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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Parisian: 10:37am On Oct 05, 2020 |
I don't even know but my parents don't though. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by TheUndercover: 10:37am On Oct 05, 2020 |
*Sighs, Well, this is my own view on that: Asking the question 'How Are You?' to an elderly person or someone superior is disrespectful. I think the better way to do that is to ask this way: How are you doing Sir/Ma? Don't forget, it's a personal question and you shouldn't ask that question to someone you aren't close to. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Ahmeduana(m): 10:37am On Oct 05, 2020 |
In Africa set-up, you don't ask your elders about there wellbeing, Africa elders believe that is there God given duty or responsibility to take cares of the younger ones, so for this reason they find it insulting or kind incompetent for a kid or a more younger person than them to reverse that God given role, and this is common among the Yorubas. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by BornnAgainChild(f): 10:37am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Nobody: 10:39am On Oct 05, 2020 |
DamnnNiggarr:what if he fights you back |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by uuzba(m): 10:39am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki:Depends who's asking. If your mate or junior is asking, you just tell them to F*** You, A**Hole If your senior, Elder, 10, 20 years older is asking, you can then answer, fine or not fine. The person Asking, "How are you?" should be capable of solving whatever problem you have. If not what is he asking for? To laugh at you or what? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Kestolove(m): 10:40am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Buhari how are you? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by uuzba(m): 10:42am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Zzor:Then, damnNigger will escalate the initial beating to killing. Do not ask you elder "How are you". It is not you business. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by wacuc0: 10:42am On Oct 05, 2020 |
How are you is not Good morning. The idea of asking How are you, is to be in a position to offer help. It is not really a greeting. It should come from a stronger to a weaker person. Older to a younger person, Healthy to a sick person. Not the other way round. But is the young is in such position he can offer the "HOW ARE YOU". I can go to see my elder brother in the hospital, I can ask him brother "How are you" It will not the best of me to go to his house and knock and he comes out I ask Brother How are you? But it is not really an insult 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Samiah33(m): 10:43am On Oct 05, 2020 |
techmo:why did you use "Sir" ? we claim to be exposed and see what our exposure has cause us, go to Japan and see how with all the money they have they still believe in their culture 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by uuzba(m): 10:43am On Oct 05, 2020 |
hotplate:Abi |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by wacuc0: 10:43am On Oct 05, 2020 |
You are correct. How are you is not greeting like Good morning. People mistake it to be so. uuzba: |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by DamnnNiggarr: 10:44am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Zzor:I'm a body builder, one of my guys own a gymming house, I do visit once in a while, So fear can't let him do otherwise or stand before me to say nonsense. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by SeriouslySense(m): 10:44am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Its not offensive to me, but i think people find it offensive because they think it is very simple language, personally i love simple language. mikezuruki: |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 05, 2020 |
uuzba:What if you ended up being the one beaten? don't underestimate the strength of a 15yr old these days,weed influence should be a reminder in that regards.All I'm saying is you can simply correct him/her without being harsh or going violent 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by EazyJ(f): 10:45am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Vyzz:"How far" sounds guyish especially when it's said as a greeting. But then it depends on your relationship with each other. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Donspicey: 10:45am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Am busy now maybe wen am tru i will answer you |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by SirMichael1: 10:47am On Oct 05, 2020 |
EazyJ:How far? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by uboma(m): 10:48am On Oct 05, 2020 |
maasoap: There is nothing wrong asking someone who is older, 'how are you?', 'how is life treating you?'. I ask people older than me same. If you feel offended, its your headache, not mine. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by SirMichael1: 10:48am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Donspicey:No one asked, no one cares. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by padi94(m): 10:49am On Oct 05, 2020 |
tobechi74: Yes that's why its social conditioning, our society- culture and religion hv made us think and act in a certain way. In this case asking someone that is older than you how are you is seen as disrespectful. How are you to Nigerians living here comes from a place of superiority. If a child asks an adult that, then its termed disrespectful. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 10:49am On Oct 05, 2020 |
IamD18: very precise!!! Abeg take Hi 5........ ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by OwenJesse27(m): 10:50am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by femi4: 10:51am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki:naija mentality, they believed its meant for young ones |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 10:51am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Tatashi: 10:51am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Its not disrespectful. Dont fail to add "Sir or Ma'am to the question tho. How are you,Sir? How are you Ma? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Kamdil: 10:52am On Oct 05, 2020 |
AFONAMARO:u can do that to ur parents, everybody is not ur parent. U don't go about raising shoulder with older people outside like u do to ur people.if ur family tradition permits it continue, but don't go to Yoruba land and relate with people like that,they will banish u And u said u greeted them first, before that 'ke ki mere' Why don't u ke ki mere them without good morning first? 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by lagbaja(m): 10:52am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Cultures are different in every society. The translation of "how are you" in our African language has a different meaning contextually. That is why an adult will feel offended when you ask them " how are you " E.g The Yoruba meaning of How are you is 'Bawo ni" or " Se alafia ni". Culturally, that greeting can only come from someone older than you. If you say it to an older person, you are perceived to be very rude and untrained. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sammy7410(m): 10:53am On Oct 05, 2020 |
I find dis topic insulting
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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by demoBaba: 10:53am On Oct 05, 2020 |
That's true, there's different between 1. How are you 2. How are you sir/ma I think it's disrespect to ask your senior one .....How are you As a yoruba man 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by LAguy(m): 10:54am On Oct 05, 2020 |
It doesn't make sense greeting an elder with just a mere how are you. I understand that you don't know, but I'm telling you now for you to know. It is better that you simply say how are you doing sir with respect, then I will respond to you with I'm fine thank you. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sammy7410(m): 10:54am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Ok
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