As I type this, it's with tears in my eyes.. I am pained, they've done everything bad to me.. Sincerely, I don't deserve this ill treatment have gotten from this family...
It is gonna be a very long read but I know you will learn a thing or two from this..
I might not be able to touch everything but if you feel there is something I need to share and I didn't, point it out and I will shed more light on it....

This may seems a bit lengthy but you should learn one or two lessons from it..
I come from a not broken not memded marriage same as my wife but hers was worse than mine..
My father used to be a rich man. When car dealing was very lucrative, he was a top notch car dealer in akure.. So along the line, he started fornicating. His was on another level, he always take them abroad to sleep with, shop for them and do every every.. We are five in my family, I being the first born..
I had to train myself through university with photography with the help of my mum too. I remember when I was looking for project money, one of my father's wife, the one that went to give birth in Dubai just came back and they were doing naming ceremony.. I could remember I was in the rain with my mum and they were pointing at us, though we couldn't hear what they were saying.. How did I raise my project money? Sponsoring 5 kids wasn't an easy task since 3 of us was in the university. So I went with my to her work place, she was a nurse so we collected all the aprons used during immunization and washed them.. Then I also hustled to complete the money...
It was a very rough and tough life but all along, we didn't even seem like someone who has a father..

Let me jump to the reason for this thread..
I vowed never to allow whatever happened in my family happen to me in the future..
I met my wife when I was in 200 level.. I was 23 and she was 21..

Cc royalroy

Cc royalroy

NEVER DATE OR MARRY A GIRL OR LADY WHO IS VISIONLESS AND DOESN'T ALIGN WITH YOUR DREAMS , GOALS AND ASPIRATION.

I was blinded by love cos she was beautiful. Initially when we started out, things were fine. I was doing well for myself as a photographer. then from forgetting pant to bag to clothes, we started living a couples life..
The way I wired myself right from inception,i don't drink, I don't smoke and believe, I don't womanize.. I don't even watch football.. I am an extreme introvert..
So I started noticing that when it is past 11 or 12am,she will sneak out to club, it took me time to notice this cos I always sleep early. When I noticed this and tried to stop her, she will get angry and just leave the house at night, one day, I almost got shot by our vigilante and that day, I vowed to drive her away. She apologized prosefuly and promised to change.. Well, it seems she changed..
Fast forward to 6yrs later, we got married and today, eight years later, we are blessed with two beautiful kids, a 4yrs boy and 2yrs girl.. They are beautiful and adoring..

Now something happened to me last year.. I lost everything I owned.. I was doing well for myself, I have workers, owned a car and was building myself a nice house. Everything went down the drain.. Everything.. I went to pray about what was happening to me and I was told to fast for some days that some secrets will be revealed to me.. Well I did and the revelation started pouring in..

While we still dating, not married then, my wife was doing runs and I didn't even know, this is how I got to know..
One of the yahoo guys he dated back then, he slept with her and gave her money. But she was not satisfied with the money he gave her so while that guy went into the bathroom, my wife took the money he intend to buy fuel with and ran away. According to the guy, when he tried to trace her on foot, Sars nabbed him. He spent close to 2million before he could get off their hook so since then, he vowed to kill her anytime he sees her.. Fortunately for him, he saw her on Facebook and then use a wealthy Nigeria young rich Nigerian picture to message her.. And they started talking.. In a week, they've started sending nudes to each other. And she was already planning how to leave me and the kids and flee with her new lover.. This time around, we are not together cos when things got unbearable, she left with the kids to her parents place.. She said she can't go to mine..
Don't know how but this guy knows me, I was very popular in the state I was cos of the work I do.. So when he went through my wife's Facebook, he saw our wedding pics and he was disappointed.. Believe me, I was very hardworking and for 7years, she didn't work, I was sponsoring her expensive lifestyle and I didn't even feel it a bit.. There was a time I told her to learn event management since I am a photographer, we can always work together, she said she is to fragile to work or learn anything.. But last year, she decided to learn fashion designing.. So this guy sent me all their 2months plus chat.. Where she badmouthed me just to gain Favour.. It was so damning.. She badmouthed my mom,.
So when the guy made his intention known to her and that he has sent me all their chats.
While they were chatting, she already told the mom that she has found a very rich guy..the guy even told her to break up with me and she did, someone she hasn't met before.. So when she broke up with me, I called her mom and told her, her mom was like, I should go and look for something good doing and forget about love for now.. Now when the whole issue came out, the mom came to where I was with some people and started begging that it was the devils handiwork..

Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

space booked

Pẹ̀lẹ́

You this southniyi your problem no dey finish, haba!

Ehya

my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

Nawa oo

body count doesn't matter....body count doesn't matter...
still...make calculated risk....a sexually responsible lady is a calculated risk....dont mention me..I've used 2 valium tablet

where are the elders when you need them? cc: crackhaus bukatyne

where are the elders when you need them? cc: crackhaus bukatyne

Chei

ahnie:
my questions....
1...Did the Yahoo guy that she stole fuel money from later slept with her?
2....Are you a sex freak?
3...after you were warned not to have sex with her...why do you always have sex with her and the romp days always coincides with your kids birthdays.
4...I noticed from your narrative that you're the clingy and gum gum type.


please be kind enough to answer my questions.

yeah he slept with her and she felt cheated according to her..

I was legally married to her, do you wish I become promiscuous?

1st born Sept 2
2nd Sept 28..
We are not living together, we stay in separate states and body no be firewood.

I am not a gum gum guy, from what I experienced in my family, I decided to stick to one woman to avoid my kids going through whatever I went through in life.

So what do U want Nairalanders to do for U now? U have seen dat she is responsible for ur problems and have seen how promiscuous she is and yet U are telling us U are in a fix? What fix?

Which kyn wahala be this.....

My advice....
You have obviously made some foolish mistakes....which is sad...and is only human....but if you keep dwelling on it, you might not move forward.

The best advice i can give now is to stop the blame game...i see you blaming your father in a comment below. I dont think the man has any influence in your present predicament, at least you did very well for yourself at some point in time, which shows you are very capable of success...i have a personal belief "if you did it before, you can do it again"....
Soo my Man...dust yourself up, dont get too personally involved with your wife and her family....see your kids when you can, avoid spending nights with them, mentally convince yourself that you dont have a wife....and reduce how you trust people...

Better opportunities would still come your way.....just learn from your mistakes and move on. When you get on your feet fully, you can work on formally seperating from your wife(its very necessary, and it doesn't guarantee that your children would suffer what you did... its up to you to determine if they suffer or not.)

You saw the signs, you ignored the signs, you bear your cross. For this life you never suffer finish. When life ceases you by the throat, your heart will turn to stone.

You will dusbin her ass and even the children and face your front.

AddictedToTech:
You this southniyi your problem no dey finish, haba!

not that, I could have said this with my main account, but it was banned..
You see in life, if your first step was a mistake, you will keep having problems....
The mistake I made early in life keeps bringing more problems..
The one his brother did recently was what brought about this thread..
I have been through alot in life, from one problem to another, I keep fighting, I keep praying but if your problem lives with you, you hardly get an escape route..
Those kids should never suffer for what they knew nothing about believe me... Every decision am still making revolves around my kids..
Till today, I blame my father for every thing that has happened to me cos he was nowhere to be found when we needed him most..
And let me shock you, we now give him monthly stipends to feed himself.. The wife he wanted to die for abandoned him.

defcon4:
You saw the signs, you ignored the signs, you bear your cross. For this life you never suffer finish. When life ceases you by the throat, your heart will turn to stone.

You will dusbin her ass and even the children and face your front.

no matter what happens, those kids will never suffer their mother's sin....
Wish she could give me my kids but she is using them as her bargaining chip

It's unfortunate that you weren't discerning enough not to have got involved with an opportunist in an affair like marriage, and the worst is the fact that you lack the grit to crush her or kick her out now that you know. Her opportunistic nature is the main issue, not her unresourcefulness. A resourceful opportunist is twice pernicious that an unresourceful one like her, especially one who doesn't have an altruistic interest in you. Of course, opportunism is genderless.

Op.. your case is a very serious one that needs divine interventions. I will advice you stay away from that woman you called your wife cos she seems to be very dangerous. I will advice you not to have any sexual relation with her cos as you have sex with her, she is transfering the badluck that has been deposited in her by the yahoo guy and any man that have sexual contact with her will keep having badluck,dissapointment,sickness and issues. I have had such experience with a lady before. Her issue started when her step mom took her to an herbalist and her head was scrapped and her hair buried in the ground. she was very young then and naive and dont understand what her stepmom did to her. What i noticed about her is that anytime we had sexual relation, after the act, i will start expirencing problems at my working place and different issues, sickness aswell. it was later on i dictected the issue is from her and i had to look for a solution cos we where told that when she was young , her step mom used her glory. so op, pls stay away from her for now for your phyche but ensure you are there for ur kids when they need you., God will see you through in the mess you find yourself. amen.

OP a little word for you.I Belive you saw so many red flags when you both were dating,but you allowed yourselve to be carried away by her physical beuty and the sweet sex she always gives you.most girls with these lifestlye are so good in bed,that you may get carried away as a man if you dnt take a stand.I almost had the same issue with you.
Anything that cant kill you,makes you stronger.Get up and start all over again.Avoid any thing sex with her for your good and also go for deliverance.A lot of ladies and men are suffering today because of sex with the wrong persons.She has choose her path so let her be, jst look after you kids.Make her your past and look to your future.

Well, i remember an adage that says " birds of the same feathers flocks together". Which one come be your own. Any girl wey dey do wetin i no dey do, i no dey near her sef talk more of making friends with her.
Oga Op, the moment you noticed she is the club type and you no like club things why didn't you end the relationship immediately?
I do advice men, especially my own brothers, never you marry a woman because of her beauty, rather marry her because of her good character, look at her heart and her upbringing.
You see club girl, you go marry, which advice do you need again?.
Well, if you still want to keep your vow, take her for deliverance now abi?
Infact, i am out of advice for you because na you do yourself. But, kindly take care of your kids.
May God almighty come to your aid amennnnn...

Tragic!

My advice:
Divorce your adulterous wife and put her away.
Forgive yourself for your past mistakes. What's done is done.
Pick up what's left of you and start over.
It is never too late to correct our mistakes.

mariahAngel:
Tragic!

Indeed

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Cc Lalasticlala

. U c y its good to drink and smoke some times and have one igbo smoking friend.....it kips our brain running

Afodot0022:
Op.. your case is a very serious one that needs divine interventions. I will advice you stay away from that woman you called your wife cos she seems to be very dangerous. I will advice you not to have any sexual relation with her cos as you have sex with her, she is transfering the badluck that has been deposited in her by the yahoo guy and any man that have sexual contact with her will keep having badluck,dissapointment,sickness and issues. I have had such experience with a lady before. Her issue started when her step mom took her to an herbalist and her head was scrapped and her hair buried in the ground. she was very young then and naive and dont understand what her stepmom did to her. What i noticed about her is that anytime we had sexual relation, after the act, i will start expirencing problems at my working place and different issues, sickness aswell. it was later on i dictected the issue is from her and i had to look for a solution cos we where told that when she was young , her step mom used her glory. so op, pls stay away from her for now for your phyche but ensure you are there for ur kids when they need you., God will see you through in the mess you find yourself. amen.

thanks bro for the words.. Since I stopped mating with her, have seen improvement.. Don't just don't want to break up with her yet cos she will do everything to stop me from seeing my kids

stacyadams:
. U c y its good to drink and smoke some times and have one igbo smoking friend.....it kips our brain running

sincerely, this ain't funny but I saw myself laughing..
I have a light head, it won't work for me

Damn! Damn!! Damn!!!

May the righteous one continue in his righteousness. So don't stop being good guy.
I cant advise anyone to seek divorce, it totally up to you.

It has happened, it has happened, so regrets will do you no good.

Keep your head up and keep working hard. You may wish to break ties with her family tactfully for now, if you feel it will give you more peace.

Finally, trust in God and do good, you are not a failure; life happens

Perfectsouth:
Cc royalroy

Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them..
I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was...
Now this is the revelation..
My wife has been used,thats the fact...
My photography business first collapsed.
I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me...
All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..

When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money..
Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too..
I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me..
Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....

Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.

So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong..
That was in August..
Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him..
Right now, I am in a fix..
About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat..
After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money..
When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint.
The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with.
She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..

I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth..
My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..

If you think this is a fabricated story,
I have all evidences.
If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..

Cc Lalasticlala

Op, this is big claim.
If this is true, then u've really been through a lot.
I will comment more later.
I will appreciate if you show us some evidence.

However, u know very well by now that u don't have a wife. You will have to move on in life without her and her family members.

As par his brother duping you, leave him alone and move on. No more dealings with him anymore.
With hindsight, ur wife may have arranged the whole thing with her brother.

It is well with you my brother.

infogenius:


Op, this is big claim.
If this is true, then u've really been through a lot.
I will comment more later.
I will appreciate if you show us some evidence.

However, u know very well by now that u don't have a wife. You will have to move on in life without her and her family members.

As par his brother duping you, leave him alone and move on. No more dealings with him anymore.
With hindsight, ur wife may have arranged the whole thing with her brother.

It is well with you my brother.

for a fact, she didn't connive with her brother... I will release evidences soon.. I thought she will change, I don't want my kids to go through the trauma of separation like I did.. I was trying everything to avoid a reoccurrence of what happened to my parent and since same thing happened to her, I thought she will change

Afodot0022:
Op.. your case is a very serious one that needs divine interventions. I will advice you stay away from that woman you called your wife cos she seems to be very dangerous. I will advice you not to have any sexual relation with her cos as you have sex with her, she is transfering the badluck that has been deposited in her by the yahoo guy and any man that have sexual contact with her will keep having badluck,dissapointment,sickness and issues. I have had such experience with a lady before. Her issue started when her step mom took her to an herbalist and her head was scrapped and her hair buried in the ground. she was very young then and naive and dont understand what her stepmom did to her. What i noticed about her is that anytime we had sexual relation, after the act, i will start expirencing problems at my working place and different issues, sickness aswell. it was later on i dictected the issue is from her and i had to look for a solution cos we where told that when she was young , her step mom used her glory. so op, pls stay away from her for now for your phyche but ensure you are there for ur kids when they need you., God will see you through in the mess you find yourself. amen.

Mehn Inside Life.

If guys paid more attention and learnt from these kinds of experience, they will realize that most of these girls get sweet ttotto but them fit convert their destiny.

@OP As you already know your problem, its more than half-solved. You have seen enough, if you drop the woman and her family at this point, it is more than justified. Just find a way to take care of your kids.