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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by symbianDON(m): 11:14am On Oct 05, 2020
noble71:
Person way no get money na small thing de vex am cheesy
when you see dangote, ask him, 'dangote, how are you?' grin

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Farki: 11:16am On Oct 05, 2020
Too many thin skinned and perpetually offended people in this country.

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by edoairways: 11:18am On Oct 05, 2020
IamD18:
If you see your elder. GREET and ask no unnecessary question.


Simple.
Not all elders react or behave that way, those who do, do so out of insecurity.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:19am On Oct 05, 2020
Solatium:



How are you sir or ma WILL NEBER BE VIEW DISRESPETFUL by anyone.

A 20yr old saying how are you to a anyone above 40yr is highly disrespectful,I will ask such a person if YOU CAN SAY HOW ARE YOU TO YOUR FATHER,MOTHER,UNCLE OR AUNTY without adding sir/ma


simple! cool
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by herich(m): 11:20am On Oct 05, 2020
How're you doing sir/ma
Or
Hope you're doing fine sir/ma
Would have been better.
Even if you say how're you!
Remember, your tone also matter most, it speaks a lot.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Farki: 11:20am On Oct 05, 2020
ITbomb:
But when they reach abroad, a small boy will hey them and they will be smiling like mumu

In Nigeria, "how are you" sounds like "how are you coping with life, if you have any issue, let me know so that I can help you"

And that is pretty insulting

Na wah no wonder everyone is so angry and frustrated, so much pride that every small thing is taken as an insult.

Anyways like with most Nigerians the "insult" depends on who you are. If a young wealthy man asks that question to an older average man they may not take it as an insult.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Allwell96: 11:21am On Oct 05, 2020
Maybe because of the clime we find ourselves, I also find it offensive if someone far younger than me greets me that way. I don't also greet people far older than me "how are you". At most I must put sir/ma at the end.
Though I greet my parents that way as a sign of concern over their welfare. They understand and we are good.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by CAPSLOCKED: 11:22am On Oct 05, 2020
Grandmeister:

It is those traditions that define who you are..you have shunned your identity for modernism that is why you don’t even know your history and why others tell your story for you. You have removed the boundaries of your fathers and allowed strangers to dictate affairs for you. ‘Woke’ Africans smh.

YEAH KILLING TWINS, SUBJUGATING "OSU PEOPLE" AND DRINKING CORPSE BATHWATER DEFINES WHO YOU ARE AS AFRICAN. WHY DO YOU NOT DO THOSE THINGS TO DATE?

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by DAVE5(m): 11:22am On Oct 05, 2020
mikezuruki:
I have noticed that adults in this part of the world perceive that to be insult.

They feel belittled and disrespected.

Why?

Ask an American “how was your night?”

When you go to Rome, behave like the Romans
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Babaken(m): 11:23am On Oct 05, 2020
Iyoocartel:

Iyooooooo cartel

042
042 Enugu, Ogbe means Area in Igbo street code. Ogbe is also a name of street in Benin city, Edo state.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by grim33(m): 11:25am On Oct 05, 2020
Wow just wow... so asking how an elderly person is ? Is an unnecessary question? Mentality matters a lot in this life.
IamD18:
If you see your elder. GREET and ask no unnecessary question.


Simple.

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by drehdinho(m): 11:25am On Oct 05, 2020
A small child that knows how to wash his hand will eat with the elders.
The manner you approach your elders will determine how far you can go in life.

If you're the one that lacks courtesy, many people would avoid working with you and thereby you loose lots of opportunities.

That's how I came across one of my old time students. I thought the boy in SS1 or so.

Sometimes last year, we jammed each other at the market. Fortunately for him, we came to patronize same seller.

So, I determined in my mind I would foot his bills with mine, which I did.

This student of mine was so happy to the extent that we exchanged numbers.

When I got home that day, I think the evening time, i saw a WhatsApp message pop up, and it was from that boy.

Do you know the first line he sent to me ?

How are you doing bro? I ignored him for a while, but i just didn't want to allow that to rob him of other opportunities he might get from me, so I forgave him even without telling him...

Everyone won't be like me. So, we need to know our elders and respect them.

That's part of our culture. This cuts across all tribes in Nigeria, though in different forms.

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Donspicey: 11:25am On Oct 05, 2020
SirMichael1:
No one asked, no one cares.
be like say u no get elders for ur village abi mind u u re talking to a DON
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by FlordFlorez(m): 11:28am On Oct 05, 2020
IamD18:
If you see your elder. GREET and ask no unnecessary question.


Simple.

So "how are you" is not "GREET"
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by xangerar: 11:28am On Oct 05, 2020
A much younger person once asked me that, and his elder sister almost lost her heart. She thought it was bizarre for him to ask but when she saw my reaction, which was to answer that I was doing fine, she again became settled but a little confused why I reacted like it was normal. But I did because I thought it was normal and should be normal except that Africa attached a lot to age.

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:28am On Oct 05, 2020
kwasoly:


Let's call a spade a spade how will a child walk up to you without greeting you and ask you how are you? Who does that
How are you unto age mate or ur elder?
Haba now I wasn't trained that way abeg,I can't try it my elder so nobody should try it with me. This has nothing to do with self esteem.
It has everything to do with home training. QED

let me remind them: *Crossing your arms in front of you is considered a huge sign of arrogance in Finland. Standing with this posture in a bar is likely to get you into a fight.*

when you tell them, them go say na low self esteem but they forget every country get how them dey run things cool

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Churchill6767: 11:29am On Oct 05, 2020
BornnAgainChild:
How are you can be termed an insult when it's coming from a much younger person.

I think the problem is most people dont understand English Language, it's not just to speak it fluently that matters, rather ; do you understand what you speak

For instance ,

On a fateful morning, I got to work and instead of one of my boy to simply say Good Morning, he said " Mama, How you dey "

Throughout that day hell was let loose on him for that.


So what's wrong with what he said, fucc outta here... Insecure riff-raff.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:31am On Oct 05, 2020
techmo:



Ofcoarse I did lol.. not just how are you

now you see you aren't the op............. grin cool
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by sylve11: 11:33am On Oct 05, 2020
symbianDON:
when you see dangote, ask him, 'dangote, how are you?' grin


nice reply............. grin cool
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Vyzz: 11:33am On Oct 05, 2020
Princessbettyj:


It's mean sex grin



Talk true?....


Why don't u reply to it?
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by MrEnigma007: 11:35am On Oct 05, 2020
I see people already saying it has to do with lack of exposure but the truth is, it is not part of our custom to make sure statement or enquiry to an elder.

You try it with me as a junior, I am not answering you.

Ask those ones saying it is about being educated or being exposed their take on "LGBT" and see most of them say "it is against their religious or traditional belief" but will form exposed over being "disrespectful".

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by ORLAHOLUWA(m): 11:36am On Oct 05, 2020
Next time learn how to be respectful this is africa not white country
Learn how to Say - how are you sir or ma
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by donMIG(m): 11:37am On Oct 05, 2020
Coz in this part of the world we didn't grow up telling our SENIORS HOW ARE U
WHAT HAPPENED TO GOODAFTERNOON N GOODMORNIN?

I no even like make person wei no b my friend tell me how far

If I must say hi I will say goodmornin, Goodafternoon or goodevening... Wic one all this children go c person with beard dei tel am how far?
Lol... I won't even ansa u if u r lucky... If I dei vex I go change am well for u

If u no go greet just dei go jeje... No b by force

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by dederocs(m): 11:37am On Oct 05, 2020
BornnAgainChild:


The worst undecided
nah
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by QuinieR(f): 11:38am On Oct 05, 2020
I remember saying it to one of my street aunty last week..she saw me and called my name,I replied her Good morning aunty,how are you..
Aunty change it for me immediately telling me she is not my mate blablabla..I was shocked undecided

Low mentality....Tueh angry

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Dantedasz(m): 11:38am On Oct 05, 2020
mikezuruki:
I have noticed that adults in this part of the world perceive that to be insult.

They feel belittled and disrespected.

Why?


Strange,I have never noticed or observed this.
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Bezaholib: 11:39am On Oct 05, 2020
They lack the understanding of the grammatical statement. Dey no go school
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Drizzy5001(m): 11:41am On Oct 05, 2020
It's been long i saw that slawomir guy... grin
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Onnasucs1(m): 11:44am On Oct 05, 2020
After proper greetings. I don't think saying "how are you?" To a much older person should be termed an insult.

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Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Chizzychinny: 11:44am On Oct 05, 2020
Courtesy demands you greet first before asking questions
Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by Elsueno: 11:45am On Oct 05, 2020
Theslumflower:
I don't know about "how are you" but I've heard a few people say so about "how was your night" lol

Most married people find it offensive. But I think people are just too sensitive these days, these things are too flimsy to trigger an angry reaction.

When you see things as what they are without reading unnecessary meanings to it, then you will be fine.

Re: Why Do Adults Find "How Are You?" Insulting? by HardWork29: 11:45am On Oct 05, 2020
Over a decade ago someone reported me to my mum that I insulted him on the road side.......FEM

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