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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by kunle75(m): 10:17am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I really love my mother and I don't want no harm for her. She is just too weak cry

Give me his address let me go treat his bleep up quickly,I don't want anything bad to happen to her too.

grin grin grin
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Juliearth(f): 10:20am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
I really love my mother and I don't want no harm for her. She is just too weak cry




I feel your pain sis and I know how much this hurts. Keep talking some senses into your mum's head, involve your grandparents and other relations if possible. You will be fine dear.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by talktrue1234: 10:20am On Dec 07, 2020
VeeVeeMyLuv:
maybe her mom is a BDSM devotee

You are quoting the wrong person
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 10:21am On Dec 07, 2020
Dalil8:



Well that's her story. Reach out to your dad and find out the real reason he left her.



The run away daddy must have rejected the pregnancy probably due to the fact that he was not the only man in a coital entanglement with the mom at the time, other men were most likely in the picture.

Maybe they were not even legally married then.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Juliearth(f): 10:21am On Dec 07, 2020
talktrue1234:
When police fails, settle guys for him, there are guys thay are always ready once you buy weed for them, let them threaten him small

But advise is to sue the man to court though.

Sorry I understand your pain

If you live in the south, except Lagos, there is customary court that handle issues like this, report him to the elders around



There is no case if the victim of the abuse is on Tue abusers side.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 10:22am On Dec 07, 2020
talktrue1234:


You are quoting the wrong person
okay sorry I was indirectly referring to the op tru your post.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:23am On Dec 07, 2020
tiswell:
step daughters doesn't usually appreciate their step fathers.



Sorry about your mum, but you aren't the first of your kind.





Step fatherhood doesn't favour the men. Men should make sure they marry their children(s) mama, if they must get married.


Seriously. The man even harassed me sexually some years ago. I tried to tell my mom but she wouldn't believe me.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by mdbabah2020: 10:24am On Dec 07, 2020
in my own case many years back, I sat my step father down and declared to him my last warning straight till today the man comport kia
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Juliearth(f): 10:24am On Dec 07, 2020
Dreyton36:
Next time arrange area boys to also beat up ur step father
Or arrange boys to go beat him in the beer parlour where he drinks and ensure they strip him naked
They won't tell him it had anything to do with you, they'll just tell him to ensure he never hits a woman never again

What he gets thoroughly beaten up to four times he'll change by force, in fact if you don't know how to go about it send me a mail, what's your location?

Any man who raises his hand to hit a lady is a buffoon

Lights up my kpoli in peace




Trust me, the wife beater would know who sent the thugs and that would make him maltreat her mum the more. Her best shot is to convince her mum to leave that marriage.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:25am On Dec 07, 2020
lucind:
My dear if you continue to talk to your mom from now till forever she won't open up, she will open up to you once you are married, it's then that she will start sharing so many secret with you, and she will be more prouder then to come live with you and your family, try and get married and see how she will leave that man.


Lol. Marriage is not for everybody don't you think.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by talktrue1234: 10:28am On Dec 07, 2020
Juliearth:




There is no case if the victim of the abuse is on Tue abusers side.

It can be handled in the traditional customary court. There is this council of chief office in the south west that handle similar cases, they are corrupt too, but at the end if she do well justice will be served, and locals are always scared of their verdict
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by oyebanji(m): 10:29am On Dec 07, 2020
If you want to go the self help way, its for boys to beat him and warn him never to beat her again.

It may backfire though but if they are effective, he will never lay his hands on her again.



BaddieFreak:


I wish I could send thugs to him but the issue is that if I send thugs after him, that won't stop my mom from seeing him, she is obsessed with him. And my mom won't allow me to sue him.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by amsktn: 10:29am On Dec 07, 2020
As per as no CHAM Involve, then is normal.
Allow her to keep the marriage.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BigMiracle(m): 10:30am On Dec 07, 2020
I feel sorry for your mom. Love they say is blind. This time its actually blind. start a business for your mom so she can decide to stay on her own terms and not being cajoled by lack
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by shogotermies(m): 10:31am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

Girl.. Advice your mum, divorce isn't bad.
See, some men feels that the best way to shut up and make a woman feel weak is thru beating her. And it works for them.
You see the statement for better or worse,
Is only possible when one is alive..
I pray he doesn't kill her someday.
Go online check all domestic violence cases, some of it ends in the death of the woman. Be wise, be smart, be safe.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Juliearth(f): 10:31am On Dec 07, 2020
talktrue1234:


It can be handled in the traditional customary court. There is this council of chief office in the south west that handle similar cases, they are corrupt too, but at the end if she do well justice will be served, and locals are always scared of their verdict



I understand your point my brother, but all these can only happen if the wife testifies against her husband, do you think she would? I doubt!
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Juicethekid: 10:32am On Dec 07, 2020
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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by habakukjss3: 10:32am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken cry

How long have they been together?
Is your mom not contributing financially to family?
Your mom's life matters
Do all you could to protect her life
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by tiswell(m): 10:33am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:
.

My mom said that he refused to accept the pregnancy and he left. I never saw him.
look for him and find out the truth, your mum didn't tell you all there is.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:34am On Dec 07, 2020
shogotermies:


Girl.. Advice your mum, divorce isn't bad.
See, some men feels that the best way to shut up and make a woman feel weak is thru beating her. And it works for them.
You see the statement for better or worse,
Is only possible when one is alive..
I pray he doesn't kill her someday.
Go online check all domestic violence cases, some of it ends in the death of the woman. Be wise, be smart, be safe.
.

I have tried my best to convince her to leave him. The beating has been going on for ages. I don't even know what to do next
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:36am On Dec 07, 2020
Juliearth:




I understand your point my brother, but all these can only happen if the wife testifies against her husband, do you think she would? I doubt!
Exactly. I have reported the case to the police several times but to my surprise she sided with her husband.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by ENIGMATIC2023(m): 10:37am On Dec 07, 2020
Leave her alone, she has chosen her paths
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Tonyspecial(m): 10:39am On Dec 07, 2020
Dreyton36:
Next time arrange area boys to also beat up ur step father
Or arrange boys to go beat him in the beer parlour where he drinks and ensure they strip him naked
They won't tell him it had anything to do with you, they'll just tell him to ensure he never hits a woman never again

What he gets thoroughly beaten up to four times he'll change by force, in fact if you don't know how to go about it send me a mail, what's your location?

Any man who raises his hand to hit a lady is a buffoon

Lights up my kpoli in peace
don't heed to this advice biko, e get why

Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Oluchia(f): 10:40am On Dec 07, 2020
Dalil8:



Well that's her story. Reach out to your dad and find out the real reason he left her.




Abeg go and sleep. Which one is her story, just looking for ways to blame the woman. By the way, is that even the issue here?? Give advice if you have one on the topic at hand and leave the woman's history alone.

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Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by tiswell(m): 10:40am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:



Seriously. The man even harassed me sexually some years ago. I tried to tell my mom but she wouldn't believe me.
it's all part of the 'step" stuff... You need to question your mum intensively (emotions apart) on the true whereabouts of your real father. I guess there are things your mum doesn't want you to know about her past.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by VULCAN(m): 10:40am On Dec 07, 2020
I was feeling for you and your mum but you just had to spoil it with that last paragraph.

Let me keep my advise to myself.
BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. cry What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? cry I am confused and heart broken :'
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:43am On Dec 07, 2020
VULCAN:
I was feeling for you amd your mum but you just had to spoil it with that last paragraph.

Let me keep my advise to myself.

Okay
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:44am On Dec 07, 2020
Juliearth:





I feel your pain sis and I know how much this hurts. Keep talking some senses into your mum's head, involve your grandparents and other relations if possible. You will be fine dear.

Just like me my relatives has tried but she keeps going back to him.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by Nobody: 10:45am On Dec 07, 2020
If I were in ur shoes...I would beat the crap out of hin
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by BaddieFreak(f): 10:47am On Dec 07, 2020
tiswell:
it's all part of the 'step" stuff... You need to question your mum intensively (emotions apart) on the true whereabouts of your real father. I guess there are things your mum doesn't want you to know about her past.

She hasn't seen him since I was in primary school and she doesn't know if he is still alive or dead. I never saw him since all this happened when I was a baby.
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by stacyadams: 10:47am On Dec 07, 2020
mdbabah2020:
in my own case many years back, I sat my step father down and declared to him my last warning straight till today the man comport kia
grin grin
Re: My Step Dad Is Maltreating My Mom, I Am Confused by tiswell(m): 10:51am On Dec 07, 2020
BaddieFreak:


She hasn't seen him since I was in primary school and she doesn't know if he is still alive or dead. I never saw him since all this happened when I was a baby.
it's really sad.

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