I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick didn't
failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you

You need help on what actually? You need help being insulted?



Oga, go and get married! I don't support pre-marital sex.

In as much as I don't support premarital sex.

You need to give yourself sometime to heal.

I have being preaching against Masturbation and over-the-counter drugs ⬇️⬇️
https://www.nairaland.com/6260214/side-effects-hard-drugs-keeps

Yet,many people here take it for granted....that stuff that happened is just one of the effects of porn and masturbation..

The choice is yours to make....to continue wallowing in that dirty act or zoom off from it completely.

Best wishes

chatinent:
You need help on what actually? You need help being insulted?



Oga, go and get married! I don't support pre-marital sex.

I need to build my Sexual life before getting married. Very important to me

nairaland is not an hospital



see a doctor

or a counsellor


or a therapist

or a friend you trust to talk to


nairaland is not a social club


stop disclosing your room privacy secrets online


most people will add zero to your problem and make it ten, hundred or million


go offline

see a doctor

Did you consider if she came there with pregnancy to tie on you that you escaped?

Do you know if she have a deadly infection?

You don run dey blame masturbation.

Most times our instinct detects danger on its own, you just need to understand yourself and work with it.

If you tried another girl that same yesterday, your nigga for rise. Trust me.

Emailonline042:
I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick did failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you

Just how many weeks,you don conclude say you don stop am....
Aboi u funny joor..

its psychological
i dont see a serious problem
here
could be u not sexually attracted to the girl or ur mind is not settled
try and relax and do it with a girl u find sexually appealing

YOU NEED HELP TO PROMOTE PREMARITAL SEX..... BY THE WAY YOU ARE WELCOME.

lefulefu:
its psychological
i dont see a serious problem
here
could be u not sexually attracted to the girl or ur mind is not settled
try and relax and do it with a girl u find sexually appealing

I think u are right because I had erection this morning but the girl is very beautiful and attractive, maybe is psychological or mental stress

wisewordd:
Did you consider if she came there with pregnancy to tie on you that you escaped?

Do you know if she have a deadly infection?

You don run dey blame masturbation.

Most times our instinct detects danger on its own, you just need to understand yourself and work with it.

If you tried another girl that same yesterday, your nigga for rise. Trust me.

Hmmm, alright thank u

Emailonline042:
I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick did failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.*
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you

The bolded part got me rolling, ah swr.

Op if I may ask you, why are you forcing yourself to commit sin?

Uzomacharles:





Just how many weeks,you don conclude say you don stop am....
Aboi u funny joor..

Apart from what happened yesterday .I have vowed not to go back to it because the effects are all over me now

Emailonline042:

I think u are right because I had erection this morning but the girl is very beautiful and attractive, maybe is psychological or mental stress

thats it .most guys think they can just have sex with any girl cos its sex.thing is if u not sexually attracted to a woman and she puts u off u will need all the strenght in the world to get erect

Maybe you’re not sexually attracted to her
It happens and it may be because you’re used to your touch

Try to spend time on pre-intimacy and maybe it’ll change
Many people get excited with people they’re sexually attracted to
You might love her but does she excite you?
Does she make you Hot by just thinking of her?

Don’t forget to practice safe sex too
Good luck on your next match

When did naira land start changing people’s words?
I typed F O R E P L A Y above and it’s displaying pre-intimacy

Emailonline042:

I need to build my Sexual life before getting married. Very important to me

Yea u need to build ur sexual life bfr marriage cos its very important and neccessary......


But before dat happens,you need to:


Stop masturbation first cos it causes penial dyfunction......


Minimise ur love for pornography........



Minimise ur alcoholic intake............


Wat really made ur dick became Flaggid is ANXIETY....



You have watched porn and masturbated to the extend dat ur brain no longer react to physical stimulation......


And even if ur brain reacts,u would hardly last up to 5mins......


Ur dick is now used to ur palms only.....

Pancakeey:
Maybe you’re not sexually attracted to her
It happens and it may be because you’re used to your touch

Try to spend time on pre-intimacy and maybe it’ll change
Many people get excited with people they’re sexually attracted to
You might love her but does she excite you?
Does she make you Hot by just thinking of her?

Don’t forget to practice safe sex too
Good luck on your next match

When did naira land start changing people’s words?
I typed F O R E P L A Y above and it’s displaying pre-intimacy

Thank u

wisewordd:
Did you consider if she came there with pregnancy to tie on you that you escaped?

Do you know if she have a deadly infection?

You don run dey blame masturbation.

Most times our instinct detects danger on its own, you just need to understand yourself and work with it.

If you tried another girl that same yesterday, your nigga for rise. Trust me.

Yea dat of instinct happens wen u re spiritual or very observant......

Bt d main cause is Masturbation and Anxiety...

He don too fantasise on the girl while masturbating...


He don bang her for him brain......


So her unclothedness no dey move him again.....

Maclink288:
The bolded part got me rolling, ah swr.
Op if I may ask you, why are you forcing yourself to commit sin?

Lolssss,,,,he dey really force him sef to sin.....

Him hell fire go toooo loooongg be dat.....

Donspicey:



Yea u need to build ur sexual life bfr marriage cos its very important and neccessary......


But before dat happens,you need to:


Stop masturbation first cos it causes penial dyfunction......


Minimise ur love for pornography........



Minimise ur alcoholic intake............


Wat really made ur dick became Flaggid is ANXIETY....



You have watched porn and masturbated to the extend dat ur brain no longer react to physical stimulation......


And even if ur brain reacts,u would hardly last up to 5mins......


Ur dick is now used to ur palms only.....

I have stopped it already. I want to work on myself now
Apart from abstaining from masturbation what other things do you think I will do to get back fully.
Thank you

Emailonline042:

I have stopped it already. I want to work on myself now
Apart from abstaining from masturbation what other things do you think I will do to get back fully.
Thank you

Relax ur mind........Anxiety is anoda strong factor..


Avoid sugary stuffsss......


Take fruits like water melon and Banana......


Ginger and garlic also helps to reduce sugar.....


Drink enough water........


Avoid Viagra...d side effect is embarrasing.......

Donspicey:


Yea dat of instinct happens wen u re spiritual or very observant......
Bt d main cause is Masturbation and Anxiety...
He don too fantasise on the girl while masturbating...

He don bang her for him brain......

So her unclothedness no dey move him again.....

Nothing concern instinct with religion.
Anxiety, yes I agree.
You na bad guy sha. See as you analyse am like say you be him P. A. Legend.

Donspicey:



Yea dat of instinct happens wen u re spiritual or very observant......

Bt d main cause is Masturbation and Anxiety...

He don too fantasise on the girl while masturbating...


He don bang her for him brain......


So her unclothedness no dey move him again.....

Not really, due to the nature of work am doing , I get tired easily and loss focus whenever I masturbate. so, I decided to have a girl to balance everything but what happened yesterday was beyond my understanding

wisewordd:
Nothing concern instinct with religion.

Anxiety, yes I agree.

You na bad guy sha. See as you analyse am like say you be him P. A. Legend.

Lolsssss......


Well wetin i mean be say e get pple wey get jazz wey be say if any woman carry badluck or evil for body dia dick no dey rise.....


Spiritual wey i mean na otumokpo......

lefulefu:
its psychological
i dont see a serious problem
here
could be u not sexually attracted to the girl or ur mind is not settled
try and relax and do it with a girl u find sexually appealing

Na wetin we dey call 'performance anxiety' catch OP .

ninetiethcrown7:


Na wetin we dey call 'performance anxiety' catch OP .

probably performance anxiety or he no dey attracted to the girl

its psychologicali dont see a serious problem herecould be u not sexually attracted to the girl or ur mind is not settledtry and relax and do it with a girl u find sexually appealing

lefulefu:
probably performance anxiety or he no dey attracted to the girl

lool, for his sake lets hope it is the latter that is the issue

Emailonline042:
I have been a active member of this forum since 2013 but created this new account to seek for help because of the shame I have put myself.

The incident happened yesterday I Invited my girl to my house I took her to close bar at my place. So, after seeing Manchester match we went home to have fun. We started romancing and kissing when I decided to go down on her, to my greatest surprised my joystick refused to get hard.i tried all my best but no way. I felt disappointed and shame all over me.i decided to lied to her I was on drug that that's why and I will make things up with myself that next weekend will be great.
Throughout that moment with her she was not happy with me at all. I know that I have I lost her because through our chatting she likes sex very well.
Note: she is the first girlfriend I ever had though I have female friends close to me and I have had sex 2 times during that period my joystick didn't
failed me like yesterday and I didn't last long. I watched porn and masturbated for 9 years but I have stopped it three weeks ago and decided to have girlfriend to start enjoying it real but I don't know where it went wrong.
I need remedies for this, I want to get my sexual life back.the returning match is next weekend and I don't want to Bleep up again.
Trolling is not allowed abeg
Thank you

Returning match kwa try to win the second leg let's see if you will go through on aggregate. Mind you the second leg should be on her home. Keep a clean sheet

wisewordd:
Did you consider if she came there with pregnancy to tie on you that you escaped?

Do you know if she have a deadly infection?

You don run dey blame masturbation.

Most times our instinct detects danger on its own, you just need to understand yourself and work with it.

If you tried another girl that same yesterday, your nigga for rise. Trust me.

Exactly! If my d*ck refuse to rise to the occasion, I'll take it as a bullet dodged rather than blame it on myself.

Pancakeey:
Maybe you’re not sexually attracted to her
It happens and it may be because you’re used to your touch

Try to spend time on pre-intimacy and maybe it’ll change
Many people get excited with people they’re sexually attracted to
You might love her but does she excite you?
Does she make you Hot by just thinking of her?

Don’t forget to practice safe sex too
Good luck on your next match

When did naira land start changing people’s words?
I typed F O R E P L A Y above and it’s displaying pre-intimacy

It's been long na. I think I noticed it two years ago when I type T H R E E S O M E and it showed PARTY