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Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:32pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
If i was to choose between my wife to be or my mum, i will choose my wife to be not because i don't love my mum but because now is the time to prepare for my family. A man that is ready to marry should be ready to detach from his mother's love so as to give his devotion to his wife to be, she is going to be the mother of your kids. Most guys dont get it, guys that are emotionally attached to their mother always fail in their marriages because they dont know when to cut the line between mother and wife to be or wife. I sincerely dont understand why a mother will be fighting for the front seat of a car with a wife to be or a wife, personally, my mum will seat at the back if my wife to be is going out with me that does not mean i dont respect her, i respect her and i will give my mother what she wants that is if i have it, but that doesn't mean i shouldn't protect my territory. I believe mothers are creating lot of boys to be emotionally dependent on them, this is just wrong, a mother can not give you the type of love you deserve but what she thinks you deserve, your wife might not also give you love but your mother wont be there to give you kids, to cook for you, to teach your kids homework,to clean your house and give you sex. I just think mothers need to understand that their son will become a man oneday, he is not going to be your second husband, please allow him to be a man, stop depending on him for your finances or for emotional support, remember he is going to be someone's wife, allow him to be able to prepare for his own battles. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Numero9: 1:48pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
You have a point bro. Unfortunately most of today's wife to be's aren't worth the stress. One needs to be extra careful so he doesn't end up with the wrong wife/ wife to be. 5 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
Numero9: That is why also, choosing a wife is like taking a very great decision, it can make or break you 7 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:11pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
thebosstrevor1: I fully disagree, this issue has nothing to do with one or the other but with COMMON SENSE. - If you want your wife to always seat in the front of the car, even though she might just go around the corner and be dropped, while your mum is gonna ride with you all day, then something is wrong with your COMMON SENSE. - if you think your wife must always go above your mother (after marriage) regardless of the situation... For example, driving your wife to go shopping instead of driving your mum to hospital for a life saving operation, then something is seriously wrong with your COMMON SENSE. - becoming a husband does not mean you are no longer a SON/SIBLING ...it just means you have different priorities in life. Such new priorities are just as important as your family priorities. If you will always put your wife/kids priorities above your family priorities then you, sir, lack COMMON SENSE. 18 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:26pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
thebosstrevor1: YOUR WIFE WILL DO THIS TOO. SHE WILL RAISE YOUR SONS TO BE EMOTIONALLY DEPENDENT ON HER THROUGH VARIOUS MANIPULATION TECHNIQUES, AND SHE MAY EQUALLY FIGHT WITH HER SON'S WIFE OVER CAR SEATS AND COOKING POTS BECAUSE THAT'S JUST WHAT WOMEN DO. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: Not true. one of the main reason why many mothers depend emotionally on their boys is finance, they emotionally black mail the son to be getting money especially if she is a single mum. Another reason is weak father, if the father is not leading by example, not guiding and giving advices to the guys on how to be men, then their mum will see it as an opportunity to manipulate them. A mother that understands that her son is a man wont fight for driver seat or pot, also when she has a strong husband that also understands that the son now has is own family and there needs to be boundaries, all these things you mentioned hardly shows up. 4 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: I think you just missed the point, the writeup wasnt about not helping your mother when she is sick but about boundaries. A mother is not supposed to fight for the front seat of a car when the wife is seating their, an independent and a mentally strong man will basically tell his mum the plain truth. The reality is this after marriage,your wife first before your mother. See being independent, means you control yourself, you are the decision maker of your life not your mother, it is very important for guys to detach away from their mothers emotional strongholds before marriage. Becoming a husband means, you are no longer a mama's boy but a man who is suppose to provide and take care of his family. An independent man will make his wife his Priorities before his mother, only a mama's boy still wants his mother influence over him in marriage or even before marriage. 7 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:58pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
thebosstrevor1: You didn't understand my post.... Nobody should be first before anyone, what matters is what is MORE IMPORTANT in a man's life (at that particular moment). If you believe that wife would ALWAYS be more important, regardless of what's happening (like car seating for example), then you have no COMMON SENSE This has nothIing to do with being a priority, but all to do with what's more important then.... You have to evaluate any scenario before deciding that wife/kids is more important than anyone else in that man's life. If focusing on a mother's issue before a wife's issue, means to you that this man is a mama's boy then it's obvious you have no COMMON SENSE! 4 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 11:09pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: Which one is more important at that moment, so if my mother is sick, will my mother seating in the front seat get her better, i am still searching by what you mean by common sense, common sense wont be seat fighting but taking her to the hospital for treatment. if she has a husband that is not my duty. In a married man life, his wife and kids are way important than any mother, their is no bergain for that, a man must feed his family first before his mother, that is just common sense. 3 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by 2dice01: 11:31pm On Sep 21, 2020 |
Before I open the thread i knew the Op will talk about Mother/Wife seating in the front sit Is it same wife that most them will runaway or start acting like they are doing you a favour when you going through little challenges What is so special about front sit Then wifey should drive Parent will seat next to her I will be chilling at the back like a Boss 3 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:02am On Sep 22, 2020 |
thebosstrevor1: The front seat is the only seat in the car that can recline all the way back, thus for her to lie down, sitting in front will be better....unless of course, you believe wifey must always be in front and therefore your sick mother should be uncomfortable at the back, abi? There is a reason why ambulance have Reclining bed at the back and not car seats.... In a married man life, his wife and kids are way important than any mother, their is no bergain for that, a man must feed his family first before his mother, that is just common sense. See how you are confusing the issue. NOBODY said a man should forget his family duties/responsibilities, we are talking about what is more important in a man's life!!!!! Now, COMMON SENSE would have you understand that, if a man only has money to feed a wife and kids, then he will ask his mother to come over and SHARE THE FAMILY MEAL with his mother, duh! Unless of course you believe that mother should die of hunger while husband/wife and kids eat belly full, abi? A married man has new life responsibilities but that certainly does NOT mean that his mother should be left dying of hunger. If you can't feed everyone then all will eat Less, UNTIL YOU CAN AFFORD MORE! if your mother was your responsibility before marriage, then she will remain the same after marriage, whether a wife likes it or not.bwhat else should be done?! Throw mother away like piece Of garbage?! 5 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by slimay(m): 1:26am On Sep 22, 2020 |
This OP na female or SIMP...... 2 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:31am On Sep 22, 2020 |
This shit happen only in Africa |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:34am On Sep 22, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: She can also lie down on the back seat You are writing like the mother doesn't have a husband. For your second point, a mother can not die of hunger, it is also her job to fend for herself so that she wont be a dependent and a burden. 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:36am On Sep 22, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:She enjoyed her own husband without you disturbing her Why will she disturb you when it's time for you to enjoy your own wife This mentality needs to stop White people don't think the way we think that's why things work out perfectly for them. Thebosstrevor1 how come too many sense in just one post . |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by virginprincess(f): 1:38am On Sep 22, 2020 |
op i kind of agree with you but a mother love can be compare to non so most we prefer their mum |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:47am On Sep 22, 2020 |
u can share ur love equally b/w ur wife and your mother how hard can that be? its not a race on who should be ur favourite if ur wife to be is encouraging u to discard your mom that should be a red flag to u that she is not a good woman how many wives have u seen discarding their own moms when they get married to their husbands your mom should always have a special place in your heart cos she is the one who gave birth to u and sweated it out for u to go to school and be the man you are today. Never u forget ur mom. 4 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:48am On Sep 22, 2020 |
OPAA6: So because your mother enjoyed her husband in the past, she shouldn't be your responsibility any longer (because you now have a wife)?! Have you ever considered the fact that, while your mother was enjoying her husband, she was also taking care of her parents?! In the west, we have RETIREMENT HOMES and people are receiving healthy PENSION checks.. stop comparing the west with Africa on this issue!!! A parent in the west don't need their children to care for them, like Africa. 4 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:51am On Sep 22, 2020 |
slimay:i recall sometime ago some dude created a thread asking if it was ok he took permission from his wife before he gives his own mother money u could just imagine that crap some men are very mumuish |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:52am On Sep 22, 2020 |
thebosstrevor1: Again, you are the one trying to face off wife against mothers... Normally, simple COMMON SENSE will make you solve this non issue. Whoever needs you the most, will get your attention. Now, if you believe that going shopping with your wife is more important than bringing your mum to hospital(for example) then so be it. Again, many mothers fend for their own self, but if they CANT then it's your duty as her child to be responsible for your unfortunate mother, regardless of whether you are married or not.... You will just have to manage with your mother along. Have you ever tried to lie down in a car backseat?! The best possible way for a person in an emergency situation is in the front with the seat reclined. 3 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by davooomat(m): 1:52am On Sep 22, 2020 |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Ekejoestar(m): 1:54am On Sep 22, 2020 |
How can someone in his right mind compare a mother to a wife?....... You can have as many wives as possible but only one mother..... God made it so in His wisdom..... My wife will always be at the back seat of my car if my Mum is going out with me... She go even trek sef if my whole immediate family wan follow me.... Its only a foolish wife that will try to take a son away from the mother..... A mother's love can never be replaced. 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 1:55am On Sep 22, 2020 |
2dice01:i always hear ppl talking about wife and mother fighting over car seat such beaviour must be common with illiterate families cos i am yet to seen a family that is exposed and well to do fighting over car seat i mean wtf 2 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:00am On Sep 22, 2020 |
lefulefu: Bro, the fact that they will even try to pit mother vs wife is the height of madness... Whether a man gets a wife or 10 wives, his mother will remain his responsibility if needed. Saying that now the wife and kids are more important (and that mother should probably starve to death now) is insane. If you don't have any extra money to feed your mother, then your mother will move in with you all and everyone at home will eat less until you get better chop money for all. 3 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 2:01am On Sep 22, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:Parents in Western countries don't need their children to care for them unlike Africans Brown are they not humans too Is their blood different from ours Do they have double heads How can a mother be dragging or fighting for front seat with her son's wife When it's bed time I hope she drag the bed to with them why can't we do what they do over there so we too can move forward and not backward always. our black mentality is draining us into foolishness day by day Anyways it no problem I'll Leave this fûcked up country one day |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 2:04am On Sep 22, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:if his wife is a good woman she would even rebuke the husband for abandoning his mom.Its only the bad ones who encourage their husbands to abandon their moms.Meanwhile i am yet to see a wife who abandons her own mom.its so wrong when wives are moms are pitted against each other.I seen much where wives and mom in laws get along well.Nollywood is what is messing some ppl"s mind .And sometimes it might not be about money..It might just be about visiting her knowing how she is coping and all.Someone cant just abandon his mom like that..except maybe he has a grudge against.I know not everybody loves his mom 2 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:14am On Sep 22, 2020 |
OPAA6: How many retirement homes do you know in Africa, let alone Nigera....?! Let's be honest here.. In the west you will find retirement homes EVERWHERE, because people just drop their parents in these places and Your parents pension would probably pay for it anyway. So they will be around other old people, have the proper medical care needed etc. The west doesn't have the same r/ship that Africans have with their parents, so Africans will rather pay some useless houseboy to do everything, instead of sending parents to a retirement home. I don't know why/how people fight over such silly thing as flimsy as who sits in front....but in my car, whoever I have to drop 1st will always sit at the back (unless it's kids)...it's just COMMON SENSE!!! 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:19am On Sep 22, 2020 |
lefulefu: I will simply tell that woman:"So that's how you want our kids to treat us in the future?!" I will never expect to be more important that anyone in my children's life, but if I am in need, I will expect no less than their utmost best for me (their father). If your parents were your responsibility before you met your new wife, then What kind of bastard children (or foolish wife) will abandon their own parents because of new wife?! The above is what white people would do, not Africans. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 2:30am On Sep 22, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1:Its only common with bush ppl oo maybe the first son is the first person in the family to buy a car and hence they will naturally be fighting over car seats but then these days is no big deal to have a car.If ur dad hadt two rides and ur mom had her own ride and u eventually got married do u think such a mom will now be fighting ur wife on who will sit on the front seat of a car?? wen someone is so bush it affects the person psychologically 3 Likes |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 2:37am On Sep 22, 2020 |
Biko there should never be any choosing between wives to be and mums. The TO BE added to that phrase should nullify any choosing whatsoever except for asslicking men and those under the influence of love charm if it exists. Not choosing doesn't mean a man is unnecessarily attached to his mum, it's just the right thing to do at such a time. If my fiancee chooses me over her biological dad, I will have to review the wedding plans because it's naturally wrong. Until a man is officially married and joined to another woman, his mum and sisters should come first. This goes to a woman too, her dad and brothers should come first before her fiancee. |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 3:00am On Sep 22, 2020 |
slimay: Mothers and weak fathers create SIMPs |
Re: Your Wife To Be Or Your Mum? by Nobody: 3:02am On Sep 22, 2020 |
virginprincess: Yes, a mother love can not be compared but also a mother's love can also destroy a Man and make him weak. |
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