Are there any implications ( cultural or spiritual) of a child not able to attend the burial of the father being that the child grew up with the mother alone due to early separation and the father never reached out to the child until death after which the father's family informed the child who is the first born?

realtalk19:
Are there any implications ( cultural or spiritual) of a child not able to attend the burial of the father being that the child grew up with the mother alone due to early separation and the father never reached out to the child until death after which the father's family informed the child who is the first born?

Non. But you should be ashamed of yourself for not being able to ask your mum questions to findout who is your father before his demise.

realtalk19:
Are there any implications ( cultural or spiritual) of a child not able to attend the burial of the father being that the child grew up with the mother alone due to early separation and the father never reached out to the child until death after which the father's family informed the child who is the first born?

Islamically you must pray, love, appreciate and regard then reach out to your father/mother any time, nay where, what ever (BAD) they did to you or send through your path.

'Not being able to' and 'not willing to' are two different things. But if it's the former I don't think there's any implications because I have friends who could not attend their father's burial because they didn't have the right documents But they were actively involved.

I doubt if there'll be any wahala but I find it rather disturbing that you, a male child in particular grew up and never bordered to at least find out who your father was.

UNLESS YOU WERE OUT OF THE COUNTRY, DUE TO DOCUMENTS AND FINANCIAL ISSUES, NOTHING ELSE SHOULD STOP YOU FROM ATTENDING YOUR FATHER'S BURIAL.

I understand those condemning you for not attending your father's burial but I am with you on this. If they have not walked in your shoes, they can not understand your decision.
You said your father and mother were separated and he never reached out to you ? Is that one a father? How could he not reach out to his son? Probably first son at that. Why did family members contact you about it but failed to reconcile you when he was alive? A man and his wife/lover can fall out of love but children should never be neglected. I can't think of any excuse good enough that a father would do so. Let's assume that your mother had brainwashed you against your father...what steps did he take to make sure how children don't think bad of him? You have done the right thing and other irresponsible men may learn from this. Don't let anyone use religion to deceive you about honouring your father. God is merciful to everyone and if no punishment awaits men who abandoned their kids, then no punishment for kids who abandoned their fathers due to his lack of existence in their lives.

Chiquitq:
I understand those condemning you for not attending your father's burial but I am with you on this. If they have not walked in your shoes, they can not understand your decision.
You said your father and mother were separated and he never reached out to you ? Is that one a father? How could he not reach out to his son? Probably first son at that. Why did family members contact you about it but failed to reconcile you when he was alive? A man and his wife/lover can fall out of love but children should never be neglected. I can't think of any excuse good enough that a father would do so. Let's assume that your mother had brainwashed you against your father...what steps did he take to make sure how children don't think bad of him? You have done the right thing and other irresponsible men may learn from this. Don't let anyone use religion to deceive you about honouring your father. God is merciful to everyone and if no punishment awaits men who abandoned their kids, then no punishment for kids who abandoned their fathers due to his lack of existence in their lives.

God is merciful to everyone and if no punishment awaits men who abandoned their kids, then no punishment for kids who abandoned their fathers due to his lack of existence in their lives.....Well captured as it balances things and not enabling neglect.

He neglected you in his life time, that alone should have a lot of meaning to you.
Stay with your mother except you want a share of his property which I doubt he wrote your name in his will. The man never wanted you both.

Chiquitq:
I understand those condemning you for not attending your father's burial but I am with you on this. If they have not walked in your shoes, they can not understand your decision.
You said your father and mother were separated and he never reached out to you ? Is that one a father? How could he not reach out to his son? Probably first son at that. Why did family members contact you about it but failed to reconcile you when he was alive? A man and his wife/lover can fall out of love but children should never be neglected. I can't think of any excuse good enough that a father would do so. Let's assume that your mother had brainwashed you against your father...what steps did he take to make sure how children don't think bad of him? You have done the right thing and other irresponsible men may learn from this. Don't let anyone use religion to deceive you about honouring your father. God is merciful to everyone and if no punishment awaits men who abandoned their kids, then no punishment for kids who abandoned their fathers due to his lack of existence in their lives.

O oh, tell them! A sperm donor and a father are not the same.

realtalk19:
Are there any implications ( cultural or spiritual) of a child not able to attend the burial of the father being that the child grew up with the mother alone due to early separation and the father never reached out to the child until death after which the father's family informed the child who is the first born?

I was once in your shoes and I swore that I would never have anything to do with him or his family, even wanted to drop his names when I grew up to know my Rights. That was my decision then, still is.

But as I said, I was once in your shoes!

FirefliesSun:
He neglected you in his life time, that alone should have a lot of meaning to you.
Stay with your mother except you want a share of his property which I doubt he wrote your name in his will. The man never wanted you both.

No dey mix good advice with bad one na. Share in his property ke?

"No liability, no benefit" This is the Law

Let the dead bury themselves