pocohantas:


He isn’t entitled, he is a USER! The only reason guys are not seeing it is because he is a MAN.

That is why I pity women who use emotions to follow Nigerian men. You will stress yourself and help him save money. Money he will use to pursue girls that haven’t stressed away their youthfulness and feminity.

OP had a baby last year and here she is, doing 3 jobs to provide for herself and kids. I can imagine her blouse dropping off her shoulders. She has been seriously complaining of this same husband. He doesn’t give her money, except she asks and he doesn’t buy her gifts. She also stated that she is beginning to resent him and that is not surprising. Any man that allows his wife/woman do what OP is doing, would definitely get RESENTED. She might succeed in hiding her disgust, but the passive aggressiveness would be there.

Men provide for women because men expect women to have kids, take care of the home, submit, support, position in bed...etc. It is not because they are nice. The only nice man is your father!! After him, if you don’t behave well to a Nigerian husband, you go collect.

pocohantas:


He isn’t entitled, he is a USER! The only reason guys are not seeing it is because he is a MAN.

That is why I pity women who use emotions to follow Nigerian men. You will stress yourself and help him save money. Money he will use to pursue girls that haven’t stressed away their youthfulness and feminity.

OP had a baby last year and here she is, doing 3 jobs to provide for herself and kids. I can imagine her blouse dropping off her shoulders. She has been seriously complaining of this same husband. He doesn’t give her money, except she asks and he doesn’t buy her gifts. She also stated that she is beginning to resent him and that is not surprising. Any man that allows his wife/woman do what OP is doing, would definitely get RESENTED. She might succeed in hiding her disgust, but the passive aggressiveness would be there.

Men provide for women because men expect women to have kids, take care of the home, submit, support, position in bed...etc. It is not because they are nice. The only nice man is your father!! After him, if you don’t behave well to a Nigerian husband, you go collect.

Missis:
Sorry for long post by the way, thanks for reading and responding.

LINTUNE:
im sure u are talking about zzor

nahzyla:



@last paragraph, that is so true.
OP did not give full details of how her marriage is that is why she is now receiving mumu advice from women who think marriage is Telemundo or Korean love series.

Sagefromtheeast:


You spend too much time on nairaland. While I perceive you have a good head on your shoulders, I hope what you do here doesn't spill into your real life.
It'd be a total mess.

Alennsar:


Ayiiiii. If this is the case then I don't see any reason for her to start buying gifts for her husband, he should kindly buy himself a gift from the money he refused to spend on his wife and children.

Gloriagee:
He sounds entitled in my opinion

Gloriagee:
He sounds entitled in my opinion

pocohantas:


Hhahahahaha, leave them. When the NL accolades are over, body go tell them. You want to be the woman and the man at the same time.

Oga Accurate Timekeeper, what I spill here is what it is and my life is FINE!!! I am not the one working three jobs to feed a grown man!! There is no single part of me that wants to be your favourite NL wife-material. It ends in TEARS and STRESS. Just like OP is already crying. Lmao!!

Michelle55:
Before the kids, he came first. He was your first baby and therefore needs a little pamper and then a nudge to set him in the right direction you want him to follow.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in buying him gifts from your profits, trust me, those little gestures from you might just be what he needs to take up the challenge of sourcing for another source of income, and everything for life no be gragra or fight. There are some things your wisdom and insight can solve.

Men are babies as well and deserve to be pampered, they ain't meant to suffer till they die while providing for the family, God gave you to him for this singular reason, help him harness his potentials, he is lazy and can't seem to think ahead and the reason you are there in his life is to help him see what he can't see, but you are expected to do it politely and lovingly.

So there's nothing to react here my sister, he's your first baby before the mini ones started popping out so treat him right.

Your sweet gestures and nudge will help reset his thinking faculty!!

sapporo:




why not stick to the story and put sentiment asides, Op might av insinuate making more money buh she insinuated anytin that relates to sacrifice, there collective income sustains d family , also from her story her xtra income are spent on herself & kids. that a woman makes more money doesnt mean she foot more of d bills sometimes
sacrifice is what you forgo @ your very own detriment just to make someone happy .... so from all what Op said where did she sacrifice for d man, if she buys c'mon mr biggs snacks for her children n can't include her husband what sacrifice could she possibly made. if my wife comes home every day buyin eatables 4 d kids & herself, i will joking remind her am her baby tew .. no hard feelings that is how it should be. speaking of gift i don't see why OP needs to open a thread or she planning to buy him a car or house. gift could be boxers & byc singlet

Nairaboi:

Na dem be this .. .

emmyN:


Don't be so fast . There is a bandwagon effect on nairaland; the first few comments determine where the tide faces, only until someone is bold enough to break it. That aside, we all know ladies on nairaland are only "effeminist" when they use the site .

Michelle55:
Before the kids, he came first. He was your first baby and therefore needs a little pamper and then a nudge to set him in the right direction you want him to follow.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in buying him gifts from your profits, trust me, those little gestures from you might just be what he needs to take up the challenge of sourcing for another source of income, and everything for life no be gragra or fight. There are some things your wisdom and insight can solve.

Men are babies as well and deserve to be pampered, they ain't meant to suffer till they die while providing for the family, God gave you to him for this singular reason, help him harness his potentials, he is lazy and can't seem to think ahead and the reason you are there in his life is to help him see what he can't see, but you are expected to do it politely and lovingly.

So there's nothing to react here my sister, he's your first baby before the mini ones started popping out so treat him right.

Your sweet gestures and nudge will help reset his thinking faculty!!

Gloriagee:
She sacrifices by working 3 jobs and the house chores. It cant be that difficult to understand. Assuming, he were supportive it won't be a big deal to her to buy him gifts like shoes and clothes for the children. Does he help with her online biz? Does he hold forte while she has to do her catering runs? The mere fact that she has to create a thread should give you an idea that she doesn't think he deserves a gift. Also, go through her thread history and show some empathy.

nahzyla:


@accurate time keeper

This is why I don't bother myself with gender equality battles on Nairaland, many women are DELUSIONAL!

They don't understand how men reason and will never understand but rather deceive themselves. I am 100% sure if a man was in OP shoes no single man will support and encourage buying gifts but nairaland girls want praise and want to look like wife material without knowing how life works. A man that should be breadwinner is demanding his wife buy gifts like a sugar mummy with all the stress she is facing and women are here typing nonsense.
Only when women are taking bad treatment and sacrificing heaven and earth that they are wife material. If a man sacrifices like that for his wife he will be mocked.

Michelle55:
Before the kids, he came first. He was your first baby and therefore needs a little pamper and then a nudge to set him in the right direction you want him to follow.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in buying him gifts from your profits, trust me, those little gestures from you might just be what he needs to take up the challenge of sourcing for another source of income, and everything for life no be gragra or fight. There are some things your wisdom and insight can solve.

Men are babies as well and deserve to be pampered, they ain't meant to suffer till they die while providing for the family, God gave you to him for this singular reason, help him harness his potentials, he is lazy and can't seem to think ahead and the reason you are there in his life is to help him see what he can't see, but you are expected to do it politely and lovingly.

So there's nothing to react here my sister, he's your first baby before the mini ones started popping out so treat him right.

Your sweet gestures and nudge will help reset his thinking faculty!!

dingbang:
and she doesn't deserve a husband.. Maybe if she can't water her garden, God will take it away from her and give it to another woman who has wisdom and love.

pocohantas:

Few weeks back there was a thread on a man complaining of his unenterprising wife. He was asked to cut off the source. Make her understand lack, that way she is gingered to work. Men give themselves the best advice because men love peace way more than women. I like them for that and the only advice I apply from a man is that which he would have given another man.

pocohantas:


Lol. Yes na, he is accurate Tim..ekeeper. I wonder why he thinks I care.

Few weeks back there was a thread on a man complaining of his unenterprising wife. He was asked to cut off the source. Make her understand lack, that way she is gingered to work. Men give themselves the best advice because men love peace way more than women. I like them for that and the only advice I apply from a man is that which he would have given another man.

nahzyla:


@accurate time keeper

This is why I don't bother myself with gender equality battles on Nairaland, many women are DELUSIONAL!

They don't understand how men reason and will never understand but rather deceive themselves. I am 100% sure if a man was in OP shoes no single man will support and encourage buying gifts but nairaland girls want praise and want to look like wife material without knowing how life works. A man that should be breadwinner is demanding his wife buy gifts like a sugar mummy with all the stress she is facing and women are here typing nonsense.
Only when women are taking bad treatment and sacrificing heaven and earth that they are wife material. If a man sacrifices like that for his wife he will be mocked.

AFvckingAlpha:
The fvck
Niggarr!!

The main reason niggarrs got to step up the hustle.

I can't overemphasize the need for niggarrs to hustle.

Hustle o! So if tomorrow reach, you no go come nairaland dey open yeye thread on woman buying things for you as a man.

You dey give the woman power to ridicule you be that.

E be things o!

I go open account for you for Meet Me at 5k worth of BTC. Pm me if your interested.

For the last time, my people make una hustle o! Even girls dey bomb now. Make girl dey ask for update and you boy dey beg online.

Level up!!

Alennsar:

I don't think it's shameful to ask your wife for a gift, the same way the wife ask their husband's for gifts.
It's a vice versa thing if you ask me and there's probably nothing bad in reciprocating your husband love and generosity.
#MyOpinionThough#

pocohantas:


OP is a virtuous woman, try and be like her. Abi you no want NL horseband?

Timekeeper:



Pls can U stop mentioning me?

It's tiring

simplepee:
I want o.

Horseband needed urgently, I can cook, I can work 5 jobs and I can buy gifts, interested persons should dm me I'm getting old please.

pocohantas:


Lol. You never sell this your phone? You should also show the battery health. That is very important too.

pocohantas:





You will definitely get one on NL. Na your type them like. Add submissiveness to it and you are good to go. A nurturing virtuous woman, who can resist?

midolian:
You don't get the point I am trying to make dear. I also ask my wife for gifts..but the situation is different. By the grace of God we are both okay financially.

From the wife's post, you will notice there is hardly enough to buy these gifts..She is only doing it because the kids really need it. I think it is out of place for the husband to insist on getting same treatment as the kids, especially in their current condition.

Insisting is what I have a big problem with. it the wife chooses to buy out of her own volition, Fine.

Oselu28:


The other group did not show up ooo

Nairaboi:

crackhaus
Na dem be this .. .