probably his wife was forced to marry him or their marriage is just a marriage of convenience .A wife who professes to love her husband would help him out in a tight spot without looking back.The woman no love am and as expected u cant expect someone who has zero love for u to help u when u are in difficulty.No advice will work in this situation.

thebosstrevor1:
It seems the man married her because her parent are rich

The woman is right, it is not the job of her parent to loan the husband money.

If the man is a real man, he would have had saving for bad days.

No masculine man will go so low to ask his wife or her parent for loan. Who does that.

Which kin rubbish talk dis 1 dey talk?

MrTAnonymous:


I pray you don't find ourselves in this kind of situation that this man is facing.

Read the post bro. The man has been the provider until Covid19 crisis. No man prays not to be able to provide for his family but this life is not balance. There are times things will go well and there at times that things will go from good to bad. That is why we need supportive family members(Husband and Wife) to support each other during those hard times. If the wife can't support the man during this hard times, the man should just file for a divorce and leave the self centered wife alone.

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The man was never the provider, if he was he wont be acting self entitled and complaining like a Bit**ch, he will just go out and find what to do to get money.

thebosstrevor1:


The man was never the provider, if he was he wont be acting self entitled and complaining like a Bit**ch, he will just go out and find what to do to get money.

Oh really? It seems like you didn't read the post.

I will cease arguing with you until you become a real nigggarr

Men really need to be selfish for once.


A female customer, (married with kids) comes to the bank to seek for her money in her account to be placed on lien, say 800k. She further comes weekly to remove lien of the amount of money she needs for that week.


This surprises me, maybe she doesn't want her husband to know she has such amount of money in her bank account. Well, marriage las las na scam.

Men need to really take good care of themselves out there, it's really a selfish world right now.

MrTAnonymous:


Oh really? It seems like you didn't read the post.

I will cease arguing with you until you become a real nigggarr

I read the post.

If he was trully a provider then he wont be thinking of his wife parent or her money.

You dont have to reply, and you are not a real nigga, no real nigga has a entitled mentality.

Because of 97k that u saw in her account, u want to go hay wire. Just 97k o. So u don't want her to have savings. Why are you looking for her account balance in the first place? You're the man of the house. Deal with it.

thebosstrevor1:


I read the post.

If he was trully a provider then he wont be thinking of his wife parent or her money.

You dont have to reply, and you are not a real nigga, no real nigga has a entitled mentality.

You have no point. People like you never cease to amaze me.

Lets do it this way:

If a stranger comes to ask for your help, would you help him/her? Yes or no?


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southniyikaye:
My did same thing to me sometimes ago
She couldn't get a job after school so she decided to learn fashion design.
I financed her, gave her money daily for transport and upkeep and it was from this money she started contribution with her colleagues in shop.
When I hit rock bottom, to feed at home was so hard but I still hustle so we can manage. I know she has money but don't know how much.
I then stylishly asked her to atleast finance our feeding for the time being but she said she has no money.
I know she has collected her own contribution but I am not the type of person that wants to beg from her if not for the condition that warrants it.
The second day, she went and used that money to purchase sowing machine and keep what she is not using yet.
Later later sha, she couldn't continue with the contribution so they have to sell the machine and she even needs to balance them up.
When they were disturbing her and dragging her for her balance, I just throway face.
Then the contribution leader have the effrontery to call me and report her. She said and I quote
"she is your wife, pay for her so we don't embarrass her so that your image don't get tarnished in your street".
She was calling and texting me frequently.
I just try to get her husband's number and I sent him a message that made the wife come and apologies and pay up the balance by herself.

Na correct man you be

MrTAnonymous:


You have no point. People like you never cease to amaze me.

Lets do it this way:

If a stranger comes to ask for your help, would you help him/her? Yes or no?


Incase you don't know na me talk

No.

I don't understand how your question relates with the topic of discussion

LadySarah:
Any woman who would do that doesn't have your interest same as a man who goes about cheating.

Marriage is partnership. It is covering the others weakness. It is for strengthening each other.

Supporting him at this time won't kill her or make her less of a woman.

It's not only for the good times!

First reasonable lady on nairaland.
Who knows if you're a guy sef

Ayo2004:



Which kin rubbish talk dis 1 dey talk?

You dey mind am?

Incase you don't know na me talk

thebosstrevor1:


No.

I don't understand how your question relates with the topic of discussion

No wonder, I understand better. You simply dont have any sense of humanity in you.
For you to say the woman has no job helping his husband and saying you can't help a stranger that genuinely needs your help shows who you are. I pray you dont have issues that are bigger than you that will warrant you needing help from strangers because you can't live this world alone, you will need help from people both relatives and strangers.

Adieu!


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MrTAnonymous:


No wonder, I understand better. You simply dont have any sense of humanity in you.
For you to say the woman has no job helping his husband and saying you can't help a stranger that genuinely needs your help shows who you are. I pray you dont have issues that are bigger than you that will warrant you needing help from strangers because you can't live this world alone, you need help from people both relatives and strangers.

Adieu!


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You make no sense at all because they dont relate.

Zzor:
There's a reason she's not willing to help him,no woman will refuse to help her loving husband in terms of need,treat your woman right and she will be there for you whenever the need arise,if you read the woman's part of the story now, you will understand my point.All women are vengeful,directly or indirectly

You're not totally right dear, there are some women(not all) no matter how good you treat them they won't reciprocate when you're down financially. My ex once told me even if we are married my money is ours while hers is for her only.

That's why as a man there are certain things you look at for during the period of courtship

this thread reminds me one day a woman was ditching out advice to her daughter saying spend his money buh save yours... so I was wondering why, what could have warranted such advice maybe she also inherited such from her mom too

thebosstrevor1:


You make no sense at all because they dont relate.

Of course, they relate. Since you simply cant help a needy stranger, you can't see anything wrong in a selfish wife who can't assist his husband in time of need.

Incase you don't know na me talk

Zzor:
There's a reason she's not willing to help him,no woman will refuse to help her loving husband in terms of need,treat your woman right and she will be there for you whenever the need arise,if you read the woman's part of the story now, you will understand my point.All women are vengeful,directly or indirectly

Are you supporting the wife or trying to justify her actions.i no like all these corner corner talk ....So because you are angry with your husband you don't want to help him .....you guys are evil..

A lot of women are naturally wicked. My mumsy tenant then used to complain after he was sacked from apapa wharf. The wife refused to assist and they would always fight. Shop wey he open for hin wife o. She dey save the money

Iyoocartel:
Iyooooooo cartel

Getting married to a local Nigerian empty headed feminist is one of the fastest way to the grave

learn to read. They are not Nigerians

ednut1:
A lot of women are naturally wicked. My mumsy tenants then used to complain after he was sacked from apapa wharf. The wife refused to assist and they would always fight. Shop wey he open for hin wife o. She dey save the money

Most females are naturally wicked. I wonder how they think. Probably the reason why politicians don't trust them in the corridor of power.


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MrTAnonymous:


Of course, they relate. Since you simply cant help a needy stranger, you can't see anything wrong in a selfish wife who can't assist his husband in time of need.

Incase you don't know na me talk

i guess you see nothing wrong in being a dependant, in self-entitlement, in deceit and in weakness.

Any man that is looking at his wife money and thinking on how to take it whether by manipulation or deceit is a weak man

I dont know who is your role model but A real man does not depend on his wife for survival only weak men do. there are many strong men out there who will rather kil themselves then feed on their wives money, they rather go outside work hard, earn cash and use it to take care of their family, that type of man cant be control by his wife.

people like you claiming marriage is support, it is team work and other idealism continue waiting for the supporter, if you are not in control of your own life emotionally and financially, you can never be in control of your marriage

thebosstrevor1:


i guess you see nothing wrong in being a dependant, in self-entitlement, in deceit and in weakness.

Any man that is looking at his wife money and thinking on how to take it whether by manipulation or deceit is a weak man

I dont know who is your role model but A real man does not depend on his wife for survival only weak men do. there are many strong men out there who will rather kil themselves then feed on their wives money, they rather go outside work hard, earn cash and use it to take care of their family, that type of man cant be control by his wife.

people like you claiming marriage is support, it is team work and other idealism continue waiting for the supporter, if you are not in control of your own life emotionally and financially, you can never be in control of your marriage

Why are you so sad and bitter?

You lack comprehension

RealAlubarika:


You're not totally right dear, there are some women(not all) no matter how good you treat them they won't reciprocate when you're down financially. My ex once told me even if we are married my money is ours while hers is for her only.

That's why as a man there are certain things you look at for during period of courtship

you are right

thebosstrevor1:


i guess you see nothing wrong in being a dependant, in self-entitlement, in deceit and in weakness.

Any man that is looking at his wife money and thinking on how to take it whether by manipulation or deceit is a weak man

I dont know who is your role model but A real man does not depend on his wife for survival only weak men do. there are many strong men out there who will rather kil themselves then feed on their wives money, they rather go outside work hard, earn cash and use it to take care of their family, that type of man cant be control by his wife.

people like you claiming marriage is support, it is team work and other idealism continue waiting for the supporter, if you are not in control of your own life emotionally and financially, you can never be in control of your marriage

This is toxic masculinity at its finest...Any woman who cant and wont support u wen u are down isnt worth being called a wife...such shud end as a girlfriend or at most baby mama

Don't hand over your life to a selfish person all in the name of marriage...no one is promised a smooth financial ride forever

If person comment now some she goat will report you asap to super mod to ban person....awon ewure gbogbo....I don't mention names ooo



Zzzzzzzz!!!!!

thebosstrevor1:
It seems the man married her because her parent are rich

The woman is right, it is not the job of her parent to loan the husband money.

If the man is a real man, he would have had saving for bad days.

No masculine man will go so low to ask his wife or her parent for loan. Who does that.

pls don't be offended.....how old are you ??
just want to know before engaging in discuss with you

thebosstrevor1:


i guess you see nothing wrong in being a dependant, in self-entitlement, in deceit and in weakness.

Any man that is looking at his wife money and thinking on how to take it whether by manipulation or deceit is a weak man

I dont know who is your role model but A real man does not depend on his wife for survival only weak men do. there are many strong men out there who will rather kil themselves then feed on their wives money, they rather go outside work hard, earn cash and use it to take care of their family, that type of man cant be control by his wife.

people like you claiming marriage is support, it is team work and other idealism continue waiting for the supporter, if you are not in control of your own life emotionally and financially, you can never be in control of your marriage

Your English is beautifully crafted but I still don't see your point.You mean if as a man you face difficult times and that period while you are trying to get back up she is not even bothered , it is normal?
How do you think ? You think life na pot of beans abi.If your wife can't help you when you are down why did you marry her .....African man wise up these are modern times.If it was those year of hunting and farming I see no need for a woman's love or support but times don change ....

The wife is Jordanian.

Iyoocartel:
Iyooooooo cartel

Getting married to a local Nigerian empty headed feminist is one of the fastest way to the grave

thebosstrevor1:


i guess you see nothing wrong in being a dependant, in self-entitlement, in deceit and in weakness.

Any man that is looking at his wife money and thinking on how to take it whether by manipulation or deceit is a weak man

I dont know who is your role model but A real man does not depend on his wife for survival only weak men do. there are many strong men out there who will rather kil themselves then feed on their wives money, they rather go outside work hard, earn cash and use it to take care of their family, that type of man cant be control by his wife.

people like you claiming marriage is support, it is team work and other idealism continue waiting for the supporter, if you are not in control of your own life emotionally and financially, you can never be in control of your marriage

Now, I am tired of arguing with you. Your arguments are pointless, you seem to have comprehension problem. I give up on you.

Adieu!


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tunjilana:



This is toxic masculinity at its finest...Any woman who cant and wont support u wen u are down isnt worth being called a wife...such shud end as a girlfriend or at most baby mama

Don't hand over your life to a selfish person all in the name of marriage...no one is promised a smooth financial ride forever

Thank you for this piece of advice. I hope he listens.


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MrTAnonymous:


Now, I am tired of arguing with you. Your arguments are pointless, you seem to have comprehension problem. I give up on you.

Adieu!


Incase you don't know na me talk

the truth is always pointless, when you marry you can go alone and depend on your wife for survival

1 timothy 5:8

But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel