MJBOLT:

women invest little to nothing in relationships and there will always be a better guy out there.

emmaodet:


I understand you very well bro but if we are to go with your line of thought, don't you think we also don't always see better ladies outside than our women?
Should we always be comparing them with better ladies? Especially for ladies that virtually brings nothing to the table

MJBOLT:

21cents:


Ghost her!
how do you ghost?

Delete contacts, this would prevent seeing each other whatsapp statuses.

Unfriend from facebook and other SM.

Ghost her in such a way that she won't be getting updates about your Life anymore which would make her curious. go this way for more than a year while using that time to reinvent and add values to yourself.

trust me by 6months, you'd start saying to yourself: what the hell was I thinking going emotional for that girl?

MJBOLT:

most men in relationships tend to come across better ladies but will find it difficult to dump their current spouse due to how much they have invested in the relationship(sunk cost).

MJBOLT:

i love when they say "you are too stingy" body dey sweet me die.

Vecto:
Dang, bro! What's his handle name?

Vecto:
Dang, bro! What's his handle name?

MJBOLT:
https://mobile.twitter.com/Shadaya_Knight_

luminouz:

Now this had me laughing like a fuqin loon.

Not only cuz it was funny but i actually can relate to how women want their way at all costs. Its up to you to be in control

The dude even did all that for an ex

MJBOLT:

women invest little to nothing in relationships and there will always be a better guy out there.

MJBOLT:

if a man works 12-15 hours a day to provide shelter and food for his family,his wife will complain that he's not spending enough time with the family,if he decides to work from home so he can provide and spend time with his family,his wife will still complain that his mates have all gone to work and he's at home pressing laptop.

emmaodet:



Ohhhhhh, nairaland. Nairaland has been one of the good few things i came across and really appreciate.
My life has really improved ever since i joined nairaland because it opened my eyes to my flaws in relationship.
At the initial stage or early days here, i was furious and depressed when people started bringing their issues to nairaland and it was very very similar to mine and i saw how i bleeped up.
Now, am in charge and everything is in control.
Dated a custom lady for about 7 years before she got married. Bad marriage and got divorced and kicked up from where we dropped it.
I spent a lot in the relationship for she and her kid, calls, gifts etc but she took every for granted. I guess another guy in the pix, a long distant relationship.
At a point she started giving me cold shoulder and insulting me, couldn't take it anymore, i had to take my leave.
After 3 months, she called to know why i have changed but have had enough.
During the break, i reflected on the relationship and i wondered why have been in the relationship for so long. Very very unbeneficial to me.
7 years of knowing each other, no gift from her side, my brother, No even sex(can you just imagine that - First class simp i be), why i come dey call that kind thing dating sef, abi i dey craze ni? No money, gift, sex given to me. Nothing Except Insults ontop. (Ohhhhh, Abasiiiiii. Dis life no balance abeg)
The life of a simp is not a life to be proud of abeg.
It was at that time i started wondering if am not insane to be in such a relationship or situationship.
I took my leave, learnt a lot from it and ever since that time, my one kobo for ladies dey pepper me like mad while i dey clear their doubt steady

Vecto:
The problem here is that some guys don't know how to say "No" to sexual advances from females. They can't seem to possibly wrap their head round why they should reject free pusyyy, ya know. If most men can control their sexual urges then we will have less betas and more alphas since sex is the female dominion of power.

Skepticus:


The list is numerous but I'll add Dejan Lovren of Liverpool FC for emphasis. She cheated on Dejan, with the Gardner in the house he bought for her.

The-make-money-first-and-women-would-be-loyal-to-you, division of Nigerian SIMPs don't know that there is a level of comfortability that you give to a woman that makes them bored, begin to resent the comfort you gave her, and go cheat on you with men much lesser than you in financial worth and social status, while finding a way of placing the blame on you.

luminouz:


Lol...there was a time one ex took my shiit for granted and I ghosted her. She called and sent texts that I ignored. Then, she started uploading 'my new crush,my babe boo, boo took me out' stuffs on WhatsApp. I didn't check but my friend checked her statuses and told me. I gave her zero chills.
3 months 12 days later, a knock on my door sounded and ex was the one. Said she missed me and bla bLA blaaaa. Not only was she looking fat in the stomach, she was sounding stressed too. Immediately, she gave me her excuses and I told her to get out, she made moves to kiss me and said 'I need you babe inside me'. I was boiling to kick her out till I saw the pile of laundry I had accumulated and wanted to wash that very day. She washed and ironed my stuffs and afterwards, when she thought, I'd give her, her reward? I kicked her out. .....

The shocked look on her face as I slammed the door made my week

luminouz:

When young,yes but as they get older, the pool of better guys dries up exponentially.

Skepticus:


The list is numerous but I'll add Dejan Lovren of Liverpool FC for emphasis. She cheated on Dejan, with the Gardner in the house he bought for her.

The-make-money-first-and-women-would-be-loyal-to-you, division of Nigerian SIMPs don't know that there is a level of comfortability that you give to a woman that makes them bored, begin to resent the comfort you gave her, and go cheat on you with men much lesser than you in financial worth and social status, while finding a way of placing the blame on you.

Regex:


Bro chill, me I'll say, no ghosting. No need being friends with women. You will spend a lot and would never get anything in return.

My ex of three years (we dated three years or looked like, idk, really), after I found the truth, God bless ubunja Martinez39s(his post felt like an attack to me), on June, I stopped every connection, calls, talking to her. If we meet in person, we just say hi, and I move on, if she want to talk to me longer, I give her the impression that I'm not interested. She noticed anyway, she started bombing with calls, affection, all that you can think of. In fact if I had asked for sex, she'd have given it to me (throughout the time we dated, I never had sex with her, and she found it difficult to make out with in public, even at night unless we are well hidden). All these while, I never reciprocated anything... She'd call and when I feel like, I answered, and she will tell me to call her sometime... The only time I called her was when I told her I wanted us to be strangers I said this because she couldn't tell me the reason she was keeping in touch. I mean, it's over a year since I last called but you keep calling me... Hello!

Well, she didn't take it easy... My friend told me she met her that day and she was never herself. And I proceeded to tell him why she was that way.

Why did I severe everything... A girl who didn't think me worthy of her boyfriend shouldn't be worthy of me.

Cut off! Stop calling or texting. If you can't stand her text whenever she texts, grow some balls and call it quit whatever you have with her.

21cents:
abi. their window of shakara is within 18-24. girls within that range thinks the world will revolve around them forever and will so bullshytte so many guys their age then due to the mammoth attention they get everywhere especially SM.

but I figured their shakara dies slowly from 25 upwards. and men should have it in mind that tons of girls turn 18 everyday.

emmaodet:


I understand you very well bro but if we are to go with your line of thought, don't you think we also don't always see better ladies outside than our women?
Should we always be comparing them with better ladies? Especially for ladies that virtually brings nothing to the table which brings us to another topic - Risk Mitigation/Management.
Why are men not going into relationship with risk management and exit strategies?

LordAdam16:


See, if you are a guy in a relationship, and you're not always comparing your SO with better ladies, that's on you.

Laydees do it subconsciously. Not having a risk management or exit strategy in a relationship is like going on a voyage without life vests. Absence of life vests will not stop the ship from floating, but if sh*t hits the fan, you'd wish you had never set sail without life vests.

Einstein left his first wife for the sake of his sanity.
Bezos left his wife, it cost him $40b, but if he doesn't give a f*ck, I wouldn't give one on his behalf.
Brad Pitt left Aniston for Jolie. He wanted it to be a civil union. Jolie insisted on marriage. Didn't work out, he used the exit door. Currently, he is in a romantic/sexual relationship with a woman who is married and the husband is aware. Everyone can tell he's not exclusive with her. This is the same Pitt that Mike Tyson caught screwing his wife and didn't do sh*t.
DiCaprio sisterzoned Kate Winslet after Titanic and has had more romantic partners (that we know of) than toothbrushes. To this day, he takes Winslet and her kids on vacations if their schedules allow, regardless of her marital status.

If you know your worth as a guy, there's no rule in the universe that says you can't upgrade if that's what you want. Especially since our market value increases exponentially with age.

Hypergamy is gender-neutral.

Maybe if women know men are regularly shopping for their replacement (even subconsciously), they would not have the time to be keeping in touch with exes or be looking for something outside that's not missing. They would spend that time working on themselves and making your life as smooth as possible.

But even after them give us expo, men go still dey act lyk say na swear to think of their own happiness.

-Lord

Regex:


Bro chill, me I'll say, no ghosting. No need being friends with women. You will spend a lot and would never get anything in return.

My ex of three years (we dated three years or looked like, idk, really), after I found the truth, God bless ubunja Martinez39s(his post felt like an attack to me), on June, I stopped every connection, calls, talking to her. If we meet in person, we just say hi, and I move on, if she want to talk to me longer, I give her the impression that I'm not interested. She noticed anyway, she started bombing with calls, affection, all that you can think of. In fact if I had asked for sex, she'd have given it to me (throughout the time we dated, I never had sex with her, and she found it difficult to make out with in public, even at night unless we are well hidden). All these while, I never reciprocated anything... She'd call and when I feel like, I answered, and she will tell me to call her sometime... The only time I called her was when I told her I wanted us to be strangers I said this because she couldn't tell me the reason she was keeping in touch. I mean, it's over a year since I last called but you keep calling me... Hello!

Well, she didn't take it easy... My friend told me she met her that day and she was never herself. And I proceeded to tell him why she was that way.

Why did I severe everything... A girl who didn't think me worthy of her boyfriend shouldn't be worthy of me.

Cut off! Stop calling or texting. he whenever she texts, grow some balls and call it quit whatever you have with her.

emmaodet:


Exactly bro, exactly.
You have said it all.
I think the problem with men is the years and years of conditioning that we believe we need to take care of women for us to be happy.
Some will even say that the true wealth of a man or his money will only be acknowledged if it shows in his wife and kids. Can you imagine that? Not from the workaholic horse himself rather the wife and kids

LordAdam16:
Most men have not understood this yet. Which is unfortunate. They're still naively trying to plug their beloved Sega cartridges into brand-new PS5 consoles, and are that 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

-Lord

pansophist:
@glycolisiss

Please send all to me. My email is pansophiste at Gmail dot com.

LordAdam16:


To be fair, it's not simply "years and years" of conditioning. It's literally how we've managed to come this far since we evolved from our hominid predecessors.

Whether it's taking on cave bears or Sabre-tooth tigers, we rolled our women and kids into caves and went on what was usually one-way expeditions to hunt or take down predators that threatened our immediate commune.

In that regard, it became genetically imprinted in us to derive satisfaction from sacrifice. Be it for own women, kids, tribe, or nation.

Until World War II, this was a fact of life. As any man who wasn't at the always-ongoing wars, was at home devoting his life to his King, Lord, or Chief to keep society functioning.

In return, laws of antiquity bequeathed men universal control over their households. That's why our kids and wives took on our last names. For all intents and purposes, they were our property. Like cattle, land, or gold we own. It's also why it was essential for us to get married for social and economic reasons. So that every able-bodied man had skin in the game.

So that whenever an invader is bearing on your city or village, you don't scour off, you pledge your fealty to your King and hope he can marshal a defense (which you'd be a part of) that'd save your kids, wife(s), and whatever wealth you have to your name from rape, slavery, pillaging and horrific death.

Nonetheless, change is constant. The never-ending wars for the most part are over. In addition, we've decided that to spur economic activity, we have to increase our labor force by adding women. The result has been seven decades of relative prosperity. But with a sky-high barrage of unforeseen consequences.

Seven decades sounds like a long time, but it's actually less than two generations ago. As such, norms that have advanced mankind over 300,000 years and were a thing in the times of our grandparents (and for some of us our parents) are now being discarded. Unfortunately, most men can't read the tea leaves and realize the days of altruistic sacrifices are over. And it's why the Western manosphere has been obliterated by feminists.

It's like when our ancient kingdoms here in Nigeria tried to mount an opposition to the British Empire with sharp sticks and machetes when they had guns and cannons.

It's a different era. Formerly, marriage wasn't a partnership, it was a transfer of property from father/guardian to husband.

To give an analogy, after we paired up in the past, men ran the arrangement like a sole proprietorship. Now arrangements are at best partnerships.
With a sole proprietorship, you can make unilateral sacrifices. But with partnerships, you have to watch out for your own interests.

Most men have not understood this yet. Which is unfortunate. They're still naively trying to plug their beloved Sega cartridges into brand-new PS5 consoles, and are that 70% of divorces are initiated by women.

-Lord

GLYCOLYSISS:


Are you still wondering why I didn't get these mention ?
You're not going Scot free for spelling my moniker wrong,mr pansophist.

Issue public apology and come with the whole elders of your community , with 3 bags of rice, two cows, teeth of a female scorpion, an eye of a pregnant tigress and most importantly, you're going to credit the account of the gods of our land with the sum of 5 million naira only !

******
You're still interested in them ?

GLYCOLYSISS:


Are you still wondering why I didn't get these mention ?
You're not going Scot free for spelling my moniker wrong,mr pansophist.

Issue public apology and come with the whole elders of your community , with 3 bags of rice, two cows, teeth of a female scorpion, an eye of a pregnant tigress and most importantly, you're going to credit the account of the gods of our land with the sum of 5 million naira only !

******
You're still interested in them ?

XshegzzyeeiX:



Professor Pansophist, please pay up