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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by BENARI: 7:23pm On Nov 27, 2020 |
africaflozy: I feel you Sis. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by mitchyy(f): 10:48pm On Nov 30, 2020 |
Wow. I never knew this thread existed. This is amazing. Reading your comments and posts makes me feel like you all live inside my head. I can relate a 100% to almost everything here I’ve been searching for answers to why I do not like speaking in public or being around people I barely know. I was coerced to speak at a conference. The day of the event, I came up with a phony excuse and just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I always shy away from physical meetings with clients. I don’t like picking calls except from family or very close friends. I’ll rather they send a text. My life is very weird and I keep trying to understand it. And yes, I think and plan a lot. My brain is always hot. I’m passionate about solving problems but anything that requires direct contact with people I barely know, I’ll just hide behind the scenes Several times when I’m outside my comfort zone speaking with people or someone I don’t know, tears start forming. I do not fancy extremely long conversations that deprive me of my time to think. Except of course the other party is a very very close friend or family I hope to understand this personality fully someday 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by fannydaffy(m): 9:41am On Dec 01, 2020 |
mitchyy: Social Anxiety, that's what you have. I went searching the internet for answers myself too and found that answer. Turns out socially anxious people always think about how they're being percieved by the outside world so much that it becomes terrifying to relate with other people. Me, I've come to realize that consciously and subconsciously, I always think about how my every action is seen by everyone and much as I hate to admit it, try to please everyone too much to my detriment! (the nice guy stereotype lol). That in turn begs the question of self-worth. Do you give yourself a lot of self-worth? Do you think and know yourself equally desirable (for lack of a better word) as other people? Sadly, the answer is no in my case (but I'm working on it). I see that you're married and happily so and I'm happy for you �. For the longest time, I've been thinking about how my marriage will go; knowing how fracking shy I am �. How did you handle yours? P.S: I'm a rather young millennial so please pardon my brazen audaciousness 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by mitchyy(f): 10:59am On Dec 01, 2020 |
fannydaffy: I guess we are alike in so many ways. Well, my husband knew me for years before we got married so he understood my personality. He is the direct opposite of me and very social. When we hang out with people, I let him do all the talking while I do the smiling. But when we hang out with our mutual close friends or family members, I am the parrot It works best if your partner understands your personality. Perhaps if she doesn’t, you can try to educate her. My husband always says “Is it not you? I know you now. Nothing surprises me.” I guess this has a lot to do with how I grew up. We didn’t socialize with others and my folks always kept us behind closed doors. My closest friends were my family members. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by fannydaffy(m): 1:12pm On Dec 01, 2020 |
mitchyy: We are indeed alike in so many ways; my parents kept my siblings and me behind closed doors too and they still do in fact. My closest friends are supposed to be my siblings but they're both girls so nah, I'll be giving that title to myself University helps a little but I usually end up clinging to the privacy of my little abode lol. Your husband seems to me like a really cool person. I think Husbands should be cool no matter what xD....I've gotta work on my anxiety 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by meeky007(m): 10:09pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
[quote author=maximizer61 post=96305833][/quote] Rubbish! Not 4 introverts |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 10:41am On Dec 03, 2020 |
fredwill1357:social anxiety is an effect of low self esteem 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 10:51am On Dec 03, 2020 |
Lemmy123:well we share a lot of personality traits. I see what’s did right there but I forgive u |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 10:55am On Dec 03, 2020 |
chidera39:totally agree |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 10:57am On Dec 03, 2020 |
mitchyy:sorry to say but u need a psychologist |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:16am On Dec 03, 2020 |
I am here again , whether u like it or not |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by fredwill1357(m): 11:50am On Dec 03, 2020 |
Liliantalks:Nope, I use to experience social anxiety in my teenage years a lot, I still do now but not as much. It is usually caused by shyness, fear, inexperience and other factors. Pain, more socialization and seriousness reduces social anxiety. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 11:31am On Dec 04, 2020 |
mitchyy: Don't mind anyone saying you need a psychologist. You are perfectly okay. Everyone cannot be the same, some are more emotional than others, some are nervous or shy, others are bold and gregarious, it doesn't take anything away from you. The important thing is to continue to grow, and be able to flex from your default mode when need be - e.g. an interview. cheers |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 11:38am On Dec 04, 2020 |
GLYCOLYSISS: You can't just generalize and assume people who are still growing in a particular area are suffering from low self esteem. This thread is meant to be a safe space for introverts, and not for others to come and be doing psychoanalysis and guesswork on people they don't know. 6 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by mitchyy(f): 3:47am On Dec 05, 2020 |
Liliantalks:No I do not. Whatever you highlighted there is as a result of being shy. Thank you 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by mitchyy(f): 3:53am On Dec 05, 2020 |
tot: Thank you. With time I’ve come to realize I need to put these nervous feelings with strangers aside. And my methods are truly working. But one step at a time 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamyemiakins(m): 10:13am On Dec 05, 2020 |
Liliantalks: You'll just open/carry ur mouth/phone waaa and utter/type rubbish, you need to be kicked out of this thread. 6 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 8:43pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
tot:she need a psychologist. U for tag me na . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 8:47pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
mitchyy:that’s why u Unknowingly tear up when talking to someone? U need a psychologist doesn’t mean u are crazy. Solving a problem is first believing u hv a problem . There is nothing introverted about crying while talking to people. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by slizzyb(m): 9:21pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Please house, happy sunday. this introvert here needs Job.He is a graduate and ready to start work immediately. Thanks and happy Christmas in advance.. ... I need job my people I believe that it is possible this 2020. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by mitchyy(f): 10:46pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
Liliantalks: Crying is different from having traces of tears in your eyes when talking with “some strangers”. I have tears in my eyes whenever I display any emotion - happiness, sadness, anger, embarrassment or high level of discomfort. And i know quite well what a psychologist is and does. So no, i do not need one. I also never tagged that aspect of my personality to being introverted. It is my personality and a part of me. Thank you 4 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 11:37pm On Dec 06, 2020 |
mitchyy:hmmm atleast I’m glad u said it has nothing to do with ur introversion. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 10:01am On Dec 07, 2020 |
Liliantalks: Why would I tag you, what is my business with you? 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 10:02am On Dec 07, 2020 |
iamyemiakins: As in, the attention seeking is on another level. I think people should just ignore her. Afterall, if you are not an introvert, what are you doing on this thread? 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 5:02pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
tot:then don’t talk about anything that regards to me. If u ain’t bold enough to tag me . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 5:03pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
[s] Liliantalks:[/s] |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 5:08pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
iamyemiakins:indeed. The truth is bitter . Is ur family members u are talking about not me , with the four or more people that will like ur comments.. if I see what makes no sense I will say it . Whether u like it or not . I can also see u edited post . Trust me it wouldn’t hv taken this long for me to reply |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 5:10pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
tot:attention seeking because I say the bitter truth most of u all don’t wanna hear, ever mental illness is tagged as introversion . U are free to type because ? But mine is attention seeking because u don’t agree with it ? U never see anything |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 5:11pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
[s] Liliantalks:[/s] |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Liliantalks: 5:12pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
tot:next time, ignore me and say nothing concerning me . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by tot(f): 5:20pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
[s] Liliantalks:[/s] |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamyemiakins(m): 6:19pm On Dec 07, 2020 |
Liliantalks: Hoeniranu 4 Likes
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