. I wish the Op well in his quest and may it be easy for him as he seeks out that which his heart seeks. As for the West, time shall come they will simply move back to stone age but they should be kind enough to keep other continents out of it. My only advice is this: Everyone has standards classified into Major and minor ones but there may be a situation where you will need to chip off one or two things from the minor list and work towards actualizing his or her aim without losing out entirely. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 4:50am On Sep 19, 2020 |
DAramis:Thanks for your suggestions, would you mind being more explicit ? |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by DAramis: 4:56pm On Sep 19, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: I mean, the major standard could be: Good woman, honest woman, respectful, easy going etc. On the otherhand, minor standard could be being maximum of 26 years, slim shaped, graduate, prayerful, from rich family etc. In this 2 standards, you might not meet all the standards in one woman. you need to chip off some while still working towards actualizing your aim without losing out. For example, you might meet a woman who is less than 26years, slimed shape, but not from a rich family, not prayerful, respectful, honest, not a graduate etc. If you notice, the woman met some standards which you might have wanted and miss other ones, while another woman above 26years (probably 28 or 29 yrs) who met most of the standards more than the first woman but unfortunately age knocked her off. It is now left for you to look between the two ladies and decide on which one to follow while still actualizing your aim which is to marry a woman that will give you piece of mind and free from nagging attitude. You being a quiet person (according to you), the worst thing that will happen to you will be to marry a nagging woman. Your 10 years peace which you have achieved over the years would be wiped out in less than 2 months. Na wah, see as I dey write epistle on top this matter. Abeg no vex say I write long epistle. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by DayTen: 10:02pm On Sep 19, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror: |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by ecolime(m): 6:40am On Sep 20, 2020 |
@OP Being abroad shouldn't be your sole selling point. What type of person are you? What is your faith, tribe and value system? |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by dingbang(m): 6:46am On Sep 20, 2020 |
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Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Justkatty(f): 12:01pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Seeing this post made me realize that, there are still men who look beyond the physical appearance before approaching a lady, though my advice maybe coming late but notwithstanding I'll still chip in my little advice. Don't allow that mind set of I'm established already to make you lost your ordain spouse think about it. Obrigado |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 11:19pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
ecolime: I am the type of person that values marriage and a quiet life. I do not smoke, drink or womanise. I am actually the type you'd call a church boy. I dream for a respectful wife whom I can love and adore and build a family with. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 11:19pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
Justkatty:Kindly explain the bolded . |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Jotrade: 11:24pm On Sep 20, 2020 |
My guy the best advice I can give to you is to look for a very nice girl in which country you are base. I am a Nigerian living in Canada am talking from experience. Ninety percent of the people I know who went back home to get married later regrets that decision. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by GuyInTheMirror: 4:59am On Sep 21, 2020 |
Jotrade:Thanks bro , when they went back home did they make it know that they were a sure ticket to the abroad or did they behave like a regular Nigerian. I am quite certain most of this people met these ladies online or they were recommended to them by people and this ladies already knew they were based abroad so it was easy for those ladies to pretend. What do you think ? |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by RuggedSniper: 5:32am On Sep 21, 2020 |
elektra:^^^Aha! Small town churches/religious groups are notoriously insular. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by ecolime(m): 6:09am On Sep 21, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:I can link you up with a decent lady that meets your spec. The only issue I see here is the high age disparity. Let me know if you are interested. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by RuggedSniper: 7:18am On Sep 21, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:^^^36 is NOT too old to get married for men as men still married for the first time right up to 50 for many reasons. It is not how long but how well. There are Nigerian/African churches and Nigerian cultural associations in major U.S. And UK cities for social networking and for referrals, etc. Last but not least, I'm in sync with your option #3. All the best. |
Re: Advise Needed For A Young Man About Marriage. by Justkatty(f): 7:22pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
GuyInTheMirror:what I'm saying in essence is that, you should be mindful when choosing a partner. I pray God help you as you plan entering a new phase of life. Obrigado |
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