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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by techmo(m): 10:55am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Samiah33: Because he is a sir, and greetings to elderly in English should carry sir/ma And your culture and my culture are definitely not the same Where I come from in Yoruba land, after greeting an elder Ekaro!! Good Morning, or Ekule , you add Bawo ni Gbo nkan, bawo Lara yin, and other similar How are you Sir questions . 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Solatium(m): 10:56am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki: How are you sir or ma WILL NEBER BE VIEW DISRESPETFUL by anyone. A 20yr old saying how are you to a anyone above 40yr is highly disrespectful,I will ask such a person if YOU CAN SAY HOW ARE YOU TO YOUR FATHER,MOTHER,UNCLE OR AUNTY without adding sir/ma 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Fucsheetup(f): 10:56am On Oct 05, 2020 |
IamD18:Olodo |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by cmecproblem(m): 10:56am On Oct 05, 2020 |
In fact I prefer asking people- how are you? It shows concern, not Hi, Hello... |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Osas4lav(m): 10:56am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Most people that say how are you in Nigeria say it not coz they really are interested in knowing but coz a part of us knows its what we say when the person is younger, i personally use it for people younger than i am, I'll rather use "how's it going?" for older people. I learnt also that how was your night to a woman is a wrong question. I schooled in the west, innocent me stretch hand to shake my HOD in year one, see eye when the man take look me, body tell me make i drop hand after em hang my hand. I never did that again to elders in the west. So it's the culture just flow with it. In China they retain their culture till date even though they wear suits now, so let's just respect it. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Fucsheetup(f): 10:57am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Kamdil:All of you are crazy. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by mattmogan88: 10:57am On Oct 05, 2020 |
I find how far disrespectful not how are you. Instead of little children to greet you. they will ask you how far instead, who does that 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Fucsheetup(f): 10:57am On Oct 05, 2020 |
lefulefu:Imagine this mentality. Are you a god and is the kid a goat? Isn’t he a human being? Una Dey chop respect? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by bolajinoni1(m): 10:58am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki:the you mean how are you or how are you sir/ma? If you want 2 talk to your elders you have to talk and ask questions with respect . This not about money, you yourself can't accept it from your Juniors or child. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Fucsheetup(f): 10:58am On Oct 05, 2020 |
akmaldini:You find it insulting that someone younger than you wants to know how you’re doing? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Fucsheetup(f): 11:00am On Oct 05, 2020 |
bolajinoni1:Give one cogent, reasonable reason apart from the foolish god complex African adults have why ‘How are you?’ Is Disrespect? |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by SIRRITE: 11:00am On Oct 05, 2020 |
We as an africa has a culture, dont bring any man culture or way of greetings to another. In africa we are taught on how to greet and the words to use while greeting our elders, age groups, and young once. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by EazyJ(f): 11:00am On Oct 05, 2020 |
SirMichael1: |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:01am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by ejanla077: 11:02am On Oct 05, 2020 |
BornnAgainChild: So wats wrong with mama how u dey |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Piston65(m): 11:02am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Iyoocartel:I don dey watch your comments since. I dey feel you. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Grandmeister(m): 11:02am On Oct 05, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:It is those traditions that define who you are..you have shunned your identity for modernism that is why you don’t even know your history and why others tell your story for you. You have removed the boundaries of your fathers and allowed strangers to dictate affairs for you. ‘Woke’ Africans smh. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:03am On Oct 05, 2020 |
techmo: at least you must have greeted him good morning, good afternoon or good evening sir before you proceeded to ask him ''how are you''. abi nor be so? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by kwasoly(m): 11:03am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki: Let's call a spade a spade how will a child walk up to you without greeting you and ask you how are you? Who does that How are you unto age mate or ur elder? Haba now I wasn't trained that way abeg,I can't try it my elder so nobody should try it with me. This has nothing to do with self esteem. It has everything to do with home training. QED |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by vaxx: 11:03am On Oct 05, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:even in the western world, left handed are rejected for any transaction and it is consider a taboo ( i know of Germany precisely)talkless more of africa . You shouldnt be eating with your toe even if you find it conducive. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by hardon1(m): 11:03am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Its a cultural thing. And it doesn't go down well expecially when coming from a much younger person to an elderly. Its is believed such term should be used within persons of same age bracket or range. Like someone commented, simply adding sir changes every thing. Here in Nigeria, good morning sir/ma or good morning papa this or mama that is what is perceived OK.. Even a younger person calling a much older one by his/her first name without a sir or ma prefix is considered an insult(for me I like this one sha). That's why those days in primary and sec school... We sometimes fight when a fellow classmate calls our father's name. Its a part of what our culture perceive as respect. And to me I don't see any problem with it. It is not a dehumanizing element of our culture like female circumcision, child marriage, widowhood subjugation etc that we need worry about and flush out 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by themaestro08(m): 11:05am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Kamdil: As an African and more to importantly as someone brought up the Nigerian traditional way it might sound odd and disrespectful, but that's archaic and reeks of lack of exposure and open-mindness. As far as am concerned its a harmless and innocuous greeting. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by techmo(m): 11:06am On Oct 05, 2020 |
sylve11: Ofcoarse I did lol.. not just how are you |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Teespice(f): 11:06am On Oct 05, 2020 |
kingreign: Me too. |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by kollysnut(m): 11:07am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki: just add Sir or Ma.......... |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Princessbettyj(f): 11:07am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Iyoocartel: Enugu |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Princessbettyj(f): 11:07am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Vyzz: It's mean sex 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Crownstar01: 11:09am On Oct 05, 2020 |
mikezuruki:Because I feel they don't understand the literal meaning of English as a language. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Nmezor(f): 11:09am On Oct 05, 2020 |
Charmingrascal:Yeah so true...But then its not really offensive if the person being asked was ill/ just recovered |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:12am On Oct 05, 2020 |
uuzba: hmmm |
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:13am On Oct 05, 2020 |
wacuc0: abeg make i laugh small |
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