Glad you made it here. I promise to make sure you don't have any regrets for giving this post a try.

Now!

Have you ever wondered why some couples grow numb to sex or lose interest months after the vow?!

Well, i have too.


Why Does This Happen, You May Ask?!

For starters, many of them think of sex and just imagine penetration, nothing more!

This makes the whole thing so predictable and unexciting!


Are There Other Reasons?!

Of course. But for this post, we will look at a lack of 'sugar and spice' as one cause of boring marital sex!



DISCLAIMER:

I am not a family therapist, this is just my opinion and friendly advice. You may find these things helpful, either way i am not accountable for your marriage but hope for the best.

I don't know everything, so do not expect me to be 100% accurate.


That being said, here are some ways you can make sex with your partner less boring and more exciting.

Your Own doctor na wa ooo, I pity your female patient,you are tooooooo randy

1. Try Another Place, Not Just The Bedroom

What happened to the bathroom or kitchen counter or the couch?! Ever thought of changing locations?!

Your matrimonial bed is not your only option - go wild! This way there is something to look forward to.

If you have kids, you can still stick to your bedroom - but perhaps try moving around rather than just gluing yourself to the bed.

I am not. I just love sexual health and want couples to get the best from it.

Zzor:
Your Own doctor na wa ooo, I pity your female patient,you are tooooooo randy

nwaezeemmanuel:
I am not. I just love sexual health and want couples to get the best from it.

You chose sexual health because of sex,i think you should get married early

2. How About Changing Positions?!

I know! This may be tasking, especially if you are still getting a hang of things.

You don't need to watch a shit load of porn. If she's on top in one night, try being on top the next night. If you're both on the bed in one night, try standing or kneeling the next time.

This keeps things exciting, and can unlock all kinds of pleasures. Make sure you both agree every step of the way!

3. Make Out Like There's No Tomorrow

That's right! Don't go straight to the point if you want to spice things up.

Pass time with some pre-intimacy. Things like kissing, caressing, cuddling builds a lot of healthy tension.

You don't have to worry if you don't get it right. There is room for mistakes, especially when you're married.

All doctors are very randy,even the ones here on Nairaland serves as an example.

Zzor:
You chose sexual health because of sex,i think you should get married early

You’re almost 35 and unmarried, yet, you’re advising one to marry early.

So doctors in sexual health space are there because of sex. I love your logic

Zzor:
You chose sexual health because of sex,i think you should get married early

nwaezeemmanuel:
So doctors in sexual health space are there because of sex. I love your logic

check your topics,its all carnal,you are a sex maniac

4. Enough Pounding! Try To Slow Things Down.

If you're a man, try alternating between going hard and going soft. This doesn't make you less of a man.

Gentle sex can get very steamy and your bodies rub more intimately once you dial things down. Slow your breath and focus on each movement - yours and hers.

Sensations that were overlooked from heavy pounding can get very noticed when sex is more gentle.

Davash222:

You’re almost 35 and unmarried, yet, you’re advising one to marry early.

Not everyone wish to be married,point of correction I shall be forty soon

It is judgemental habits like these that hide quality information.

I don't support pre-marital sex but preach safe sex with condoms, that's a problem.

I try to ensure couples get the best out of their sex life, another problem. Please stop being judgemental

Zzor:
check your topics,its all carnal,you are a sex maniac

nwaezeemmanuel:
It is judgemental habits like these that hide quality information.

I don't support pre-marital sex but preach safe sex with condoms, that's a problem.

I try to ensure couples get the best out of their sex life, another problem. Please stop being judgemental

Of all the options,it is sexual health you chose,lets try and be truthful always

5. Sometimes, Keep Your Clothes On.

You may want to start your journey to sex by letting your partner UnCloth you.

There is this weird adrenaline rush that comes with a wife unzipping her husband's trousers or a husband unhooking his wife's bra.

It's just like getting a present, would you feel more excited if you had to unwrap it or didn't have to?!

Zzor:
Not everyone wish to be married,point of correction I shall be forty soon

But, you didn’t even ask if the OP wish to get married.

I won't argue this with you further, this post was created for an audience. You don't have to be that audience.

Zzor:
Of all the options,it is sexual health you chose,lets try and be truthful always

6. Have Fun Without Having Sex.

Outside the other room, what is happening?!

Sex gets more enjoyable when there is an agreeing reason for it in the first place. Try sustaining a healthy relationship on a day-to-day basis.

Couples aren't too old for fun or daylight romance. Your partner needs to know that they are being loved without their presence in bed.

@Zzor this is carnal too right?!

nwaezeemmanuel:
6. Have Fun Without Having Sex.

Outside the other room, what is happening?!

Sex gets more enjoyable when there is an agreeing reason for it in the first place. Try sustaining a healthy relationship on a day-to-day basis.

Couples aren't too old for fun or daylight romance. Your partner needs to know that they are being loved without their presence in bed.

7. Explore Fantasies You Both Agree On

If you read taboos to everything, there is a chance you will have a very dry and conservative sex life with your spouse.

Don't be afraid to consider fantasies. Some partners may love being gently spanked, some may love having sex with their spouse in certain dresses or while playing music in the background.

Negotiate on your preferences, and agree on the kind that works for both of you.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I won't argue this with you further, this post was created for an audience. You don't have to be that audience.

i can be any audience I like,this is a public forum.The few doctors we have here are always very carnal,you, lefulefu, medicH are typical examples.Is there anything you people inhale in the hospital that put your hormones at rage?

8. Use Your Hands, Get Them Involved!

Here's how boring sex can look like. Two people having sex, hands never reaching for anything.

They really should be doing more, and can guarantee better orgasms.

handling and rubbing movements with the hand works wonders. Penetration isn't everything!

nwaezeemmanuel:
@Zzor this is carnal too right?!

Its still about sex, when last did you and your other doctors here talked about Jesus Christ and scriptures

9. Pillow Talk

This is more of an intimate conversation post-sex.

Here you can confess love, say what you enjoyed the most or what can be improved ahead of the next round.

Sadly, some couples in Nigeria sleep off immediately after sex or in worst cases act like nothing happened.

Zzor:
i can be any audience I like,this is a public forum.The few doctors we have here are always very carnal,you, lefulefu, medicH are typical examples.Is there anything you people inhale in the hospital that put your hormones at rage?

Zzor biko be very carnal oo make ur future husband no cheat on u

I hate being hypocritical. Check my posts, i once created one in Religions forum talking about my study with a daily devotional.

Here's the link to that, i titled it:

Fellow Christians! Stop Judging People Based On Their Appearance

https://www.nairaland.com/6227745/fellow-christians-stop-judging-people

It is this holier than thou attitude that keeps people ignorant and triggered for no reason.

Zzor:
Its still about sex, when last did you and your other doctors here talked about Jesus Christ and scriptures

Marriage benefits women more than men, this is why its every girls dream to be married.





Marriage is the death of a free man and I’d rather have dangerous freedom over peaceful slavery.

lefulefu:
Zzor biko be very carnal oo make ur future husband no cheat on u

you don't even hide your own lol, why are most of you so randy

Why I Created This Post?!

I wrote this because of how badly i see couples spoil their marriages out of a bad sex life.

Some don't know the little things that keep intercourse more interesting. Many are like @Zzor that brands these things as carnal.

If you're married and want to keep your sex life with your spouse active, do whatever you guys agree on - deafen your ears to those that call it carnal, they didn't make the vow with you.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I hate being hypocritical. Check my posts, i once created one in Religions forum talking about my study with a daily devotional.

It is this holier than thou attitude that keeps people ignorant and triggered for no reason.

its still kind of sexual even though it's a religious topic

nwaezeemmanuel:
Why I Created This Post?!

I wrote this because of how badly i see couples spoil their marriages out of a bad sex life.

Some don't know the little things that keep intercourse more interesting. Many are like @Zzor that brands these things as carnal.

If you're married and want to keep your sex life with your spouse active, do whatever you guys agree on - deafen your ears to those that call it carnal, they didn't make the vow with you.

marriage is not all about sex,a marriage without a Godly foundation will crash, sex does not hold marriage together.I dy fear una