budaatum:

Not warned o. He scolded her like she's his two year old pikin which makes me wonder what we'd have told her if she was the one opening this thread here.

Please, if any of you here have daughters make sure you empower her so she ends up with a respectful man.

I won't talk on this, I love the said girl with everything but i tell you what the exit is wide, she should go find someone else who sees no wrong, who got no self respect, I told you, it didn't start with a scold but she was just like you all cheer leaders here, but non of you would truly love her, or better if there is someone who loves her as much as I do and will treat her with more respect than I do, it up to her to go meet such person,

budaatum:

No, I don't know how stupid a woman in love can be. Nor do I think this woman is stupid to love you because doing so will involve me thinking you are not worthy of her love which I have insufficient evidence for, though such evidence seems to be gradually piling up.

A more mature person might have gone about it by thanking her for her care and love and concern and for assuming your family she told cares and loves you as much as she does, "but please my darling sweetheart, I like my privacy, even from my family, and would rather you do not inform them or anyone of my business again", but here you are being advised to slap her and the only reason you seem to have not is because she was protected by being far away on the other side of a phone.

I can only hope this thread of yours matures you by it's end. You after all opened it because you doubt your action was the right one. If it does mature you, you'd find a way to say you are sorry and understand her love for you is not because she is stupid as you claim but perhaps because you are actually worthy of her love.

Wisdom nuggets

Ishilove:

Wisdom nuggets

All of you talking about love as if I hate her then telling her things I don't tell my family, somehow

So this is even in the politics section. LMAO

AlexBells:

All of you talking about love as if I hate her then telling her things I don't tell my family, somehow

Most people on the thread have spoken my mind. The matter did not warrant a scolding

Ishilove:

Most people on the thread have spoken my mind. The matter did not warrant a scolding

I didn't start with scolding her, I only scolded her when I was trying to let her see my views and just like everyone else she assumed it was okay to do that because it shows she care but if she care, she should also look at how this seems to me but she wouldn't even try to see, so it ended up in a scolding which she got crying I still was the one who had to console her when she was crying, the issue had been long gone but something happened that reminded me about it that's why I had to post it

AlexBells:

I didn't start with scolding her, I only scolded her when I was trying to let her see my views and just like everyone else she assumed it was okay to do that because it shows she care but if she care, she should also look at how this seems to me but she wouldn't even try to see, so it ended up in a scolding which she got crying I still was the one who had to console her when she was crying, the issue had been long gone but something happened that reminded me about it that's why I had to post it

Okay Uncle. Go and sin no more.

Ishilove:
So this is even in the politics section. LMAO

I thought I was in romance section while posting it, didn't know i was in politics section, it was a mistake and I can't move it myself

AlexBells:

I thought I was in romance section while posting it, didn't know i was in politics section, it was a mistake and I can't move it myself

It was not a mistake. Higher powers made you post it here so you would get responses from the calibre of people who usually come here. When we are done, go and post the same thing in the sex romance section and you might get the response you desire.

budaatum:

It was not a mistake. Higher powers made you post it here so you would get responses from the calibre of people who usually come here. When we are done, go and post the same thing in the sex romance section and you might get the response you desire.

Higher power Ke, lol, the only thing is that political minded people who have no business loving or understanding relationships are the ones giving their views, giving me APC, PDP, Zombie, Wailers kind of reply, the truth is that people here are highly biased, they are not like the ones in romance section, romance section will give a more balanced view, people quite active in romance sections if you see them you will know but here I'm getting a view that's is one sided, those that support me do so without considering her side, those that support her do so without considering my side that's politics they ought to ask me, are we still in love, cause what If as I type this she's here with me head resting on my chest, that's not the case though but I wish I made the post in romance section, I could get more understanding comments

Please repost it in the romance section. It will be interesting to see the responses you get.

budaatum:
Please repost it in the romance section. It will be interesting to see the responses you get.

It already late today I may repost it on romance tomorrow

AlexBells:

what If as I type this she's here with me head resting on my chest, that's not the case though

Of course that is not the case, lol. There's no way on earth you will be bold enough to let her know you carried your private business to a public forum without her consent while scolding her for sharing your private business with your family, and from what I've read so far, your code is very onesided because, "yesterday it was my sister, tomorrow it could be your sister and then on it is your pastor", which you are obviously not going to take but seem to not see the hypocrisy in doing to her what you scolded her for.

budaatum:

Of course that is not the case, lol. There's no way on earth you will be bold enough to let her know you carried your private business to a public forum without her consent while scolding her for sharing your private business with your family, and from what I've read so far, your code is very onesided because, "yesterday it was my sister, tomorrow it could be your sister and then on it is your pastor", which you are obviously not going to take but seem to not see the hypocrisy in doing to her what you scolded her for.

It was with her permission that I'm doing this because yesterday we had issue and she reminded me me about this very incidence and I told her she's making me scared by only keeping accounts of the things I did wrong lol, and I told her okay, I will relate this issue with other people let me see where I went wrong but I didn't tell her it nairaland oo, you know nairaland is our secret happy place before I tell her my source now and boom it all over my family and if you watch my posts very well then my way no too pure for here, the hate we give here is unlike me in real life, the few that had met me one on one can relate I'm a different personality out there

AlexBells:

It was with her permission that I'm doing this because yesterday we had issue and she reminded me me about this very incidence and I told her she's making me scared by only keeping accounts of the things I did wrong lol, and I told her okay, I will relate this issue with other people let me see where I went wrong but I didn't tell her it nairaland oo, you know nairaland is our secret happy place before I tell her my source now and boom it all over my family and if you watch my posts very well then my way no too pure for here, the hate we give here is unlike me in real life, the few that had met me one on one can relate I'm a different personality out there

Of course you did not tell her its Nairaland, lol, and neither do you intend to tell her or show her that most of the responses here disagree with you, nor do I expect you to.

I hope you take something from the thread though because, as you yourself said, "a good woman is rare", and I think you know you might have found one.

Alexbells you just want someone to tell you did the right thing. Man you did the right thing, there you have it.
People are telling you better ways you could have handled it but you do adamant on your way. Good luck man

budaatum:

Of course you did not tell her its Nairaland, lol, and neither do you intend to tell her or show her that most of the responses here disagree with you, nor do I expect you to.

I hope you take something from the thread though because, as you yourself said, "a good woman is rare", and I think you know you might have found one.

I will tell her it nairaland and show her the thread and apologise to her, but I also hope she took her corrections, the truth here is I may have over reacted, I need to let her know it nairaland so in the future I can tell her that I did not apologise with my own free mind, that feminist made me do it, I will tell her I was forced to apologise to her, lol

Gang90:

I will tell her it nairaland and show her the thread and apologise to her, but I also hope she took her corrections, the truth here is I may have over reacted, I need to let her know it nairaland so in the future I can tell her that I did not apologise with my own free mind, that feminist made me do it, I will tell her I was forced to apologise to her, lol

Not everyone here is a feminist. Do not let that be your excuse for apologising, if you do.

rooftops:
Alexbells you just want someone to tell you did the right thing. Man you did the right thing, there you have it.
People are telling you better ways you could have handled it but you do adamant on your way. Good luck man

He is so stubborn!

budaatum:

Not everyone here is a feminist. Do not let that be your excuse for apologising, if you do.

I mean if it were me, does that notorious seeming ^AlexBells look like he will apologise?

rooftops:
Alexbells you just want someone to tell you did the right thing. Man you did the right thing, there you have it.
People are telling you better ways you could have handled it but you do adamant on your way. Good luck man

I don't want someone to tell me that I did the right thing, I just want someone who would be unbiased and judge the issue from both end

budaatum:

He is so stubborn!

I'm not being stubborn, I know I'm not entirely right but that shouldn't mean that what I feel have no basis, imagine if you are the girl in question telling me how I'm so stubborn, cause sometimes she use similar words, don't you think it could end in further argument,

budaatum:

He is so stubborn!

.. hahahaha he wants you to tell him what he yearns for so tell him make matter end.

My biggest mistake was how I mistakenly made this post on politics section, most people here have sold their soul and once they have a view, they will even make the devil look good, maybe it a payback day for all the time I sold my soul in the politics section just to be me in romance section lol, all of una are not considerate at all

AlexBells:

I don't want someone to tell me that I did the right thing, I just want someone who would be unbiased and judge the issue from both end

...you are right to demand how you should be treated from her, what most are saying the way you went about it is wrong. Funny enough next time she might not even bother to care atall because of this experience

rooftops:
...you are right to demand how you should be treated from her, what most are saying the way you went about it is wrong. Funny enough next time she might not even bother to care atall because of this experience

I was cool about it, but she reacted in unexpected way, no one cares about the part that I love her making me relate to her things I should rather keep from even my family but no one sees it feel like betrayal when I share things personal with the one I love and she tells someone else, okay I'm wrong, that's what every one wants I don't deserve her, and I might work to get me outer her life,

AlexBells:

I'm not being stubborn, I know I'm not entirely right but that shouldn't mean that what I feel have no basis, imagine if you are the girl in question telling me how I'm so stubborn, cause sometimes she use similar words, don't you think it could end in further argument,

My own feelings are not the only thing that should matter to me in my relationship. If I love my partner their feelings will matter too.

If everyone including my partner I claim to love is telling me I'm stubborn, just to prove them all wrong I'd stop being stubborn and listen for a change, but if I continue to stubbornly argue that I'm not stubborn despite everyone telling me I'm sturbbon then I think the proper way to describe me will be stupidly sturbbon, don't you think?

AlexBells:
My biggest mistake was how I mistakenly made this post on politics section, most people here have sold their soul and once they have a view, they will even make the devil look good, maybe it a payback day for all the time I sold my soul in the politics section just to be me in romance section lol, all of una are not considerate at all

Dude, you are far too stubborn to imagine how many people are actually jealous of you and would gladly take her off you if they could.

We are considerate, just not of you but of your loving girlfriend who loves you so much and cares.

budaatum:

My own feelings are not the only thing that should matter to me in my relationship. If I love my partner their feelings will matter too.

If everyone including my partner I claim to love is telling me I'm stubborn, just to prove them all wrong I'd stop being stubborn and listen for a change, but if I continue to stubbornly argue that I'm not stubborn despite everyone telling me I'm sturbbon then I think the proper way to describe me will be stupidly sturbbon, don't you think?

You are just sounding politically correct, I pray one day you find love and you understand love is a different ball game, check out other of my post you will see that I'm politically stubborn and abusive but love is one thing I respect, if you made this comment under my political posts, you could have gotten a good dose of my venom, I'm notorious in the political section that's why I feel bad that this post ended here, because I'm me, if you say I'm stubborn here it hurts me, because this is the softest version of me

rooftops:
.. hahahaha he wants you to tell him what he yearns for so tell him make matter end.

I have told him what he wants to hear, I even told him not to slap her like someone advised but shoot her, twice in fact, but I think I like him too much and would rather he not make a mistake he'd regret for the rest of his life.

budaatum:

Dude, you are far too stubborn to imagine how many people are actually jealous of you and would gladly take her off you if they could.

We are considerate, just not of you but of your loving girlfriend who loves you so much and cares.

If you are more concerned about her, why not go and have her, but if you are really concerned about her you should be concern about her being with the one she loves too, but you all don't get if I don't love her or deserve her like you all making it to look, I shouldn't even be here trying to make myself better, I might be stubborn but you don't even see the loving part I went out of my way to create a thread to be better, whether it worked or not is another issue but the part I tried, why dont no one sees, as you are taking her off me some girl somewhere want to also be with a man like me, a man with principle but wants to get better just for the one he loves