adg98:


You are so on point

I wonder why a man will live is wife home while working abroad. Long distance marriage is a NO for me

Men in long distance marriage can cheat just for sex but for women it goes beyond that. Women loves affections and once they start getting emotionally attach to a man, they won't only give the kpekus they are likely to give their heart too

this is false. Women of these days give only pekus without feelings. A typical guy has 2 to 3 girlfriends while the ladies have maybe 3 plus one rich sugar daddy. No emotions

MrBrownJay1:


Lol, if I meet the babe for road and she invites me for some "fun time", would it be written on her forehead that she is married? Or better yet, as the dude is about to mount her, do you think he will ask:" are you married, because if you are I no wan do again?!"



That's the African men misplaced ego's double standard hypocrisy... A man can fukc around all he wants (even while living with wifey) but if wifey dares to look at another man (let alone fukc him), that's an abomination. Lol!

Very true

virginprincess:
We are saying the samething, men like you are always avaliabe to do it.

This hypocrisy tire me o. At least, comment once and let us forget your matter.

The problem in Nigeria is actually people like you. Even on a faceless forum, you still chose not to face reality and be this hypocritical. Smh

Op, you are suffering the woman and i think she wants to be discreet about it. Stop tormenting her by pretending to be a nice man, stop buying things for her kids, and stop greeting her. That way she can be released from even thinking of you, and find someone else to find emotional solace.

BKsoul:
abeg am a female ooooh. See ehn in this life, whatever you do not the story please dont conclude or generalize, if the man stays back here without any tangible thing to do while he has an opportunity of travelling to make the money, na human being go still insult am say because of yansh, he no wan make am..

Read what you posted again and again and tell me its different from the comment you responded to.

It's still about the money.

BKsoul:
abeg am a female ooooh. See ehn in this life, whatever you do not the story please dont conclude or generalize, if the man stays back here without any tangible thing to do while he has an opportunity of travelling to make the money, na human being go still insult am say because of yansh, he no wan make am..

Who cares what people will say if he stayed?! He can take his family along OR find a job in Nigeria.... But leaving family behind while disappearing for YEARS is wrong, IMHO!

Advice her to buy intimacy gadgets.

If she can't wait, let her buy vibrator na. But it ain't an easy feat being without your spouse.

Then again, being faithful isn't something we do for our spouse like most people think, it's an individual decision to stay sane and worthy and not to turn to a public rest room where anyone can come in and deposit their spunks.

Dear men abroad about wifing our ladies in Nigeria, make una consider say body no be firewood too, make una try dey reach house at least every 6months or 1yr edakun.

As for me, I don't know if I'll be able to cope without seeing my spouse (not on the ground of sex) but I like seeing my partner every day, listen to his tales on how is day went, make him smile it off and lastly gum body

When you place value on yourself, you go wait as a wife knowing he isn't playing there but rather trying to make life easier for you and the kids.

MrBrownJay1:


Who cares what people will say if he stayed?! He can take his family along OR find a job in Nigeria.... But leaving family behind while disappearing for YEARS is wrong, IMHO!

But Oyakhilome did it. He told his wife that one country is too small to for the both of them!

MrBrownJay1:


I wouldn't expect any less from a man... Thus I would certainly understand if this woman does the same. All you hypocrites would see nothing wrong with her husband going abroad to marry and/or fukc some woman for green card but then would look down on the wife doing the same thing. Who are we kidding here?

Now, remember, I am not saying that cheating on your spouse is right, I am just saying that I understand why such lady would lose her damn mind after being "sexually miserable" for so long.

Going without sex isn't that hard.
I don't see how ppl can't do it.
It's no big deal. It depends on your priorities in life and how important your wife/husband is to you and how much you love them

Michelle55:
If she can't wait, let her buy vibrator na. But it ain't an easy feat being without your spouse.

Then again, being faithful isn't something we do for our spouse like most people think, it's an individual decision to stay sane and worthy and not to turn to a public rest room where anyone can come in and deposit their spunks.

Dear men abroad about wifing our ladies in Nigeria, make una consider say body no be firewood too, make una try dey reach house at least every 6months or 1yr edakun.

As for me, I don't know if I'll be able to cope without seeing my spouse (not on the ground of sex) but I like seeing my partner every day, listen to his tales on how is day went, make him smile it off and lastly gum body

When you place value on yourself, you go wait as a wife knowing he isn't playing there but rather trying to make life easier for you and the kids.

. God bless u jare....u have said it all

Mrscarter:


Going without sex isn't that hard.
I don't see how ppl can't do it.
It's no big deal. It depends on your priorities in life and how important your wife/husband is to you and how much you love them

Anyways u may be right, na weytin eyez dey find na em e dey see. But there is a rule, you can't cheat nature.

No matter how disciplined you r, after 100 days without night sleep, you will break down, if u don't sleep.

No matter how long you fasted, you will still need food to break or else you die.

No matter how sex starved a female maybe, she gets Hot fortnightly, if after 6months without sex(which she has experienced before), she gets depressed, touchy and easily angered, feel lonely and unloved, unkempt sometimes, they swim in low self esteem and self pity as they cry every night, thinking they are spiritual but actually they are just missing a good feeling of being physically touched by someone they truly care about.

ednut1:
my uncle went to the uk in 1987. His wife joined him in 1999 after he divorced his arrangee wife. He came home every 3 years and hit the jackpot 3 times. Today all the kids are doing well abroad. He is enjoying his retirement there too. Money is very important in this life. No point staying in 9ja suffering with ur wife. She may still cheat on you.

Your uncle did fine by taking his family over.. I'm not talking about those who take their families over with time, I'm talking of those who have no plan to do so.. Who just want their wives stay in Nigeria permanently while they're abroad.. I hope u understand better now

spiralwedge:


This hypocrisy tire me o. At least, comment once and let us forget your matter.

The problem in Nigeria is actually people like you. Even on a faceless forum, you still chose not to face reality and be this hypocritical. Smh

Op, you are suffering the woman and i think she wants to be discreet about it. Stop tormenting her by pretending to be a nice man, stop buying things for her kids, and stop greeting her. That way she can be released from even thinking of you, and find someone else to find emotional solace.

Thanks man.. Just that she's just directly opposite me, her kids come to my house and there is no way to even stop them.. What I do is that I don't try getting close to her

Mrscarter:


Going without sex isn't that hard.
I don't see how ppl can't do it.
It's no big deal. It depends on your priorities in life and how important your wife/husband is to you and how much you love them

Nice to see a lady with this mindset. A lot of people, gender notwithstanding, believe that one can't do without sex. That's a notion I find very untrue, maybe because I fit hold body small.

Truth is, if people learn to control their sexual urges, we have successfully solved 80% of world's problems. Sadly, quite a very high percentage of human population just can't

zexy2030:


Anyways u may be right, na weytin eyez dey find na em e dey see. But there is a rule, you can't cheat nature.

No matter how disciplined you r, after 100 days without night sleep, you will break down, if u don't sleep.

No matter how long you fasted, you will still need food to break or else you die.

No matter how sex starved a female maybe, she gets Hot fortnightly, if after 6months without sex(which she has experienced before), she gets depressed, touchy and easily angered, feel lonely and unloved, unkempt sometimes, they swim in low self esteem and self pity as they cry every night, thinking they are spiritual but actually they are just missing a good feeling of being physically touched by someone they truly care about.

It all depends on Ur state of mind. How U think n see things.
It can be lonely without your partner's cuddles n kisses n attention n time together. But sex itself well konji can be eased yourself n it's not the same but gets U past the urge

If the woman is an idoma woman, she dear not cheat on her spouse. If she tried it the god (alekwu) will catch up with her

Mrscarter:


It all depends on Ur state of mind. How U think n see things.
It can be lonely without your partner's cuddles n kisses n attention n time together. But sex itself well konji can be eased yourself n it's not the same but gets U past the urge

Nature has made sex for human for procreation and pleasure but the moment you want to reverse nature by ur effort just know u r dsyfunctional and unhealthy.

zexy2030:

Nature has made sex for human for procreation and pleasure but the moment you want to reverse nature by ur effort just know u r dsyfunctional and unhealthy.

Lol not really.
I'm abstinent for a fair while now by choice n I'm happy n healthy n not frustrated in anyway.
N I know once the wait is over it'll be the more sweeter for him and i
Procreation aswell as pleasure can be done at any given time U choose its not a must that U constantly have to give into.
But everyone's different.
Some ppl have a stronger will than others I guess
So

Samakus:


Nice to see a lady with this mindset. A lot of people, gender notwithstanding, believe that one can't do without sex. That's a notion I find very untrue, maybe because I fit hold body small.

Truth is, if people learn to control their sexual urges, we have successfully solved 80% of world's problems. Sadly, quite a very high percentage of human population just can't

Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

shebi the man went there to play? the way you people reason sef

lefulefu:
most times if u having ambition to migrate its better not to get married when u want to married.Marriage can be like a burden when u travelling out.No peace of mind and u will be worrying weda ur wife is cheating on u.If the main reason for travelling is to study u wont be able to concentrate when in class

So because of wife I should not travel

No I want to see good side of life so that I will be able to value heaven

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

I used to respect marriage till I left to the western Nigeria and saw what married women do there. No one respects marriage over here.

Right now I'm not scared of mounting any married woman again.
You need to help that man abroad. Ways might open for you if you do.

BKsoul:
abeg am a female ooooh. See ehn in this life, whatever you do not the story please dont conclude or generalize, if the man stays back here without any tangible thing to do while he has an opportunity of travelling to make the money, na human being go still insult am say because of yansh, he no wan make am..

My struggle abroad is for my children first, my family second

Except if my wife is the one that link me abroad

Charleys:



I used to respect marriage till I left to the west side and saw what married women do there. No one respects marriage over here.

Right now I'm not scared of mounting any married woman again.
You need to help that man abroad. Ways might open for you if you do.

Hahahahahahaha, bros himself.. Which country u dey? Remember say I no de abroad and so our culture doesn't permit it here

Mrscarter:


Lol not really.
I'm abstinent for a fair while now by choice n I'm happy n healthy n not frustrated in anyway.
N I know once the wait is over it'll be the more sweeter for him and i
Procreation aswell as pleasure can be done at any given time U choose its not a must that U constantly have to give into.
But everyone's different.
Some ppl have a stronger will than others I guess
So

Looks like your husband is abroad.. You're really trying, enjoy

Mrscarter:


Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

You passed through a normal hoeing phase most ladies pass through.. This one is just an afterthought which those currently hoeing now will also regret.. You enjoyed the fun and night stands while it lasted.. You only needed to settle down and now found out it wasn't needed having one night stand with random dudes when u can have a man all alone to yourself
Good you've found what suits u now

Mrscarter:


Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

Very well said. He's obviously a lucky man. Keep being you

Chino4NAUTH:

You passed through a normal hoeing phase most ladies pass through.. This one is just an afterthought which those currently hoeing now will also regret.. You enjoyed the fun and night stands while it lasted.. You only needed to settle down and now found out it wasn't needed having one night stand with random dudes when u can have a man all alone to yourself
Good you've found what suits u now

You raised some points but what I must tell you is that hoes don't stop. Even after passing hoeing stage, a how will always jump at the opportunity of tasting a new dick, even while married. If she has truly stopped, then she's not a hoe

Samakus:


You raised some points but what I must tell you is that hoes don't stop. Even after passing hoeing stage, a how will always jump at the opportunity of tasting a new dick, even while married. If she has truly stopped, then she's not a hoe

I never called her a hoe bro... I'm happy she has now known what suits her the most

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

So that she will not kill him or collect everything he's ever worked for if she goes over there

Meteng:
So that she will not kill him or collect everything he's ever worked for if she goes over there

Lol.. Then why marry her then

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

You were brought up right and you will raise real men.

Don't mind all these dogs that call themselves men. No standards, No morals, No discipline. The only thing they know is stick their penis into anything female.

So with the abundance of fine young women scattered everywhere, it is somebody's wife with 2 kids that they'll be lusting over
Tragic thing is they see nothing wrong in it.