AlexBells:

You are just sounding politically correct, I pray one day you find love and you understand love is a different ball game, check out other of my post you will see that I'm politically stubborn and abusive but love is one thing I respect, if you made this comment under my political posts, you could have gotten a good dose of my venom, I'm notorious in the political section that's why I feel bad that this post ended here, because I'm me, if you say I'm stubborn here it hurts me, because this is the softest version of me

If I'm only finding love at this stage in my life then something very serious must be wrong with me indeed.

Do keep up the soft version of you. Your venom is wasted on buda.

AlexBells:

If you are more concerned about her, why not go and have her, but if you are really concerned about her you should be concern about her being with the one she loves too, but you all don't get if I don't love her or deserve her like you all making it to look, I shouldn't even be here trying to make myself better, I might be stubborn but you don't even see the loving part I went out of my way to create a thread to be better, whether it worked or not is another issue but the part I tried, why dont no one sees, as you are taking her off me some girl somewhere want to also be with a man like me, a man with principle but wants to get better just for the one he loves

If you truly created a thread to be better, stop being stubborn and be better!

budaatum:


If you truly created a thread to be better, stop being stubborn and be better!

I created a thread to be better but it all seem I don't know how to treat a woman, and the worst part is it on the political section tell me why I should take the advice most people here will try to be politically correct, tell me how they will never scold a woman but end up beating them, it just politics like we know, making promises we cant keep that's why I'm not working with anything I got here

budaatum:

No, I don't know how stupid a woman in love can be. Nor do I think this woman is stupid to love you because doing so will involve me thinking you are not worthy of her love which I have insufficient evidence for, though such evidence seems to be gradually piling up.

A more mature person might have gone about it by thanking her for her care and love and concern and for assuming your family she told cares and loves you as much as she does, "but please my darling sweetheart, I like my privacy, even from my family, and would rather you do not inform them or anyone of my business again", but here you are being advised to slap her and the only reason you seem to have not is because she was protected by being far away on the other side of a phone.

I can only hope this thread of yours matures you by it's end. You after all opened it because you doubt your action was the right one. If it does mature you, you'd find a way to say you are sorry and understand her love for you is not because she is stupid as you claim but perhaps because you are actually worthy of her love.

I must applaud your sense of reasoning.
You’re emotionally intelligent.

missimelda01:

I must applaud your sense of reasoning.
You’re emotionally intelligent.

I learn daily. Thank you.

AlexBells:

I created a thread to be better but it all seem I don't know how to treat a woman, and the worst part is it on the political section tell me why I should take the advice most people here will try to be politically correct, tell me how they will never scold a woman but end up beating them, it just politics like we know, making promises we cant keep that's why I'm not working with anything I got here

I wonder, since this is the political section, do you support trump? He too is very stubborn like you.

budaatum:

I wonder, since this is the political section, do you support trump? He too is very stubborn like you.

I don't support Trump though, Trump is not even stubborn, he only try the scare tactics, if he was stubborn, he could have attacked North Korea, or Attacked China, or Play into Russia hands, his predecessor was more proactive in offensive, remember Syria, Lybia, etc was all destabilize during Obama, what country had trump Ruined, Trump is a misunderstood talkative nothing he Twitted a lot when he should be playing golfand now playing golf when he should be twisting.

I don't Support IPOB though I'm Igbo, I believe Biafra is outlived and as such I prefer a homogenous Igboland, I think Igbo politicians should stop insulting our collective intelligence by roping Igbo presidency as our collective responsibility as Igbos when at the End politicians only care about themselves, those are my political views.

I think Nigeria belongs to all of us but if it must be claimed by a single tribe then Nigeria belongs to the Igbos

AlexBells:

I don't support Trump though, Trump is not even stubborn, he only try the scare tactics, if he was stubborn, he could have attacked North Korea, or Attacked China, or Play into Russia hands, his predecessor was more proactive in offensive, remember Syria, Lybia, etc was all destabilize during Obama, what country had trump Ruined, Trump is a misunderstood talkative nothing he Twitted a lot when he should be playing golfand now playing golf when he should be twisting.

I don't Support IPOB though I'm Igbo, I believe Biafra is outlived and as such I prefer a homogenous Igboland, I think Igbo politicians should stop insulting our collective intelligence by roping Igbo presidency as our collective responsibility as Igbos when at the End politicians only care about themselves, those are my political views.

I think Nigeria belongs to all of us but if it must be claimed by a single tribe then Nigeria belongs to the Igbos

I said I like you and your views here are sort of likable though I wonder if you went and checked my posts and are now saying what you know I'd want to hear. Guess I could go check your's too for consistency, but I think I'll stubbornly shut my eyes to the facts for now.

Go sort yourself out with your girl. I know you think its weak but it actually takes a lot of strength to admit you were wrong, and you'd earn respect for it contrary to what those slap her people tell you. And goodluck.

budaatum:

I said I like you and your views here are sort of likable though I wonder if you went and checked my posts and are now saying what you know I'd want to hear. Guess I could go check your's too for consistency, but I think I'll stubbornly shut my eyes to the facts for now.

Go sort yourself out with your girl. I know you think its weak but it actually takes a lot of strength to admit you were wrong and you earn respect for it contrary to what those slap her people tell you. And goodluck.

I did not check your posts but I did check time registered, and it was far back 2006, I was 11 years then and in primary 6, nairaland was founded in 2005, so you are among the foundation of this very forum that had offered lots difference in people's life, I think given your age and the fact that you are intelligent I assume you have gathered much experience in life.

I will fix that particular incidence with my girlfriend, and as an emerging leader of thought though not Pure one Nigerianist like Zik, neither I'm I a Zionist Biafra like Kanu, I'm more of the Ojukwu minded kind of Igbo, or Ironsi Minded Igbo, what many do not understand today is that those two prefer a Nigeria that works but if Nigeria fail to work then we resort to alternative.

I will like to get closer to you as I will need all the wisdom and guide I can get to navigate through my early leadership calling, I'm not really a politician and I don't hope to go partisan anytime soon, I'm 25 and not qualified for most posts according to Nigerian constitution but I Pioneer a political school of thought chanelle towards restructuring without constitutional amendment.

I believe power is never given, power is declared and seized, if you maybe kind enough to offer your guide, do let me DM you.

AlexBells:

I did not check your posts but I did check time registered, and it was far back 2006, I was 11 years then and in primary 6, nairaland was founded in 2005, so you are among the foundation of this very forum that had offered lots difference in people's life, I think given your age and the fact that you are intelligent I assume you have gathered much experience in life.

I will fix that particular incidence with my girlfriend, and as an emerging leader of thought though not Pure one Nigerianist like Zik, neither I'm I a Zionist Biafra like Kanu, I'm more of the Ojukwu minded kind of Igbo, or Ironsi Minded Igbo, what many do not understand today is that those two prefer a Nigeria that works but if Nigeria fail to work then we resort to alternative.

I will like to get closer to you as I will need all the wisdom and guide I can get to navigate through my early leadership calling, I'm not really a politician and I don't hope to go partisan anytime soon, I'm 25 and not qualified for most posts according to Nigerian constitution but I Pioneer a political school of thought chanelle towards restructuring without constitutional amendment.

I believe power is never given, power is declared and seized, if you maybe kind enough to offer your guide, do let me DM you.

I tell people my mummy and daddy registered me here when I was in the womb and before I was born and that I'm 14 years old just so people don't take my word for anything because they assume I'm old. Glad to see you separated age from intelligence.

On Nigeria and Biafria. The former has to be destroyed for the latter to exist, unfortunately, which makes Biafria advocateurs destroyers who need Nigeria to fail so Biafria exists. They need Nigeria to be a zoo so they make it a zoo themselves by contributing nothing to Nigeria's success, which is rather stupid of such people because you can't be busy destroying with one hand and hope to build with the other. Personally, I can't decide which is worse between such people and boko haram. If they had witnessed the war they'd likely be trying to never fight another one, but sadly, not many had the opportunity of news on their telly in the 60s. I wish I was Igbo. I would not separate, but make my Igbo land the most advanced and developed part of Nigeria and sit there laughing at we Yorubas and those Northerners. That, by the way, seems to be Kaduna State's strategy if no where else.

On power being declared and seized, I think that might only apply to military power or the sort that dominates others like the power some i.e., Yahksbiz, Grayoso advocate having over their women, and the sort slave owners would have over their slaves. It involves oppression, like not educating Adam and Eve so they remain naked and enslaved in the Garden of Eden. That's the strategy that gives us alimanjeri and makes women second class citizens. If people are not educated and thereby empowered they remain weak and subservient and are easily dominated, but as soon as they are told "its a lie! On the day that you eat you too will become powerful like us", the powerful lose their power.

One can however have power due to respect, and that can only ever be earned and be given to one because one deserves it. My hope is that is the sort of power you get, in your home and outside it.

I don't do DM, AlexBells, as I find it helpful to discuss here so others may read and contribute too, but how to contact me is on my profile if necessary.

budaatum:

I tell people my mummy and daddy registered me here when I was in the womb and before I was born and that I'm 14 years old just so people don't take my word for anything because they assume I'm old. Glad to see you separated age from intelligence.

On Nigeria and Biafria. The former has to be destroyed for the latter to exist, unfortunately, which makes Biafria advocateurs destroyers who need Nigeria to fail so Biafria exists. They need Nigeria to be a zoo so they make it a zoo themselves by contributing nothing to Nigeria's success, which is rather stupid of such people because you can't be busy destroying with one hand and hope to build with the other. Personally, I can't decide which is worse between such people and boko haram. If they had witnessed the war they'd likely be trying to never fight another one, but sadly, not many had the opportunity of news on their telly in the 60s. I wish I was Igbo. I would not separate, but make my Igbo land the most advanced and developed part of Nigeria and sit there laughing at we Yorubas and those Northerners. That, by the way, seems to be Kaduna State's strategy if no where else.

On power being declared and seized, I think that might only apply to military power or the sort that dominates others like the power some i.e., Yahksbiz, Grayoso advocate having over their women, and the sort slave owners would have over their slaves. It involves oppression, like not educating Adam and Eve so they remain naked and enslaved in the Garden of Eden. That's the strategy that gives us alimanjeri and makes women second class citizens. If people are not educated and thereby empowered they remain weak and subservient and are easily dominated, but as soon as they are told "its a lie! On the day that you eat you too will become powerful like us", the powerful lose their power.

One can however have power due to respect, and that can only ever be earned and be given to one because one deserves it. My hope is that is the sort of power you get, in your home and outside it.

I don't do DM, AlexBells, as I find it helpful to discuss here so others may read and contribute too, but how to contact me is on my profile if necessary.

Okay, I will contact you because my mission and ideology is a little bit of secret for now, I don't like Biafra, no Igbo had ever given a thought of what Biafra would look like, Igbos are part of the East, Igbos is the Richest Tribe in Nigeria as Regards Natural Resourses per tribe.

We got oil and gas, most other ethnic groups does not have oil and gas, plus coal as much as we got, the Ijaws and the Akwa/Cross are rich too and they are our allies, You Yorubas had built a high degree of service sector and a real chunk of the banking sector too and Hausa/Fulani is an agricultural economy.

I can't pride on political reality as that is flexible and temporal, if we include Asaba and some part of PH as Igboland you may get the clearer picture, Biafra if it comes will look like what the European Union is to UK on the Igbos.

We will be subsidising the rest of the tribes in the Niger Delta ones the oil is out, Igboland has enough oil but the rest make Biafra look like an oil Agenda while on the long run, Igboland will be the one bailing out some of these Biafran Agendas that's why I don't seem passionate about Biafra, my people's interest is better protected in Nigeria, my people like business and travelling and if they had to go through Emigration and Visa processing to get to Nigeria in the Future it will not be the best.

As for seizing power or declaring power, that's not entirely in the hands of the military, but I live that to the future, just know that my intentions are considerate and I believe in Nigeria

AlexBells:


I was not proposing a slap, I don't get physical just like that, I know she did that because she care but you know how stupid a woman in love can be, they are capable of doing anything just for love but at least some rationality matters even in love, that action to me was irrational, even if my family needs to know she should give me the respect if being the one to tell my family or inform me about her intentions first.

You were too harsh on her. You should have told her politely. What you hate may be what it is acceptable in her family.

AlexBells:

Okay let's see it this way, she tried to be there for me, most times I scolded her but then if she was there it could have still ended there but i just don't like the fact she called that way, i used to hook her up with my mum it all sounds creepy cause she's trying to care and that's what everyone sees and this type of mindset is why it resulted to scolding, just the way everyone is claiming she care, she care that's how it resulted to argument and then scolding, she wish she was there that's enough, I called her on phone what made her think I can't call my sister cause if it were you this how the issue will start and I will end up scolding at you, you did something, I told you it not proper and you protest it, why don't you look into the issue, everyone is not the same and every relationship is special, there are people who want their friends and families to call them on Birthdays but me I switch off my phone and deactivate my social handles on such occasions I like my privacy and when I bring you into my life and affairs please don't bring others into it, that's caring to me

Some girls dey try.

Kid

jumobi1:
You have anger issues. I hope you don’t beat your woman . Next time just tell her you like you’re privacy and keep it moving. If she doesn’t respect your wish, you’re allowed to move on.
I don’t like the fact that you’re thankful it was over the phone and that she was far away and that it may end terribly the next time. It makes you sound freaking dangerous and someone no one should be in a relationship with. This type of Violence is of the devil.

Seriously, when I read that line, "thankfully she was far and it was over the phone (paraphrased)," it shook me. I was like this guy is dangerous; what on earth is that girl doing with him. Lol...

I hope he handles his anger before he blows a fuse.