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Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Angelfrost(m): 10:21am On Dec 09, 2020 |
nijabazaar: Your words carry sound reasoning and weight... I am impressed. However, such customs need to be modified in the best interest of everyone involved. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by alizma: 10:22am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Bar1941:I wonder what he is saying. To make matters worse he said you could buy 10yam and they tell you only 2 are big and you should pay for the other 8 and we all know that they will still collect those 8 after taking the money from him. 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by essentialB(f): 10:23am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Marriage list in Igbo land is negotiable . I have never seen someone who came to marry a wife in Igbo land and didn’t succeed no matter the quantity of items he came with . But I have seen several people who got scared of getting married because of the list but not knowing it’s negotiable. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by RealAlubarika(m): 10:26am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thatigboman: The list is part of the bride price, we should stop this cowardice. If I want to pay my fiance bride price do you mean I shouldn't factor in the cost of the list and bride why coming up with a budget? To me bride price and list are same(They're not different) 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by RealAlubarika(m): 10:27am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thatigboman: The list is part of the bride price, we should stop this cowardice. If I want to pay my fiance bride price do you mean I shouldn't factor in the cost of the list and bride while coming up with a budget? To me bride price and list are same(They're not different) |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Angelfrost(m): 10:28am On Dec 09, 2020 |
SirVintageCock: Ignorant about what exactly??! What part precisely??!... Ignorant about the literal meaning of Bride Price, or the contextual meaning??! I never said he wrote a lie, only that he is stretching and over-reaching for reasons best known to him! Everyone knows Bride Price is not high anywhere in the East... The complaint remains with the long list accompanying the sole Bride Price. Where is my ignorance there??! Did I say or even imply that only affluent people get married??!.... You really need to tame your emotions, and quit getting worked up over matters like this... This is a discussion, contribute or set the records straight like others have done above.... Everything nor be fight!!! 3 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by alizma: 10:30am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Nazgul:You have just hit the nail on the head with the aspect of father being alive. My friend just had his last month. Though the light was something that could have torn any average Nigerian man's pocket but he was able to rob mind with the old man who from all indication is interested in his daughter's happiness than whatever he could have gotten from the man out of greed. So there are some circumstances that can make marrying in Igbo land a normal journey to embark on while in other cases you only need to be there to know exactly how frustrating it can be. When my landlady's daughter got married, at a point the husband's family got angry along with the guy. The girl had to confront her family to tell her if they are against her getting married or what. 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Chinemeremjosh0(m): 10:31am On Dec 09, 2020 |
nijabazaar:nothing like deeper in life here!! I'm both traditionalist and Christian!! So that's my belief |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Tobiloba2407: 10:31am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Jefferyhi86: My igbo friend left his engaged igbo girl, he is getting married to an edo girl this weekend, and he isn't the only one igbo guys that grew up out the east, are having issues with igbo girls especially the ones that grew up in the east. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by naijaboy756: 10:31am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Igbochief001:Mba gini ![]() abeg oooo |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Ego2(f): 10:32am On Dec 09, 2020 |
At the end of the day it all boils down to individual families....thank God I've been alive to witness different weddings from my place(Imo orlu) including that of my family and I can say the list is quite favourable ( nothing extravagant and also not so cheap) more like we ain't tryna get rid of our daughter and @ the same time not selling her.... like the igbo adage goes " you can't marry a woman under a day".. same way I witnessed my elder bro's intro to his wife( Ondo) and the amount spent on just the intro.... @ the end of the day it all depends on the family you're getting involved in. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Edusouls(m): 10:33am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Is it by force to marry Igbo lady, haba u have ur choice of other ladies, why is it that other tribes are so interested in Igbo affairs? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Gracchus: 10:34am On Dec 09, 2020 |
AmuDimpka:What concerns Yoruba with this? Can't y'll just handle your shit yourself without involving others, are our cultures related. Do we share history? Why do you have drag us into your nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Jefferyhi86(m): 10:34am On Dec 09, 2020 |
U see! Even one of ur brother who has a house n investment in my hometown in uromi edo state said there is no way he's leaving esan land ![]() Tobiloba2407: |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by christopheru(m): 10:36am On Dec 09, 2020 |
All these folks from other tribes are just killing themselves on top of something they know nothing about. The list might be outrageous if the bride's extended family are greedy. Still, you are not meant to fulfil everything on the marriage list. An average igbo man will still marry if he is ready. Make una no disturb unaself. Young people still dey marry for igboland. inshot we recorded a lot of marriages this year in Igbo land. ![]() abeg where are my cute igbo girls?? Shout out to you all 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by BabaIbo: 10:38am On Dec 09, 2020 |
hakym619: What about situations where the wife's family are the ones helping the husband's financially etc? Or haven't you seen such before? 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by 1bunne4lif(m): 10:39am On Dec 09, 2020 |
people just decide to say whatever they feel without facts. huge bride prize is not only associated with igbos; it's everywhere. it depends on the family you're marrying from. when my sister got married, we literally told the husband to pay what he can and forget the rest. i am from arondizuogu in imo state and our women are not for sale. mind you, what we use to settle our women when they get married run into millions. they can decide to sell them and they're good to go 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Biglittlelois(f): 10:39am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Igbochief001: You have got to be kidding me, you list ridiculous items just for the groom to get up and leave? If this is true, then your culture is so ridiculous it's actually laughable, da hell ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Raychee(f): 10:40am On Dec 09, 2020 |
I think they mean the entire demand not just the "bride price". Most families demand very low amount for bride price and some will return it back after collecting. But the list is generally what people are referring to. It is usually outrageous to be honest. 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Fiestafetta: 10:40am On Dec 09, 2020 |
The reason I always restraining myself from commenting on this type of topic is that, I've notice that a lot of people that generate these controversies are usually single (not let me use the words irresponsible or broke) until you married then you can have a clearer picture of bride price and others. That is when you have formed your own perspective. If you are fortunate to marry good wife from good home then your perspective will change for good but if is bad, then it will change for bad, but as for me, I never regretted spending my fortune on my wife and the favour they have returned to me is unquestionable and immeasurable. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by RealityShot: 10:42am On Dec 09, 2020 |
fastseo:my female friend says her boyfriend can't marry her because they gave him a list of 200k Am not saying it's too much, but a guy of 29 yrs wanting to marry his girlfriend of 25yrs,, Who (the guy) just left NYSC 3yrs ago, has he reached to save up that sum to spend at once? Now add that, he will also do traditional party, plus white wedding party, plus new apartment. Well, all that expenses just to have another mouth to feed ain't worth it man! The guy relocate go north leave my friend... Lolzzzz Any thing beyond 50k is not worth it or reasonable. (even that self plenty) Guys just prefer to pay per do or maintain girlfriend till goal occur! Cc: thatigboman 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Nobody: 10:42am On Dec 09, 2020 |
If she is a virgin maybe I will pay whatever they want but if she is an average Nigerian olosho, I will simply give her belle and won't give a flying fucck. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Raychee(f): 10:42am On Dec 09, 2020 |
fastseo: Next thing is just to have oyinbo type wedding ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Nobody: 10:43am On Dec 09, 2020 |
bigseank:Worth worth Worth |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Bullman(m): 10:43am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thatigboman: The only problem i have with Igbo people is the fact that when it comes to marriage rites they tend to extort more like so much from the son inlaw especially when he's not igbo. The list you will be given ehn may even start u up a mini mall. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Pk01(m): 10:44am On Dec 09, 2020 |
fastseo:the first sensible igbo man on nl. |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Bullman(m): 10:44am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Nonexistent: Change this virgin mindset bro it will do you a whole lot of good. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by BabaIbo: 10:45am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Jefferyhi86: Keep decieving yourself o... Igbo guys that other tribe ladies use to tan that when it is time for marriage, they will leave them and go to their tribe to marry. Edo wetin? I grew up in Yoruba land, and by God's grace na Igbo lady I go marry. I have lived in Edo, Benin to be precise and I didn't see anything like what you painted above except in few cases which happens in all tribes. I don't know where you get this your lie from. 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by obama30: 10:47am On Dec 09, 2020 |
thatigboman: I don't care how others tribe's see it, it my custom , I am an Igbo and I love the custom. The custom is what makes me an Igbo man. I am Nigerian by per. But I am an Igbo by blood, language, food style, dressing, marriage, the way of upbringing, traditional worship. No security force to make me believe in Igbo but by creation I belongs to Igbo family and I am not complaining. So when going to get marry to Igbo lady, do have two options, do what her custom required or marry from your tribe. I can't marry from another tribe apart from my Igbo sister. Nigeria is only in paper and by force union. There's nothing as Nigeria dress, language, food style, custom it's all depends on tribe but if we are one there should be certain things for nigeria. So Nigeria is a scam 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by sogud(m): 10:49am On Dec 09, 2020 |
[quote author=thatigboman post=96636741]I want to create this post in order to disabuse the minds of nairalanders on the misconceptions about much-talked about igbo bride prices. Contrary to the belief that igbo bride prices run into millions, the bride prices are usually a token. In my hometown in Arondizuogu, Imo State, it is about N200. The misconception arises from the list given to family of the intending groom. That list is far different from the bride price. Different people in igboland give different lists in igboland for the different groups in the village they come to marry - the daughters of the family (my 2 year old children get their shares in my place), the women, the youths and the elders. And there are options. You either bring the items or bring the money. Example, u can go to a community and they ask you to bring 10 big yams, another can ask for 20 kegs of palm wine, others can ask for coconut. And youths in my place must ask for a roll of cigarettes, benson or rothmas. And the groom has an option, either to buy them and bring according to specifications or just drop money. Buying the items usually bring problem. U can buy 10 big yams, and they tell u that it is only 2 that are big, you have to pay for the other 8 'small ones'. U can buy Life and Hero drinks, and they say no, one must be Star, so some people will prefer to pay cash and will be taxed heavily. All in all, all the issues will be settled, so no worries. let other igbos and other nairalanders contribute.[/quote una get serious problem......na d whole community i wan marry....I go buy for women, I go buy for men, buy for youth, buy for children, buy for bride xtendeded families n d rest.....una for add buy for d dead sef....yeye pipo wit der xpensive list. truth b told, u pipo re only delaying ur daughters to marry, wife's plenty for oda states 1 Like |
Re: The Misconception About Igbo Bride Prices by Niceman4u(m): 10:49am On Dec 09, 2020 |
Note also, that the quantities of the tems on the list are sometimes bargainable and not exhaustive. I don't see any cut-throat dowry or list of items except in some greedy families, which we can find in all the tribes of this country. |
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