Oluromantic:
God bless your wisdom. You aren't married yet but you are on the right path thinking properly. Compatibility is very important and germane. I still wonder how some girls think they can reach the depth of a man's heart with lack of respect and submission. Honestly it baffles me, even nature is confused because that's not God's original plan. Well they say some men like it, that's why I don't argue it at all. I was once in such a relationship too, she was impatient intolerant and always want all my decision to be about her in the name of caring. I couldn't cope I had to opt out. I boldly told her to her face that we had to quit. She asked why, I said we're not compatible. She left with dramatic grudges which included calls, chats, utmost rudeness, abuses etc. I felt emotional trauma at first but today I'm thanking God for the decision. I have peace of mind.

The Sam experience too.. but I thank God am out

thunderfirebubu:
Wetin concern me with naija girls.

Savage!

No.
If you no see woman try man.

Probably you have been going to wrong places.

If you are really serious and have the financial strength, within 6 months you should see better girl to date/marry.

Just make sure you stick to your love map

But, if you get some bad attitudes that are somehow unknown to you, trust me, nobody wants future calamity

It is not, just pray you meet the Bone of your bone.

If it’s so hard then, you are the problem. Whether physically, emotionally or mentally. They are running from you for a reason. Check yourself and change.

Funkyswagzz:


A that is too much oo.. I can't even endure. Instead make I go villa carry any girl I want

So what's the rush for? Kids? Companion? Tired of kongi? Getting ooold?

Right now it is....

Are you equally good to justify looking for a good lady to marry? Are you miserable?

I understand your frustration @op the truth is that you can't get a perfect Lady find the one you can cope with her flaws.
With all due respect to the southern ladies their eyes are too open and majority of them are rude, impulsive , materialistic and stubborn.

I'm wondering how these Norhern men Manage more than one wife without billions or millions and still earn respect from their wives .The money you used to do sureness for one southern girl is enough to marry from the North and yet our ladies here don't appreciate it.

I'm changing route to the North . Whether Hausa or Fulani relegion don't matter . Northern brothers what's the secret of your ladies being submissive regardless of the financial status of the man.

Simple answer; Yes it is.


It is easier for Buhari to fulfil his campaign promises than to find a good woman to marry.

Lol. Finding a good woman is nowturning to like finding a good house that is cheap in Lagos. Impossible

Very hard..before we been deh think say since city girls don cast na village girls sure pass but this days those ones worst and the thing weh girls deh do on campus sef my mouth no fit talk am finish. girls for street? no joy. inside church nco? e no still sure... marriage now be like bet9ja na to just risk am if e work out, the ticket come be that. if e crash ticket don cut. na only GOD go epp us.

A good thing is never easy to find..... At least not in Nigeria

Funkyswagzz:


Savage!

Yooowa! Look at the reason why you searching like a vulcanizer.. Savage indeed.

planetx13:


Exactly, thank God you know everyone must move with his/her class.... So stop looking for a rich, decent, real man when you are a broke, ill-mannered biitch.....

Ciao

@Zzor, it is well

There is a song for every dream. That's all i know.

Don’t be soft, just be caring.

Funkyswagzz:
This is roughly a year and four months I have decided to find someone to marry. It's been so dramatic all along and I'm getting tried already. I want a woman who I am compatible with. I don't need anyone that is hot tempered or stubborn. I want a woman that is hard workin who loves me the way i am. Is it so difficult to find? I came out from a crazy relationship and I don't want to experience something like that anymore. I don't want issues all the time.

The funny thing happening at the moment is that am "tryin to"(still at the process) date my ex's high school mate. The way our part crossed again was just ironic. Sometimes I feel stupid for tryin to date her tho she's not the reason why we broke up. Salute to those that got married. Abeg how una take do am..

SweetCunt97:
Yooowa! Look at the reason why you searching like a vulcanizer.. Savage indeed.

E pain am
SweetCunt97, Zzor & baby124 are all the same person.

Just check up north, we here marry girls as virgins

Extremely hard o. Seriously searching. Wahala for an introvert who needs a loyal better half.

Just chill for a while.. The right woman will come along when it's time.

Sometimes we try too hard to find the “right person” while spending little or no time in being the right person.

Funkyswagzz:
This is roughly a year and four months I have decided to find someone to marry. It's been so dramatic all along and I'm getting tried already. I want a woman who I am compatible with. I don't need anyone that is hot tempered or stubborn. I want a woman that is hard workin who loves me the way i am. Is it so difficult to find? I came out from a crazy relationship and I don't want to experience something like that anymore. I don't want issues all the time.

The funny thing happening at the moment is that am "tryin to"(still at the process) date my ex's high school mate. The way our part crossed again was just ironic. Sometimes I feel stupid for tryin to date her tho she's not the reason why we broke up. Salute to those that got married. Abeg how una take do am..

I also thought it was extremely difficult to find a good man, until I involved God and submitted totally to him by abiding to His Laws. After series of prayers, I prayed to meet my husband within a time limit of 1month, just exactly 2days to the end of that month, God brought my husband into my life.

Do not underestimate the power of God Almighty, Trust Him for a Spouse, do not pick one on your own.

Funkyswagzz:
This is roughly a year and four months I have decided to find someone to marry. It's been so dramatic all along and I'm getting tried already. I want a woman who I am compatible with. I don't need anyone that is hot tempered or stubborn. I want a woman that is hard workin who loves me the way i am. Is it so difficult to find? I came out from a crazy relationship and I don't want to experience something like that anymore. I don't want issues all the time.

The funny thing happening at the moment is that am "tryin to"(still at the process) date my ex's high school mate. The way our part crossed again was just ironic. Sometimes I feel stupid for tryin to date her tho she's not the reason why we broke up. Salute to those that got married. Abeg how una take do am..

Na God ooo!

There are ladies but wifeys are few!

If you've tried all you could to get a wifey n they ain't coming forth.. Try relating it with old folks, friends, n family members around for a proper recommendation.. It helps most times.

Note: make sure u get to know each others family even down to your hometowns .

Very important!

The rest would be history!

Honestly, you find the very best when you aren't actively and so seriously searching... You are acting like you are looking for a business partner not life mate.

Relax friend, don't pressure yourself or allow people pressure you into the institution of marriage... That is a recipe for disaster. Trust me.

From my research, most great marriage partners found one another when not actually searching... It is supposed to begin with casual acquaintances, then from there you find or discover compatibility... The rest happens or falls in place.

Don't listen to the myth or lie that good women are no longer in existence... Big lie!!! Yes, they are getting fewer due to poor parenting all over, but we still have them.

Very hard! All the good women are married, we are left with HOES to choose from.
Exactly what I told my cousin's wife;

Her: "You know you need to get married",

Me: "I haven't found a deserving girl yet, we single guys are left to deal with HOES after my cousin married you".

Since your looking for someone that will accept you "how you are",then you should be able to accept them "how they are" too. Stop being self centered.

baby124:
If it’s so hard then, you are the problem. Whether physically, emotionally or mentally. They are running from you for a reason. Check yourself and change.

It's nearly impossible to find an intelligent and beautiful woman who is without a man in her life. Some of us don't believe in woman snatching! That's where they difficulty lies

He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing. It has never been easy to find a 'good wife' ......and that will not change. Only you know what you want in a wife..... good luck.

Marriage has out lived its importance in this era as men and women make their own money. Marriage is unnatural. Marriage doesn't necessarily mean love; what it infact means is CONTRACT -- And this contract favours the women more than it favours men.

Marriage is the retirement plan of every woman and the beginning of the death of a FREE man. So, Do not bother stressing over women as you can never control another human (male or female) free will.


Personally, As a scholar who is taking a tour through this world; I have learnt that, every great empire was built with cheap labour and even the U.S. was built by slaves. It's only logical (as an alpha male) to get at least 2 or 3 women (babymama) to birth your kids thereby:

1- Reducing cost of raising them (because she would get a job as well and not bother you for everything ).

2- Eliminating the chances of being manipulated to monogamy.

3- Being free to grow financially (as no burden by extended family)

4 - Even if your babymama re-marries, you still a share holder to her p ussy for life, provided a child is what links both of you.

5 - You can have kids/babymama in any part of the world simultaneously adopting this system.




The only disadvantages to this is that, It's a bad thing for a single mom to raise a male child, she would raise a simp.

Funkyswagzz:
This is roughly a year and four months I have decided to find someone to marry. It's been so dramatic all along and I'm getting tried already. I want a woman who I am compatible with. I don't need anyone that is hot tempered or stubborn. I want a woman that is hard workin who loves me the way i am. Is it so difficult to find? I came out from a crazy relationship and I don't want to experience something like that anymore. I don't want issues all the time.

The funny thing happening at the moment is that am "tryin to"(still at the process) date my ex's high school mate. The way our part crossed again was just ironic. Sometimes I feel stupid for tryin to date her tho she's not the reason why we broke up. Salute to those that got married. Abeg how una take do am..

I THINK IT IS HARD TO GET COS I JUST LOST MY SUPPOSED WIFE TO ANOTHER MAN BECOS OF MONEY AFTER 9YEARS OF SUFFERING