| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Funkyswagzz(m): 9:12am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Some women are heartless... The worst is that they do cheat on u without remorse 1 Like |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by PraiseDLord: 9:13am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Righteousness89:
You shall Know the truth and the truth will set u Free..
The First truth you should know is that if you kill yourself in any way or Form, you will open your Eyes Live in Hell Fire! And it's forever and Ever.
Secondly, this is the reason I am an advocate that young men and Women seek the Face of God before saying I do. And until you are sure GOD has showed you your Spouse, do not Marry! Marriage is a life time Commitment. Going your way might look sweet at the start but it will always end in Pains!
Thirdly, you Have Married! You Have Married! You are her Husband and she is your wife.
There could be Solutions but you need to approach the originator of the institution of Marriage and take Matters to HIM on the basis of His Mercy.
As you Pray you reach out to Elders you know she could listen to.
For those who are about to Enter, Ensure you Hear Clearly about your Spouse. If you didn't Hear! Pls no matter how juicy its looks, do not Enter!
Do not Marry because of He/she has Cash
Do not Marry because she has Big behind/Big Before or because He has 12 packs
Do not Marry because He/ She is this or that!
Do not Marry for Sympathy or Pity!
The Only Reason to Marry Him/ Her should be Because you Have Sort the Face of GOD and HE has given you the Go ahead!
It is Better to Be Single than to Marry who is not the will of GOD for you!
It will always End in Tears!
They that Have Ears to Hear! Let them Hear! Well said! God bless you greatly. This is the simple solution. He that hath an � ear, let him hear! 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Goldencheese(m): 9:13am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Thanks for your advice man. Bigggloadofcum:
Hmm!
This matter carry weight o. As proper and justifiable as it is to check the phones of our spouses, the discovery might turn out to be SUICIDAL.
First, you are within ur marital right to check on ur wife's phone even though a few persons might disagree with that.
From your writeup I could deduce u are broke even though you try ur best to provide for ur family. The woman you married doesn't feel the need to respect someone who she feels she's better than financially.
This is a real story. When I was 9 my dad was going through serious financial challenges and even though my mum was totally supportive, he felt incomplete. One evening I saw my dad with a rope.
He didn't say a word to me... He went out. Late at night he didn't come home and we started looking for him but he was no where to be found. There was no phones like there is now.
Late on oga came back looking frail and disconnected from this earth. We welcomed him as usual. Next day he called me and told me that he had hung the rope to a tree and was about tying it round his neck but he thought about my siblings and I.
Few years down, thinks turned around tremendously. He became happy, our family became happy.
Now b4 you take that suicidal step, think of your children, double ur hustle but if that woman is cheating on you, kick her ass out. You deserve better.
A woman shouldn't be the end of you. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
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| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Slimdan360: 9:13am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means. If your problem is lack of appreciation from your wife,then I must tell you that you should calm down,just like your wife,I find it difficult to show appreciation and emotions but inside me,I really do love those close to me and sincerely pray for their success,I think it's the same with your wife,she just does not know how to express it. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 9:13am On Dec 08, 2020 |
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| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by sylve11: 9:13am On Dec 08, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:
MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.
I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.
WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST. Capslocked!  |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by jaxxy(m): 9:14am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.
Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.
She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.
I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.
One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.
If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.
Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"
Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake. Most if not All Marriages have problems and some have storms bt how u handle them makes the difference. What did u see that’s making u think of rubbish? Yes I called it absolute Rubbish cos that’s what it is. Being depressed is normal for anyone at low points or even for no reason bt being suicidal is complete rubbish. If the issues is not being appreciated that didn’t start 2day, 70% of gals(Nigerian) do not appreciate/are ingrates by nature. it must have always been in her character bt not this pronounced and it was never corrected then or maybe she just changed like u said after ur first child bt people don’t just change Smtn causes then to change. We are all human nobody is an alien here so we know how it’s feels or works. When people change for the negative don’t over look it and let the negative attitude fester or continue it may deteriorate to Smtn worse so rather address it head on and from time to time until a solid solution is gotten. Leaving it for peace sake only worsen the matter. Smtmes it is better for peace to be temporarily disturbed for people to grow. If she has cheated then there are 2things involved only. 1. u let her go and be single for the time being and Find an arrangement that works for the kids. 2. U forgive her and work on ur marriage flaws. Yes marriage is work also. I wish u well. Godbless. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Goldencheese(m): 9:14am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Why would you think of killing yourself. Confront your wife and tell her to change. If she doesn't change, kick her out and take your children and give them proper training. Along the line if you meet a reasonable woman you love and that can take care of your children and her own that she may bear for you, wed her and move on. Why die and go to hell because of a cheating spouse? That is sad and mad bo. MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.
Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.
She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.
I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.
One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.
If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.
Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"
Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by iamJ(m): 9:14am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Women cheat alot nowadays
Good for men, for centuries una dey marry plenty wife and cheat around, having baby mama and all the rest
If married woman show me light, I will dive her with no pity, men deserve it |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by hybridblood07(m): 9:15am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Your comment makes no sense at all. Juliusmomoh:
Thank God u know u made a mistake..
And beside suicide is not the best opinion here...
.
U married her at the age of 28.. Don't u know girl of 28 are still in their hoeing stage ?... And instead of u to make her a complete housewife, u carry your hand go find wahala...
.
Now the remedy...
.
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| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by dhensity: 9:15am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.
Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?
Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.
This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.
Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand. I have not married yet but I understand u bro. Women could be heartless. No matter what you sacrifice some of them will not appreciate it . Just move on because she will not change 1 Like |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by BlessedNuel: 9:15am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Fussion1000:
But i think you knw they are not cheating with themselves o.
Its a societal decadence, yet we still have sooooo many virtues women, if you open ur eyes wide and also involve God, you will meet bone of ur bone.
Even after marriage you still need to be putting eyes on activities of ur wife and people she relates with. Bro...I no go lie give you. If I eventually get married...I will never checkmate my wife. I don't care.....once I notice a slight change in her behaviour.....I will refrain from going raw with her... probably we will have to go for a snappy test once more before I continue.. Na just 4 kids wey I want and once I don get em..no shaking.... I will surely go for a DNA test with all of my kids....once positive...No wahala. She can go ahead to do whatever she wants.... Personally,I was advised by my grandfather never to dey chook eye inside woman matter. No matter what you do...you can never satisfy them....He told me that If I want to live long...I should bother less about women 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by incogni2o: 9:15am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Unrated900:
What sort of open discussions are you talking about here man.
You think every man should be subjected to the rules of women..
The man has been enduring long time
Read my words to him
Can’t the woman respect and knows that the husband is trying hence respecting him and honoring him should Be her primary assignment,which kain open discussions you Dey talk self..
Abiii na u Dey chat the woman for back niii He has to take charge of his Family abeg, He is spoiling the Woman too much and needs to add a bit of sterness and "discipline". Obviously the Woman is taking his love and care for granted, BTW, some women also don't see a big deal in it. He has to talk sense into the Woman's Head, Not crumbling like a jelly fish. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Karlifate: 9:16am On Dec 08, 2020 |
IF you commit suicide & you die, she'll gladly move on with her life like nothing happened.
WIN-WIN for her, LOSE-LOSE for you.
The choice is yours to make, MeeztaFabulouz. 1 Like |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Ikem11(m): 9:16am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.
Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?
Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.
This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.
Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand. Oga no vex, did you catch your wife cheating ? Based on her phone chats u read did you see anything that she actually having sex with those 2 men ? Apart from if answer to those 2 questions is "yes" then I can advice you on what to do but from all your write-up it seems u just suspecting she might be cheating because you are broke . (Hustle my brother) We men do complain too much when we put our selves in mess . Didn't you date this girl before marrying her? I bet if u did you would have known she like money cos women no dey hide that part no matter how they try unless the man is too blind to see. No marriage is perfect just do the ones u can and leave the ones you no fit do. Like I said, unless you have 100percent evidence she cheats on u I will call u a fool if u thinking of suicide option 1 Like |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by demmymoney(m): 9:16am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MORAL LESSON; NEVER SETTLE DOWN WITH A HOE 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Judybash93(m): 9:16am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Sorry oOo, did you catch her in the act or found evidence of her whoring or  |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Rexnegro(m): 9:17am On Dec 08, 2020 |
honestly I read your write up but still looking for what could make u slap yourself talkless of suicide ? maybe there is more you didn't say but commiting suicide from what you wrote up there is not enough... what if you caught her in bed with another man, that means you gonna kill the three of you ? well for me be strong and look pass the suicide mood, staying alive and active for your kids is the best gift you can give to them as a father. it's well 2 Likes |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by olarafiat(f): 9:17am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Juliusmomoh:
Thank God u know u made a mistake..
And beside suicide is not the best opinion here...
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U married her at the age of 28.. Don't u know girl of 28 are still in their hoeing stage ?... And instead of u to make her a complete housewife, u carry your hand go find wahala...
.
Now the remedy...
.
Loading.. 28 na hoeing stage? But I thought guys say 28and above na evening newspaper. Well regardless of age just marry someone that has sense and is ready to settle down. Afterall we still have hoeing 35. Year olds |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by angelfallz(m): 9:17am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.
Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.
She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.
I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.
One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.
If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.
Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"
Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake. Ex-boyfriend that likes checking on her. shey ex-boyfriend no get him own family? Please divorce your wife and move on so that you would live long. Do not allow yourself to be taken for granted. Let her go and be with her ex-boyfriend and the man that likes to eat at her restaurant(she must be a good cook) |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by JoeEeL(m): 9:17am On Dec 08, 2020 |
Weyrey, o o ti mo nkan nkan.  |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by grandlexuz(m): 9:18am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.
Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?
Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.
This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.
Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand. I am sorry to hear about your issues. Believe you me a lot of people on nairaland are insensitive and stupid. I know what it means to throw a sensitive issue like this on nairaland. I have been through the lions den. Being maltreated and abandoned by my wife when I was severely sick. Forget about all those condemning you. I do understand your problem both from self experience and a medical perspective. If you really need someone to share life experiences and talk to contact me on whatsapp and you will never regret it. I live in Cameroon. My number is 237. 653 924 176. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by KosiGee(m): 9:18am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression. What exactly did you see that’s giving you suicidal thoughts? Chats?? Chill bro, that was unfortunate but you need to call your wife and sit down with her...have a proper chat and make sure whatever links or relationship that she has with those two or about to have with them or anyone is completely terminated. Talk to your wife first, I’d meet the other two as well and tell them to back off or escalate it from there. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by i124k(m): 9:18am On Dec 08, 2020 |
just tell er tu change d kind of people she chats with if u not ok with er chatting with er ex.... period....
no go kii yur self.. n mumu thing...
u neva even catch er dy fuvk another man u dy compl |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by tubolancer(m): 9:19am On Dec 08, 2020 |
baralatie:
go through all the banter between him and his wife and you will see his flaws.it was so glaring that he had propped this relationship to fail
and he is just looking for an excuse to pin it on the wife Your thought. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by grandlexuz(m): 9:19am On Dec 08, 2020 |
olarafiat:
28 na hoeing stage? But I thought guys say 28and above na evening newspaper.
Well regardless of age just marry someone that has sense and is ready to settle down. Afterall we still have hoeing 35. Year olds Mind not that idiot giving advice on a topic he knows nothing about. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by dollarlander: 9:19am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.
Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.
She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.
I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.
One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.
If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.
Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"
Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake. You have not actually told us the thing you read on her phone that is giving you depression. You are hiding something you don't want her to read on this platform, so that she will know you are telling her stories and she will come and spill the beans here. I wan to put it to you that you are the problem. You designed you problems yourself, you dug a pit and you made an untimely coffin for yourself. If you die, you die for nothing, she will live very fine and the children will go on with their lives and do greatly well. If you are buried where they can see your grave, the children may come there ones a year to visit you, if not where your body parts may have been harvested by grave pirates. Change your behaviour to your wife, try and have more time with her and stop over working yourself to provide for the family. Create more time to have sex with her, if you are not sexually vibrant enough, take Agbo to revitalise your body or buy kongi and sex her properly, she will forget about those sexual experiences she had with those men when they were younger. When they were younger, they could pound her better, so that feeling is still there and you are not doing any better to fill the gap. Now you want to kill yourself, you are not serious. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by seasy: 9:19am On Dec 08, 2020 |
MeeztaFabulouz:
I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means. Lol For seven years, you've only heard, I'm sorry, twice. What of people like us that do say, I'm sorry like music every day and dem no dey listen to us?  Wahala plenty for relationship, o. You are a good man, just try and sort things out, suicide is not the way at all, it's a no, no. Your kids and family need you. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by AFONJACOW(m): 9:20am On Dec 08, 2020 |
The cause of your depression is poverty , you heard me right, .. People like Ned Nwoke despite their age nah fine girls dey rush them not the other way round... When you have enough balance in ur account, woman dare not play with ur emotions because she's just Inviting co-wife .... That's why we talk say, money comes first in a man life before marriage... Anyway u can still go ahead and kee urself, they will come to ur burial and chop free food... My own nah to wait here wish you RIP |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by cynthia500(f): 9:20am On Dec 08, 2020 |
sorry for this |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by modsAREuselesss: 9:20am On Dec 08, 2020 |
rubbish. u didnt say what the chat was about . dd she say they bleeped or did she say they met before? u never told her not to talk to other guys so u are an idiot. dont wory us with rubbish abeg. |
| Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by incogni2o: 9:21am On Dec 08, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:
MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.
I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.
WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST. NO MARRAIGE IS PERFECT I repeat it again NO MARRAIGE IS PERFECTI know you mean the Romeo and Juliet Perfect. Both of you have to learn and unlearn a lot of things, Offence must come. And both of you would have to grow is knowing how to handle them. |
