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Re: . by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 30, 2020
missdivineprove:
Why Generalizing? Besides, the @op have tried. How many women will take all those things she's going through. To the extent of taking your husband to live in your auntie's house? This is nija. You people should fear God small abeg
You dey mind that one.
Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:30pm On Sep 30, 2020
SegFault:

I am not saying that she must stay, I'm just begging her to think about the child and to try to raise the man now, at least if by the ending of this year nothing happens she should bite the stone and leave.

and in my post.. didn't I say she should try to take the child along?

Just dey talk like goat wey chop raw yam

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Re: . by queenfav(f): 12:31pm On Sep 30, 2020
Most of you are missing the point here...She has been supporting him financially, but the man in question isn't making any moves to better their situation.I think men get too comfortable when they know their wife is hardworking.They relax and let her become the man.Trust me it can be exhausting.Fact is this,any one can go down in life.The important thing is to try all you can not to stay down.That lack of effort is what makes a woman fed up.

I worked as a Matrimonial causes Mediator and I have seen so many cases like op's.He is depressed,he is sad..Yes!But will his family eat sadness?I believe God gave men one job..Provide for your family!A woman is already saddled with the rigours of childbearing, house chores and taking care of the home front.What the op wants to see is a little effort and reassurance that her man is making moves to get their lives back on track.


What woman will be happy taking her family to live with her aunty? Come on.. You all should stop saying a woman will announce it when she feeds a man for two days..Yes, it's not a woman's duty to provide.We only make money to support our men.

A man who lost his job should know that he needs to find something to do to at least get his family a new apartment.If her aunty kicks them out,what next?They will go get a space under Ikeja bridge then.

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Re: . by Nobody: 12:32pm On Sep 30, 2020
NeoWanZaeed:


and in my post.. didn't I say she should try to take the child along?

Just dey talk like goat wey chop raw yam
I clearly said she should give him a chance, it seems like you can't read anyways good day to you sir.
Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:36pm On Sep 30, 2020
SegFault:

I clearly said she should give him a chance, it seems like you can't read anyways good day to you sir.

advise your sister to stay with a man that is not ready to improve his situation but rely on your sister. a man without shame..

there's difference between jobless and poor and not doing anything to improve your situation..

don't quote me again

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Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:37pm On Sep 30, 2020
queenfav:
Most of you are missing the point here...She has been supporting him financially, but the man in question isn't making any moves to better their situation.I think men get too comfortable when they know their wife is hardworking.They relax and let her become the man.Trust me it can be exhausting.Fact is this,any one can go down in life.The important thing is to try all you can not to stay down.That lack of effort is what makes a woman fed up.

I worked as a Matrimonial causes Mediator and I have seen so many cases like op's.He is depressed,he is sad..Yes!But will his family eat sadness?I believe God gave men one job..Provide for your family!A woman is already saddled with the rigours of childbearing, house chores and taking care of the home front.What the op wants to see is a little effort and reassurance that her man is making moves to get their lives back on track.


What woman will be happy taking her family to live with her aunty? Come on.. You all should stop saying a woman will announce it when she feeds a man for two days..Yes, it's not a woman's duty to provide.We only make money to support our men.

A man who lost his job should know that he needs to find something to do to at least get his family a new apartment.If her aunty kicks them out,what next?They will go get a space under Ikeja bridge then.

I feel like kissing and hugging you..

you get sense

..

the fact that the guy has no shame and he's not ready to do anything..
that's the end.

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Re: . by Openbusiness: 12:45pm On Sep 30, 2020
SegFault:

Abeg keep quiet, when most Nigerian men claim head of the house what do you expect, is it not your stupid Bible that relegated the head of the house to the man, why are you now ranting. Mtchhheeew.
My stupid wonderful Bible did not relegate, you don't relegate power, you delegate power. And yes, man is the head, the big kahuna, the alpha of the pack of the human species. It's just the way God made it, the way of Mother Nature; and Nigerian men don't claim to be head of the house, we are the head of the house. It's not a claim, it's not an assumption, it's an existential reality. You can sell your own birthright as head of your house if you don't want it. Just make sure you buy skirt with bra and start wearing grin

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 12:48pm On Sep 30, 2020
Chinnybaby190:
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When the money was there, he only told me his plan after he, his elder brothers, mother have discussd and taken decision. After he made wrong decision, investment and lost everything, all his family members have left. Even his mother has given up on us. They see him now as my husband and my responsibility.

He took another little step and set up a betnija business which his brother was managing. Finnally, it's down.

His fighting spirit has died. He takes anything now. No pride, no ego.

If you say his fighting spirit is dead, it means he once had it. He is probably going through a phase, even job seekers have that phase. I don’t think it is clear eye. At least I have seen/read/heard of actual lazy men and their wives never mentioned a prior fighting spirit. Must be overwhelming for you, but a more subtle approach might work.

As for putting his family first in major decisions, Naija men have been doing that since 1800BC. Same family will leave them for you the wife when they are broke or sick. Jisike nne, the Lord is your strength. kiss

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Re: . by Liposure: 12:49pm On Sep 30, 2020
Keep ya head up
Re: . by Mariangeles(f): 12:52pm On Sep 30, 2020
Chinnybaby190:
Your accusation is not fair. Do you have an idea of what is going on here? If all I do is for money, by now, I would have gone since.
My husband is a good man but the load is too much for me.
Him not trying more as he used to, is what is tiring

You both should consider starting a business together. It'll bring you closer.
Why not come up with some business plans and discuss them together?
Jobs are not the only option.
Re: . by queenfav(f): 12:52pm On Sep 30, 2020
NeoWanZaeed:


I feel like kissing and hugging you..

you get sense

..

the fact that the guy has no shame and he's not ready to do anything..
that's the end.

Yes, that's the point.I married an igbo man that has pride and he will rather do kpom kpom work than recieve financial help from his inlaws.
A man should have shame and small pride.You can't be enlarging chest and saying "I am a man, respect me,submit to me",wheras in times of adversity you curl up and lie down wallowing in misery while your wife busts her a** to feed you."Nah! Every woman no matter how supportive is bound to get tired.

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Re: . by NeoWanZaeed(m): 12:53pm On Sep 30, 2020
queenfav:
Yes, that's the point.I married an igbo man that has pride and he will rather do kpom kpom work than recieve financial help from his inlaws.

A man should have shame and small pride.You can't be enlarging chest and saying "I am a man, respect me,submit to me",wheras in times of adversity you curl up and lie down wallowing in misery while your wife busts her a** to feed you."Nah! Every woman no matter how supportive is bound to get tired.


Your husband is a man..

so many useless men out there

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 12:55pm On Sep 30, 2020
Majority are not wired to appreciate the sacrifices of their wives. However, they appreciate same when their mothers are the ones doing it.

Expecting any different is what leads women to heartbreak. Do your best and leave the rest.

What man will be providing money and doing house chores while a woman lazies about? Show me that man and I will wake you up from a bad dream. grin grin

queenfav:
Most of you are missing the point here...She has been supporting him financially, but the man in question isn't making any moves to better their situation.I think men get too comfortable when they know their wife is hardworking.They relax and let her become the man.Trust me it can be exhausting.Fact is this,any one can go down in life.The important thing is to try all you can not to stay down. That lack of effort is what makes a woman fed up.

You all should stop saying a woman will announce it when she feeds a man for two days..Yes, it's not a woman's duty to provide.We only make money to support our men.

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Re: . by SAVAGEBETS: 12:56pm On Sep 30, 2020
Chinnybaby190:
I have to create this accounts to post this.
I want to leave my husband and our child behind. I want a divorce. I'm tired of the whole thing.

When the money was there, he only told me his plan after he, his elder brothers, mother have discussd and taken decision.
After he made wrong decision, investment and lost everything, all his family members have left. Even his mother has given up on us. They see him now as my husband and my responsibility.

He took another little step and set up a betnija business which his brother was managing. Finnally, it's down.

Since his bet9ja business crumbled, he has been totally dependent on me. I basically foot everything in the house down to data and recharge card on his phone. The annoying part is that he no longer make effort to look for any job again.
This man is intelligent, hard working but just of a sudden, I don't understand what is happening to him.
His fighting spirit has died. He takes anything now. No pride, no ego.

I don't ever believe that one day my husband will be comfortably eating, watching movies and feel no shame in other people's house.

For more than 2 weeks now, we packed all our belongings to my Aunt's house because our rent expired.
We practically stays here now, the whole thing is driving me crazy. I'm managing a small job with little salary, but he has nothing to contribute and he seems not borderd.

How can we stay here, eating their food and he's not feeling remores anymore.
I've been giving him attitude since 3days now. I'm so exhausted in this marriage.

Please help. What should I do?

More experienced people in the house, please advise me as your daughter, sister, friend.

Instead of standing by him and talking his confidence back into him you wanna leave him down and dry. Wicked people.

1. The weather is more reliable than a woman.
2. The flip of a coin is more reliable than a woman.
3. You're more likely to predict when power will be restored than a woman's next move..

Terrible People... This year I have finally had it up to my neck with y'all..
Re: . by queenfav(f): 12:58pm On Sep 30, 2020
pocohantas:
Majority are not wired to appreciate the sacrifices of their wives. However, they appreciate same when their mothers are the ones doing it.

Expecting any different is what leads women to heartbreak. Do your best and leave the rest.

What man will be providing money and doing house chores while a woman lazies about? Show me that man and I will wake you up from a bad dream. grin grin

lol,real bad dream..And his co men are here calling the poor woman names.Women in Nigeria dey see something for marriage sha!On top suffer head.

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Re: . by queenfav(f): 1:03pm On Sep 30, 2020
As for me @op.I think you should sit him down and tell him how you feel.Let him know you will walk if he doesn't make any moves to get something doing no matter how small.That may be the wake-up call or push he needs.

No matter what happens,I don't subscribe to you leaving your child.Haba! Leaving your child for who?Are you sure you carried that child for 9 months or someone dashed you the child?You are a mother,anywhere you go..Take your child with you! It's not even up for debate.

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Re: . by Openbusiness: 1:05pm On Sep 30, 2020
queenfav:
Most of you are missing the point here...She has been supporting him financially, but the man in question isn't making any moves to better their situation.I think men get too comfortable when they know their wife is hardworking.They relax and let her become the man.Trust me it can be exhausting.Fact is this,any one can go down in life.The important thing is to try all you can not to stay down.That lack of effort is what makes a woman fed up.

I worked as a Matrimonial causes Mediator and I have seen so many cases like op's.He is depressed,he is sad..Yes!But will his family eat sadness?I believe God gave men one job..Provide for your family!A woman is already saddled with the rigours of childbearing, house chores and taking care of the home front.What the op wants to see is a little effort and reassurance that her man is making moves to get their lives back on track.


What woman will be happy taking her family to live with her aunty? Come on.. You all should stop saying a woman will announce it when she feeds a man for two days..Yes, it's not a woman's duty to provide.We only make money to support our men.

A man who lost his job should know that he needs to find something to do to at least get his family a new apartment.If her aunty kicks them out,what next?They will go get a space under Ikeja bridge then.
Oga you're just talking off point. Talking like you're reading a story book from Disney. You better wake up, this is the real life, with real events and situations not a cartoon. Shit happens, and shit has happened to him. The guy's once thriving businesses collapsed, probably lost millions of naira, have you lost millions of naira before? Have you ever had your busineses that you put all your money into collapse? And your account is in red and you had to start all over again from scratch, from zero? From the way you're talking I don't think so. I have lost millions before, so I am speaking from a personal experience. Do you know what it can do to a man's psyche, do you know how that situation can mess up a man's mind and push him into depression. Do you know the kind of things running through that guy's brain right now, you think it's easy to be someone that was spending millions and then suddenly you can't even feed yourself talkless of another person? The guy is still in his emotional shock state, where everything happening still looks like a dream. This is not the time you expect him to be at his best, the kind of mental battles going on in his head right now is not a joke. He needs support and kindness at the moment. He needs someone to tell him, don't worry we will get through this, don't think too much, don't despair, he needs encouragement, someone to remind him that he is still the champion that made all those millions by himself from nothing and having to start all over again is not the end of the world, he has made it before, he can make it again. The guy needs all the POSITIVITY and POSITIVE energy he can get right now. How much recharge cards has she bought for him that she brought his matter to CNN? Can she tell us how much she has benefited from the same guy so we can know whether the recharge cards she bought outweighs his contribution in her life? This is nothing but betrayal. A man just lost everything due to circumstances, maybe due his personal errors in business decisions or investment, he will be full of self regret, he will be depressed and psychologically drained, he will feel like he has no reason to fight again, all the fight energy and spirit will fade because of self doubt. He needs to be hearing positive voices, not nagging and condemnation. This is a critical point in his life. People are not equal. Some people are not used to being alone and loneliness and being able to talk to themselves and encourage themselves, they need someone to encourage them. Some people shake it off faster than others, but everyone has their own demons, it's not the same formula for everyone. Yet just because she has supported him with little things within a month or so, she wants to abandon him and run. Ok na, go, abandon him and go and find a billionaire like Ned Nwoko to marry. No problem, but no need to demonize the guy and assassinate his character and batter the little confidence and self-love he has left.

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 1:16pm On Sep 30, 2020
queenfav:
lol,real bad dream..And his co men are here calling the poor woman names.Women in Nigeria dey see something for marriage sha!On top suffer head.

They would be more sympathetic if it were their mothers and would look forward to Mother’s Day to appreciate her. You can never get a fair advice from most men by being a woman. Know this and know peace... grin

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Re: . by queenfav(f): 1:24pm On Sep 30, 2020
pocohantas:


They would be more sympathetic if it were their mothers and would look forward to Mother’s Day to appreciate her. You can never get a fair advice from most men by being a woman. Know this and know peace... grin
You have said it all! Nothing you for a mqn is never enough,so it's key knowing when you have reached your limit.

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Re: . by flyingpig: 1:26pm On Sep 30, 2020
Openbusiness:
Oga you're just talking off point. Talking like you're reading a story book from Disney. You better wake up, this is the real life, with real events and situations not a cartoon. Shit happens, and shit has happened to him. The guy's once thriving businesses collapsed, probably lost millions of naira, have you lost millions of naira before? Have you ever had your busineses that you put all your money into collapse? And your account is in red and you had to start all over again from scratch, from zero? From the way you're talking I don't think so. I have lost millions before, so I am speaking from a personal experience. Do you know what it can do to a man's psyche, do you know how that situation can mess up a man's mind and push him into depression. Do you know the kind of things running through that guy's brain right now, you think it's easy to be someone that was spending millions and then suddenly you can't even feed yourself talkless of another person? The guy is still in his emotional shock state, where everything happening still looks like a dream. This is not the time you expect him to be at his best, the kind of mental battles going on in his head right now is not a joke. He needs support and kindness at the moment. He needs someone to tell him, don't worry we will get through this, don't think too much, don't despair, he needs encouragement, someone to remind him that he is still the champion that made all those millions by himself from nothing and having to start all over again is not the end of the world, he has made it before, he can make it again. The guy needs all the POSITIVITY and POSITIVE energy he can get right now. How much recharge cards has she bought for him that she brought his matter to CNN? Can she tell us how much she has benefited from the same guy so we can know whether the recharge cards she bought outweighs his contribution in her life? This is nothing but betrayal. A man just lost everything due to circumstances, maybe due his personal errors in business decisions or investment, he will be full of self regret, he will be depressed and psychologically drained, he will feel like he has no reason to fight again, all the fight energy and spirit will fade because of self doubt. He needs to be hearing positive voices, not nagging and condemnation. This is a critical point in his life. People are not equal. Some people are not used to being alone and loneliness and being able to talk to themselves and encourage themselves, they need someone to encourage them. Some people shake it off faster than others, but everyone has their own demons, it's not the same formula for everyone. Yet just because she has supported him with little things within a month or so, she wants to abandon him and run. Ok na, go, abandon him and go and find a billionaire like Ned Nwoko to marry. No problem, but no need to demonize the guy and assassinate his character and batter the little confidence and self-love he has left.
No mind OP, pocohantas, queenfav and chinnybaby190 I wish they could read that elaborate post you penned down. They, they see a lazy man who doesn't work. But i see a broken, shocked, depressed, shattered, man who is still grieving over how he went from hero to zero, millionaire to zero, something to nothing. That shock can leave a man traumatized for so long but when he picks himself up he goes hard. These whores here are talking of divorce. Bitches only know the good times. Screw them they only deserve to become baby mamas.

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Re: . by Openbusiness: 1:28pm On Sep 30, 2020
missdivineprove:
Why Generalizing? Besides, the @op have tried. How many women will take all those things she's going through. To the extent of taking your husband to live in your auntie's house? This is nija. You people should fear God small abeg
Generalizing as how, I didn't say all women, I said most Women, and is that not true? Man has been providing for years, can't count the number of wives that lost their jobs or lost their businesses and their husbands gladly carry them on their back with pain, with tears, with discomfort etc till they get back on their feet and nobody knows or hears fem from his mouth. Ordinary 1 or 2 months, wey be say no be like the guy dey chop intercontinental dish oh, no b like say na 4 Points or Oriental u dey pay for everyday make he dey go chop, na management levels oh, anything wey he see he take, how much recharge card she don buy, she has brought his matter to CNN and still demonize his personality and character join. No b una fault na. Cat wey him leg break na him dey make Rat turn king for inside house. If the guy's investments had turned out great and the guy had raked in more millions, the same girl will have been eating his money and forming love. Fake love!

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Re: . by 444crop: 1:34pm On Sep 30, 2020
Awwwwww God bless this brain joor....but more to it is, since you have a kid, you wouldn't want a kid to grow with a single parent.... Push him, you can borrow and push him to start something just so he brings something back....once he is back on the streets, opportunity will pop up k.... Love n support yourselves
daddytime:
This is a tough one to call because beating a man that's down already and making him see that he is being beaten for his misfortunes will be a swift and a sure way to driving him suicidal.

In life, we all make mistakes and should learn from those mistakes.

About the businesses gone wrong, he made a very bad decision not to have involved you as his first partner but others in it, and you are well justified to feel slighted and mad at him but do not get vindictive because it still could have done sour even with you in the picture.

The immediate problem now which is enough to truly irk you is his feeling comfortable in your aunt's house. That's demonic and a no-no and probably village people at work.

The enemies are almost succeeding in getting him where they want him which is, to make him comfortable at an aunt's while making him forget to do for himself.

If the attitude you are giving him will be the slap to get him up from his slumber, please, give him more of it and make him understand why.

For fear of not sounding like one who is holding forth or condoning a potential lazy man's attitude, I'd advise you thread with caution and above all, with love because in this life, nothing is certain or permanent for anyone, and life, destiny, or posterity sure has a way of humbling we humans at the appropriate time.

How would you feel if, after all the attitude and abandoning him, the stars now align with him walking into a fortune, how would you feel about yourself?

However, if after all, he still fails to get uncomfortable, no one will blame you for separation. But even at that, do not abandon your child, please.

Marriage and life ain't easy, of a truth, and difficult times as this are inevitable no matter how much you think you could or have planned.

I wish you well going forward.
Re: . by eyinjuege: 1:37pm On Sep 30, 2020
Chinnybaby190:
But I've always been there for them.
I'm already fed up

It's a phase.
Just do what you can do. No normal man would enjoy watching his wife slave for him, and the appearance of non chalance may just be a coping mechanism for him. Don't be surprised deep in his heart he wants to commit suicide.
You both need to have a heart to heart talk on the possible way forward for him to get back on his feet.
Is there a friend that can help him with anything? Any family member from your side that can help him with a job or loan to start something?
Just be prayerful and encourage him to get up and fight for his life. I suspect he is battling some demons of his own, while you're also battling yours. Poverty na bastard

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Re: . by mysticwarrior(m): 1:39pm On Sep 30, 2020
Tough times don't last but tough people do. If you look at a child who is learning how to walk, he falls and rise up again and again and again until he would become stronger, that is life for you fall and you rise again, you husband may be down for now but as long as he is still alive and healthy, he is not a finished man, and I must commend you for stepping in to take charge of the responsibility of your house, believe me there will be a change, if you leave that man at this stage you may end up regretting it later in the future, talk to him politely for a way forward and make see him reasons, everything is going to be alright once again.
Re: . by daddytime(m): 1:43pm On Sep 30, 2020
444crop:
Awwwwww God bless this brain joor....but more to it is, since you have a kid, you wouldn't want a kid to grow with a single parent.... Push him, you can borrow and push him to start something just so he brings something back....once he is back on the streets, opportunity will pop up k.... Love n support yourselves

This is wisdom speaking.
Re: . by Nobody: 1:49pm On Sep 30, 2020
Openbusiness:
My stupid wonderful Bible did not relegate, you don't relegate power, you delegate power. And yes, man is the head, the big kahuna, the alpha of the pack of the human species. It's just the way God made it, the way of Mother Nature; and Nigerian men don't claim to be head of the house, we are the head of the house. It's not a claim, it's not an assumption, it's an existential reality. You can sell your own birthright as head of your house if you don't want it. Just make sure you buy skirt with bra and start wearing grin
As always foolishness. Claim to be the head of the house but start complaining when you can't even provide common food. Stupidity and Nigerians are never far off.
Re: . by Nobody: 1:50pm On Sep 30, 2020
444crop:
Awwwwww God bless this brain joor....but more to it is, since you have a kid, you wouldn't want a kid to grow with a single parent.... Push him, you can borrow and push him to start something just so he brings something back....once he is back on the streets, opportunity will pop up k.... Love n support yourselves
Borrow kwa, op don't try it on. It will never end well.

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Re: . by Openbusiness: 1:56pm On Sep 30, 2020
flyingpig:
No mind OP, pocohantas, queenfav and chinnybaby190 I wish they could read that elaborate post you penned down. They, they see a lazy man who doesn't work. But i see a broken, shocked, depressed, shattered, man who is still grieving over how he went from hero to zero, millionaire to zero, something to nothing. That shock can leave a man traumatized for so long but when he picks himself up he goes hard. These whores here are talking of divorce. Bitches only know the good times. Screw them they only deserve to become baby mamas.
Don't mind the girl. Imagine calling your husband lazy, a man that has worked by himself and earned or raised over a million by himself in this Nigeria, how can you call him lazy? Can a lazy man earn millions in this country legitimately? Just because now his business collapsed, and so what? How is he lazy? He is obviously depressed, not lazy. Until he shakes that depression and regret from his mind, he will just be acting indifferent, he will be down and not in fight mode. He is in a state of personal mourning silently in his mind now, full of had I knowns. So because he made a mistake and invested wrongly and things didn't work out, he is now a PNG? That's absurd, totally ridiculous. I can't count the number of times you will read about salary earners that lost job of ordinary 30k or 50k they will be wailing and crying and depressed like the end of the world has come. Yet a businessman lost millions, lost all his business and investments, and you think he will be a Superman and just adjust immediately to the reality of his new condition? Well, some people do, but not everyone can. Some wounds take longer to heal for different people. I am a businessman. Before I entered into the business world, I have done 9 to 5's, (or actually to 11pm sometimes), worked for different people, different companies across lagos, paid my dues. Then I got tired of it. Started doing my own business, and never looked back. I have been in situations where I invested wrongly and lost money and had to start all over again from nothing. I have been in a situation where I had to find a 9 to 5 again to keep body and soul together then dump it and start business again. But then, I have crossed the threshold where at this point in my life, no matter what happens, I can't do 9 to 5's again. It's not in my head again and I don't have the spirit for it anymore. I have fallen many times in my journey of business and gotten back up again and again that now, I'm not even afraid about falling anymore and I'm not interested in 9 to 5's anymore, no matter what, I carry my cross in the business world and make things work. Some investments turn over quick, some take time, but I stay in there and endure the process. Because I have come to realize that to succeed in business CONSISTENCY is required. You have to give it your everything and complete focus. Not having an escape route of 9 to 5 hiding somewhere in your mind. You let go completely and see yourself as an employer of labor, not an employee. Maybe that's the place her husband's mind is right now and he doesn't see himself doing or falling back to 9 to 5's. It is with positivity and encouragement that you will use to talk him to do somethings that he might feel is already beneath him, things that might be conflicting to his ego, every man has ego one way or another. So the guy is going through a lot now, he needs encouragement not insults. Nobody is forcing her to stay, if she wants to go she should go, it's not a big deal. But why try to demonize the guy and make him look like an irresponsible fellow in the eyes of the public before you go? No need for drama. Go if you want to go, it's not the end of the world. One door closes, another one must surely open.

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 2:00pm On Sep 30, 2020
How do you type something that long without paragraphing? Mehn! Anyone that can read that is the real MVP. I am not even trying to be sarcastic here.

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Re: . by Openbusiness: 2:05pm On Sep 30, 2020
pocohantas:
How do you type something that long without paragraphing? Mehn! Anyone that can read that is the real MVP. I am not even trying to be sarcastic here.
Na bad social media habit. It usually escapes my mind when typing and I'm too unbothered or nonchalant to go back and modify when I notice. I'm a man of many mistakes and not paragraphing long posts on social media is 1 of it. Probably the 3rd or 4th person on Nairaland that said this. Some habits die hard. I'm a work in progress.
Re: . by Openbusiness: 2:11pm On Sep 30, 2020
SegFault:

As always foolishness. Claim to be the head of the house but start complaining when you can't even provide common food. Stupidity and Nigerians are never far off.
When you start paying bills, real bills in your life, on a consistent basis, maybe we can have finally have a real man to man boy discussion. Till then, enjoy wearing your skirt as a Beta and be the equal half washing pants for females, ok?

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Re: . by djon78(m): 2:25pm On Sep 30, 2020
Openbusiness:
Men really need to wake up, husbands especially. As you are sacrificing your all, crossing the oceans, giving your best years and best strength just to make your wife and family live the best life, remember to take care of yourself and put plenty money away. You can buy recharge cards for your wife for 5 years and nobody will know, but the moment she buys you recharge card for 2 weeks, she will publicize your matter on CNN. You can be providing for all her needs and the families needs for 15 years but the moment you can't and she has to help out for 2 months, she will disgrace you in the community, as if you were never a provider, as if you never foot the bill all those years that she was enjoying your money. Most of them are like this. Only few women understand loyalty, and only few women understand and will abide by the marriage oath of for better or worse that they took. Most of them are only interested in the for better, what they can take from you, the benefits they can reap, but God forbid let the tables turn, and for worse happens, most of them will be quick to demonize their husbands and subject him to public ridicule and shame. So husbands have to learn how to have contingency plans for themselves in case of the hard times, because this life is unpredictable with good and bad, ups and downs. We can only try our best and hope for the best.




This was exactly what the Anglican priest that preached during the burial of my uncle said.

He warned men as they are striving for there wives and children to also consider there own interests
That most times many men labour themselves to death

I learnt so much lesson that day


A man must have a contingency plan
Have a stored up back up money somewhere
I myself have experienced what this ops husband is going through
After I lost some good millions from business investments with a Chinese company

In fact my family were surprised because I have always been a hustler
But why that loss pained was I felt if I had flexed that money, use am enjoy myself
At least I for know at least I flexed it

I was down for a couple of years
But thanks to Oluwa not only bounced back but my business is growing in leaps and bounds even with the economy, God has still been very good

But now I have better stocked away money
No be me go come kill myself

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