Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Love is not all about understanding each other's love languages. Love is accepting his/her flaws....

Must u bring everything to nairaland? Now, what do u want us to do about what u just penned down? I will advise that u go join the protest. #End SARS.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Date him so he will beat sense into you. Because you don't have any sense. Nigeria is in pains they are killing people for you to live safe you're thinking and talking about a boy. I won't say what's on my mind but I hope you will feel it

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MejiLoyon:

Date him so he will beat sense into you. Because you don't have any sense. Nigeria is in pains they are killing people for you to live safe you're thinking and talking about a boy. I won't say what's on my mind but I hope you will feel it

Well said brother. One thing though,how the hell did you come up with your moniker? It's hilarious

You deserve it op,,

He asked you something you said you don't care,,, who does that?

If I'm d one hago change ham for you seriously,,,,

That's snubbing ,,,

You tell me dat you don't care i don't Care also,,

Learn how to talk,,,



But dat doesn't entertain curses,,but at the same time you're wrong,,

Goan beg him,,,,

I don't support going to his house alone also,,,,,,,

MejiLoyon:

Date him so he will beat sense into you. Because you don't have any sense. Nigeria is in pains they are killing people for you to live safe you're thinking and talking about a boy. I won't say what's on my mind but I hope you will feel it

I see nothing bad in posting here. we are in it together. I feel the pain too. I came out too... Carry your bad energy go..so just pass it's not a must you say something.okay?

Fact1:
You deserve it op,,
He asked you something you said you don't care,,, who does that?
If I'm d one hago change ham for you seriously,,,,
That's snubbing ,,,
You tell me dat you don't care i don't Care also,,
Learn how to talk,,,


But dat doesn't entertain curses,,but at the same time you're wrong,,
Goan beg him,,,,
I don't support going to his house alone also,,,,,,,

Thanks.. I already begged thou...

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

All this small small children...you finish help ur mom pound pepper?

ladywealth:

I see nothing bad in posting here. we are in it together. I feel the pain too. I came out too... Carry your bad energy go..so just pass it's not a must you say something.okay?

At ur age wetin de hungry u no de market, but continue. No say I no tell u. Imagine this one talking about love!

ladywealth:

Thanks.. I already begged thou...

U already begged, but u still brought it here for us to tell u what to do.... we should tell u to go 'unbeg' him?

ladywealth:

I see nothing bad in posting here. we are in it together. I feel the pain too. I came out too... Carry your bad energy go..so just pass it's not a must you say something.okay?

E be like say Ogun wan kee you Abi. No let me reason you. No let me reason you.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Yawns.

iRepNaija1:


OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.

he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

shebi u ladies always have 10 choices at ur disposal at every moment, oya drop him like he is hot.

Is that not what u want to hear from us?

The man is into u and likes u and wants u to take the relationship serious. U on the other don't want to settle down. Oya if u like select the one with the biggest features.

MejiLoyon:

Date him so he will beat sense into you. Because you don't have any sense. Nigeria is in pains they are killing people for you to live safe you're thinking and talking about a boy. I won't say what's on my mind but I hope you will feel it

He's showing you who he is and your instincts are likewise warning you. Run!

Besides, he needs to find someone closer to his age
and you need to do the same for yourself!

Happyfela:
Yawns.

Instead of quoting me, you can better spend your time and go to a protest.

ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

He is inviting you over, because he wants to taste your snail and feel your mangoro's ............................

He is 10 years older, so he would want to treat you like his younger sister.......... Run for your life, from verbal abuse, it slowly graduates to physical abuse ................

your parents seems to have given you enough sex education at tender age and believe me is helping you now, thank you Op for taking your ground. a man that's yet to engage you is verbally insulting you and you don't see such guy as misogynist?


misogynist get married too either by societal pressure or just to save face from the family but that doesn't mean their nature won't come up
after the marriage...


you saw which quality in him? I don't think you understand the word quality? you better keep your pussy and boobs intact for your future husband because I don't see any future with that dude if what you typed here is real


disconnect him before he press you more to give inn. I'm advising you as a brother now, any man that can't find other means to reason with you in the aspect of seeing each other, such guy doesn't worth flirting with not to talk of dating

Is his name Obinna bright?
With a burnt black complexion? Did he try to kiss you on the day you guys exchanged numbers?

If he's the one pls run far away.

He's showing you who he is and your instincts are likewise warning you. Run!Besides, he needs to find someone closer to his age and you need to do the same for yourself!

Ategberoson:
your parents seems to have given you enough sex education at tender age and believe me is helping you now, thank you Op for taking your ground. a man that's yet to engage you is verbally insulting you and you don't see such guy as misogynist?


misogynist get married too either by societal pressure or just to save face from the family but that doesn't mean their nature won't come up
after the marriage...


you saw which quality in him? I don't think you understand the word quality? you better keep your pussy and boobs intact for your future husband because I don't see any future with that dude if what you typed here is real


disconnect him before he press you more to give inn. I'm advising you as a brother now, any man that can't find other means to reason with you in the aspect of seeing each other, such guy doesn't worth flirting with not to talk of dating

Thank you so much for the advice.

You see the red flags.... warning signs.... DANGER.... but you're not sure if you should disregard the signs and keep moving forward. It is people like you that often make headlines here M I S S I N G...... and later on.....

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Xoly:
Love is not all about understanding each other's love languages. Love is accepting his/her flaws....

till dem burst your eye glass
set awon motivational speaker

ladywealth:

Thanks.. I already begged thou...

Okay ❤️❤️

Wen God is sending some people signs..I don't know y dey will just decide to ignore it...Go ahead and date him oo..so DAT u can come back here nd complain about him beating u..

9ja is on fire see wetin this one dey post