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Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by nijabazaar: 9:53am On Dec 09, 2020 |
bigseank: In igbo land it is believed that a Man must prove himself before he can take a woman. That could explain the reason why women are termed Oriaku ( Eater of Wealth, when transcribed loosely) . The woman is meant to come into her husband's house and be spoilt silly like a peacock. So the man mist show he is capable of allowing his wife to bear the title "Oriaku" . If the bride prices are such a burden, igbo men will complain to the rooftops. If you cant afford a beautiful igbo woman....try a beautiful woman from your tribe. Shikena 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by coolangel54(f): 9:53am On Dec 09, 2020 |
In my hometown of Amaekpu, Ohafia, brideprice is just #60. The items on the list were all monetized and beat down. My husband's people came prepared and bargained very well the items on the list and my father was very firm with his kinsmen that he isn't selling his daughter. In all, both wedding and traditional, we didn't spend above #600,000. Dowry was paid a day before the wedding and the next day being Saturday, both ceremonies were done officially. In all, do not generalize as tradition differs from one place to another. Secondly, if the father of the bride is the best father in the world, he won't sell off his daughter and will pre-warn his kinsmen not to over task his inlaws. Otutuoma ndioma! 12 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Angelfrost(m): 9:54am On Dec 09, 2020 |
nijabazaar: Okay sir... I never said "Every Igbo girl" is unable to marry due to issues raised. In any case, I humbly stand corrected! To every one his own. Who am I to cry more than the bereaved!!!... Since most of you see nothing wrong in your voluminous marriage list (especially for outsiders), I can only safely take the Fifth going forward. Thank you. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Seyzcham91(m): 9:54am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Nonsense Talk! hear yourself out, you said "in your own town" is Imo only igbo state? no misconception it is a general and known fact that Igbo sell their daughters for marriage chikena thatigboman: 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Allina: 9:56am On Dec 09, 2020 |
List or bride price,the point is to get married to an Igbo woman fully in the traditional way is expensive. Some Other tribes also have list but the items on the list are not even half as expensive as those on a typical Igbo marriage list. Igbo traditional marriage is expensive period. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Depressed101: 9:56am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thatigboman:you made no point. There's no misconception. Some part of Igbos outrageously charge their inlaws so much that it no longer makes sense. They are same bride price or no bride price. Heavy taxing on would be inlaws is what I don't support. I am Igbo And I must say my first experience marrying one of our wives from imo state was not the sweetest of experience. We reached there by 9am and went to our respective hotel rooms by 12am because of their stupid taxation. We would have left their daughter if not that she has had a son for us and she was a good woman.... 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by pietrodark(m): 9:56am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Cultures are different. I agree, piling up items on a list like you're selling your daughter doesn't make any sense. But then, not all Igbo towns are the same, there are towns where you won't spend more than 100k on items on the list, and there are towns where you'll spend up to 500k, and even more. I've attended a traditional wedding at Nnobi, the items they asked for were not up to 80k and the girls family handled the cooking for the event. It's a serious concern everywhere, in Tiv I hear the traditional ruler made a decree that any family that takes anything more than 200k for everything concerning a traditional marriage would be in trouble. This is how bad it's gotten, some families will use that chance to make every penny back. But then if the guy is calm with the girls father, he can get a lifeline. My uncle married from Amucha in Imo state. His wife's dad practically told him the things he should bring and asked him to forget the rest, that he would insist to the family elders that he doesn't want that. Last last, na to pray say make ground soft for all men sha so we go fit marry wife wey God don ordain for person, because finally life no balance... 8 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Angelfrost(m): 9:57am On Dec 09, 2020 |
InvertedHammer: Beautifully and Aptly written... Kudos!!! Tell them. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Juliusdking(m): 9:57am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Igbochief001:I fit do this kind thing if them Never open the hole 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by McTobe(m): 9:57am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Very true. You captured it all Nazgul: |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by harmony75: 9:57am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thumb up for Arodingogu in IMO � ��state so true as you said it depends on the family there are some greedy families and there are some families with great consideration and understanding that these are youth just starting their new life 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by nijabazaar: 9:58am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Angelfrost: Thanks for understanding. The bride prices, are simply a test of Manhood more or less. A mam must prove himself worthy of taking the wife. In igboland, a woman is an Oriaku. She is supposed to be a peacock. Taken care off, swimming in comfort. A man that cant pass via the rigours of the bride price is not worthy of the Oriaku 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by McTobe(m): 9:59am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Again I agree with all your points collinshush: 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Angelfrost(m): 10:01am On Dec 09, 2020 |
nijabazaar: Oh I see your point... Thank you for being civil. So, are you saying if two people are in love, and ready to settle down, but not swimming in affluence, by tradition they should forget about getting married??!... How exactly does demanding for items for extended families' pleasures running into six or seven figures in cash translate to the actual worth of an Oriaku??!... 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by DavidEsq(m): 10:01am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Angelfrost:Thank u so much for this. What he is saying is a distinction without a difference. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Olatlaccon(m): 10:02am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Farukshy:Bros na because of beauty u wan marry? I respect your view though |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Kennyswag: 10:03am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Igbos can go to hell and burn to ashes .. I don't care 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Maobichek: 10:04am On Dec 09, 2020 |
1x2x3: There is no need for lies OK, it depends on the family and the parents of the girl, my brother married from Mbaise (this is where ppl see as the worst in Imo) the girl was doing her masters at Atlanta USA, sponsored by her parents but my brother didn't spend more than 200k, all the list with bride price. Also my sister is in one of the big banks in Nigeria, with car allowance, house allowance, P for P, etc but the husband didn't spend more than 150k for all in the list and bride price. NB the parents and family decides whether the man will suffer or not, thank you. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Nobody: 10:04am On Dec 09, 2020 |
One Igbo friend once told me that, in his village, the elders can even take #500 from the #250k presented as bride price & ask you to take care of their daughter with the rest. And the bride's family would always gift the couple so much; from wears to electronics. Just like someone mentioned above, he confirmed that the uncles are the main problem sometimes. But the girl's father (if alive) always finds means to make the groom feel at ease. Las las,,,, money solves all issues. May God bless us with enough ![]() What do you have to say, Oizee ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by nijabazaar: 10:04am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Angelfrost: Thats the thing. I want a roys royce of say 23mills but my current meagre salary of 250k cant afford it. What do i do? Its either i wait and save for twenty something years for it ( this might explain why igbo men marry late into their 30s amd 40s) or simply go for a 2009 corolla. Every culture is different, and igbo culture is often expected to tune in or morph i to the rest of the Nigerian Culture. It is not like that. And like i said, the term "Oriaku" was meant to signify that the woman wshould not suffer in a marriage just because her man is in love but broke. If the man is broke, he should tarry a while and work amd if chances are bright, he could still prove himself worthy of getting the Rolls Royce (oriaku) The problem is by the time i have sayed enough for the Oriaku, another guy dont japa with her. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Olatlaccon(m): 10:04am On Dec 09, 2020 |
CzarChris:5.8m? for real....that one too much...abeg no offense..shey the girl na virgin? 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Kennyswag: 10:05am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Farukshy:beauty queens that can't win miss world or any international pageant competition.. Mtcheeew |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by SmileDance(f): 10:08am On Dec 09, 2020 |
I still maintain that bride price is just another form of slavery. Paying money in exchange for a human being? 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Gbest90(m): 10:10am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Igbo parents don't give their daughters hand in marriage. They literary 'sell' them. Imagine a groom was Mandated to open a business for the brides parents, inside list of marriage. ![]() Na wah o 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Chinemeremjosh0(m): 10:10am On Dec 09, 2020 |
On my weeding day there'll be nothing like bear!! If you don't take malt u get lost!! 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by nijabazaar: 10:12am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Kennyswag: You cared enough to view and comment on the this thread. You know when you cant have Gold, you would say that Raffia from palm trees are renewable amd natural ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Jefferyhi86(m): 10:12am On Dec 09, 2020 |
After d man must have cough out all dis billing, it's hard for d woman to come back to her family where there is disagreement between the man n woman cos the woman had literally been sold to the husband |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by nijabazaar: 10:13am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Chinemeremjosh0: You are Deeper in Life. Peace 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by portborn: 10:14am On Dec 09, 2020 |
nijabazaar: Same way the igbos see every hausa man as onye hausa |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by SirVintageCock: 10:16am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Angelfrost:You are ignorant. Get enlightened from people Igbo people instead of reading rubbish from people that knows nothing. What the guy wrote is the pure truth or are you telling me poor people no dey marry for Igbo land again. 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Jefferyhi86(m): 10:19am On Dec 09, 2020 |
I so heard that enough mature Igbo ladies who are single in d east, ibo guy loves marrying my sisters from edo states Tobiloba2407: |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by RealityShot: 10:21am On Dec 09, 2020 |
LordKO:Oya debunk their claims, Tell us what really happens at igbo marriages in your opinion Thank you |
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