Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

Do you know kakashi

You may just have to ignore those stories in it's entirety of you really need a wife. Don't let them even tell you because when you know the truth... Hmmmm

Are you looking for a wife or are you looking a for a woman with a plausible "lose your virginity story"?

There's more to getting a good wife than meeting her a virgin. Does she have self-identity/worth? Patience? Understanding? Forgiving spirit, loyalty, amongst others.

A good wife is in character, not the hymen, Mr. Man

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Do you know kakashi

No. Tell me

Stephenomozzy:
Are you looking for a wife or are you looking a for a woman with a plausible "lose your virginity story"?

At least don't cook up stories.
Say
*i'm not virgin, I had a boyfriend I was having sex with"

Chapter1vs6:
You may just have to ignore those stories in it's entirety of you really need a wife. Don't let them even tell you because when you know the truth... Hmmmm

I actually didn't ask

Stephenomozzy:
Are you looking for a wife or are you looking a for a woman with a plausible "lose your virginity story"?

There's more to getting a good wife than meeting her a virgin. Does she have self-identity/worth? Patience? Understanding? Forgiving spirit, loyalty, amongst others.

A good wife is in character, not the hymen, Mr. Man

Sexual self-control is part of good character for men and women.

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

I wonder why they have to keep cooking up STORIES?

If you can do the crime, do the time.

I had other relationships before I met you should be a good intro.

The amusing ones are those who claim to be virgins when they are not and intend to sleep with/marry the man.

Is it not foolishness?

bukatyne:


I wonder why they have to keep cooking up STORIES?

If you can do the crime, do the time.

I had other relationships before I met you should be a good intro.

The amusing ones are those who claim to be virgins when they are not and intend to sleep with/marry the man.

Is it not foolishness?

Cooking up a story is my factual concern

Stockholm syndrome at work

Shortyy:
Stockholm syndrome at work

Please explain a little

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

you need to investigate her. Before marrying any woman vet her thoroughly. Don't listen to people that say nonsense about virginity etc.

Saying things like i had other relationships before meeting you is not good enough, you need to know the kind of life she lived prior to meeting you.

In the past, before a couple can get married both families investigate each other, what is stopping you from doing it?

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/101#95705418

Stephenomozzy:


There's more to getting a good wife than meeting her a virgin. Does she have self-identity/worth? Patience? Understanding? Forgiving spirit, loyalty, amongst others.

A good wife is in character, not the hymen, Mr. Man

True to an extent cos you don't want a lose woman with a good character also

angelfallz:


you need to investigate her. Before marrying any woman vet her thoroughly. Don't listen to people that say nonsense about virginity etc.

Saying things like i had other relationships before meeting you is not good enough, you need to know the kind of life she lived prior to meeting you.

In the past, before a couple can get married both families investigate each other, what is stopping you from doing it?

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/101#95705418

Thanks for this

MMXX:
True to an extent cos you don't want a lose woman with a good character also

Gbam!

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

Are you a good husband that you should be given or get a "good wife"?

Dtruthspeaker:


Are you a good husband that you should be given or get a "good wife"?

To a large extent, yes I am.

bukatyne:


Sexual self-control is part of good character for men and women.

Are you a virgin?

Btw, virginity does not always validate sexual self-control. To some, it's just a lack of opportunity.

While I'm not trying to speak against virginity.. I'm coming from the angle of the op fixating on the "how I lost my virginity" story from the prospects he's made

MMXX:
True to an extent cos you don't want a lose woman with a good character also

Exactly, my point is get to know the woman in her PRESENT... observe her personality and you may even be able to predict future tendencies. Digging too deep in the past sometimes is an unpleasant and hypocritical endeavor.. As we all have flaws in our past

virtual7:


To a large extent, yes I am.

Then, continue in your works, The One Who Matches the husband with his wife, knoweth All and He dispenseth as He Deems Fit!

But what I have seen is that a good wife can not be found, Exactly As the Bible Said. (Na bad wife na im dey market, as you have confirmed)

However, a good wife is Given by The Lord, but Only to Righteous Men. And this is were the Yoruba adage is Instructive in saying "God no dey give bad animal, horn".

Stephenomozzy:


Are you a virgin?

Btw, virginity does not always validate sexual self-control. To some, it's just a lack of identity.

While I'm not trying to speak against virginity.. I'm coming from the angle of the op fixating on the "how I lost my virginity" story from the prospects he's made

Stop trying to hard.

The fellow is only concerned about and also disappointed in the cooked up story.

Karleb:


Stop trying to hard.

The fellow is only concerned about and also disappointed in the cooked up story.

K.

I didn't quote you. There's a discussion beyond the op's dilemma.

Stephenomozzy:

K.
I didn't quote you. There's a discussion beyond the op's dilemma.

The OP didn't invite you to comment either.

It's a public forum, anyone can quote anyone.

Karleb:


The OP didn't invite you to comment either.


It's a public forum, anyone can quote anyone.

Thank God you know that, at least. I don't understand then why you're pained about the direction I was pushing my point in with another uninvited member of the public forum.

Hmmn.

Stephenomozzy:


Are you a virgin?

Btw, virginity does not always validate sexual self-control. To some, it's just a lack of identity.

While I'm not trying to speak against virginity.. I'm coming from the angle of the op fixating on the "how I lost my virginity" story from the prospects he's made

Whether I am a virgin or not is outside the scope of this thread.

Virginity would always be a sign of sexual self-control to me which is a hallmark of character. I am not saying sexual self-control is all there is to a wife or husband. Same person might lack financial self-control or self-control in food etc.

If you don't see anything wrong in lying how one got disflowered especially when not solicited, I, the OP and some others do.

The OP has not even said he wants to marry a virgin (also not bad); he wants ladies to be truthful (IF they decide to divulge).

That is not to say some ladies were not raped (I even have a thread on that): but to claim cock and bull stories like our Government feed us is playing on the person's intelligence.

bukatyne:


The OP has not even said he wants to marry a virgin (also not bad); he wants ladies to be truthful (IF they decide to divulge).

If it means so much for you to know, then be matured enough to deal with the knowledge how best it suits you, not crying foul on social media.

Bye

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

Why did you bother asking her how she lost her virginity?

9 out of 10 times, the response is going to be a lie... Know this and know peace.
You should stop asking such questions.

She's trying to manage the truth. Unfortunately there are loopholes in the story

crackhaus:

Why did you bother asking her how she lost her virginity?

9 out of 10 times, the response is going to be a lie... Know this and know peace.
You should stop asking such questions.

No. Such questions should be asked but, not necessarily directly.
It is very important to thoroughly vet and verify the woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with.