On Monday morning my wife left with our 2 years old to run errands. I was still enjoying my sleep because it was my day off , am a self employee. I woke up around 9am I stoop up to get ready for the day , I saw my wife night shorts on the floor I picked it up and what I saw shocked me. Poop stained on her shorts taught I was dreaming or something because It cannot be real. But accident can happen anytime taught maybe it has happened because she had diarrhoea maybe by the time she had to rushed to the toilet it was late some has come out and stained her pant , even taught it was disgusting to see but I took the short and put it on her small bucket where she keep her pants before washing them. But what I discovered while taking the bucket out of the top of the wardrobe was more than disgusting , a black nylon bag fell on my face, taught it was her new clothes or something but when I opened it, I saw more disgusting rotten dirty pants with period stains , poop stains and urine I think she has placed there because she wanted to burn them but she didn’t have the time to do so. I snapped them for evidences and put it back as if nothing happened . When she returned I didn’t asked her anything still acted normal . Everything was so disgusting it has put me off from eating her foods , I take pack lunch to work but I have been throwing them away , whenever she cooks dinner at home when I want to eat the picture of her disgusting pants keep coming back and it will put me off and she is been wondering why I am not eating her foods again but I keep making excuses of not having any appetite which she is been suspecting me of cheating on her which is not the case. This morning have checked the wardrobe to see if the nylon bag was still in there but couldn’t find it which I believed she had burned it in my absence and she has no ideas that I have seen it. I am not sure if I had to confront her about it or let it go and move on but wait till I find more before confronting her . Am seriously confused no insult please � only mature people should comment

Chai!

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do u sill have sex with her or u stopped because of what u saw? it's not a bad idea to confront her tho

And what's stopping you from communicating with her ?
Marriage is more than sex and children, no one is perfect.
The problem with Nigerians is we dwell so much on the problem not the cause. Did you try to find out what led to that ? You just assumed and ran to nairaland.
And you want a matured response like you've handled the issue in a matured way.

Oga, no need for all this long sermon and no need of bringing it here for dissection. Follow your wife talk am. But u suppose don know say ur woman dirty before marrying her. And dirty habits are very difficult to hide and change.

She's your wife, communicate!!

Tell her what you saw and request for her to change and that you dont like it. Take charge.

If you dont "soro soke" right now, it will lead tonl further resentment and a breakdown of the marriage.

See talk

"I took pictures for evidence... "

What type of Men do society breed these days?

I can't believe a "Married Man" can have such a teenage mind!

Tell her to stop using tissue papers to clean nyansh after she shiit finish..water should help.

What kind of man are you? Is it everything you bring to Nairaland forum?
You should've communicated with her to know what led to such behaviour instead you brought it here seeking for matured response.

I tire for men like you, nawa o!

Would you have felt this way if you were still dating and not married? Avoid see finish. Just correct her & she'll change for good.

OP, communication is the key.
Picturing the mess in your mind won't help solve matters instead, sit her down and talk to her in a subtle manner and let her realize her lapses so as to turn over a new leaf.


Both of you are imperfect made to perfect each other in marriage.
Always learn to communicate first.
Don't give up on each other.

Talk to her about it. We're not her.

Are you sure that you are indeed maturely married coz if you are then what am reading here isn't matured in anyway.
Just to talk to your so called wife that you openly and knowingly married,you are bringing your private issue to the front table of over 2.5million people to judge what YOU saw.
Since its what you want in your marriage then just wait coz I trust NL members will surely judge or settle your private issues for you

Waaat??... Call her to order now!!!!
That's a very dirty habit no one should condone. Please call her today when you get home and show her the pics. Then tell her to stop it or you'll stop eating her food.

I remember a long time, there was a food vendor ( a woman) that brings food to the office for staffs. So one day I perceived an unpleasant odour from her and that made me stop buying her food because the food started emmitting that smell. So, I can relate.

This ought not to be brought to public domain. She's your wife. Why is it difficult to express your mind the way you feel? Do you need bottling this up or asking what to do? Be a man!

Talk to her about it as others have said.Next time you see something like that,show it to her immediately.

Your wife will need some improvement in personal hygiene.You've got to help her.

You must talk to her about it. She would be embarrassed but she deserves to be. I wash my own pants before taking my bath daily because I can't even store dirty pants. She didn't wash them but burnt them? Ignore those asking why you brought it to nairaland because they don't know you or your wife so I don't see how you are exposing her. Sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers or find advise from people who don't know you personally. Still, I don't understand why you are afraid to bring it up with her.

Chiquitq:
You must talk to her about it. She would be embarrassed but she deserves to be. I wash my own pants before taking my bath daily because I can't even store dirty pants. She didn't wash them but burnt them? Ignore those asking why you brought it to nairaland because they don't know you or your wife so I don't see how you are exposing her. Sometimes it is easier to talk to strangers or find advise from people who don't know you personally. Still, I don't understand why you are afraid to bring it up with her.

lies

DrAkpa:



Am sure that your wife na afonja

all these tribal slur is it worth it

You the husband and she the wife deserves each other. Bunch of immature, chronologically unstable and unhygienically enhanced babies.

Wetin person no go read these days. This man complaining of his wife poo and another man opens thread of sweet korean wine made with poo: https://www.nairaland.com/6249739/korean-alcoholic-wine-made-human

milann:
lies

Na you dey wash am?

emeraldknytt:
My sister does this every day before leaving for work. No be everything be lie unto say you never witness or experience am before.

Abeg tell am ooo

People dey this Nl sha!

It's a pity, this mistake of a horseband definitely brought this here so his wife can be insulted and degraded by his fellow manboys.


Modified; The poster below me is a dirty smelly pig.

The poster above me is a dirty pig

Your type of husband is very disgusting forget that your wife is dirty your own worst pass her sef.

Taught
Thought
Taut
Are unrelated.
Know the difference(s).

I want to understand the rationale behind keeping mute and reacting to issues rather than communicating and responding to them.

Wife doesn't know you are irritated with her dirty habits, you are boiling and will do so till you implode or explode.

You guys would continue till your relationship breaks down and then you both are running from pillar to post.