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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by free2ryhme: 9:33am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

Is it possible you get an NGO involved is this issue?
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Nobody: 9:33am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I just hope it won't be late before she realises that my step dad has nothing to offer her. She seems bewitched by him angry
if u dey lagos call me make i come treat him fk up,reset him brain

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Btruth: 9:34am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry
what do you mean by men? Why not "why is my step dad like this?"
Most men are not like your step dad.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Sleekfun: 9:34am On Dec 07, 2020
Only God can rescue her , she is bewitched by the man either physically or spiritually or both , this happened to someone I know ,and the man latter use her to renew his death time which he remarried to a younger girl in less than one month of the woman's death, pray for her , take her for deliverance and make her to be very close to God . That is the best advice I could help you with .
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by EmmaTay(m): 9:35am On Dec 07, 2020
There's another peaceful way to go about it. Your mum has relations she listens to. Get her family members involved especially the elder ones. Inform them and find a way to get them to her home. They can talk better and dictate for her. If the very day of meetings she insists on staying, you can all go to the police station for the man to sign an undertaken. If the man won't do that and your mum still remain adamant on staying. Then I'll need to say this bitter truth, your mum will learn the hard way. If not death, maybe after the loss of a vital organ like eyes. You've tried your best but not everyone is redeemable.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by capitalzero: 9:36am On Dec 07, 2020
talktrue1234:
Women are funny creatures, my mom too will carry her money to people, and after the person has squandered the money she will be looking for who to help her collect the money from them, funny thing is if we her children put mouth in the matter she will start fighting us.

She is currently not picking my calls because ofanother case like, she tried that I didn't hear about it, but I ended hearing about it.

To some extent it's better than men beating her, but it's scary too.
She should go for mental health evaluation
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by jrusky(m): 9:36am On Dec 07, 2020
Then fight for your mum bro.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by tiswell(m): 9:38am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I just hope it won't be late before she realises that my step dad has nothing to offer her. She seems bewitched by him angry
step daughters doesn't usually appreciate their step fathers.



Sorry about your mum, but you aren't the first of your kind.





Step fatherhood doesn't favour the men. Men should make sure they marry their children(s) mama, if they must get married.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by goshen26: 9:41am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

I feel for you dear

But the matter is beyond wat u can settle. You can only give her money but u can't give her her real need, that's why it is difficult to get away from the said man despite the fact that u rented an apartment for her

I hope u understand wat I mean by "real need"

Just encourage her that if she's no longer alive the man will move on with his life.

Tell her that the real need will come even without him, but only if she allow the fence of the man to be broken.

Encourage her to stay free in the house u rented for her.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Mujinho4b(m): 9:41am On Dec 07, 2020
Do you have family members.? Talk to them. This happened to a Friend of mine. He and their family members cooperated and kidnap the mum. They put her in a place for almost 2 months to avoid been abused, they filed divorce papers, changed her line. The Man cried hell, when he realized there is no going back as the family where fed up of him, he later signed the divorce papers.. Are You the only child? Gang up with your family and siblings to save your mother from early death..

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by shogsmania: 9:41am On Dec 07, 2020
Arrange boys to bash the man's face na,if anybody beat my mum I go kill am Aje,Abi you no get male siblings ni
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Daddysidhan: 9:43am On Dec 07, 2020
Why your mom leave your dad in the first place?

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by chris51(f): 9:43am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

What happened to relationship between your mother and your biological father? Is your father still alive?
If your father is still alive, shame is making your mother to endure abusive relationship.
If your rented a place for her and she prefers going back to the man, I pity her. The man will kill her sooner or later, accidentally or otherwise

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by chris51(f): 9:43am On Dec 07, 2020
chris51:


What happened to relationship between your mother and your biological father? Is your father still alive?
If your father is still alive, shame is making your mother to endure abusive relationship.
If your rented a place for her and she prefers going back to the man, I pity her. The man will kill her sooner or later, accidentally or otherwise

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Fidelismaria: 9:43am On Dec 07, 2020
undecided



the question shouldn't be why are men like this it should be why are women like this? why do they always go back to their violent husband's

the only person I blame here is your mom












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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Nobody: 9:44am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I really love my mother and I don't want no harm for her. She is just too weak cry

That your Mum keeps marrying different men should tell you maybe there is a problem with your mother. Either she never learns her lessons or she has an underlying problem with brings out the beasts in men.

Painful to hear but it is usually true. There reason why people always find themselves in or attract the same situation in their lives is usually down to they themselves. She finds another man and she will likely find herself in the same situattion

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 9:44am On Dec 07, 2020
Mujinho4b:
Do you have family members.? Talk to them. This happened to a Friend of mine. He and their family members cooperated and kidnap the mum. They put her in a place for almost 2 months to avoid been abused, they filed divorce papers, changed her line. The Man cried hell, when he realized there is no going back as the family where fed up of him, he later signed the divorce papers.. Are You the only child? Gang up with your family and siblings to save your mother from early death..
I am the only child. I have reported to our family, they tried but my mom is just too stubborn to leave him
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by lexy2014: 9:45am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

Do u have a lover? Is ur lover male or female?
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Nobody: 9:45am On Dec 07, 2020
talktrue1234:
When police fails, settle guys for him, there are guys thay are always ready once you buy weed for them, let them threaten him small

But advise is to sue the man to court though.

Sorry I understand your pain

If you live in the south, except Lagos, there is customary court that handle issues like this, report him to the elders around

I like the way you think, me violence is my first go thing. esp as lagosian i go beat the man tire or get bois i smoke with to beat the man. how you go beat my own momsi

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 9:45am On Dec 07, 2020
Your mummy loves bad boys (man). Where u expecting anything less from a heavy drunkard and probably a weed smoker?
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by luminouz(m): 9:46am On Dec 07, 2020
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These mods are just meeeehnnnn undecided

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by chris51(f): 9:46am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My mom loves him yet he keeps treating her like this? cry

This is no love. How can she love an abusive man?
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by chris51(f): 9:46am On Dec 07, 2020
chris51:


This is no love. How can she love an abusive man?
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Dchampion65: 9:46am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak

I understand your concern about your mom.

All these advice to sent guys after him, threaten, beating and all that. Be ready to face the consequences should anything go wrong.
With what you said you mother will not be there for you.

Let your mother be, she is old enough to know what she desire. Don't even try to problems further.

Let every some key member of your mother's family be aware of the situation.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BestDesigns0(m): 9:47am On Dec 07, 2020
I don’t think there is nothing you can do. I have a similar issue. My mum prefer to fight and insult we the children over the man . And this man doesn’t value her atall

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Chris2863(m): 9:47am On Dec 07, 2020
Lol, is your mom a 14yr old baby?

You have tried for her, since she doesn't want to listen, leave her.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by opera1(m): 9:47am On Dec 07, 2020
Dreyton36:
Next time arrange area boys to also beat up ur step father
Or arrange boys to go beat him in the beer parlour where he drinks and ensure they strip him naked
They won't tell him it had anything to do with you, they'll just tell him to ensure he never hits a woman never again

What he gets thoroughly beaten up to four times he'll change by force, in fact if you don't know how to go about it send me a mail, what's your location?

Any man who raises his hand to hit a lady is a buffoon

Lights up my kpoli in peace


pls don't follow this, it may end in tears.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by lucind(f): 9:47am On Dec 07, 2020
My dear if you continue to talk to your mom from now till forever she won't open up, she will open up to you once you are married, it's then that she will start sharing so many secret with you, and she will be more prouder then to come live with you and your family, try and get married and see how she will leave that man.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by ZUBY77(m): 9:47am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:


She told me that she love him and he loves her too and that with time he will change and that all marriage has to be endured all those bullshit sha

Why is it always the men that need to change?
What about your mom? When will she chnage from whatever she is doing that causes these fights?

No man comes home drunk or not and started beating his wife.
There is always something someone is not telling.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by AntiWailer: 9:48am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I just hope it won't be late before she realises that my step dad has nothing to offer her. She seems bewitched by him angry

Companionship and sex bewitched her.

U are not going to order Ur mum to leave. U will keep making her see reasons to leave gradually.

That is one of the reasons if I dnt like some one around my people I dnt show it. So when they need to genuinely leave they will not claim that it was because I hated the person.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Positivepoint(m): 9:48am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

Get him arrested. File a formal complain with evidence.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by dabby4real: 9:50am On Dec 07, 2020
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