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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Hopss(m): 9:17am On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:

I see nothing bad in posting here. we are in it together. I feel the pain too. I came out too... Carry your bad energy go..so just pass it's not a must you say something.okay?

Nonsense talk
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by ImpregnaTor(m): 9:17am On Oct 21, 2020
Xoly:
Love is not all about understanding each other's love languages. Love is accepting his/her flaws....
Wow we need more definitions of this complex word called love

ok let me also give mine: Love is not about accepting each other flaws blindly, is about accessing one's flaws, determining compatible and knowing when to Japa

In case u don't know na me talk

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 9:31am On Oct 21, 2020
You are wicked oo...and I like it grin cheesy
MejiLoyon:

Date him so he will beat sense into you. Because you don't have any sense. Nigeria is in pains they are killing people for you to live safe you're thinking and talking about a boy. I won't say what's on my mind but I hope you will feel it
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Bellotelli: 10:29am On Oct 21, 2020
iRepNaija1:


OP, please don't pursue this. You're not even in a relationship with him and you two are already arguing, regardless of who is right or wrong. That's red flag number one. Red flag number two is that he wants you to come to his house only after a few days of talking. That's concerning because a) you should be meeting someone you don't know well in a public place, b) he should want to meet you in a public place for a meet-up or date, or c) he just wants sex. If you just want sex, then cool. But since you've declined his first offer, I don't think that's what you're going for. The third red flag is that he insulted you. From what you said, you told him, "I don't care." Is that an insult? To me, it's not because you did not criticize his person or his family. (Remember, critique the action, not the person). Could your response have been said in a better way? Maybe but you were straightforward. If he's willing to do this and you two have just started talking, imagine what could happen if you were dating or in a serious relationship.

He's just trying to test your limits to see how much B.S. he can get away with and how much B.S. you can tolerate. At 22, you're an adult but you're also much younger than him and he's seeing if he can take advantage of your possible lack of experience in dating. The fact that you're on NL may indicate to me you're still interested in him despite these red flags because if you weren't, I know you would've not continued talking with him.

I think you should really let this man go. It just sounds like wahala. You're young and there will be so many other men. When a man likes you and wants to spend time with you, you won't have to question it, you won't be on NL asking for advice from strangers. He will treat you like royalty and handle you like glass. You will never have to second-guess his feelings for you or his motives. Good luck.
I detest people writing more than the op shocked

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by aminusodiq(m): 10:36am On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks
d guy isnt good fr u dear... And its obvious you are still in your whoring stage

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Kingnelson9: 11:41am On Oct 21, 2020
why cant u date some1 within ur age bracket? 11yrs difference is too much nah, do u call him baby or uncle?

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by ABANGWABOI(m): 11:46am On Oct 21, 2020
Ardar:
Is his name Obinna bright?
With a burnt black complexion? Did he try to kiss you on the day you guys exchanged numbers?

If he's the one pls run far away.


Lol..
Una no go kill me for Nairaland with laugh..
See comment ooo..
Chineke Nnah...
Lol..
No vex say I quote you oo..
I can't control the laughter..

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 12:17pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks
Ladywealth, Be Wise...
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by kunle75(m): 12:33pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks


You already see all the red flag now and you wont back down, only because of your particular interest in something only you saw while with him but we here don't see.

Don't come back here later and share story that touches oooo

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 12:40pm On Oct 21, 2020
ImpregnaTor:
Wow we need more definitions of this complex word called love

ok let me also give mine: Love is not about accepting each other flaws blindly, is about accessing one's flaws, determining compatible and knowing when to Japa

In case u don't know na me talk
grin grin
Abii?
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by obinna58(m): 12:51pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Just admit you don't know what you want with him, same issues I'm having with a girl now just that I'm not verbally abusive.
She knows I like her she likes me too at least so she claims. I give her attention and treat her special then at a time I'll try to touch and kiss her she'll be backing off, forming hard to get and a good girl(i've had enough of your good girl be a who're). I'll keep it cool and not treat like an angel any more, once she sees she's not being treated special, like I want to move on with my life which I intend to, the next thing she'll bump into me wanting to have sex even, once everything gets back to normal the whole cycle repeats again.
God knows I'll one time back off for good and it all ends.


Stop tormenting his heart, either you're in or out, leave him or you show some love girl. It's look true when people say women goes for bad boys who treats them like trash.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 1:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
Ardar:
Is his name Obinna bright?
With a burnt black complexion? Did he try to kiss you on the day you guys exchanged numbers?

If he's the one pls run far away.

Is it the same obinna below? Lol. Igbo men are sexy. Lol

obinna58:


Just admit you don't know what you want with him, same issues I'm having with a girl now just that I'm not verbally abusive.
She knows I like her she likes me too at least so she claims. I give her attention and treat her special then at a time I'll try to touch and kiss her she'll be backing off, forming hard to get and a good girl(i've had enough of your good girl be a who're). I'll keep it cool and not treat like an angel any more, once she sees she's not being treated special, like I want to move on with my life which I intend to, the next thing she'll bump into me wanting to have sex even, once everything gets back to normal the whole cycle repeats again.
God knows I'll one time back off for good and it all ends.


Stop tormenting his heart, either you're in or out, leave him or you show some love girl. It's look true when people say women goes for bad boys who treats them like trash.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by bigjackass: 1:27pm On Oct 21, 2020
I'm sure that the qualities you see in him is that he has a good job or business and small change as a 33 year old manundecided . Other wise you can't possibly be considering to date someone that is aggressive and talks to you like shit. Date him and get murdered you hear. Alaigboran omo angry

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by antidisestablis: 1:43pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.
I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. so few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.
Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. i replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.
for the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...
I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.
he argue over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks
Red flag, a man that verbally abused you will beat one day.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Oesophagus99(m): 2:09pm On Oct 21, 2020
Dear Ladies,
Gentle guys still yakpaa for ground but why wuna too dey like fall in love for person wey dey maltreat wuna wella??


**Tueh.. Simpy ladies all over the world!**
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by NNAMDIII(m): 3:15pm On Oct 21, 2020
You're a fool, girls of this generation no even get sense sef, i pity your life
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Liposure: 4:18pm On Oct 21, 2020
Learn from lilfrosh gf. It is better to call it quit now than come out with a swollen face later

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by ladywealth(f): 4:30pm On Oct 21, 2020
NNAMDIII:
You're a fool, girls of this generation no even get sense sef, i pity your life
you are stupid. learn how to talk. loose mouth

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 21, 2020
Diariess:


Is it the same obinna below? Lol.


Sound alot like him. Could be him.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:19pm On Oct 21, 2020
#EndSARS

We say no to bad governance.
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Jh0wsef(m): 10:21pm On Oct 21, 2020
Hmmm
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:22pm On Oct 21, 2020
MejiLoyon:

E be like say Ogun wan kee you Abi. No let me reason you. No let me reason you.
Reason her from behind your keyboard, undecidedundecided
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by iamyemiakins(m): 10:22pm On Oct 21, 2020
What's this post doing on FP?!
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by tojahh(m): 10:23pm On Oct 21, 2020
You say he treats you like you're a baby?! No let me curse you Ogun o.

If you're not a baby, na this time wey the nation is at war you dey talk about man?

Abeg gerrat of hia.. Nation is mourning you are talking about nonsense. The mod sef is a clout chaser.

Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Prosperlord(m): 10:23pm On Oct 21, 2020
na person way Dy alive Dy date... e be like u smoke candle for posting dis at dis moment...#endbadgovernance
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Tdave01: 10:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
Hanty pack your two slippers for hand and run for your dear life grin grin grin

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by driving: 10:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

Are you Kunle's girlfriend? grin , This is his situation with the girl he just met. The girl is also 22 grin

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by jikins(m): 10:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
ladywealth:
Good evening my NL guys.

I just met a guy last month ending, we exchanged numbers and started chatting. He asked me out.. I really enjoyed chatting with him, just him alone. So few days after, he invited me to his house. I declined but I noticed that he stopped chatting with me.

Few days after, he asked about my genotype without even greeting me. I counter questioned him and he attacked me, claiming that he is not happy with me. I replied that 'I don't care'.
The next thing I received was rains of insults. Saying that I insulted him. I admitted and we settled it.

For the short times I've known him, I could see the kind of qualities I want in a man. But the problem he has and that he attested to is verbal abuse...

I noticed that anytime he invites me to his house and I declined, it always piss him off and he stops talking to me.
I decided not to visit him because it's not safe for me.

He argues over little things on chat, he talks to me like I'm a baby ( he is 33 and I'm 22). he is domineering... I'm just confused on the decision to date him considering all these flaws. I am suspicious of him being violent.
thanks

You deserve better is all I'll say.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Oovi5(f): 10:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
Na man dey give you headache like this? Men will disgrace and stain your white ooo! Concentrate on yourself and job(If you have one at the moment)
Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Nobody: 10:24pm On Oct 21, 2020
Run away oh, once chicken see knife him no dey think twice.

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Re: A Verbally Abusive Guy I Just Met by Flytime: 10:25pm On Oct 21, 2020
Lexusgs430:



He is inviting you over, because he wants to taste your snail and feel your mangoro's ............................ cheesy

He is 10 years older, so he would want to treat you like his younger sister.......... Run for your life, from verbal abuse, it slowly graduates to physical abuse ................
you sef dey give relationship advice

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